May 2009 - we're all here! btw, does anyone know what the Hungry Cry sounds like?

[Momino]

phew! how many threads have we done since last aug?

Dandy I exclusively bf both older dc, and have had 2 periods since April 2005. The first of these was about 4 weeks after dc2 was born and the next my only period before conceiving dc3. I do wonder if it was a period or not. I'm 6weeks pp now and am just getting a bit of bloodflecked discharge again. Fingers crossed it's not a period.

dandy- i'm 6 weeks pp too and still some brown blood now and again, but i guess if its red, it might be a period, or might need to mention to your GP/HV?

I have BF my other two, and only started my periods once i've completely stopped BF (8 months and 11 months).

what's a good thing to do when your face is all numb? answer.. make the famous jaffa cake with help from ds. i promise to not each too much of it

Hi eveyone,

emmab glad to hear the anti-depressants are working.

pula momi How are you today? Hope you're all feeling a bit better in yourself soon.

Blotted You sound down too. Hopefully your GP can give you better painrelief or have a look into why you're still in so much pain.

Like someone else said. Strange how now we're all around the 6 week mark the PND starts showing with quite a few of us. Maybe it is the attention thing, although we're still enjoying plenty of attention. Especially C's hair . I'm not missing the pregnancy attention, I think mainly because that was sort of negative attention in my case. People were forever commenting on the crutches rather than the bump.

Talking about PND, here the HV does the PND test when babies go for their 8 week check up. There's a bit of controversy about the PND test as it is actually easily manipulated to make yourself look better/worse than you really are. So I'd advise to go by how you feel and not count on that. You know how you feel and if you think you need help then talk to your HV/GP.

fi That should make you feel better. Isn't it annoying to have that post dentist numb face. Drinking is just impossible. Hope it goes soon.

periods with ds who fed 2 hourly day and night they came back when he was 16 weeks, with dd who fed a lot less frequently they came back when she was 10 months. There doesn't seem to be any logic in it. My own mw had her 1st period after 4 weeks, even though she bf.

Had the weirdest day today with 2 v. pro-bf women having our pics taken to promote the BF picnic in b'ham. I think 1 of them didn't think I was quite radical enough as I was of the opinion that bf in public is best done discretely. I just don't want the whole world to see my boobs, not that I'm that worried about what they'll think.

my face is starting to come back to life.. having a cold tea anyway so at least I won't burn myself by accident.

Cold tea? I couldn't drink that. With a numb face I'd have to go for water or something.

Today I also had a great bargain. Actually, bargain is not really the word. Ds's Nintendo DS was broken and still under warranty. Took it back and I could swap it. They had pink or black, but the black one was in a more expensive pack with a game included. Because they didn't have the colour I wanted I could have the black one + the game for free! So ds is now very happy to have a new DS that works properly + a new game

hi everyone

hope all is well and good with mummy and babies.

i havent had a chance to get on here for so long i havnet got a chance of catching up so please except my apologies for not even attempting too

we are both doing well. baby L now weighs 9lb 5oz after 4 1/2 weeks after starting off at 6lb 10oz so think its fair to say he's doing very well and growing nicely

we are mixing breast milk and formula now as was finding it a struggle to keep up with the expressing with L only going 2hrs inbetween some feeds. so he is on breast milk during the day and formula during the night. the real other reason for introducing formula again is because L seems alot less settled on my milk than he does ont he formula he seems to really struggle with wind and colic after he's had a feed of my milk and seems much better on the formula milk, we are giving him infacol every feed to help with the wind he also seems to struggle with pooing alot so have been giving him gripe water which seems to help abit. i think it must be something im eating that is affecting his tummy but i really havent go the energy to investigate as im fidning it hard to eat enough as it is and if i have to stop eating the things i like then ill never eat and that wont be any good either. so things are going better now were mixing it abit and having the wind remedies.

Baby L's routine is abit ramdom really and can change daily at the mo. normally it goes like this ish-

has last feed at night anytime between 9-10.30pm (formula)
wakes for a feed anytime between 2-4am (formula)
wakes for morning feed around 7-8am (formula)
another feed at 10.30am (breast milk)
another at aroung 1pm (breast milk)
another around 4-5pm (breast milk)
another around 7-8pm (breast milk)

its very hard to plan anything or try and guess when he's gonna wake for a feed im hoping he will settle into more of a solid routine after a few more weeks. wishful thinking maybe! anyone else seen an improvment after 6weeks?

right gotta go baby L is calling as he's abit of a monkey at sleeping on his own during the day but is good at night so im glad its that way round so cant complian really

Hiya ladies.

