January 2009 - New year, new buns in various ovens and time for our not so little ones to turn one!

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Happy 2010 everyone! Cast your mind back to this time last year... [soppy]

Too much wine - excuse for thread title should it be shite rubbish when I read it tomorrow. Thought it was time to wave goodbye to the festive one, although perhaps we should have waited for epiphany?

Ok, just off to fb my address to 120 forgot as madly busy yesterday evening and today.

MissJ- I would understand Z being a milk monster if he wasn't eating food, but erm, that has never really been the case. He never stops eating!!!!
You won't be surprised that I will still be at the meet-up Any times suitable for anyone, 10.30/11 am??????? My old dear may be coming along too as she is staying with us, but she is generally a good egg (although ignore any 'to old to breast-feed' comments she may direct at Z!!..........I know I do)

Books- glad you had better night and DD feeling better.

Lenni- don't worry, the issues with DD have finally cured my broodiness and I had a serious chat about career with the head today so I think one more would be any chance of that gone!!!

Moose- think i will just have to periodically borrow a newborn to inhale the milky smell and feel the soft heads. Did think about breast-feeding peer support course the other week, but when I looked into it you have to pay quite a lot to do something that is voluntary. Well in our situation i can't afford to do it at the moment, but that would be an ideal way to regularly see lots of newborns!

Well, have decide to draw out a reward chat tonight, god help me I am desperate!!! She is clearly not herself but when questioning her gently I still cannot get to the bottom of it. She is vile to DH and DS as well as me so no favourites there! Thanks for the solidarity moose and Lenni!

Errrrrrrr, new title anyone???

Pat, we use these reward chart pads with these stickers with our boys. We start a new chart for each of them every week and they like to choose a different patterned star to collect each week.

They get a star for every 'well done' or 'good boy' moment, plus extra stars for getting top marks in school tests/quizzes.

Our boys are older so they have just started getting 5p pocket money for every star they earn, so they can get a maximum of £1 in a week.

Some weeks it works brilliantly, others not so well. I find it definitely helps to remind them about it just before they 'blow' as its a great incentive for them to try controlling their tempers.

Evening all! Pat, DP is getting me an envelope to send it in from work tomorrow as the one I have isn't strong enough to keep it from bending, so I'm afraid you'll have to wait an extra day! I am so excited about it though!!! Feel like a real artist

I was thinking about new thread titles earlier, and about plagerising another one I saw on here:

'that's not my baby, it's walking and talking... jan09 babies find their get up and go' or something like that.

The one I saw on here was the 'that's not my baby, his nappy is too stinky' made me laugh for quite a while.

Moose, get you with your teaching resource star charts. I'm very impressed. We have, er, a bag of gummi bears.

Just had a worrying few minutes as dh told me that he had to tell ds2 off at the park yesterday because he was swinging on the swings singing "Berger boy, berger boy, you're an asperger boy!" to ds1!

Obviously we were really upset by this and wanted to get to the bottom of it. We thought initially he may have heard it at school.

So, just had a quiet chat with ds2, only for ds1 to interject with "Oh I taught him that Mummy."

Apparently ds1 told ds2 some weird story about a shop called As that sells 'burgers' called AsBurgers! He swore I'd told him that as well!

When I asked ds1 what he really understands about Aspergers, he actually has a really good grasp of the basics. [phew]

So I sat the three of us down and had a nice little chat about what Aspergers really is and how you never label people or use their illness or disability to be unkind or tease them in any way. Everyone is different and special etc etc. To which they both looked at me like 'Dur Mum, of course we know THAT!'

Weirdest half hour I've spent in a while that one was.

Books - what's this pasta jar business?

Moose isn't it really odd some of the stories they come out with!

Books at your ds, I love it! I wonder what made them think she needed new big pants? Perhaps they thought it was about time she was toilet trained.

Have CATed you by the way.

120, I would be worried where they get it from - but I know their Dad!

We did the pasta jar thing when the boys were toddlers, with a jar full of different giant marbles like these.

They had a glass jar each to fill and got to choose which marble went into the jar when they had been good.

The advantage of the marbles over pasta was that they looked lovely sitting on my kitchen shelf - the disadvantage was obviously the cost. That said, they still play with the marbles several years later so it wasn't a complete waste of money.

Just realised they were the large marbles, not the giant ones.

Books, glad DD is getting better, croup sounds scary, hope you have a good nights sleep tonight.

Moose, your boys sound lovely, Asburgers I will pass that on to the ASD unit at school.

Am trying to remeber what I have just read... whoever was having trouble wit their toddler. I can sympathise, Lily is either all sweetness and light or a comlete pita to Jude, taking his toys, pushing him just enough to make him fall over etc. Luckily at the moment she's being sweet...but she tends to work in fortnighly cycles...so we're due a change.

Pat...do a masters....we can be terrified motivated together....my mind is boggling at the reading list.

120...liked your thread title but I hate those 'That's not my....' books with a passion, DD's been given tons of them.... mainly because I am I didn't think of that formula for writing children's books and raking it in

Jude had his biospy today and I managed to persuade them to discharge us this evening so we didn't have to stay in. Have to go back first thing though. But j is fine, bounced back from the GA and was busy flirting with nurses and chatting away.

Good point Books.

HKZ, glad the biopsy went ok and J recovered quickly. Glad you didn't have to stay in as well. Any idea when you will get the results or is that what you are going back for tomorrow?

Just posted my little anecdote in Special Needs and have had no response. Hope I haven't offended anyone, just thought it was a bit of light relief, especially in the context of the thread I started there a couple of days ago about some of ds1's problems. Am worried now.

HZ, I hate those books too. Have about 60 of hte bleedin things. I'm around and childfree today if you fancy a coffee when you get out of hospital.

Moose, lets have a link to your thread, then we can come and watch support you.

morning

off to sing and sign

hkz glad all well

Morning,

120, the thread is here.

I have probably committed some heinous non-pc crime.

I didn't mean to offend anyone though. I just thought it noteworthy that Ds1, a child with Aspergers himself, had obviously made up a story using a word he had in his head, making absolutely no connection to Aspergers. Dh and I were quick to react badly and assume he was being picked on and either he or his brother had heard the term at school, but it turned out we were overreacting as there was no mal-intent.

To be honest I'm quite pleased that he was able to make up a story, seeing as imaginative writing isn't something that comes naturally to most children with Aspergers.

Maybe it was the title that offended?

have posted. and even gave you a forbidden emoticon!

Thanks 120.

I could list the number of threads I've started that got no response on a full side of A4!

It only usually tends to happen to me in the SN section, but then I don't really tend to start many threads elsewhere.

I think the SN section can have a tendency to be a bit cliquey or them and us sometimes.

They were really helpful when dh and I were fretting over whether or not to go for diagnosis, but I seemed to get dropped like a hot potato as soon as ds was seen by a paediatrician. I might be paranoid (in fact I probably am as paranoid is my middle name at the moment), but I even seem to get ignored when I try and reply to people within other SN threads these days.

Its a shame, because I could really do with some help with ds1 at the moment, as dh and I are struggling with him and so are the school, but I'm a bit hesitant to start a thread about it now.

Forgot to say, I really like your thread title and reckon you should go with it and start the new one.

(But then again, we have been fortunate enough so far to have avoided that particular range of childrens' books.)

afternoon

we enjoyed sing and sign

Glad to see things went well with Jude yesterday, hope he's still fine and charming the nurses today.