December 2009: for the sake of Auld Lang Sine

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Just thought that I would get this started before the ante-natal thread gets filled up, not that I've had much time to post since I had DS but others might be able to multi-task better than I can!

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Glad to hear the Calpol helped. The moaning would have scared me too!!

Check this with someone professional if you do it but I think you can give Calpol with something else - like baby Ibuprofen. So if she starts looking ill before you can give some more Calpol, you could get some of the other stuff to dose her with in between times. I always have to re-check what it is though as I always forget.

Staying in and keeping her cool sounds like the best plan. She'll be better in no time.

Squeaking like a baby seal sounds so cute.

Catherine's fine after her jabs. She slept her usual 7.30pm till 2.30am last night and then went back down till 7.30am this morning!! Seems like all is forgotten now.

Just found out that one of my friends is suicidal and is self harming again. She says she's tried to kill herself but couldn't go through with it which I suppose is good news.

She lives over an hours drive away so I don't see her very often and I haven't been ringing as much as I've been busy with Catherine so I missed all the build up. Last time I saw her she seemed down but fine. She's been depressed for years so she quite regularly seems down and having been depressed myself, I know that sometimes it's best not to talk about it. She's always come to me before. Feel bad now that there's not a lot I can do to help from here. She's being admitted to a special unit later this week and is having daily visits by professionals to keep an eye on her.

Kings, hope P is feeling better but you can give calpol and ibuprofen together if you need to. You can give 3 doses of ibuprofen in a day, minimum of 6 hours between each dose and 4 doses of calpol per day, minimum of 4 hours between each dose. Ibuprofen ime brings their temp down faster but obv. then it is longer until she can have the next dose though you could give calpol in the gap iyswim.

Oh dear GS , that sounds awful for your friend and difficult for you when there's not much that you can actually do. It sounds like she's getting plenty of professional help though.

kings - glad p's feeling better.

GS - your poor friend. At least she's getting help though.

On a completely frivolous note do any of you play Farmville or Cafe World on Facebook & if so can I add you as friends please.

My sister has her 20 week scan tomorrow & hopefully will find out what she's having. Fingers crossed for a pink bump as that's what she's hoping for & my niece has stated that she's not having a baby brother only a sister so could be tricky if it's a boy. Seems like forever ago I was having my 20 week scan. Time is whizzing by.

GS - sorry about your friend Glad she's getting help though.

Is getting the last set of jabs ok if they are 2 weeks late? I have just realised that Noah's are due on a day he is meeting my aunt for the first time and the Tuesday after that would be decidedly inconvenient too, and as far as I know the nurse is only there on Tuesdays. I know it seems a bit rubbish and neglectful to delay them for 2 weeks due to social engagements, but I could really do without Noah feeling rubbish on those days if I can help it, so does it actually matter if the last set are late?

GS - sorry to hear about your friend, also glad she's getting help.

Kings - also glad to hear her temperature has gone down, that must be worrying for you.

Kate - Imogen is due her 16 week injections today and as she has a cold I rang yesterday to double check she should still have them. They said as long as she doesn't have a temperature before it was fine but it not just to bring her another week. As we're away next week I asked if it would matter if it was in 2 weeks time instead and they said it wasn't a problem and didn't matter at all.

Right, must actually do some packing for our holiday tomorrow... I'm hoping the jabs will make her sleep all afternoon so I can get sorted like the others did. Probably won't work this time though!!!

Thanks guys.

GS so sorry to hear about your friend. Hope you're okay and that she gets all the help available.

Claire - sorry don't play either of those...

Life of Kate - yup fine for them to be late I think - Persephone's were 10 days late. I think you need a minimum gap of 4 weeks but it doesn't matter too much if they are later than that - my friend's baby is the same ages as mine but she only had her 12 week jabs at 15 weeks.

Phew finally caught up

I'm going back to work in September when ds1 goes back to school doing 26 hours a week. 3 half days and 1 full day. dont really want to go back but its not an option

been to a sure start wiggle and giggle sesion this morning Regan loved it and is now out for the count they are having a weaning party on thursday, think i'll just go for the free bounty pack

Have spent an age on the phone to her this morning and have now sent a Tesco delivery so that she has some food to eat while her DH is at work. Really easy peasy stuff like microwave meals and chocolate. Won't hurt for a few days while she gets some strength back.

