April 2008 - The One Where Our Babies Are All Turning Into Toddlers!

[KnitterInTheNW]

07 March: Ashton, a fourth child for gemprincess, 5lb 13oz @ 34+6
09 March: Ted, a second DS for Daftmoo, 7lb 14oz @ 36+0
21 March: George William, a first baby for KnitterintheNW, 7lb 2.5oz @ 37+3
25 March: Olivia, a second baby for TheMaskedPoster, 7lb 2oz @ 38+4
28 March: Pablo, a third baby and first DS for vacaloca, 7lb 14oz @ 39+4
28 March: Matteo Alexander, a first baby for Gangle @ 38+0 (?)
30 March: A baby girl, a second child for PortAndLemon, 8lb 15oz @ 39+5
02 April: Jak, a baby boy for rainbowdays, 9lb @ 39+1
02 April: A baby boy, a second child for bunyanvillas, 6lb 14oz @ 37+5
02April: Struan, a baby boy for Donnabels, 6lbs 15oz
02 April: A baby boy for mummyofaprincess @39 weeks
03 April: A baby girl for PippiCalzelunghe @38+2weeks
03 April: Aeryn Daisy, a baby girl for Denny185, 9lb 8oz @ 39+3
03 April: Benjamin, a baby boy for Micegg, 8lb 3oz @ 39+4
03 April: Roelof Grové, a first DS for SalLikesCoffee, 7lb 5oz @ 38+5
03 April: A baby boy for siikibam, 6lb 8.5oz @39+1wks
04 April: Matilda, a baby girl for AprilsFoolsBaby 7lb @
05 April: Ellis, a baby girl for MadameOvary, 9lb 12oz @ 40+6
06 April: Henry Peter, a baby boy for Sheds, 7lb 130z @ 40+4
07 April: Sebastian George, a fourth DS for Peachy, 8lb 4oz @ 41+1
07 April: Jack, a first baby for ThePFJ, 7lb 5.5oz @ 41+1
07 April: Lexie Bea, a fourth baby for babywhiting, 8lb 1oz @ 39+4
08 April: Alasdair, a second DS for bunnyrabbit, 8lb 5.5oz @ 40+3
08 April: James Samuel, a third baby for honeybee10, 6lb 7oz @ 37+2
09 April: Zara Mia Martin, a first baby for V1KK1M, 7lb 10oz @ 41+0
09 April: Jasmine, a baby gilr for Niceychops
11 April: Kyran for rdk, 7lb 13oz @ 38+3weeks
11 April: Sebastian James, a second baby for Fleecy, 10lb 2oz @ 40+4
11 April: A baby girl, a first baby for CeylonSapphire, 7lb 12oz @ 41+1
11th April: Florence, a baby girl for LouMoose
12 April: Maya Alice, a first baby for egyptianprincess, 8lb 15.5oz @ 40+3
12 April: Sophia Viviana, a second DD for AussieDivaonaBreak, 6lb 12oz @ 39+3
15 April: Alexander Oliver, a third baby for VictorianSqualor, 10lb 3oz @ 41+0
16 April: Ailish, a first baby for Mollyfloss, 6lb 11oz @ 40+3
16 April: A baby girl, a second baby for elfsmummy, 7lb 13oz @ 41+1
16 April: Zoe, a baby girl, a first baby for ToastAddict, 6lb 10oz @ 39+3
16 April: Jasmin, a baby girl, a first baby for Eggandketchup, 9lb 3oz @ 41+4
17 April: A baby boy for paranoidmumy, 8lb 9oz @ 41+4
17 April: A baby boy, a second son for lorisparkle, 7lb 12.5oz @ 41+6
17 April: Benedict, first baby for LadyBee 9 lb 3oz @ 41 +2
18 April: Millie Grace Jessamy, a baby girl for scorpio1 8lb 9oz @ 41
18 April: Cameron, a second baby for munchkinmum @ 39+5
19 April: Oliver Michael, first baby for bashboid, 7 lb 4 oz at 41 +3
20 April: Samuel, a first baby for Velbels. 8lb15oz at 41+1weeks.
20 April: Angharad Mai, 8lb 4oz, 40+6, first for 7monthsplus
20 April: Emilia, 7lb15oz, a first baby for SuzeM, 40+6
20 April: A baby girl for SushiMama
21 April: Eve, a second baby for OMaLittle, 8lb 4oz @ 39+3
21 April: A second DD for Monmoo
22 April: Sam, a second son for Soph73 @ 40+0
22 April: Molly, a first baby for EllieG, 8lb 8oz? @ 40+5
22 April: Daisy, second baby for AttilaTheHan @ 40 +3
22 April: Zoe Olivia, second daughter for Piccallilli2 7lb 1oz @42+1
22 April: A second DD for blinks.
23 April: Jessica Elizabeth, first baby for BabyBratt @ 40+1 7lb 12oz.
24 April: A baby girl, a second daughter for christmaspixie, 9lb 2oz @ 40+6/41+5
24 April: Miya Jade, baby girl for ShelleySare at 39+4
25 April: Amelie, a first baby for Dondons, 9lb, 41+3 (i think!)
25 April: Aisha, a second baby for Jaq39 7lb 14oz @ 41+4
26 April: Hope Olivia, a second dd for northeastmummy, 7lb 11oz at 41 .
26 April: Gabriel, a third child for Bainmarie @ 41+5
26 April: Eli Michael, a baby boy for LittleMissTurquoise, 7lb 15.5oz @ 40+5
27 April: a baby girl for Ayomi, 6lb 1oz @ 41+0
28 April: Jacob Andrew, a 2nd DS for Kaybeeand2boys, 8lb 4oz @ 41+5
29 April: Thomas Henry, a 2nd DS for TLSM, 7lb 8oz 40+3
30 April: Harry Samuel, a fourth ds for Chipmonkey, 9lb 5oz @ 39+2
30 April: Ellie, a baby girl for Annamama
30 April: A second DD for luckymummy74
01 May: Sophie May, a baby grl for Annieroo, 6lb 5oz @ 41+4
01 May: Euan George, a baby boy for Jenniejennie, 8lb @ 40+4
02 May: Robyn Olivia, a baby girl for soph28, 8lb 1oz @ 42+1
05 May: Nora Martina, a first baby for Eva07, 7lb 8oz @ 41+2
05 May: A baby boy for Beeper, 8lb 10oz @ 41+0
05 May: Gabriella Summer, a first baby for MommyHasAHeadache, 8lb 4oz @ 40+6
06 May: Wilf, 8lb 60z for bigbadmom @ 41+6
07 May: James Andrew, a second ds for Moominsmummy, 8lb 13oz @ 41+5
08 May: Ellie Isabella, a first baby for Carey87, 7 lb 8oz @ 42+1
08 May: Robin David, a 2nd baby for Woollymummy, 8lb 11 oz @ 41+3
09 May: 4 kittens for scorpio's cat!
10 May: Astrid Mary, a second dd for TheShipsCat, 8lb 8oz @ 42+0

