trista, well done for being so strong with your ex - not being sad at him going is a massive step. Very proud! xx
Puzzle, how did the night of champagne go?
BB, I seriously doubt that I'm more attractive than you. You could be rolled around in mud & dragged through a hedge & have Kara sick & wee & poo all over you & still look amazing I wear joggers sometimes as well. It seems they're not far enough removed from PJs.
brett, I find it really difficult to turn down sex Sadly, I think I am a bit grateful when I get it. I love sex & the intimacy & that it tends to magically fix the bad atmosphere after an argument. I don't think I've ever turned down sex in my life. & I gave him a BJ night before last, so he won't even begin to notice or care for a while yet. I'm not sure that I do want horribly degrading sex which exploits my insecurities, though. But then he'd just say that I'm not giving him a chance to make things better & prove that he actually does want me, blah blah blah. I don't know how to counter that.
Yay for the pub being so effective! Nothing at all wrong with that! Also from the school of bad unusual parenting, I've discovered that blowing into his face whilst he's screaming makes him have to stop to catch his breath. Very useful when you think that your head may explode with one more second of that awful noise.
Auld Sorry that you're feeling so crappy. That's quite some intense heat - I'm not surprised that it's affecting you, especially with BFing & everything too - make sure you keep your fluids up xx
Ju, I'd have thought that the strappy vest / big norks combo was a winner. I did think that. Turns out I was mistaken. I also spend a lot of time wandering around in just a strappy top & knickers, or only a towel after a shower, in the hope that he'll notice me & think 'phwoar'. It it yet to happen.
ginger, 'his' money is 'our' money & we just can't afford to spend anything on clothes right now. I've spent about £50 & now have 3 vests, 2 tops to go over them, 1 pair of jeans & a dress. I also have 1 - yes, ONE - nursing bra. I thought that it didn't matter, as everything's always clean when I wear it & I thought that he could see beyond that stuff. Evidently not.
NL, I'm not even sure that that is the case. He gets loads of my attention. I'm always cuddling him & kissing him & being really affectionate. Whenever George is asleep I try to have some couple time. He is nearly always too busy on his laptop to cuddle me back or engage in conversation, but I do try. & I'm very often available to him. He said the other day that he'd cut back on his internet time, so we'll see.
& he never sleeps on the sofa. He refuses point blank to get out of bed. Usually we both sleep in the same bed, but far apart. If I really, really can't stand to be near him it's me who has to move. He simply won't. When I was about 4 months pregnant we had a massive argument & he shouted at me that I should have an abortion (he didn't mean it obviously, but he still said it) & I became hysterical & threw him out of the bedroom. He stayed out for about 10 minutes whilst I wailed into a pillow, then came back to tell me that it was too cold in the living room & he was going to sleep in the bed after all.
Bastard.