June 2008: the One Show (almost)

[Essie3]

LOL, it was just the thought of a 'plastic sandwich bag' might make it look like a police specimen! I'm going to put it in a locket and wear it around my neck for ever, obviously. No, probably an envelope in the memory box, but it's going to go everywhere though. I was wondering if there was a way to hold it as a clump (there's a Welsh word for that, a cut or still attached clump of human hair - is there one in English?).

I was very concerned about your boobs but it sounds ok!

Essie do you mean a lock of hair? All I can think of is sellotape but it might look better in the sandwich bag! Unless you have a book or something to stick it in to.
Can you put something in front of the window so he can still see out but isn't right up to it banging it, but then if it is on your landing that might not work.

Neenz - sounds like you are doing well with coming off the BF, I am still doing the evening feed and love doing that, gives us chance to have a cuddle and it's the only chance I get to read.

I've had another nap this afternoon, that brings my tally up to 3 so far today (more than J). Am feeling slightly more human now.

Deb - that is what I thought the case was. Just thought it was worth checking as I felt sorry for you back in the autumn not being able to be sociable with the London/North West/Scottish/Dorset mini groups. I guess you had the Germanic mini group though with Ernest. Did you ever actually meet up in RL? I can't remember now.

We have had a lovely day with Sponge who came over for lunch. I will let Sponge drive home and post, rather than tell you Alex's news for the day

Going I haven't decided to stop BF, but I am thinking about it. A bit like Essie I never thought I would carry on this long. I am also the only person in RL I know who is still BF. This has two effects on me: 1) It makes me feel like a bit of a lentil weaver which is not how I regard myself, so I want to stop and buy pretty underwear etc. 2) It brings out the belligerent side in me and makes me want to carry on BF for some time.

Ktpie isn't there are pregnant and BF support thread? It might be helpful for you.

Am I having deja vu here? I'm sure I've read Ali's post before!
Maybe a lock of hair is what I'm after. I was going to say strand but that's just one! I'm sure the victorians had a method for saving locks of hair - weren't they always doing it?

Glad you're getting more naps, ktpie - I remember that extreme tiredness that you get in the first trimester. Must be hellish with a demanding child too! Oh, but at the reading and bfing - Iestyn won't let me do that!

Must go and get him - has a mega holdup last night because someone crashed into a building by the bridge and they closed the bridge, so it was down to one, and the tailbacks were enormous!

I just started reading at the top of the page and thought neenz was advising essie to collect armpit hair in sandwich bags.... I'm very relieved.

essie it's a lock of hair I think.

A mum who's also a pharamacist at playgroup this afternoon told me she thinks Duncan has Impetigo (not too scary skin rashy thing) but it's infectious so he can't go to nursery and I'm stuck at home with him. Uggh! I'm glad she told me since it doesn't clear up without antibiotics but at the same time, it's not a nice thing to hear. Plus she was pulling the other kids away from D (I moved him away and was getting ready to leave as soon as she told me) and it felt almost like he was being ostracized. Off to the GP tomorrow (they are closed today of course...)

Actually, Abdn, I caught it a few years back in Hungary. Not nice, but not his fault so it's a bit mean to treat him like that even though it is v. contagious.

Deja vu here as well, glad it isn't just my PC.

Essie, did they somehow weave it together or something? Going to have to go and look this up now, will let you know if my detective work brings up any clues.

Abdn - bit of a funny way of telling you, I mean I know it's infectious but still a bit mean pulling the other kids away, surely they had already spent the day being exposed (if he does have it) so a bit late now.

Essie - J has to be in the right mood to let me read, or sometimes he is tired and doesn't notice. Often he finds the book far too interesting and can't concentrate on his milk.

Since I started using MN again I'm spending far too much time on here, should be making the tea!

Still here, so far my lock of hair research has brought up this and now I can't stop giggling!

Not found anything more useful than tie a bit of thread around it, or ribbon.

ktpie- LMAO at that picture
Essie- can you not ask hairdresser for advice?

Go Neenz!

Very quick post, managed to get mastitus and a killer throat infection over weekend which was hell and am just back to pc. Today is first day eating since Saturday though so at least I have lost some of my tum!