Thanks Sal, I'll get some next time we're out and give it a go!

Ok Note to self to try this, but I'm pretty sure DS2 will try to eat it too!

Yes I have a few people on facebook now, VS, Scorps, Sal and Peachy but couldn't work out the mumsnet group...

Ok... Sal, could you tell BR who I am on FB please?

Oh of course, will do straight away!

done!

Thankyou!

Lol I did say who knitter wads! and Ellie from sal's friends!

Hi Wigg/VS! Glad to see you're still around - just feels wrong if someone doesn't post anymore, I still hope Oma reads every now and again - miss you lot! How did things work out at work? And how are you?

Ugh, work was crap, it's finished now though thank god.

I am absolutely bursting with shock though, I just found out XP got MARRIED last month without trying to contact/tell DD and DS1...

Bloody hell, what an idiot! Are they ok / do they know yet?

Glad the whole work episode is now over and done with, can imagine they would have tried to make it uncomfortable as you got them sorted out (I hope for the kids' sake). Their loss, big time.

I don't want to go to work tomorrow. Was in bed Thurs and Fri, and stayed in all weekend, yet I still don't feel 100%. It's a little annoying really, as it's just a cold, but a horrible one, so I feel fuzzy and shattered. Tomorrow also really busy at work and some meetings and stuff, so that'll make for a good combination. Not. Oh well.

I'm very sorry for this, but have few people in RL to ask who are married and understand having children, etc.

I think i may be a single parent from this evening. I am almost positive that my husband has cheated on me, this year. I am unaware if he is still up to it, as i strongly suspect a secret phone.

Please help me with what to say; please please help me not to accept lies again. I am an intelligent woman and i need to see through him. I am aiming for a calm collected adult conversation, where ideally he feels safe to admit what he has done. It is deffo a woman; i rang her. He has text her saying things like he was so pleaed to hear from her, and did she have the house to herself, and he is 'deffo going to see her again'.

Sorry again, but i need serious help with what to say and do. I am string in my mind but very weak when faced with this gorgeous man, who, sadly, i adore.

Oh Scorpio, I'm so sorry.
Sadly no matter what you do or say he just might not be willing to be honest.
Personally I'd tell him that no matter what he said we were over and that if he respected me and our children he would tell me the truth so that I could move on, and feel comfortable with having an adult relationship with him as parents of the same children. Though I expect if what you fear is true that he won't ever be completely honest.

Hi ladies,
I ended up resigning after 4 days, I decided I'd prefer to go back to work when E starts school. Though at the moment she is still at nursery and it is lovely having so much time to myself.

VS/WiggADiWiggaDiWa, sorry for the hassle you had at work and at your xh!

