June 2007 - Terrible Twos, oh yes, but their cuteness more than makes up for it :0)

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aaargh, that snuck up on us didn't it?

pmsl, DD has uncovered one of my velcro rollers from somewhere and is sitting with it in her hair, drawing on the magnetic sketcher. She's also taken to wearing leg warmers on her arms and socks on her hands, especially in bed at night. Love it.

I am £50 a month better off woohoo. I have cancelled my salary protection insurance for the mortgage, since I have no salary anymore!!

Hello

Nice to see you Butterfly.... about DH....sounds very difficult. You probably should keep a diary so you can recall this later on to a professional. I have no idea how you go about getting some help - I assume he doesn't realise he has issues? Can you speak to your GP?

Have you formally finished work now Daisy? Did you sort out the invoice thing? Usually if one person has bought more than one thing, it creates a multiple invoice by itself and gives you the option of changing the postage.

Arse to your DH Ria - just shove it all back in there!

butterfly! just popping in cos I feel I owe you an apology in that I hop with my pissed-offedness with my DH I am not coming across as one of those irritating types who always have to go one better. IYSWIM. hope you're doing OK tonight.

back later...

Really good to see you back Butterfly. Sorry about your DH, definitely sounds a bit odd what you're describing. Everybody being sick and tired is probably not helping either.

glad I haven't caused offence, also IYSWIM, it makes it a bit easier to offload when someone else can mention their DH being less than perfect - does that make sense? I would say DHs current bout of twuntiness is related to his ego (new job, sun shining out his arse professionally etc) or his DDs accident (somehow is taking out on me and the boys the fact that that relationship did not make it so he isn;t there 24/7), or it could be something I can't work out (though I can usually read him like a book). He is also worse after "quality" time with his parents. I didn't think I'd been too bad depression-wise the last couple of weeks, so was thinking it wasn't that. I think the thing that niggles the most is that he didn't ask before he said he would go (again), and probably because he knew I would say I minded (I think we even had that very conversation over the weekend).

cupboard more or less sorted - 50% of the shoes gone to recycling, my ebay stash out waiting to be photoed and listed (both done by me), just DHs paperwork left out on the table, which will no doubt be there til christmas. I did bung some stuff back in a box for sorting at a later date (probably by me), and DH actually put some stuff in the loft, and there's al' the fiddly bits to sort (screws, nails, batteries, plastic bits etc), but there's room for the hoover, and the hallway is clear (which is more than can be said for when I came in this morning).

I would be livid too. At least you know your friend is loyal though.

me too butterfly. I waste spend a lot of my time defending DH (to anyone who thinks he's work-obsessed ior possibly useless) or over-compensating (the kids)

His DD had a riding accident (not on her own horse who is too much for her, but on someone elses) and broke her back (it also appears there is no insurance and as I used to work for that company, I am somehow involved in the blame, even though I had nothing to do with either persons policy). This happened on the first day of our family holiday, and meant DH (understandably as we were led to believe it was more serious than it has fortunately turned out to be) left the morning after we arrived. His DD has been bloody lucky and was up and walking ater a week in hospital withthe aid of a back brace (which she is annoyed she needs for another 6 weeks). He was not "allowed" to parent his kids after he married me, but has visited her weekly (barring last week when he got held up at his own hospital appointment) since the accident. I thought I had been supportive...

I rally do apologise to everyone for my self pity

hey sputnik, how's it all going?

Not bad, I'm chuffed as I just sold a baby dress I found for 1.5 euros second hand on the market for £11.50
I have tonnes of stuff to ebay, should really get down to it.

We had our summer holiday this weekend, I enjoyed all 3 days of it, but feeling a bit with DH who insisted we go but is now saying it wasn't worth it, food was crap etc, we now have no money etc etc. After I had told him that was exactly what he said last year (which was why initially I didn't want to go).

Has soured it a bit tbh, but I guess on the twunt scale it scores pretty low, so I should get over it.

. If I get round to hoovering and the light is good (for the photos) I hope to be partaking of ebay success too soon.

Did you go to the same place as last year for your holidays? Why don't DHs people know to say "it was fine" even if they don't think so, especially if you are a bit yourself?

Yes, same place we have been for last 5 years! Different hotels though. Thing is I was the one before as I could think of better things to do with the money, and knew I would be spending half my time stopping DS from plummeting into a swimming pool. But it's a lovely place, nice weather so when I was there I relaxed and got into it. DC's had fun too so came back feeling good.

Only to be told he hadn't enjoyed it and we wasted our money. Same as he said last year. I suggested he wrote it down somewhere for next year when he wanted to go again. Oh well.

Yes you've hit the nail on the head there. Like eating anywhere with MIL (ILs came on holiday too) half the time she is complaining about the food, being rude to waiters etc, drives me nuts.

Actually I was rude to a waiter this time, when they brought the DC's food 20 minutes after everyone elses in the hotel restaurant. They were both crying by that point, it was really late after long day swimming etc. Was I unreasonable?

Nope sputnik. Not. Especially if the rest of your group had their food.

DH doesn't have contact with his kids often at all butterfly. His DS texts when he fancies the idea of DH paying for his tattoo (I think DS should get a job and pay for his own. He is 20), they have not been encouraged to keep in touch, he has done his best in the circumstances, but it has not been regular contact, though I believe his DD has texted fairly often since she hit 16 (and made her own decisions). I am not massively involved, except when we take in his DS on a mercy mission (though I am not doing that anymore). I think the insurance thing is more that I read the policy and said there was no point in arguing and going on about misquoting etc, as the policy was clear and it's an idea to check things on papar that you've organised over the phone etc. So not my fault just an appearance that I'm siding against them IYSWIM. Which I'm not, but I do know how they work at the other side and they won't be interested.

Must stop stewing and go to bed. Or the kids won't get to school on time, and that wouldn't do ...

my "new" curtains are too short! How naff would it be to add a thick band of co-ordinating velvet ribbon or some fringing or something?

bollocks, baggins has just this minute got on the sofa and nodded off.

My DD used to do that Butterfly, she would go on for an hour after waking up!
I think strip of velvet sounds like a good idea.

they cover the glass bit, it's about 3 inches of the bottom og the door frame IYSWIM? (french windows) They are a really gorgeous dark green. Can't tell they are too short when they're drawn back as there's firniture inthe way, it's just when they're open.

poor baggins woke up when I put him in his pushchair to go to school and we got wet. I so do not feel lilke my tutorial now. Just want a hot bath and my bed.

Definitely worth doing, if only to stop draughts.