May 09 - The Sleepless Babies Club, All Dubious Fashions Welcome

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Ladies.

pula teething and wheezing. Sounds like R at the moment too!

llare Love love love that first dress you linked to. Personally not keen on the second but also loved the third and think it would be ok for work, so long as you have to be smart.

younger on the room issue, my first reaction to your post is, in typical MN style, who the hell does your HV think she is telling you to move rooms??!!! But you can only do what you think is right. The no cry sleep solution for toddlers and pre schoolers has some sensible advice.

I love the first dress too and will probably get it. The black one is a bit va va voom. I have big norks and am curvy so it is a bit "hello boys!" which perhaps isn't the best look for work. Maybe it is a bit too mad men? Our work is a bit mixed: some people are very smartly dressed, others are very stereotypically dressed like Social Workers. There is also a huge range in the middle so I can get away with anything frankly. I do like the black dress though..

Loved your sexy dress Belgina. Do you have to pay for it yourself?

younger what do you want to do about the rooms?

Right. Have to move. DS has fallen asleep on my lap and my leg has gone to sleep.

Evening all

Am apologising in advance for poor namechecking abilities. 4am start today and that was the best bit of the day tbh as A is really suffering on the teeth front. I think I look a bit like this from trying to keep my eyes open.

Hope your throat is better Fi llare Love the first dress, buy, buy, buy.

younger I agree with others, do whatever you think is right re rooms.

Hiya reg and singing

sorry to those with teething and wheezing issues.

A has first settling in session with cm tomorrow I have a haircut booked. Am undecided whether to go for something new or keep it the same and just have a trim.

llare Luckily I get those sexy dresses all for free. The un ladylike shoes arent though.

running a 4am start! You must be shattered. That will be an early night for you then. Hope A's settling in session tomorrow goes well.

We had a nightmare bedtime here tonight. C just wouldn't settle in her cot and calmed down as soon as I picked her up. The ususal patting, sushing and turning her onto her side didn't work. She's also been a bit velcro-y ever since I came back from my work visit. Then it suddenly clicked why she was behaving like it: because I had been away for 2.5h this morning and then when I came back she decided to cling on to me for dear life, poor thing. I am most definitely not looking forward to going to work if she's going to be like that. I presume the trauma of being without me was made worse because of the cat attack and DH isn't quite the right person to console her (in her mind). He did say it took her ages to settle. Sorry just rambling away, thinking to myself. Ignore me

Hi all.
llare, loved the dresses on the links especialy the flower print one, gorgeous.

anyone watching 'One Born Every Minute' on 4? can't believe this woman has her 18 year old son at hospital along with the daft husband. belgina, is this like a day in the life of...?

running, hope A is fine with her settling in session. about your hair, I'd levoe to tell you to go for something new, a change but then if it were me, I always stick to the same haircut.

beds, I guess we will change the rooms around but it does sound like a palaver and don't know how dd1 is going to feel about sleeping on her own for awhile. ladyH, going to check out No Cry Sleep Solution.

belgina, poor C, hope she's calmed down. you'll have to give more cuddles, eh ?

Me too running! I really, really want a new haircut. I think I am going to go for a shorter style this time. I need to have it coloured/highlighted in some way due to the greyness of my roots and am currently torn between a bit of blonde and going for an auburn colour. I am as white as white can be so both are OK with my colouring. Decisions!

Oooh, tough one Dandy. I tried to conceive DS1 for 2ish years and one of my friends used to ask me, with all the sensitivity she could muster, in a certain sympathetic tone, how it was all going. Sometimes it would drive me demented but at other times I'd welcome the opportunity to chat about it. I used to make a real effort not to talk about it for fear of becoming a TTC bore.

As for other people's children: well I must admit that prior to having children of my own I tended not to give much thought to them. So much so that I didn't even buy cards or presents for new babies because I just didn't know it was the done thing. My parents never bought cards or presents for new babies so it was only when I witnessed MIL doing it that it twigged that all those rows of new baby cards were there for a reason! I do feel guilty that I never asked after my good friend's 3 children during long phone calls and I fear she must laugh at me now as I try and make up for it.

