F(l)ab Feb 2009: Primark pants and teething rants

[dinkystinky]

A brand new sparkling thread to mark the four month mark for our bubs

I haven't had a fag since 10am!!!!!!!!! Go me
This patch really itches though. I've been wearing a very short sleeved top so just wacked the patch on skin under bra......I must have looked like I've been feeling myself up all day!

I think it all comes down to how you feel at the time mos. With both my grandma's i hadn't seen them in a year when they got seriously ill so i felt the need to go and see them at the hospital/home. both times they looked completely different to how I remembered them. (one was cancer so the change was huge) and i both regret it and am pleased i did. pleased as they knew i had been but regret for myself as my last images of them are extremely sad and not how i want to remember them iykwim. I chose not to see either of them at the chapel of rest after they passed. If it were my mum tho....gosh, i think i would be really torn as would want, no, need, to be with her but again wouldn't want to see her like that. God am having a wee tear now at the thought of you having to face it all. sending you lots of love and strength for friday & monday. and safe journey home xxxxxx

congrats on the faglessness llb!!!

that of course would be LBB not LLB

Evening all. Well done on the not smoking so far LBB - keep up the great work MoS - thinking of you and sending you huge hugs. I know it really helped my DH and his sister (who was living in the states when her dad died) seeing their dad one last time a few days before the funeral service - they said their private goodbyes then which made it easier for them to deal with the public goodbye at the funeral.

Not much to report from the Dinky household - took Danny to swim class today (he was the youngest baby there by around 6 months) and he loved it judging by the cooing, splashing and smiling - though he spent most of the time trying to suck the floating toys as they went past him Danny's little baby mohican is evolving into a Tintin-esque quiff with a Camden rat tail at the back - anyone else's baby's got hair dos that are a million times more trendy than theirs???

P.s. London meet up date is Wednesday 24 June I think. Coram's fields again (on the basis it accomodated us all last time) or are people wishing to venture to new and interesting places?

Not me Dinks - I am the height of hair fashion having asked my hairdresser today for a 'Rachel do' (but longer) ....12 years too late.....

Height of fashion I tell you

Still not had one, don't even really want one either. Am thinking bout it, but I think only out of habit. I worked my smoking into daily routines, so just need to either move on quickly, or replace it with something else. Thinking back to suggestions, I do not want a carrot or an ice-lolly at this time in the morning

Luke has a Clark Kent style side parting, no matter how much I try to brush it out, no good!

Just popping in to say bye for a bit as off on our jollys in a while.

Of course it's always time for a carrot isn't it LBB can see why you might not want to go with that suggestion in the morning lol. Just dont replace with cakes and biscuits!! Hope you still manage to be fagless-lil when I get back

Can someone take over reward chart gold stars for LBB please. One a day for being a good girl.

and I actually like side partings on babies/toddlers - is it supposed to be naff or something??

morning all,
thanks so much for your continued lovely comments and support. I was trying to explain to a friend this morning how much it helps 'talking' to you girls and she looked at me as if I was mad I must say, although I'm really looking forward to meeting some of you, I think I will struggle to remember real names etc.
24th June is doable for me, I can just miss my pm buggy boot camp

Dinky, your comments really helped about seeing my mum. I said to DH it was almost like a practice run for Monday seeing her on Friday afternoon. I really need to hold it together on Monday and be strong so hopefully sobbing my heart out Friday pm might get a lot of it out of my system if we do the proper goodbye then, rather than in public.

Help me ladies,need a decision about mum's ring. My brother said he could't find it but my SIL said the FD's phoned and it is with mum (presumably she is wearing it) now do I leave it on her and be buried with her (this was my gut feeling) or do we keep it as my SIL has suggested. It is not valuable to anyone else, just a tiny gold band worn down after around 60 years of marriage and it wouldn't fit me anyway but do I keep it for DD2? DD1 has my mum's engagement ring that mum gave her a few years ago. WWYD?

LBB Well done, fantastic result, keep at it. I know its hard but you can do it. I gave up years ago (and just remembered that I started again when my dad died for a few months).