Her DS's have gone to stay with her sister for a week and the foster child has gone to his grandmothers.

She sound really strange on the phone. Like she's drugged but she says she's not, just tired. Wonder if I'd have been told at all if I hadn't have texted last night?

GS - I think that's a lovely idea and I'm sure it will help her as you say.

Right, off to start finish packing now. Have a lovely Easter everyone and see you next week!

Sorry to have a little whinge, but need to get this off my chest to people who (hopefully!) will understand!

We don't really have many friends near to where we live, the vast majority of friends and family live at least 2 hours away. We have had a total of 4 sets of visitors since DS was born, 3 of which are our parents! Even SIL and BIL only made it as far as DH's parents and I had to drive 20 miles, in the snow, on my own when DS was 9 days old. One of my dads sisters is visiting next week as she's passing by.
My mum had strop at me on the weekend before last about not making an effort to visit family (she has 4 sisters) since DS was born , and now a good friend, since seeing pictures of DS on facebook and claiming she HAD to see him, has said 'oh no, I'm not visiting 'up north' this year' when I asked her when she was coming to visit

Since when did people expect those with new babies to go traipsing all over the country with them so they can see the new baby? Am also a little hurt as it feels like if they haven't been to visit, they don't really want to see DS, IYKWIM.

Anyway, sorry, you don't have to reply, just needed somewhere to vent

Hi girls,
a bit of advice please from anyone more experienced enough to know.
I cant stop my LO wanting to stand (18 weeks) and there is a split in opinions as to whether we should be 'letting her' do it.
Frankly try n stop her, she's fixated with her new skills so much so she's not really eating properly. Every day she seems able to do something different.She's so excited by it!
I think people are worried about her bones?! Where as I think exercise builds strenth n bone and she is on an exclusive calcium rich dinner!
My mum says I never crawled just went straight to walking......Its the 'other side' that are the nay sayers
So what say you

ds2 (17 weeks) loves standing up. My personal opinion fwiw is that if they're standing themselves up it's ok but that you shouldn't try to stand them up at this age. ds2 is always standing up or if he's laying on his mat pushing his feet against me with such force he goes shooting backwards. Have to remember to keep the mat away from the fireplace so he doesn't hit his head. As you say would be v difficult to stop ds2 standing himself up.

Hi I'm sorry I haven't written on here before - I've been a lurker! But reading all your posts has def helped me through some of the more challenging times :-)
Brief history - Lottie was born on Christmas Eve and is doing really well. She is our first :-)
I really wanted to have a rant if that's ok!
Its my in laws. They live 40 minutes away and haven't been up to see Lottie since 2 days after she was born. This evening we have had a phone call from them guilting us into going to see them on Easter Monday. They are both retired and have been invited so many times I can't even count them and they are just too lazy to get off their backsides and come to see us. It doesn't help that my parents are here helping whenever I ask and times in between and they live 2 hours away. Aaaagh!!!!
Sorry to barge in - just had to get that off my chest!

Welcome. Assume your dh is military.

I've lived in Germany for 3 years & still have members of my family & friends who said they'd come to see me & haven't seen them once but try & guilt trip me when I make one of my fairly frequent visits home. I know it's quite a way but it's actually dead easy & cheap getting to where I am via either plane, ferry or tunnel. Come to the conclusion some people are just plain thoughtless. It's reasonable to assume when you've got a small baby that people will come to you & not bitch that you haven't been to see them.

Hi all and welcome longhaired!
All well here, DD's cold has almost passed... the snot is ebbing .

In response lesscrossed, DD is 16 weeks today and exactly the same. Certainly loves to stand up and hold her weight and pulls on my fingers to do that from sitting. I was wondering if it was bad for her joints so haven't encouraged it. You're right though, try stopping them! and I always worry when she is on my thighs looking at me that she'll push and attempt to shoot straight up over my knees! I'll ask my HV tomorrow at the weigh-in! No sign of rolling yet though... she's definitely found hands and feet and was grabbing at her legs tonight during prebath naked time and marking her skin... had to cut her nails as close as possible.

