Springy! Fucking hell! (((hugs)))
I dont know where to start. I dont know how honest and blunt to be.
First of all, I've seen your pics, and trust me, you're a hottie. You know it, we know it, so let's just lay that aside as FACT.
Secondly, don't EVER think you have to come on here and justify yourself to us. We are your friends. When you quoted DH then explained you do laundry and wear clean clothes etc... we dont care if you live in a sack of mud. You are you and that's why we love you.
Thirdly, how he has spoken to you and treated you is scary, springy. I'm sorry but if someone else came on here and told us their DH had treated them like that, as a friend, what would you honestly advise them to do?
It's very difficult to be strong and stick to your own beliefs when you are emotionally involved, but please try to look at this situation from an outside point of view to assess what is going on.
I'm so gutted for you, at the way he's treating you. This is not normal. This is controlling behaviour. As a result of him throwing abusive and negative words at you, you are trying harder to impress him. So as far as he's concerned he's onto a winner.
The beard thing says it all. He's lost control of the situation and this is somthing he can do to feel he is in control again. The fact you don't like it and he's doing it anyway will give him a further sense of control.
Sex. I am totally addicted too. But are you maybe craving it because it's the only time he'll show you any affection? The rest of the time he's being horrible to you, so no wonder you cant say no as soon as he lets you near him.
God I'm so sorry if I've gone too far. If I should've just left it at ((hugs)) and not interfered, then I'm truly sorry, but the more I read the more I couldn't NOT reply.