January 2009 - New year, new buns in various ovens and time for our not so little ones to turn one!

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Happy 2010 everyone! Cast your mind back to this time last year... [soppy]

Too much wine - excuse for thread title should it be shite rubbish when I read it tomorrow. Thought it was time to wave goodbye to the festive one, although perhaps we should have waited for epiphany?

Just a quickie, been having a leisurely peruse on t'internet and discovered that you can buy Polarn O Pyret clothes online!

They have a range of their clothes at House of Fraser here

Disclaimer: The writer of this post bears no responsibility for any shopping accidents which might occur as a result of its content.

Moose, glad you got a chance to chat with DH. Its hard finding the time to talk, let alone have a proper chat when you need to. Homeopath is a good idea, that's handy having a place across the road..

Pat, most of my days are 'good enough' parenting days too. Am far too knackered most of the time for anything else.

Lenni, I thought of you on my course yesterday, have started one unit of SEN and Inc. MA and it was excellent...so excellent I can't remember the lecturers, but it was looking at the Lamb paper which is just about to be published or maybe just has been and has really motivated me to study.

Just been up to see my Dad and meet up with my brother and sister, we are rarely in one place, so I went without DH and DCs and we had a really good chat with Dad and talked baout his care and future and all four of us are feleing a lot happier about things.

Also had a call a few hours ago from Jude's consultant, who has booked him in for a biopsy a week on Monday and thew week after that he is provisionally booked in to have his chemoport thing fitted and for his first session of chemo pending biopsy results of course. So it really all is happening, which is good as the sooner we start the sooner it will all be over. But is feeling very very real too.

We have decided to have a really nice day out tomorrow and go to the Tate Modern or the British Museum and get some lunch somewhere and just forget about everything else while we can. So looking forward to that.

Hope everyone is enjoying thier weekends.

Oh HZ, have a lovely family day tomorrow. about the port fitted and chemo and the biopsy will be so scary for you but like you said, at least things are moving on now.
thinking of you guys and sending lots of hugs and virtual wine your way.
Good that you are making progress with your dad.

Very insignificant moan below!

Well, we would be having a lovely weekend but I got back from having my hair done and started to get DD ready for her party she had and she inexlicably fell asleep when I left her for a few minutes. So i decided to let her rest and texted the mum to say we would be late. Amyway 20 mins later she woke up and strarted puking and hasn't stopped since really. She is asleep on downstairs sofa atm with DH cuddling her.
Is there some sort of law that when one small child starts to feel mildly better the other one comes down with something? grrrrrrrrrrr!

HKZ, hope you have a really nice family day tomorrow. The whole thing must feel really big and scary for you at the moment, but as you say, the sooner it starts the sooner it will be over. Don't ever forget we are all here for you. ((hugs))

Pat, poor dd and poor you. I hate it when they are pukey, it always seems so much more to deal with than just poorly, what with the cleaning up and changing pj's/bedclothes etc. Here's hoping it will just be one of those 12/24 hr things and she'll be feeling much better tomorrow. Such a shame she missed her party as well.

Hope I am making sense. Took last night's advice and have drunk wine for the first time in a very long while.

morning

mm - lovely clothes

hkz - sounds like the family day is just what u need @ least things with jude will be moving along soon u must be scared though take carex

pat - poor dd - it is horrible when they are sick shame about party

dh has just taken dd1 to her swimming lesson he watches from the gallery i do cleaning while he is gone going to do bathroom
having a quiet day today
did too much sorting again yesterday cupboard undersatirs etc

it is freezing here again dh needed kettle for car windscreen

mm - go girl with the wine and the shopping

morning all!
moose, i hope your head isn't hurting this morning (if it is, i hope you had a nice time last night, anyway ). glad you had a talk with dh, i think it's easy even for partners to forget how draining fulltime childcare can be - and i say this as someone who is only looking after one lo. i never realised before c arrived that a bus journey (alone) could be a nice relaxing interlude .

