Hello! Have made it to my Mum's. Left our house in builder induced chaos but according to DH, it's starting to re-take shape and I, am relaxing a little. Girls fab negotiating airport, Ryanair etc on the way here and notwithstanding an antique bowl broken yesterday, all seems to be well. Off to London tomorrow to see my bro and sis and then up your way on Sunday oops but will be trying to fit in Gran, aunt and uncle and three uni friends with their many children. Phew. Really looking forward to it though.
Missing DH hugely but enjoying plenty of bed-space.
Think I've pretty much managed to catch up.... but forgive me for anything overlooked/misread...
cyteen - I'm so sorry about the shocks of last weekend. I don't have anything new to add, just that a close family friend killed himself but seemed totally happy immediately beforehand. He seemed pleased to have regained control and truly believed he was doing the best thing for himself and those around him. That, of course, was wrong, but what your Mum did was, I'm sure with the best of intention, however wrong she was in that.
I'm so sorry you're still having a tough time with DP sambo. Your post about DP's view about not wanting to 'spread resources' too thinly is one that I could have written 2.5 yrs ago. As I've posted before, for us it was two things I think that changed DH's mind. The first was opening up about the trauma he felt over DD1's birth. The second was the death of a dear family member and the comfort he got from his brother in coming to terms with that. DD2 carries her name as although I don't like it at all, we both have a lot to thank her for. . Neither of those instances were anticipated - you are probably unlikely to convince him now, but you never know what may occur that could. As someone else noted, for your DP this isn't DC2 that's being discussed but DC4. Also, if you're relationship isn't great, is he feeling that perhaps having another DC isn't actually going to help? Sorry if that's harsh. I know that in your shoes I would feel exactly as you do.
dizzy - I'm SO sorry that I hadn't realised what was going on last Saturday. So pleased it went well though.
buckets - what a scare with DS2 disappearing! Glad DH was sympathetic. Well done on finding such a bargainsome holiday place. We're currently looking at places into four figures to get what, where and when we want. Eek.
So sorry DD has been so off-colour recently oops - exactly what you haven't needed recently with Hector. Knowing you only from here, I would say that Helena would suit you perfectly.
red - I agree entirely about doors. They make SUCH a difference.
sazzles - what a b*gger about your extention.
Bumped into an old school friend today. 'Twas nice but odd. I hated that school but she was a good friend, although not nice enough to make a big effort to stay in touch with you iyswim. Didn't have too much chance to chat as we had our identically aged children hanging off us/running away, but have brooded on it a fair bit today. She was v warm, so maybe my 14 year old self wasn't as terrible as I suspected. On the other hand, still don't really want to remember that ...
On that note of self-indulgent insignificance - in partic. contrast the the big stuff going on in so many other people's lives - I shall leave you and try to be back in not too long. If you'll have me.