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May 2009 - we're all here! btw, does anyone know what the Hungry Cry sounds like?

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Momino · 14/06/2009 11:32

phew! how many threads have we done since last aug?

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FiKelly · 14/06/2009 21:16

My only saving grace (no pun intended ) is that my dh is still off work and has been doing an outstanding job occupying ds while i've been stuck on the sofa bf grace. It's helped ease the lack of attention from me to a degree. When dh does go back to work i think i'll have another learning curve ahead of me!!

FiKelly · 14/06/2009 21:18

we too have the telly on quite a lot... ds only pays attention to a few programs & I have been trying to make an effort to turn it off when he's not remotely interested but you kinda forget it's on... well i do anyway

SesHasFinallyBecomeAMum · 14/06/2009 21:25

Hi!
Momino - thanks for the new thread

I'm with those of you that never really feel fully engorged although today I have been feeling a little fuller than the bit fuller I already was IYKWIM!

Getting stupidly worried about tomorrow's weigh in. I'm sorry as you must all be fed up of hearing about this now. Today though Owen hasn't settled for more than half an hour at a time and just doesn't seem satisfied with what I'm giving him. I'm convinced he's lost weight as opposed to having gained too.
Ignore me though as I think I'm just paranoid now

He has now settled on DH which is good so I'm taking the opportunity to eat some prunes as I'm feeling rather constipated

Momino · 14/06/2009 21:29

short fuse - you're right, we all lose it/have lost it. but also, i think we're forgetting that we do have more patience than we realise. it's such hard work being a parent and when you've got a newborn crying and a whingeing toddler (or 2!)...it's almost torture.

I did a lot of yelling last week and for dumb things. i'm worried I'm being too hard and negative on my LO's that I'll drive them away from me. i have to learn how to take a deep breath and count to 10 either out loud with a DD or for my own benefit.

tummum is right about having 2dc as they get to a certain age where they will play together. my older 2 are 3.5 and 21 mos and they play (and argue) beautifully.

emmab's had good ideas about getting someone else to look after for a little bit to give a break. my DH gets home late but if he's back in time for bath/bed, i let him take over the older ones and I just concentrate on Harper.

above all, try to get some sleep as lack of it will really feed a short fuse as we know.

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Momino · 14/06/2009 21:31

ses, I've gotta partake in prunes as well. must go out and buy a bag. It's been a couple of days now....

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FiKelly · 14/06/2009 21:32

ses don't worry about o's weigh in and we'll never get sick of hearing about any worries you have I've just had 3 days of g not settling and today all of a sudden has been a lot better

SesHasFinallyBecomeAMum · 14/06/2009 21:35

Thanks Fi

Momino - I keep the tinned variety in the cupboard and - I may be wierd - but I quite like them!

Momino · 14/06/2009 21:37

Fi, Harper is 6 wks now and I feel she's only started to do a bit more than feed/wind/poo/cry/sleep etc. she seems a bit more settled but still have many times when I can't figure out why she's crying when i've fed her, winded her, changed nappy, etc. it's still a guessing game for me.

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Febes · 14/06/2009 21:56

Thanks for all the advice I am feeling much better about today and think that I will have the patience of a saint tomorrow . I had a late night last night, DH worked most of the day and my mum left for her tour of europe today as well.
Rueben is such a good baby but has wanted lots of feeds today and lots of cuddles. DD is resisting naps but really needs them. When DH came home she was crying in her cot and he went up and she went straight to sleep so I felt useless (but very thankful for him coming home) She was better this afternoon I took them both to the park and then got the paddling pool out at home. When she went to bed tonight though she cried for nearly half an hour. I tried a new strategy of not talking or giving eye contact and going in and lying her down. It took 2 times and a heart breaking 30mins (10mins lie her down, 10 mins..)of listenng to her cry for her to go to sleep. I have previously tried sitting outside her room and telling her to lie down (didn't work). Its been going on for about a week.
I think I will limit telly as well. I put on cbeebies in the morning after her breakfast while I have my breakfast and sort R. Then I put cbeebies on at 6 for the bedtime hour after her bath. I don't really watch any telly myself except when she is sleeping now days.

FiKelly · 14/06/2009 21:59

Phew momino I was starting to think that i should know what to do as we've gone through this with ds..

runningmonkey · 14/06/2009 22:04

Evening

Sorry to hear of those struggling with more than one, I am in awe of you as we arefinding it hard enough with one!

Anyone else feel like a dairy cow? A hasbeen feeding on and off all day and not slept for more than half an hour iwonder if it's the heat making her thirsty?

DandyLioness · 14/06/2009 23:40

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Momino · 15/06/2009 06:02

dandy, my body feels old as well (am 40 in couple of weeks). what's up with your hip? mine started hurting in pregnancy and pain hasn't gone away yet. it hurts when i get up after sitting/sleeping. In any case, you've been through a major operation and have a newborn so it's not surprising you're knackered . Hope you feel better today after a sleep. Also, you're right about BS -it does help to write it down.