Have only skimmed but Essie, I put the hair from first haircuts in the photo album. We have those sticky ones so it holds it really well and it fits in timewise so you will always know when you had it done for the first time.

ktpie, glad you are getting some rest.

Also glad I'm not the only one who thought a sandwich bag was an idea

Abdn, that is a cruel way to treat D . Hope he gets better soon.

I have been really really upset today . My oldest friend from school, who has 6yo twins, she now lives in Oz, well she deleted me from her FB then texted me to say she had done and that she'd done it 'to preserve our friendship' . She has a nearly 2yo DS who has a fused bone in his spine, so he is late crawling, walking, eating etc and she has been really down about it. He is going to be fine long-term (there was a time when they thought there was lots and lots wrong eg heart and genitals, but all the tests came back clear). She has been depressed before and I know she has been on anti-ds recently because of it. I know she gets sad when she reads about other babies on FB who are crawling, talking etc and I really don't think I go on about my two and all the things they do (cos that is really quite boring!) but she was obviously upset that I put on about E taking 6 steps yesterday. I text her back to say 'why? That has really upset me' and she text back to say 'you have been really insensitive to my situation, I don't think we have anything in common anymore, you are not the person I loved when we were 18'.

I really don't think I have been insensitive (surely she doesn't want me to patronise her by never mentioning T and E just because her LO is a little behind). I think she has been waiting for a reason to cut me out of her life . I have had an inkling for a while, she never replies to my comments on FB ie when I comment on her photos, and I have emailed her a couple of times on FB and had no reply. Last week I text her to ask if it was OK to give her a ring and she texted back 'sorry busy tonight' . I have been in tears today cos I just don't understand. She lives in Australia so why does it matter if we don;t have anything in common (which I don;t think is true anyway, I think we have lots in common), we have our history, all the things we have done for each other, I was her bridesmaid ffs. Why the need to do this? I have also been feeling quite lonely living here away from my family. I have some friends but no one really close, no one who I can just go to at times like this and just offload and know that person loves me and will just listen to me . She is a very AP mum, she co-sleeps, extended BFer and doesn't believe in CC, well that's great for her, we all parent in different ways don;t we, it's no reason to not be friends with someone just cos I don't do those things

I am going to email her later when the DTs are in bed and just say if that's the way she wants it then so be it. Hopefully when she is better she will get back in touch and maybe we can salvage something.

Neenz something similar happened to me a couple of years ago. My bf from school (also my bridesmaid) decided we had nothing in common anymore. She therefore informed me she would not be sending birthdays cards/emails anymore as we no longer had anything in common and it was pointless to continue as if we had. She has no children and would desperately love some while I had been a sahm for some time so admittedly conversations were difficult. I was very upset but to be honest I was also a little impressed by her refusal to continue a relationship which had dwindled to a very small point of contact, and which she found personally difficult.

I did try to continue to contact her for a while but she refused to participate in any relationship so I quietly gave up and let her go. I was really unhappy about it but I do think that it may be healthy at some level to know if a relationship is not working for you and so to take steps to deal with that.

Obviously, your relationship with your friend may not end like this at all and I hope it doesn't as it obviously means a lot to you. I do think though that you may have to respect her decision, however sad that is.

Neenz, so sorry to hear that. FWIW I don't think you do boast about the DTs on FB at all - you're usually telling us about all the crap tv you watch!!

It's so hard when this happens and friends cut each other off so brutally - have been on the receiving end of it myself before so know how it feels. Having said that, I have also done it to someone else too .

It's hard not to take it to heart, but at times like this I remind myself of the friends I have got and try not to dwell. Easier said than done I know .

On a separate note, I love the lock of hair thing - how naff is that!

ooops, x-posted with sybil

I really like being able to look through the albums and see my kids little fluff cuttings! The only people who likes to do this more are my kids, who spend ages looking over their old photos and laughing at how their hair has changed. I know not many people do physical albums now that we all have digital cameras but kids do love them and they are handy places to keep all those little keepsakes like hospital tags and bits of hair.