I must be honest and tell you that whilst I did feel a pang of envy when I heard of friends becoming pregnant, hearing about children never made me sad. I think in all honesty when I was TTC it was all about the process rather than the end product, IYSWIM. But we're all different, I guess.

Much waffle. Sorry. What irritated me more was people telling me stories about friends who managed to conceive after going on the IVF list or whatever. Or telling me to take a random herb, or acupuncture, or yoga, or whatever.

Dandy, I have a similar situation with one of my friends. She is TTC and has had a couple of miscarriages . after I had Harper I haven't seen her much. I texted her the news but didn't overdo with photos and many gushy emails.

I haven't heard from her since well before Christmas but am meaning to get back in touch with her. I thought I'd just email her to say a general Hihowareyou without asking anything about her TTC. I figure she'll talk to me about it in RL. if good news, she could tell me she's pregnant.

I wouldn't ask her about something so personal as ttc in an email, though.

does this help?

I know...I am mightily embarrassed by it. Does she have PCOS, Dandy? That's what I have.

I used to be anti-baby as well then completely changed around (hormones?). took us almost 2 years to conceive. during that time, it seemed like everyone else was having babies except me. very alienating. i used to hate getting baby photos from my friends in emails, i just felt . now, hindsight, wish I could have just felt happy for them.

Morning!

Ow ow ow. I've got a bloked duct and a sore boob. Ow.

I'm one of those women who might have seemed less than enthusastic about other people's pregnancies, but inside I was so insanely jealous. I had a couple of miscarriages before DD1, and it seemed that everyone could get pregnant and stay pregnant apart from me.

oh, and dandy, in all my misery I forgot to reply to your question - I probably wouldn't ask specifically.

Morning,

ouch flip hope it settles soon.

I would also not ask specifically dandy, maybe a general 'how are things with you?' might suffice?

Right so A is at the cm. I presume she went ok as DH took her (as he will when I am in work). I feel very weird being in the house without her.

I am about to leave for the hairdressers and am still undecided... DH thinks I should leave it long but grow out my fringe. I'm thinking long-ish bob with a sweepy fringe. Or maybe I'll just ask the hairdresser and decide when I'm there.

Have good day all x

morning.. still not 100% but out of bed as i had to do the pre school run this am (either that or have ds running around at home & too worn out for that) so G is having a nap and i've got a green tea with a liberal dose of honey and putting my feet up.
flippin i'd ask the hair dresser for suggestions but make my own decision from there.. have fun btw
dandy we got our bfp's 1st time with both dc so no experience in ttc personally. my close friend now in nz did have 2long spells of ttc between dc1, 2 & 3 and i used to wait until i saw her in person to ask her howryoudoing? she'd already had her dc1DS & dc2 dd before we had our DS so her longest ttc time was when we were childless so bit easier for me to ask her..

Hi everyone, thanks for all your advice. J is still a little wheezy at times and as he has been unwell for 2 weeks now I am going to book a routine gp app and will bring it up then

llareggub the vavavoom dress is ace - BUY IT NOW!!!!

Dandy I agree with others that I wouldn't ask specifically but give her chance to discuss it in a more general 'how are you' type way

Right have to go, J is having a whinge

Dandy- I have been to christenings with the DCs which were part of the full church service (an hour+), and i think the best thing is to go, sit somewhere where you can escape relatively easily from, and don't feel bad to leave the synogogue for short spells (toilet trips), milk/feeding time for DS. Use the DCs as your excuse, and then hopefully you can find out when the blessing is (roughly), and make sure you are there for that. They may have a creche or something for LOs?

Dandy I think you should enthusiastically talk about how much you are looking forward to it, and then develop a strategic flu bug that should not be shared with a possibly elderly and therefore vulnerable congregation.