May 2009 - Don't forget to wear your good shoes...

[belgina]

Right, new thread...

Sorry about the title

Cocktail anyone?

Morning

Apologies for not namechecking last night.

Muddled Sorry about your oven hope you can get it fixed quickly. Your lost without your cooker arn't you, but at least this way you have the excuse to have take aways for a couple of days hehe

Flippin I'm giggling at the thought of your DH squished in your DD's tiny bed
baby J has been strange the last few days, has been majorly saying DaDa allday, and has clearly wanted him more than me! He beams when he comes in from work, and will soothe better for him atm makes me feel a little useless tho as I'm supposed to be the SAHM if you get me...

Morning all.

No name-checking sorry. Having the most awful time at the moment. Found out yesterday that my friend, mum of 4 under 5's, died on Tuesday. I am in total shock. Those poor, poor kids. I'm having the eldest, DD2's best friend, on Saturday for a while. She understands that mummy has died and is in pieces. The littler ones don't quite grasp what's going on. God, I'm just so bloody sad.

She lived for her kids, every aspect of her life was geared around them. She owned the nursery that DD2 went to, spent her time there with all her kids, would spend her weekends rounding up her kids and her kids' friends, thought nothing of having DD2 over for a sleepover....

Sorry, I am just in pieces.

Hello dandy

She had been in and out of hospital for unknown ailments and has had recurring bouts of illnesses but no-one expected her to die, she was poorly but not that poorly IFKWIM. Her poor, bewildered fiance doesn't know how she died yet, her heart stopped apparently, but there will have to be an autopsy to find the cause . She was only 26 ffs

I just can't keep the image of her gorgeous little kids out of my head, they'll just be so lost without her.....

I'm just seeing if I can find a good book for them that may help them deal with this in some way - it was the eldest's birthday on Monday too......

I feel angry too, it seems very unjust that she should have died.

Hinny what devastating news. I think feeling angry at this point is absolutely right and normal. Her poor kids & fiance. Sometimes life is just plain shit. Thinking of you all.x

just logged on to say hello.
Hinny, I don't know what to say . even the emoticon doesn't really give any meaning.
How terrible and unfair. she was so young. The poor children. poor fiance.

And you. I hope you're ok. I echo Dandy: if you need to vent, chat, cry, etc. you know where to find me. xx

Hinny How awful and sad for her poor babies. How is your DD2?

Sorry went awol there doing school-run-having-friend-over-for-tea stuff.

My DD2 is ok as, being at a Catholic School like wot she is, she has been praying and knows that her friend's mum is in Heaven. I'm not religious but I've encouraged this, she did special prayers today.

I'm feeling better now, just getting over feeling angry. It doesn't help!

I have a few ideas vis-a-vie books, I'll head to Waterstones tomorrow.

On a different topic, I was trying to shop with S this morning, I was tired and cheesed off, she was hungry, so we went to the in-store Costa for a coffee and to feed her. I found a seat and started feeding her. I could feel an old lady watching me and turned to her with (I suspect) a belligerent expression on my face. She smiled sweetly and said 'it's the best way to keep them quiet, isn't it love? I fed my eldest til he were 18 months. Didn't like stopping, I enjoyed it'.

Well, to say I was at my assumption that old=anti bfing would be putting it mildly. I actually told her this, she was lovely!

That told me anyway

Right, back to the play-date with the child who doesn't eat anything that I have in the house You know when you are just not in the mood for it?

Oh Hinny that really is awful news, her poor poor children and partner, not to mention all her family and friends I had a friend pass recently too, the funeral was today, completely different circumstances though, he had no children, and it was a car crash...grief is a really really hard emotion, that we all go through, I know how you're feeling to lose your friend, I really do...I couldn't for one second imagine how her poor babies feel though Waterstones is a good idea. There must be some books on dealing with a family member dying. I know you say you're not religious, but would it perhaps help to have a chat with your local vicar/priest. Our rev. is lovely and has answered some of DD's questions before, is just an idea. Hope you're ok (sends you a really big hug)

hinny so sorry to hear about your friend. Big hug from me hun x

Sorry to post and run all x

hinny that is such sad sad news. So sorry.
But at the lady in Waterstones. Even little things like this can make your day.

jael too

Puts life and all the little niggles into perspective.

jael, very about your news as well.

ladyH, I agree that it puts everything into perspective.