Harrison doesn't have much hair DD2 has wild hair. Bed head everyday as you will see in a few weeks

Thanks spotty

Oh no, not saying side partings on babies are naff or anything, just don't really like it on my baby. Maybe that's just because you can see the cradle cap a bit when it's at the side.......he does have a big forehead

mos my dad left his mum's rings with her. She was cremated, so they were obviously removed for that, but he buried them with her ashes, or buried them and scattered her ashes, but he didn't keep her wedding ring, thought she'd like to keep it iyswim.

MOS, i am probably a bit late.. but huge hugs am thinking of you.. i also think it would be good if you could see your mum to say goodbye.. also about the rings, close your eyes and imagine her with her rings, then imagine keeping the rings for her grandchildren.. whichever thought makes you feel more at peace go with..

hi to everyone else...lbb.. well done on the no ciggies.. would a cup of tea do as a replacement or make you want one ??

ladies, I need to vent
Firstly, DH got an email this morning from my brother (I have two and this one is a real arse and we don't really speak as he is a twunt)
Anyway, he emailed DH to say he would not be going to the family get together on Sunday pm at other brothers house. Other brother said we only ever get together for weddings and funerals (mainly funerals) and thought it would be nice for us all to meet before the funeral on Monday. TB (twunt brother) said in mail he wouldn't go because I was going and that I was not to talk to him at the funeral or look at him or his family or make any form of eye contact and 'me and mine' were not to make any contact with him or his! DH was totally shocked and was unsure whether to tell me but popped home from work to tell me. He sent a shitty mail back pointing out he was 'one of mine' and therefore if TB didn't want anything to do with 'us' why was he sending him pally emails? Told him he should grow up and have a bit of respect for mum. Can't believe a man of 53 can act like a 3 year old

Secondly, council phoned NB (normal brother) and said they won't dig up the grave for the funeral on Monday as its in my dad's name and it needs to be transferred into my mum's name. Clearly it is something that was overlooked when my dad died but we had assumed as it was a family plot/grave then it was owned by the family. Why are these people such f*ing numpties (excuse my language)FGS, how the hell do they expect my dad to sign paperwork transfering it to my mum when he is dead. tossers! sorry for vent.

LBB chuck any unsmoked ciggies my way will you?

MOS, I'm sorry you're having such a horrible time. I'm shocked by both your brother's nastiness and the grave issue. Can you draft a letter to the Council in fierce legal language? I'm wondering what we'd advise people if we got this kind of query when I'm at work (I'm a secretary for one of the council's property solicitors who gets a lot of the questions that no one else has any idea how to answer).

Well done LBB.

Well done LBB - keep up the great work.

MoS - sorry to hear about your problems with your brother. My MiL's family is abit like that (one of 8 kids - 2 brothers no longer speak to each other and all sorts of other issues going on among other family members) but when their mum died - the year DH and I got married - they really held it together on the day of their mum's funeral and were really civilised to one another as their mum would have wanted it to be that way. Perhaps when you get back it may be worth getting normal brother to broker the peace for the day in order to honour your mum's memory?

And sorry also to hear about your problems re the grave plot - if it is a family plot there must be some way to deal with this. Who were your dad's executors? Would the council accept a letter from one of the executors (presumably with a copy of your dad's death certificate) confirming it should be transferred into your mum's name with the formalities to follow later on?

LBB I need to make you sticker chart like the one we made for DS1 only hopefully it won't say "toilet chart" on it. I say a sticker for every fag free day, then a treat of your choice at weekends (as long as it's not a fag )

MOS Sorry to hear things are so tough. I think the best thing can do is join forces with NB and take twunt's words for the BS that they are.

Stan is definitely teething - green poo, fist gnawing, dribbling, constant crying. Also 2 pukes in the night - completely soaked himself.
I can see the little fangs in his gums, reckon it's only a matter of days before they break through, poor thing.

Not used to him being grumpy - makes me realise how easy I've had it.

Harrison has just had his first meal! Heinz organic pear and apricot swirl! He was obviously starving and as its from 4 to 6 months and he was 4 months yesterday we thought what the hell. He is loving it!

dinky my old firm did probate when my dad died and after a few frantic calls to them they are trying to sort out. Failing that, myself and another MNer I've just 'talked' to on the AIBU thread are going to go and visit the council offices with hockey sticks!