I'm on MN mainly during BF time as DD1 and DD2 play together so there isn't much else to do during a feed.

I've been awake since 4.30. dd1 was up twice (sleepwalking) during the night. then Harper woke at 4.30 to feed. tried to dream feed her and put her back to sleep but she woke again. So I cuddled her for the last hour, listening to birdsong and DH pressing snooze button on alarm clock for 45 min (arrrgh). i know i'm going to feel tired later, thank goodness for Quiet Time with my 3 year old and Cbeebies .

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daizydoo · 15/06/2009 07:51

Morning all -

Afraid this will be a me post, after not posting for ages - my week hasn't got off the the best start. It looks like ds1 has chicken pox and is going to be a nightmare to contain if we can't go to any groups this week! After a crap nights sleep with ds2, moaning and groaning all night I've woken up with conjunctivitis! Looks like I'll be bulk buying at the chemists today I hope my sil has had chicken pox as she's 36weeks pregnant.

Was it emmabemma who mentioned about family asking when they were visiting again? DH's family have started asking when we are going to SA next. Don't worry that it's going to cost over 2grand to get us all there so would be cheaper to visit us

dandy - my knees are playing up at the moment! Think its the extra weight I'm still carrying! How's the school appeal going?

I am also guilty of having the tv on all the time. I blame DH as I never used to watch as much and now ds has it on all the time It is helpful at times though!

Jennster · 15/06/2009 09:01

Morning folks. Boo to aches and pains. Boo to chickenpox. Dd1 has had them, Ds hasn't and we were at a BBQ yesterday afternoon where it looked like 2 of the children might be coming down with it. They didn't stay very long, but long enough to let ds get in contact with either it or gnat bites

DS is having his 2 year check on Wednesday. HV may as well do it while she is here anyway. Hopefully she doesn't need to come again. DD1 is having her MMR booster at the same time DD2 is having her 1st set of injections in 3 weeks, and I've got my 6 week check next week where I'm going to discuss the pros and cons of IUS V IUD, and whether Dh will have to wait for Dd2 to be a year old before he can have the snip.

Grumpyoldcaaaaaaaa · 15/06/2009 09:01

Morning all.

DD1 and 2 are at school/nursery, DH back at work today so it's just me and S at home.

She's snoozing in her carrycot, I really should be doing the washing and stuff but......

Those of you with relatives in far-off places, at the expectation that you will do all the travelling!! I couldn't even be bothered to drive the 1 hour to York this weekend, so my poor Granddad has had to wait another week to see S .

Speaking of York, Momi, I'm definitely up for the cinema if I can get DD2 looked after for the morning (I'm sure I can), I'll let you know, 1st July wasn't it?

I am resisting the chocolate chocolate chip banana bread (swoon) I made yesterday - I will have some after lunch.

Have a great day everyone!!

flippineck · 15/06/2009 09:36

Morning all! Love the new thread - and yes, what does the hungry cry sound like?! I think I've just about worked out tired cry(sometimes, anyway) but the rest, pah - not a clue.

Sorry to hear that some of you are feeling achy and old - hope things improve. I'm just absolutely shattered, A is really unsettled and waking every couple of hours at night, and during the day she mostly sleeps in 20 minute bursts, unless she's being held or in the sling. Incredibly though she is asleep right now - fell asleep on me and I managed to put her down without waking her at 8:30 and she's still flat out!

All quiet here as DD1 has gone to the childminder, and I'm meeting the in-laws in town later - they aren't staying with us, they're in a hotel so at least I don't have them for 24 hours a day. 12 is bad enough.

daizy - chicken pox and conjunctivitis, poor you. Hope your week isn't too bad.

grumpy - choc chip banana bread sounds good, is it the Nigells recipe or a different one?

I'm really pleased - my boobs seems to have settled down a bit and now my Anita underwired nursing bras fit!!! A small thing to get excited about I know, but I hate nuring bras. Now, how do I tackle the excess weight that's annoying me....

Tummum · 15/06/2009 09:58

Morning all. DD1 at school, DD2 watching beebies & DS in pushchair asleep. Yay!

Got my 6 week check today and last appointment with the mental nurse, so getting ready celebrating being signed off as 'normal'. Well, sort of normal ! I might need to go back and get some drugs later in the week as MIL is coming to stay for 2 days from tonight. She's already started on the wrong foot by suggesting that I express and then put some rusk in the milk to get G to sleep longer... but I refuse to put into practice any advice from her, seeing as she's such a good mother, NOT !

G has woken up, so need to go feed.

Flippin I wear the Anita underwired bra and it's fab!! I was excited to find I can fit it, just. Well, it's a size smaller than I really should but I don't care as underwired bras rule !!

Grumpyoldcaaaaaaaa · 15/06/2009 10:02

flippin It's my variation on the Nigella recipe - I make my version of the plain banana bread all the time (don't bother with sultanas and all the rest), DH requested the chocolate one and it's really rather delicious. The only problem is that I can't pretend to myself that it's healthy as it contains chocolate. Oh well.

