Right, I?m back! Sorry no one wants to join me tomorrow ? I feel like a right Billy-no-mates Well girls, last night I decided I was fed up of the sex drought around here (DP has been stressed with work and it always really puts him off). I put the fairylights on in the bedroom and lit half a dozen new lily candles that I?d had for Christmas and put on a fab new negligee that DP has already admired. We were lying in bed some time later and I could smell burning ? one of the candles had caught a box of Kleenex which has gone straight up, as had a dried old pot plant and the flames had started to lick menacingly towards a pile of paperbacks. It was quite a situation, let me tell you. We are all ok (though the sight of a naked DP running across the bedroom, bravely holding aloft a flambéeing Kleenex box is one that will stay with me).
DaisyD ? I am so glad the Risk Assessor was kind. What a nightmare!
Arti, I am sorry you had a rotten night last night and you are missing your Mum. I really feel for you. I so wish you could come out tomorrow but I do understand. Did you get some helpful responses about your job situation? One argument is that if they want the full job description they should give you full pay if you will essentially be doing your old job but in 4 days?I thought the law was that employers are now obliged to offer you some element of flexibility? It doesn?t seem to me that they are. Same to Jolly Bear (though I know she is on holiday and hopefully not thinking about work).
SL ? glad you are getting out on the bike. I think having parts of your life that are as they were before motherhood (even if it?s just an hour a week) is so liberating. Ooh, and I would like to come to a handprints party. But I think it would be hard to get to Cambridge for an evening, I think.
NJAN ? but this is precisely what worries me when you post sometimes. You badly, badly need some time to yourself and I think it is really important that someone, whether it?s your DH or another family member, ensures that you get it. No one should feel like they are disappearing?that is awful. Is there any hope of getting some you-time?
Verso ? hey, best of British for the job stuff! That?s great ? jolly good for you. And back to work already! Wowzers. I know you were looking forward to that, so hope it?s all positive for you.
WG ? gosh, I?m sorry about the anniversary of your mc. How distressing. I hope you have a super wedding though. I think I would feel ok about leaving DD in a hotel room but ONLY with a monitor and frequent checks. As Turnip says, I think a small child is probably a different kettle of fish. As to next babes, my single criterion is I don?t want DC2 until I have got the weight off. Vain but true. And probably dangerous, given that I am now 37 and losing weight about an oz at a time.
JJ ? I hope you also have a smashing wedding. You deserve to kick up your heels a bit.
Spot?I haven?t ever had PND or even D, so I am far from being an expert. My half baked opinion is that you have had an unusually rough time, with illness and so forth, and you have been amazingly strong. I do think (and this is just the opinion of a casual observer, based on what you say) that you are incredibly hard on yourself. Oh, the times I have wished for a magic wand on this thread, especially for you. I would love you to have a little respite. I wish I had something better to say than hang in there ? hang IN there ? it WILL get better. It must. We are all cheering you on.
Kayz ? fabbo weightloss. You have done so well. I am
PMK ? hey, can?t I rouse you tomorrow? It would have been lovely to see you. As for trip back to Oz, I say do it. If it feels good, it probably is good, so do it (is my somewhat dubious motto). Why are you even hesitating? I was too late to see the cs thread but those things are bad for me, so it?s probably just as well. I get upset that sections are treated (by some) as if they are some sort of irresponsible self-mutilation. Grrr. What happened with the viewing of the Henley house?
Modern ? so how was the baby group? And did you watch The Apprentice? I did. Oh my goodness, it does entertain me. Still a fan of Howard.
Effie ? glad your new life seems to be (broadly) suiting you! There?s quite an Essex contingent now. Sorry to bore on about work but how is your commute going to be?
Veggie ? glad I didn?t miss much with that tv show. I am envious of your many soujourns in hotels. I love hotels. They are so glamorous, even the ones which aren?t glamorous (if you see what I mean). I grew up living opposite a hotel and I think that?s where it came from. Where will you be staying in Warwick?
PD ? good to hear from you. You have my heartfelt sympathy re: the move from London. I get awful London pangs. But you know, if I had to go back to being full time in London, I can honestly say I would miss the country now. (A bit). Thank you for the helpful tips on how to conserve my time. Ha! I can tell you what would improve the balance of my life no end ? staff!
ZJ ? DD gets mush with her evening feed. I tend to give her the bottle first and then she has mush afterwards. I know the books say to give it in the middle of a regular feed but I have decided to ignore the books, as I have realised that if I stop a bottle feed halfway through she doesn?t eat more solids, just won?t go back to the bottle after.
Right, I know that?s not everybody but I haven?t had a session on the rowing machine and even though it?s late, I must. Groan?.