MOS can't believe what a shitty time you're having with councils and tb's. sending hugs to you.
glad to hear harrison is feeding himself up though.

not sure if you saw an earlier post i left but i have a spare micralite buggy if you want to borrow it while you're over. it doesn't have carrycot so doesn't recline to flat but you're more than welcome to come and grab it if you need one.
not sure when you're flying but if you haven't set off already hope you have a good flight.

lbb keep it up, brilliant that you've found it relatively easy so far.

dp is putting ivor to bed at the moment, i can hear him through the monitor being lovely but not in the slightest bit calming. must ignore, must ignore. better go and watch charlie and lola with dd instead.

hi KBN, sorry, had meant to reply before regarding your lovely kind offer of loan of buggy. Thanks so much but think we are going to buy a blue lightweight one to bring back here at the end of the summer. Thanks so much. You haven't got a spare shovel and a few hours to spare Sunday night have you

Thanks so much for all the support everyone.
Just off to airport now, hopefully no BS at security (normally searched at least 3 times!)

Have a great break in France Spotty and a safe journey over to the UK MoS (enjoy that red wine as soon as you get out of saudi airspace!)

MoS - wow re weaning already! Cant believe how quickly our bubs are growing up. Am hoping to wait a while and then mostly babyled wean Danny (on the basis that it must make for an easier life without pureeing every meal as I did for DS1 - and he's a rubbish eater) - he currently appears to be trying to wean himself on to clothing! Wool cardigans are a particularly delicious delicacy in Danny world apparently

Went with DH to go see a montessori nursery today for DS1 if he doesnt get on with the nursery attached to the local pre-school. Love the philosophy behind montessori teaching (let the child be the guide as to what and when they're ready to learn) but this nursery gave me the screaming heebie-jeebies (which I didnt have at any of the other nurseries I went to view - just either liked or didnt like them). Have been trying to put my finger on what it was ever since - suspect it was a combination of the curiously quiet and well behaved toddlers who got quite distressed when the headmistress removed abit of their educational toy to show to us, two scary teachers (who terrified me, god only knows how they'd come across to children), the handwriting sample which read "Children should be seen and not heard" and the hard sell they gave at the end (to sign up within a week or no space apparently ). Suffice to say we will not be keeping it as a back up option if DS1 doesnt like the local preschool.

Hello all

LBB - well done on the not smoking, hope you're not finding it too hard.

MOS- sorry you're having a hard time lately but it sounds like you will soon be on the plane over and able to indulge in a glass of wine and a sausage

I have been mega busy- hence not had the time to MN much. Started my caking job which is going well. Had my mum over from France last week and my sister got married at the weekend so have hardly had time to sit down.

As a consequence I am knackered and I keep falling asleep

F is doing well, starting teething too, he has been crying and pulling at his ear and cheek in the evening but he settled with a bit of calpol last night. Feel like he's eating me alive some days, think he must be having a growth spurt. I've got to the point where I no longer bother to look at the clock or even open my eyes when he wakes for a feed, just grab him and put him on the boob, so I've no idea how long he's sleeping for at the moment!

I do know that we seem to wake up with an extra warm, snuggled up person in our bed every morning though....

I must confess to giving Stan some squashed banana yesterday, as he'd been eyeing up our food again and now he's 4 months, I know it's ok. I think that may have been behind last night's pukathon, so it will be a while before he gets anymore

He was so cross today, but I found one of those teething rings you put in the freezer lying round the house.

I think it helped a bit, but he really isn't himself.

Blimey, dinky that sounds horrendous. my dd has been at nursery since a baby (and loved it) but will be starting school in sept. i also go back to work in sept so have decided it makes sense to have a nanny this time who can do after school pick up and holiday care for dd plus full time care for ivor. i've been loath to put an ad on gumtree or the like as i fear the tsunami of responses so have been looking at places where nannies post their details. so far, 2 interesting people both of whom were offered other jobs before we had a chance to. i know you have a nanny, how did you go about finding yours and do you have any top tips as to questions to ask etc?