Sorry some of you girls are feeling let down by family etc. I have a very small family - my sister whom I'm very close to lives in the U.S. with her young family, she and my Niece came to my wedding last year but they just can't afford to come now which I totally understand. I don't think it's fair to expect you to travel... I hope things work out over the Easter holidays.

We have no plans, DH will be working all weekend and no plans to see my Mum. Dad is over at my sisters'. It'll just be a quiet one.

Hi Claire236
You are absolutely right - some people are just thoughtless :-(
Where are you in Germany? We have lived in Celle / Hohne before and are posted to Gutersloh in November. I'm looking forward to coming back to Germany!

hi all

welcome longhaired
we have the same issue with in laws. They live about 1hr 45 away. They won't come to see us and go back the same day as it's 'too far' and they don't seem to want to stay over even though we offer every time they come. yet, on the rare occasions when they are staying at their holiday home, which is the same distance away, they will travel from there and back in the day? WTF?! so we end up trailing up there almost every time. They have been twice since she was born.

Same with anna in terms of the standing too. she is 15 weeks now and loves standing up and is really strong in her legs. she has rolled over twice as well but then once she is on her front she seems to get a bit upset with it all...

any on else having issues with their DH? MY DH is great in many ways but has very little patience with anna. if she starts crying he says things like 'well, what's wrong with her?' and when i tell him to soothe her by shussing, he shusses really agressively and then wonders why i get cross and anna doesn't stop crying... he is really tired and stressed from work, so i feel for him, but i am knackered too and it's doing nothing for our relationship!

We're in Rheindahlen. Love it over here & really don't want to go back to the UK.

My dh has no patience with ds2. He has admitted to struggling to bond with him. He seems to take ds2 crying as a personal insult. It doesn't help that if ds2 is crying with dh & I take him most of the time he stops crying straight away. I don't think that's so much a personal preference as the fact that he's used to our routine & dh does everything differently to me but if I try & get him to do things how I do them he says I'm lecturing him & making him feel useless when I'm just trying to help him.

ds2 seemed to be having trouble with his teeth earlier - bright red cheeks, chewing everything, dribbling loads - so I thought I'd give some Calpol to help him settle. Sadly he decided to choke on it & was sick everywhere - it was even coming out of his nose. He then screamed (unsurprisingly) so I cuddled him to settle him before I thought about cleaning up & therefore ended up covered in sick myself. We're now both changed but he's looking about a million miles away from sleeping. Want my bed.

I got covered in puke tonight too. Luckily it was right before bath time so I just stripped off the sicky clothes and got in with them.

Did nothing but clean and make thank you cards today and have no plans until lunch at the in laws on Sunday. Going to have to think of something to do with DS else he's going to go loopy in the house.

Claire, sounds like your DH sounds v similar to mine! I think he really wants to be able to help, but just does not have the patience. i think the minute she starts crying he starts getting wound up and it becomes a vicious circle - i have tried telling him, but to no avail.

i too have been covered in sick today. in fact i think most days i manage to get some sick somewhere on my clothes...oh the glamour!

am going out on friday night for a hen night meal. am soooo looking forward to it. Then we are going up to stay with in-laws (the ones who can't be arsed are too far away to travel) so that will be joyous. No doubt will yet again have to listen MIL going on about how DD looks like all manner of distant relations on DH's side of family....never any suggestion that she might actually look like me! plus will be made to go to church on sunday, which i have nothing against, but will be forced to go in suits/smart gear; don't really think the almighty cares what we wear, but never mind. Don't you just love families?!?

hello ladies, just picking up on the thread again. not written much so far. my DH sounds very similar. our DS is my first but DH's fourth, and to be fair he is very good/helpful/supportive, but as others have just said, sometimes has very little patience when ds gets upset. he took ds while i did some gardening for literally half an hour and when i returned baby was screaming while dh got on with his things. DS was just hungry, not rocket science, but enough to get DH wound up.....

and another thing........he finds it really hard when i bf ds in front of our male friends, even though i try to be as discreet as possible. its starting to limit our social life a little. anyone else struggling with this? he has admitted its his problem, not mine , but not easy.

sorry for the rant. not all as straightforward as i thought i guess