April 2009 - Chapter 6 - The one where Nutty reappears and the babies eat FOOD!

[Swaliswan]

I hope that this will do you all as the last thread ran out.

Let the fun and chocolate eating commence...

MN is really slow atm. I'm getting very annoyed.

Ooooo, page 37. Maybe now is the time to start talking about a new thread title?

Sneaking towards the end of the thread again.....do you think we should prune the list for the next one, or always keep it as is?

x-posts!

oh shit - just had a massive row with DH about absolutely bolloxing nothing, then O woke up screaming and would NOT calm down for love nor money. i feel so angry with DH at the moment and i don't know why

Gui

maybe you should try telling him that you feel angry and don't know why. At least then he'll know that it's not entirely his fault and you can sort things out a bit?

O didn't wake up because of the row by the way - we were rowing quietly in the kitchen... don't want you to have visions of me and DH shouting mean things outside our babbit's room...

going to go and try to talk to him now

Oh dear my love - it's probably just a build up of pressure from the teething/ lack of sleep etc. Has he done/ not done anything in particular? Lack of understanding? I'll probably be off to bed shortly - hope you're okay.

Completely unhelpful but maybe up-cheering tangent - I once woke up in an absolute rage with DH because I'd had a dream in which he'd purchased a llama, got really angry in the dream, and woke up still hopping mad. Took me ages to calm down!

Thanks Swali, Gui, Nutty

I think we're ok now. We're not getting on very well at all at the moment and I don't know why. We're being really short and mean with each other and snapping very quickly. I hate it. I think its tiredness on both sides, also DH has just started a new job and I wonder if my period is about to reemerge as I feel VERY premenstrual

Gui - your llama dream made me laugh...

Right. Better go and feed O.

Bicnod,
I think having a baby creates loads of pent-up tension, as you don't express crossness to your baby when he doesn't let you sleep. So you express it to the person you feel most authorised to squabble with, usually your DH.
Hormones don't help either!

Right, after yesterday's spag bol and macaroon nonsense, I am having a serious day.
Though I am scarily proud of having been in "most active" threads for a best part of the day with an innocent query about spag bol.

Gui, if you make macaroons, take a photo. G. Ramsay has a recipe for them, I think, but he's never one to take the simplest route to doing anything, if he can help it.

Can someone please reassure me that I do not have the devil child -

Currently K is playing with computer wires and opening up cupboards and slamming them shut. His new game is to take off his nappy and wee on the floor (has done this four times this morning) AND crawl over to coffee and tea cups and push them over - after both he laughs! There is also a very large scratch on my mums brand new sofa that I think may have been his teeth!

After yesterdays pooing and fireplace shenanigans I can't cope with another day like it!!

GAHHH

Oooh Bicnod, how are things with DH now - if it's any consolation I am a Bi-atch to my DH on a daily basis for no reason whatsoever!

Auld - I think you're right. I do take out the frustrations of baby-raising on DH as he's the only one I can take it out on. So how do I stop?! We were great on holiday - its just real life that's the problem. Maybe that's the answer - just permanently be on holiday...

BB - this is the price you pay for having a baby genius . I'm quite relieved O is currently too much of a lazy pudding to even roll over...

Sorry BB - xposts - I wonder why? Do you think it really could still be hormones? I'd like to think it isn't that I've just become a total super-bitch since O was born but I'm beginning to wonder...

...although I have to say, DH doesn't help himself - he's a sarky bugger. And he breathes too loudly in bed (?! - that was really annoying me last night - I am a super-bitch. Oh god).

Ladies I need you to help boost my courage and to reassure me and give me info.

We're sick (day2) still...
but I really don't have any groceries and when I say that I mean there's nothing but squash, tortilla shells and nutella and sugar in the house. And there's only one day you can eat nutella and tortilla's all day...
If I order groceries online what can I expect? Are there any dangers or annoyances that I should watch for? Are there some places which are better than others? Can I expect to get food later today? OR do I really just need to drag my sickness and baby sickness to the store?

Oh bebe you poor thing

Since O was born I have done pretty much all my grocery shopping online from Sainsbury's - but you usually have to book a delivery slot at least a day in advance... not sure if it's the same for the other big supermarkets.

Is there anyone who can pick up some bits and bobs for you for today and then you can try and get some proper shopping delivered tomorrow? Whereabouts do you live again?

Your DH is away am I right?

Sending hugs x

Why don't you agree to have a little venting session together each day? So when DH gets home from work you can go 'Hello darling, glad you're home, aaaaaarrrrrrgggggghhhhhhhhhhh OspiltteaalloverthelaptopandIhaven'tdonethewashingIwantedtodoandIamSOOOOOOOtiredtodaybuthejustwon'tg otosleepandIreallywanttogettakeawaynotcookdinnerand........breeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaatheeeeeeee........Ho w was your day?'
Then DH gets to do the same, and thus the pent up frustrations of the day are released in a controlled manner with him, not at him! Also, I find a brief bit of childish jumping up and down/ singing/ yelling/ dancing helps to let a bit of the madness out. And if you're really wound up, that must be the ideal time for a run - take it out on the pavement!

Poor Bebe - Ocado is the same, unfortunately, next day at the earliest. If you shop now you may be able to get an early AM delivery tomorrow, though I think the delivery charge may be high.

How about Nutella for brekky, some sort of spiced squash fajita for lunch, and whatever takeaway delivers for dinner. No eggs? Bread? Frozen anything?

Yeah DH away.
No one's around really either. Family all abt 2 hours away from Cardiff. I was thinking of trying to go to the neighbors, but I waited too long and they're all gone during the day because they have jobs.

The other thing is I was thinking that it was just a cold...but it's quite obvious today it's the flu...whether or not it's swine flu I just don't know. And Poor Moo is just no better. Happily she has Calpol yet.

Gui

That's not a bad idea. Controlled venting. I will suggest it to DH tonight. We maybe need to get an egg timer for each person's rant or it could go on for some time...

I'm already planning to go for a run tonight so hopefully that will help... although in this mood I'm slightly concerned that I'll do a Forrest Gump and just keep going

Bicnod - DH and I were not even great on holiday - probably worse but then we were staying with family so not technically a holiday!

I don't know why it is - I think largely I am pretty pissed off that my life has changed so dramatically and yet he is not affected, he still sleeps, works, plays, pretty much exactly the way he did before unless I kick him awake at night which i do quite often as I am so grumpy

I also think their brains work slower than ours so they will say something that they think is fine when really it is so far from fine! Like, 'What are we having for dinner', 'Do you think he should be eating / wearing / doing that!' My favourite one from DH at the moment is 'My mum says babies should / shouldn't.... [insert whatever rule I am currently breaking]' fecker.

Gim, I would love to run it out but DH works so late that by the time he is home I am pretty much done for the day and then there is my broken foot.

I have to say 98% of the time DH is wonderful and I wouldn't be without him, it's just that darn 2%!!!

I want my lazy baby back....

Morning. Gui, LOL at llama. What's wrong with a llama?

BB - your Kara sounds like he's great fun. DD1 was a bit like that. It's hard work but lovely to have a lively, adventurous child. Enjoy! And get your mum to tidy up after him Oh and put him in a body and dungarees so he can't get to his nappy.

Bicnod - my DH also breathes too loudly at night. I am a bitch and I don't care, I feel entitled to as I am constantly sleep deprived, still producing full fat milk round the clock and running after his daughters all day. If he doesn't like it, then tough.