Of course, we could all do that 'scrapbooking' that americans so love but that would take time away from mns, knitting and driving dh mad by watching crap tv. (Am I the only person on the planet who watches Psych? Dh thinks so and is trying to convince me not to tell anyone I know in real life )

Never heard of Psych, Sybil! Thanks for your thoughts about my friend, it's wierd cos when we do talk we can't get off the phone in under 2 hours! We always have plenty to talk about and have the same views on lots of things. But I think she is ill . I will leave it and it will be up to her to come back to me if she wants. .

Maybe he is right about Psych then

I think giving your friend space is a good idea. Let her know you understand and will be there in future if she changes her mind and then back off. Mind you I think that is easier to say than do. I still tried with my friend on and off for about a year but she had closed the door .

Jamie is one tomorrow. The older two are really excited. Especially as they are going to get to help him open his presents in the morning and get his ballpit ready before school.

Happy Birthday Jamie for tomorrow, ,my older 2 bought Ethan a ball today for his birthday next week(with their money)

Neenz - sorry to hear about your friend's weird behaviour

Ali - I did feel lonely in the Autumn when lots of you met up, looking forward to meeting you though

Abdn -poor Duncan, I'm sure the Dr will get him sorted tomorrow.

Essie and others, Ethan's had his hair cut twice now, never thought to keep any!!

Step dad arriving tomorrow, just done a small Tesco order to go to Mums so that I can bring it back, we're on our last box of teabags!!I'm getting so excited but stressed too as I've loads to do to .

Happy Birthday Jamie

Debs- how cute that the boys bought Ethan something
Sybil- I've heard of of Psych but never watched it
Neenz- think you are taking the right course but totally get how upsetting it must be. Look how worked up I got over not being invited to a party.

Abdn- how are you doing?

HI ALL xxx

Happy birthday Jamie!!! It is so exciting isn't it? I loved the twins' first birthday!!

I have emailed my friend and will see how it goes. Thanks for all your nice words, I have been so upset today .

Debs, that is so sweet that they bought him a ball. When do you fly, is it this weekend?

BDQ - chicken always goes hard with reheating - I don't think there are anyways to stop this other than only partially cooking them to start with.

Essie - good luck at the hairdresser - I know Luke would NEVER sit still for it. We had a baby memories box given to us and it had a little mesh bag for a lock of hair. We've not cut any off though yet so I dunno if we'll use it.

Milk - Luke still has 4 big bottls a day - not a cup! He will only drink water from a cup. I'm passed caring now. Have managed to drop one milk feed at 5pm.

Weight - Luke weighs a ton. We weighed him 4 weeks ago and he was 26 pounds. Just looked it up in the red book - That's the 91st centile! How did that happen???

Aberdeen - Oh I can imagine how nervous you are you poor thing. I'm sure hubby will be fine but I know I would be tearing my hair out too. Mark had to fly to Tokyo the day after the Air France flight and I had to keep checking the arrivals bit on the Tokyo airport website. Hugs x

P&P - well done Cecily! Luke won't do anything other than walk now he loves it! He is picking up speed now though which is a tad worrying. I told Mark we'd need to get his feet measured soon - how exciting!

Essie - Luke's fave play place is by the window on the ledge. It would really take something to break the glass. I'm sure it's fine. I have never thought about it - even when Luke bangs his cars against it! I do pretty much let him do anything though so maybe I'm not the best person to ask... Also - hair - my mum had some of mine and it ws just tied with a hair band and in a plastic seethrough bag.

Poor Neenz - her problem though - she may change her mind. You've always got us...

Aberdeen - Hope Duncan's GP visit goes well

Neenz - I'm on twitter - I think it's rubbish because I don't understand it.

I have turned into a domestic goddess. My freezer is full of baby sized meals at the mo. I've made baby fish pies, baby shepherd's pies and pasta shapes in a veg and pureed liver sauce (which sounds grim but it is utterly yummy). I know he likes the fish and the shepherd's pie but tomorrow is lump day with the tiny pasta!!Goddammit! He will eat lumps!!!

Hope he does, Amber! But if he doesn't, well I find pasta doesn't go down well anyway. It's a bit slimy isn't it?

I'm a wee bit tipsy so won't even try to respond to earlier posts but want to say neenz your friend sounds like she is ill so try not to take it personally. You don't boast about the dt's on fb at all, so like someone said earlier the best think you can do is let her know you'll still be there if she needs you.