Got J's jab's tomorrow and 8 week check, and my check too.

My day didn't start off brilliantly...had to take DD to a meeting with other parents and children whose LO's will be starting nursery in September. Well we had the pack sent through ages ago asking when we wanted her to go, 5 mornings/5 afternoons or 2 and a half day's and I'd picked 2 and a half days, thinking it would get her more prepared for school and I could actually do something with her the other two days she wouldn't be at nursery, well it turns out, we didn't get the second leter apparently, and that the school decided to go with a majority vote and just offer morning and afternoon sessions, however,as an exception I could swap two of my mornings and add them on to afternoon sessions, so she can go Thursday and fridays allday...only theres a half an hour break in the middle that they wanted me to pay for, my hormones kicked in and i started crying it was so unlike me...especially concidering I knew DP had already spoken to the nursery manager and sorted it all out, and it was like they were going back on their word kinda thing...I'm so embarrassed now, because it was like in front of her future teachers etc...

Hi All,

I have read to catch up over the last couple of days as i have been struggling with things - crying, tired, getting annoyed at not being able to do things or have a min to myself - and then come on here and realise that a lot of others are feeling the same! so thanks guys (not that i want any of you to feel low!) - but it really does help as i was starting to feel like i was losing my mind a little.

Now it makes a bit more sense! So I will try to hang in there and hope those of you who are feeling low as well get through this too and come out the other side soon.x

Evening ladies,

Well it's been a funny day, as S hasn't slept much - only half hour naps generally - but has been quite happy just sat in his bouncy chair for reasonable amounts of time, with the odd screaming phase as usual, a lot of feeding, and was definitely tired at bedtime! Difficult when the screaming coincided with getting DS1 down for his nap and getting the DCs tea ready but i got through it (with an emergency phone call to DH at 4.30 to beg him to come home early!)

Got some bad news from my mum on the phone tonight. My dad has had a skin condition since April which he thought was eczema. He had some biopsies taken a month or so ago. Turns out it's skin cancer but is early stage and will be treated with drugs, then possibly radiotherapy. My mum was being very positive as though it was treatable and not to worry. But from the rough details my mum gave I think it is called "Cutaneous T-cell lymphoma" and I've done a quick google search on it (I know i shouldn't) and found that even for early stage, the median patient survival is only 12 years, and its not because people were generally old, as it is most common in men aged 40-60 year olds (my Dad has just turned 60). No-one in my family has had cancer, so it's a bit of a shock, and not something i have much experience of. Not sure it's really sunk in yet - I've not cried yet, but think i might later.

yes, rosielady, you're in good company here! hope you're feeling better soon as well.

Jael, good luck with 8 week check tomorrow. and don't worry about crying in front of the nursery teachers . hope things work out with it.

I'm ok today, got through it. i can't explain how i feel really. i'm anxious but it's in the back of my mind. it's not overtaken me like it did last year but i feel it starting. one thing my counsellor said would help is to live in the moment (not easy to do). but when i look at Harper's smile or cuddle dd1 on my lap or clap when dd2 walks down the stairs on her own, i have been able to forget my worries. the moment doesn't last long but if i keep doing this, maybe i'll eventually forget my anxieties . if it were this easy!

it does help to come on here to vent as i know some of you are feeling similar. just want to thank you for listening and for your advice. [grateful emoticon]

pula, cross posted with you.
I'm so sorry to hear your news. it's too late to tell you not to google . at least your mum sounds positive and they can start treating it.
hope you're ok and do come on here if you need to chat. x

Thanks momino - not sure how i feel really. My DH says not to think the worst until he's had his first appointment at Christies Hospital Manchester and they've done a full diagnosis. I know it was hard for my mum to give the news, but she was funny because she said "i've got some bad news, promise you won't get upset" - and i thought, well how can i promise til i know what it is lol. Then she said it was about my dad and mentioned "Christies" which I know is a cancer hospital . She said my dad took ages to come home after his appointment as he needed time on his own to get his head round it, and then she cried all day when he told her so don't know if she's keeping anything back from me. My brother and sister both know, but my dad hasn't told his brothers yet.

ah, pula. what a tough time.
you still up for Wed cinema? we'll be sure to cheer you up .