Scorpio, I am so sorry. I would say that you have spoken to the woman and seen the texts, and you would appreciate if he could now at least be honest.

Sal, get well soon.

Name changed again, obviously you lot know who I am but it won't be searchable.

I know who he has been seeing.

someone you know?

I know of her, yes. She lives in hayle vee ess. She is 20 and has chased him b4.

Have you managed to speak to him yet?

xxx

Oh Scorpio,I am so so sorry to hear it came to this. Please feel free to ignore what I say completely, and if you do forgive him, we can forget I've ever said this if you want. But... Here goes:

he's acting like a big child and knows perfectly well you'll forgive him. He probably also bargains on the fact/illusion that you'll just have to accept all apologies etc because you have a relatively easy life with him.

Also, I am convinced he'll say it was just banter, that she has always chased him and he just went along with the flirting because he felt unimportant (because of kids or some other rubbish). Bullshit. Sorry, but that's what cheaters say. He also knows you love him dearly and would like to believe him, however unlikely his story.

Tell him you know everything already, but that you want to hear the truth out of his mouth. That you can / might then start afresh with no lies between you (even if you don't want or plan to - you need to know the truth).

I don't necessarily think you should divorce if he did cheat, but it can't go on like this. He's not 15.

Marriages have survived worse, but not on promises - by both parties getting councilling. And him stopping his selfishness and growing up.

Sorry for being so straight and perhaps harsh, I'm just so furious and upset for your sake. And I might be wrong - I have been, often. From the outside, he is messing with you. On mobile at mo, but will check again when home. I am so sorry. Please talk as much as you need.

Suze, that's great. Weird how sometimes you just "know", isn't it. Do you have to work notice?

Hi Sal, no I didn't have to work notice. Glad I tried going back though (although I didn't last very long!). The manager was very nice about it and said she would keep me in mind for freelance work. Though I am sure she secretly vowed never to let me darken the door again!

Your husband really owes you the truth, Scorpio.

He knew there was something wrong, so he looked at my iphone when he got in. On iphones the texts are very easy to read; in a list of order of conversation. He saw me talking to my eldest friend about it (have known her 20 odd yrs, she has 3dc and a dp - she is ideal support and great lady)...anyway i said 'you have 5 minutes to tell me the truth and have a miniscule chance of marriage counselling, or lie and leave instantly'.

He owned up.

He has been having an affair since March, with a teenage (19) blonde girl. He has been saying he is fishing, with mates, etc and picking her up in our work van, taking her off for snogging sessions. He maintains no sex, but i am going to alk to my mw tomorrow and see if i should have a screening. He has offered to be screened too. He was crying and very sorry.

I have kicked him out unitl Saturday, when we will discuss a 'future'. He has volonteered to get counselling, becuase he notices he has a huge need for attention from people, especially women. We also have another relationship issue that isnt entirely conventional, but i would rather not publish, that is not 'normal' in a heterosexual marriage and needs sorting.

I have got my friend to attend my 20 week scan on friday. He forfeited all rights when he met her. He has known her for years, just started in March. She knows of me and that im pregnant. (classy lady)He last met her 4 weeks ago and last rung her a week ago. sunday. she has a boyfriend too.

I need to know that i will make the right decision, and i dont know how you know that iyswim. How will he ever have any life again when i wont be able to trust him? i have obv kissed him since .

My parents and my friends are being great.

To be totally honest scorp, I wouldn't believe him. At all.
He said last time that he hadn't done anything with that girl, you gave him the benefit of the doubt and this is how he treats you.
Why would he want to know when she next had 'the house to herself' if they were just snogging in the van..
And, imo, whether he has slept with her or not, he forfeited the right to be believed when he lied and betrayed you, yet again, and just after your m/c and falling pg again
This is not to say things can't be worked on and that your marriage is over though.

thats it Vee Ess - snog, shag, bj....all the same to me. its still lies.

Sorry, Scorps, but I think he's lying, and that he did sleep with her. No way would they be having an affair for so long, be going off in the bloody van, and not having sex. I don't believe it for a second.

After you kissed him, did he now think you'll just be ok after you've calmed down, or do you think he'd actually really change this time?

And will he actually go for counseling immediately, or just delaying tactics and empty promises?

I wouldn't advocate making a rash decision on your marriage itself, but stop kissing him etc. It's not going to help for future, you have to stay strong and stick to your points.

I'll keep quiet now as I know I shouldn't be saying these things. First things first perhaps - get yourself off to a councellor (sorry, no idea how to spell!) immediately to talk about how YOU feel. Stuff him for now, don't just accept him again, but at the same time, don't write him off immediately either. But get yourself to a professional. You need to speak to someone professional about how YOU feel. Go private, go immediately. He can pay - he owes you this. If he has to work longer hours to afford it, tough. He asked for it.