I too hate nursing bras, I'm wearing a crappy Mothercare one at the mo (it was cheap), I have horrible M&S ones, but I do have a gorgeous posh one wot I bought from a boutique in Edinburgh. Why are nursing bras generally so horrible? Let's face it, you don't feel at your sexiest and best after having a baby, with boobzillas leaking milk and jelly belly and aches and pains. Wearing hideous bras just adds to the overall .

So sorry for those of you with poorly DC's or illnesses yourselves, how crappy . I was sat feeding S on Saturday afternoon, knock at the door, 2 of DD1's friends looking panicked "MaiasfallenoffherbikeandwethinkshemighthavebrokenherlegandHarry'sbleedingeverywhere". Finally managed to ascertain that Maia has skidded down a road and come off her bike and her boyfriend Harry has then fallen on top of her. Panicking, me? Good God, yes. DH went to get her. It turns out she's just very badly scraped, bruised, battered and shocked. She has a massive scrape on one leg, a very bruised thigh, a bruised calf and shin and is generally very sore and stiff. Poor Harry (the bf) has stitches in his chin. Me and DH did make her get up and walk around though (her friends were fluttering round her, telling her to sit and lay down and not do anything), and I made her ride her bike to school today (I have been on terrified tenterhooks though, waiting to hear that she's fallen off again). How unsympathetic are we? I remember how much it hurts though, many rollerblading/cycling accidents when I was a kid. Poor Maia is just too skinny though, she has no fat to cushion her fall . Bless her.

Ooh that was a long post! S still kipping, washing is on (finally), just the dishwasher to do

Grumpyoldcaaaaaaaa · 15/06/2009 10:04

Tummum Grrrr at MIL's and rusk in milk - do they really still think like that? Ooh put some weetabix in, build them up. BUGGER OFF!!!!

flippineck · 15/06/2009 10:05

tummum - hope your MIL doesn't come up with any more useful advice for you! I'm very grateful that my MIL has been on her very best behaviour since she's been here - she has history, but has obvioulsy decided that she'd like to see her granddaughters!)

Aren't the Anita bras fab?! I found them after I'd had DD1, and felt like crying this time when it looked like I might be bigger than an H!!

A is still asleep....almost starting to worry!

LoobyLou36 · 15/06/2009 10:07

just bookmarking and trying to catch up.

Trying to get ready to go to town but M is really unsettled

emmabemmasmom · 15/06/2009 10:15

Flip and Tum Where did you get your Anita bras? I had found them online and only found them on some weird site that looked dodgy to me. I have been dying to get one (or 10 lol). I hate the non-wired ones and I already am having some redness and whatnot under my breasts bleh...Let me know when you can so I can pull the credit card out lol

Yes it was me talking about family grrrr. My mom was going to visit but has come up with even more weird excusses (which yes I can understand in a way) but if it were me, I would go into debt if i had to, but you bet your ass I would be there! My dad was also going to come in Aug but has now said he would pay for us to come to him. Nice thought but why should I travel with 2 babies when he can come as a single man?? I WAS sticking to my guns and saying we were not going this year, but I miss my mom so so so much I can't take it. DH was so sweet he said I could go with S and he would stay home with E if it ment I could go (money wise) but there is no way I could leave them So, DH has started working a lot so we can hopefully make a trip in November to see my mom and maybe in Sept to see my dad. Still pisses me off though

Had a bad night last night. S would not settle so I went to bed at 9 thinking I would lie down and feed her to fake her out that it is night time...yeah well, I fell asleep too. She ended up feeding every hour in bed with me. I would put her in her cot and she would wake. I didn't sleep to well as I find I am half awake when she is in bed with us. Just now got her to sleep in her cot and DH has E in the park next door.

I am dying for my 6 week check. If you didn't have stitches or anything can you get your check early? Mostly it is to set up the coil for me. We have already been, ahem, active and although we are using something it is freaking me out! I got pregnant the first time on the pill and the second 2 weeks after I stopped so don't want that again. We were talking about the snip for DH too but were not 100% we don't want another. He would love to try for a boy but god, do I want to risk 3 girls?? lol

Hope everyond is enjoying the grey and rainy day (over here anyway!)

flippineck · 15/06/2009 10:19

anita bras - got them from Figleaves. HAve a look on the money saving bit here or google for dicount codes, you very rarely have to pay full price on there. Most recent one was free delivery, but can't remember code, sorry!

Got to dash now, need to get organised to go out. Hope you all have good days!

runningmonkey · 15/06/2009 10:40

Morning all. Getting ready for a trip out so just a quick post to say hi

Re far away parents can't remember if I've mentioned this already but we got both sets of parents set up with skype video messaging and it seems to be doing the trick - gp's can see A regularly without us feeling guilty for not travelling. Thought I'd share as it might help

Right off tohave breakfast and then into town. Have a good day all x