No time to catch up everything but wanted to send you abut pula after your news today. As said trynot to google and wait for the hospital to get more info. Macmillan offer really good support and advice should you need it too and do unload here as well.

Big hugs to everyone else as well x x

A hug not abut!

Darn it, ds2 is all bright eyed and bushy tailed!! I really don't know how to change his sleep pattern from daytime sleeping!

Pula sorry to hear about your dad. I agree, do not google and hopefully your dad will get his appt soon. Cancer is a huge shock for everyone and it takes time to sort through all your feelings etc, even when told it is highly treatable.

Yesterday had to be my worst day as a parent. Ds1 when out of the house is lovely, inside the house has turned into a nightmare. Yesterday I was kicked, hit, bitten and some of my hair pulled out. Ds2 also had his eyes poked, pulled around by his feet and an attempt at being bitten. I really don't know what to do, I try and spend time with ds on his own (not helped when he wakes a sleeping baby!), praise him when he's good. I guess he could be bored... Any ideas anyone? All I seem to do is shout at him and I don't like it.

pula sorry to hear about your dad but at least they've identified it early for treatment. don't google anymore.. my mum has fought off bowel cancer 3times in the last 12yrs and has been clear now for her longest spell yet (4yrs) which is much better than anyone expected.. i guess what i'm waffling is that there are many success stories and it's not all gloom. mum has her next check tuesday next week.. the worry never goes but it's good they keep an eye afterwards just in case.

daisydoo ouch to the hair pulling biting and kicking that's hard work to deal with. i'm not sure what'll help and you can't be out all the time! i suppose all you can do is continue to praise and re enforce the good behavior and try not to react so strongly to the bad.. do you think he's better outside as he's more occupied/busy? could he be getting bit bored at home while you have to deal with ds2? i'm trying to involve ds 2yrs 10m a bit more with g.. can you get me a nappy.. pass me the x y z etc. he seems to enjoy helping (but also makes a game out of it too) teasing me with said nappy.. by not handing it over straight away!

morning all..
pula sorry to hear about your dad and try not to google anymore (easier said than done I know)
daisydoo sorry your having prob ems with ds

we've been up since 5am M had a feed but then wouldn't settle, tried to bf her again 6-7am ended up topping her up with formula which I don't think she wanted as she threw up at least half of it all over my recently washed dressing gown

can you believe Michael Jackson is dead, I must admit I'm not a particular fan of his tho.

Pula I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. Hope he recovers well from the treatment.

Daisydoo I too am having a complete nightmare with my dd1. Yesterday dh was called aside by the nursery staff. They said they didn't know whether to be cross or very happy. She had written her name on a chair, but done it so well they were amazed. Now before I go to the G&T threads, her name is 4 letters long and a palindrome but even so. Pula you were concerned at putting your hand over ds2's mouth, but I nearly hurt dd1, while she was trying to pull dd2 of the changing mat and yank her head to get a reaction. Me crying at her brought her up sharpish but I do worry what I might have done had I not walked away.

talking to newborns I like silence. I worry I'm not stimulating dd2 enough. I don't like talking to myself, or do a running commentary. What can I do to remind myself to do it. I'm worrying that because she doesn't cry, she's actually awake more often than I realise, and she's just lying in her cot. I wonder now if this is why DS isn't particularly advanced at talking. I know this sounds stupid and quite selfish as other mums are struggling with babies that constantly require attention. I'm embarrassed to post this.

Sorry to witter. Ignore me.

has anyone on here ever been to a citizen advice burea? thinking of going down and seeing someone about job/pay situation as long as everything I say is in confidence. If my boss found out I think he would sack me and at the moment any amount of money is better than none

Looby at last! I can't imagine they would betray a confidence if you ask them not to. Goodluck. I REALLY hope you get it sorted out.

Looby go! As far as I'm aware everything is in confidence. Anyhow if your boss did sack you, you'd have grounds for unfair dismissal I'm sure! He's the one in the wrong.