hkz about the weeks ahead but good to be getting on with it: we are all here for offloading to

well, c is up from her post-swimming nap so best get on with the trailing around after her removing all of the dangerous stuff... i suppose i should babyproof really.... back later

oh dog {{{hugs}}}can't stop as mid-dinner/bath here but am so sorry, you must be totally freaked; really hope he doesn't need surgery; don't know much about this but think it can often heal fairly well. my fingers crossed that it's that kind of break

Oh Dog, big hugs to you. My DH broke his back about 20 years ago (falling from ground level off a wall down into a basement flat...on his 21st birthday...whilst drunk...) and if its any consolation he's fine now.
Is your Dad in Bangkok? If so I think the hospitals are pretty top notch there and hopefully travel insurance will foot the bill anyway. Have quite a few friends from HK there, so if your Mum needs anyone to be of help or anything I can easily get in contact with them... x

oh no dog!!!

i am so sorry for your dad poor him i hope you find out what is happening soon!!
you must be scared and worried
poor u!!

i am here if u want to chat take carex

Oh DOG so sorry to hear about your dad. Big huge hugs and hope he is ok. DH broke a vertebrae in his back playing rugby and is completely fine so try not to panic too much until you know more.

Given up, too much!
Been manic as worked 4 days last week. I am not doing that again in a hurry. It felt all wrong to leave the boys so much and of course they had bad colds so I felt even worse. S has been misrable but a new tooth appeared today. He now has 5!
After I cried most of Wednesday as I felt so all over the place, AF arrived on Thursday. TMI alert but it was not very pleasant, all brown and heavy so not really sure what went on. I feel much better now and hopefully things will sort themselves out.
Moose you reminded me I have a fertility book so will go read it. I can clearly remember the picture of the vaginal mucus to show when you are ovulating.
Hapy birthday to Nye and sorry I missed it.

Dog! You must be beside yourself with worry. Hope you get some more information soon and its good news. ((hugs))

My Dad broke his back falling 30ft of scaffolding and landing on his feet. He didn't find out about it until 25 years later! He always said he knew it hurt a lot, but never thought to go to the hospital!

Gumps for AF, but that you are feeling better.

Gotta love all that mucus checking business [green] and that's not an envious face by the way. I logged and charted everything on Fertility Friend before I got pg with dd and found it really reassuring and useful. I can still access the chart that shows when I got pregnant and had positive test results. Just had a look at it and came over all tearful.

We had a really difficult visit with PILs this afternoon. Ds1 has been very, how shall I say this, well, spectrumy, this weekend. Its been ok though, we've used all our usual coping strategies and managed his behaviour without too many problems. Popped into town to pick up ds2's glasses, had a nice time, managed to get them both something to eat in John Lewis (no mean feat with the gf diet) and then on the way home dh said could he pop and see his parent's. I didn't want to go, but reluctantly agreed - bad idea. For some reason MIL took it upon herself to berate and discipline ds1 for not paying attention when I was speaking to him and spilling a drink as a result. Now dh and I were handling it, but she just saw a rude little boy who was being insolent and not doing as he was told and waded in then wouldn't stop (dog with a bone springs to mind). This of course really upset him (and therefore made him worse) as he doesn't see them very often, so doesn't know them very well and she usually makes a huge fuss of him. The end result for us was a very stressed little boy, lots of tension and a row between dh and I - all in all a horrible stressful evening.

The problem occurred because dh refuses to tell his family about ds1's assessment because 'they'll never understand'. My argument is that whether they understand or not, telling them would give me the opportunity to tell them to butt out when they interfere. I understand why he doesn't want to tell them. His brother's son has ASD and some other problems and the family refuse to accept it, despite going on and on about how 'weird' he is, talking about him in hushed tones and going on about new-fangled/made-up syndromes vs bad behaviour. Frankly, I don't care whether they believe in ASD or not I just don't want them to distress my little boy. Its a toughie as they are already treating him differently and will probably get worse if/when we explain it all to them.