HOpe everyone is ok tonight otherwise.

hinny - that is so sad, thinking of you and all her family and friends.

Counselling ok today, had to take A with me as original arrangements fell through. I'm beginning to get a bit bored (maybe not bored, but can't think of the right word) of all the me, me, me - maybe that's daft, but if makes me feel selfish. And then you hear news like Hinny's and Jael's, definitely puts things into perspective.

Sorry, that was a bit wallowy .

Everyone hug a loved one tonight.

Oh, what the heck

singing what awful awful news. The idea of such tiny los losing their mum is too sad for words. I hope you and your dd2 can be there for at least your dd's friend if not the whole family to help and support. A book is a great idea, but they don't often stock them in bookstores. Amazon would be a good place to look IMO. I've had a peak and there are a lot of books on there such as this one. I hope you can find something that helps Sending you a big non-MNy hug.
at that old lady though I sad bf in Cafe Nero and a pub today. I had less looks at that than at her squealing, so it was for the best, me thinks.

saus Lol at M's way of transporting things while crawling. Neither of mine have ever done that. C's still only rolling, but yesterday she moved about half a meter in a bum shuffly way, so maybe she might become a bum shuffler.

milk intake C seems to be cutting down on her day feeds too. 1 of her night feeds I'd say is definitely hunger, but 1 might be habit now. I was a bit at DH and ap yesterday. I had noticed that C only had 1 wet daytime nappy on Tues and on Wed morning I opened the fridge and there was a defrosted bag of 5oz of EBM! All that precious milk. Wasted. AND poor C hadn't been offered any juice (I know she only takes a drop, but it needs to be offered) at meal times either. Poor thing must have been so thirsty.

Just also want to add my ds related proud mummy moment. His world book day project (he created a new Beast Quest book character) was chosen as one of the 3 best in the class to be shown at a special assembly. He's very shy and read his bit in front of the whole school + parents, so I'm doubly proud of him. He wants to become a writer when he's older, so I'm so happy for him that he did so well

reggie took me a minute to work out what your meant, but got it now! Sending you one back

flip glad to hear your appointment went well.

Too right about perspective.

hinny - thinking of you, your friend and her family. How absolutely tragic

Jael - sorry for your news too

Dandy - although I do talk of loved ones being in heaven, I like the explanation you describe of them being safe. V true and v comforting.

flippin - there are times in life when it is absolutely right to focus on "me". Helps us to give of our best to our loved ones at other times. Allow yourself the time you need and you'll know when to move on.

I think Reggiee is right. Can we just have a group hug tonight?

flippin, I feel the same way.

belgina, well done to your DS, does you proud .

Hinny- so sorry to hear of your friend- what a tragedy. I can't imagine what her fiance is going through right now- comforting those poor LOs who have lost their mum whilst grieving himself (and probably also in shock). Are there any close family members who can help with the LOs?

It's brought back memories of my next door neighbour when i was growing up who had terminal breast cancer and died aged 32 leaving 2 young DCs, and my uncle who died in a hang-gliding accident leaving my 21 year old aunty with a 1 year old and pg with her second LO. Why is life so cruel? Your friend sounded like a lovely caring woman and a great mum (puts me to shame) and I hope those LOs will get all the support and love they need from family and friends.

belgina- well done to your DS - I hope his confidence has had a real boost . It sounds like he is a really good writer. You say he wants to be a writer when he grows up. Well my DD wants to be an artist, working in an office. In fact, she wants to work in MY office, so i don't miss her too much . And my DS1, well, he wants to be a train driver as he loves everything about trains ATM.