Hi everyone... just popping in to say hello... it's been the most hectic few days.

dog your poor Dad - can echo whoever said Bangkok has excellent hospitals, so I am sure he is getting the best care possible. Hope you get some reassuring news soon.

hkz tate modern/ museum/ lunch sounds like a fab idea - was it a beautiful day in London yesterday? Snowing here! Hope you and DH got some head space and time to relax.

MM sorry to hear about DH being an arse. Don't worry, we all understand that there are two people in any partnership and of course it's not just down to one person when things get tricky - but we are most def on your side! Hang in there... I think stripey knocks it on the head though when she says you need support. You must do that course, or an exercise class, or just something, anything, that gets you out of the house and away from your responsibilities for a couple of hours. I know it's hard to leave the babies, but you will be emotionally healthier for a tiny bit of space every now and then, and in the long run that's better for them too. I really think it's a unhealthy product of our society that we now have these tiny nuclear families, and no-one to spread the burden (&joy) of kids around. It's just not possible to try to do everything alone and stay sane. Or at least I don't think so. So DH feeds muesli instead of porridge - let it go. Stay upstairs and take a bath, and let him be in charge for at least that hour.

Sorry for rant! We just care about you... ((((hugs))))

Rant has taken up all my coffee break - but briefly, N's bday on Friday, had lovely day at home just the three of us, and then went off to the show final with OH, brother and bro's friends leaving granddad to babysit. OH went home at 11 after the show and I went to wrap party - got properly drunk for first time in 18 months, on champagne naturally , and had a great time. Home at 3am .. then had to get up for a train to bath at 10am for a hen do.. spent the day running around bath on this crazy but fun treasure hunt... meanwhile OH and my dad drove back to Wales with N. I got back at 9pm, we had fish and chips and went to bed. Yesterday was the party - we hadn't even unpacked from London, but somehow got it together with lots of help. I even managed to make bunting on the train (which I was completely obsessing about all week - tree I blame you). Fab party, lots of champagne cocktails and not enough sandwiches, but all went well. Couldn't sing during Happy Birthday as I was about to cry. Had lovely, lovely time but am now so bone achingly tired.... and so, so much to unpack and sort out.

Waves to everyone and happy Monday

morning

Hi all.

Been staying with friends in brighton for weekend, so AGAIN out of touch.

Miss j- didnt even think to video Esme being sung to! Lovely video.

Be back to catch up later....oh and Dog- everything crossed for your father

hi rray weekend sounds good

enjoyed taking bracken to her swimming lesson today

have had a quiet aft

buying boden bits tom

Dog, any news on your dad? ((hugs))

Has your Mum had a chance to contact the British emabassy or consulate? They are normally VERY helpful and supportive. If she hasn't already contract them ASAP and they will often help with Visas and red tape

This is the Brisitsh Embassey in Thailand This is how they canhelp in the case of injury

These are thier contact details:
Consular Section
British Embassy
14 Wireless Road
Lumpini, Pathumwan
Bangkok 10330
Thailand

Tel: +66 (0) 2 305 8333
(between 9:00-11:00 hrs)
Fax: +66 (0) 2 255 6051

Opening Hours:
Monday - Thursday 08:00-11:00, 13:00-15:15
Friday 08:00 ? 12:00 only

There is also an emergency number:
In the event of a consular emergency involving a life or death situation. Please call the switchboard number +66 (0) 2 305 8333

Apologies if you already know allthis, but in my experience (after a friend's nasty bike crash in Thailand) they are excellent, and will help your mum and dad and know exactly what to do. They will also repatriate people if necessary and settle up later.

Am happy to contact two very lovely friends I have there too dog... Email me if you want me to, hong kong zoe at gmail. com (no spaces)

Have emailed it to your hotmail account x