June 07 - Do we smell? Yes bumper, I'm talking to YOU!!!!

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Hey Ekka . Good to see you. I was thinking about you the other day.

Sorry to hear things haven't been great for your DS and I hope things improve for him. My nephew has just been diagnosed with discoid eczema and has had a bit of a horrible time of it. really really nasty stuff.

Thanks you guys.

I really, REALLY appreciate it.

And yes Foxy, you are right, I am fucked. I kind of wondered if I might be but when I nearly passed out at work and then I got home and looked at the food I was going to cook for dinner (kangaroo steak with stuffed mushrooms and sauteed potatoes, if you're interested ) I couldn't face it...realised that yes, I am fucked, and ordered take out.

aw fury u must let us know what happens, cos i will be thinking about u all day
(while i trudge down the docs as i should be following my own advice!)

more cant breathe stuff this evening. it certainly feels like asthma that cant quite get enough air in my lungs, but im hoping its something a bit simplier.

Natty - perhaps it's squished lungs?
I am short of breath too.

But get seen. We'll be the London sicko's.

lol fury! indeed
there is always something wrong with me my body hates pregnancy.
if im not having nosebleeds im having fainting fits or panting episodes.

i mean ffs!!!

natty, you said before you have iron issues. that can make you breathless.

bollocks, if DS1s b'day was 8 May instead of 9 April, we could have had a VE Day party. If only I'd known. Am thinking I might make him something out of his war cookbook for his birthday tea, instead of going out for fish & chips. I think he would like that. Last time we went to the restaurant I'm thinking of he got panicky and sick.

ah tis true daisy, but would it give me nose bleeds?
maybe they are unrelated, but the three things all in the space of a few days..

Oh dickfuck

I have been googling my symptoms (not just drippy knickers but everything).

I have SPD.
THis can cause bladder dysfunction.
Also explains why I am a cripple and why I am waddling at only 20 weeks.
Fuck fuck fuckety fuck

Step away from Google!!!!

but . I suffered hugely with bumble. It sucks. It can get better later on though. Remember derlor....she was on crutches at one point and then it got a lot better once the baby got bigger iirc. Can also make for a difficult labour as it's a wee bit uncomfortable

Support belts help, but get yourself a physio referral ASAP.

I'll discuss all of it when I see them tomorrow.

I feel like I am 9 months already. I have just been... you know... 'hoping it would go away'

bugger, outbid again. I don't have the necessary ebay bravado on a cup of tea

night all. Hope all goes well NATTY and FURY, TOMORROW, when you SEEK MEDICAL ADVICE

Morning.

Daisy...hope things are better this morning and the G&Ts made your day seem better. I certainly feel like screaming some times, and when I had my counselling, it came out that half my problems was because I don't scream and shout and argue....I bottle it up (or rant on here!)....letting it out is good for you....releases the tension and other people realise how you feel - however traumatic it is at the time. Anyhow, today is another day, and I hope all is calm and DS1 is better behaved today. Did DH take the opportunity of you not being there for a while to talk to him? Hugs to you x

Fury / Natty.....hope you get on OK today at hospital / doctors. Fury, I know that I found my 2nd pg so much more difficult than first time....its not nearly as exciting, and doing it with a toddler and job, and expectations of carrying on as normal, are fucking difficult. The whole 39 weeks were miserable for me, but the end result is worth every minute of it. If you do have SPD, you need an urgent physio referral. I struggled moving around especially lifting DD....and I'm still seeing the osteopath each week at £35 a week!

Foxy....my DD refuses my home-cooked food all the time and it really pisses me off. What do you do? Do you let them go hungry? Cook something else? Yesterday, I was so fed up with her I yanked a Hipp Organic toddler meal out of the cupboard that I'd got for DH to give her while I was in hospital, it looked like slop I give my dog, and she ate every fucking bit of it.....and at nursery they always tells me she is a good eater and eats everything....so is it me?

Good to see you back Ekka

Blimey, that was a long post for me! Right off to do something constructive....2 more loads of washing to do and yesterday's 4 loads to put away....oh the excitement!

me and DH having a major row.
yet again he spends the morning in bed, doesnt roll out of his pit till gone 11. 5 days in a row this week, he has done NOTHING around the house to help. on the morning of the scan i had to pack everything for the kids to stay at my friends, breakfast and dress them while he just slept.
his arguement is that he isnt sleeping very well atm.

well iv been up at 4am everyday for weeks cos this baby wakes me up at that time and i cant get back off. i STILL get up with the kids, i STILL do all the housework.

thing is all i am asking is that he gets up half hour earlier then he needs to before he leaves for the day and night so that we can do a quick blitz on the housework.
i tried to explain that if we did that everyday the house would be so much easier to manage as its really getting on top of me, esp with feeling like i do atm.

well he has stormed out the door to get bread cos we ran out and he didnt bring any home like i asked him to last night.

AIBU? seriously? he makes me feel like its a unreasonable request to have half hour of his time a day.

feeling fed up

i need some of that happy dust back

Natty, do you normally do everything on your own and brilliantly at that?

I expect you do.

You can either carry on doing it all and get uptight about it or stop doing it all and let him do his bit (which will be the bare minimum as he is a bloke). You will, however, all survive. perhaps not by your standards, but you will.

If you want to talk to him about it you need to do it when he is not sleeping/watching tv/ digesting. Only then do they listen to the wise woman.

I have no real advice unfortunately, as DP does naff all and I have not managed to get him to improve on this. He does loads with the kids though, so perhaps DH could take on more of a support leaving you to do the housework (which when done without a small child whining, can be a joy!)

Norty - keep some of those meals in the cupboard for when you can't be arsed to have the fight. IIRC I always had a stock of those meals to hand for DS1, but by the time DS2 was on solids its too expensive. Try to have a stock of frozen meals so you don't feel you've slaved over a hot stove for hours. And freeze whats been refused, or reuse the next day. Mine are getting yesterdays meatloaf tonight. At LOs age I don't fight with her because she's too young to understand and I would feel cruel. But when they get a bit older, refused food will come out later when they complain of being hungry!

its fine ive told DH he can cook for himself and clean and do his own washing cos i aint doing it for him no more..
arse

i like the new festive emoticons...

LMAO!

I know how you feel Natty. DH is more concerned about getting his Wii sport age down than sorting the mess that is his in the conservatory/putting up the shelf(still!)/cleaning out the car/tidying the garage - all jobs he agreed to do within the last year (OK, the conservatory is only a few weeks, but the others are running in to months now). I am trying not to crack and do it myself, cos I'm sure that's what he's waiting for. Like DS1 and his room really. But eventually I will end up doing it as everywhere is such a mess I am to invite people round, and we normally invite my parents for a meal at Easter.

oh i know i hate inviting people over to my messy house, its so

sometimes i wish i was with a woman.. i truely do

anyone heard from fury?
where are u all??

I honestly don't think that's any better Natty. It's more about different priorities! My friends seem to have housework issues (probably worse than mine TBH)

I did a little tidying in the little boys room - more later when baggins goes to sleep (might let have DS2 have an extra half hour/put him in our bed so I can do more) I am stuck now as I can't leave baggins downstairs on his own til he forgets how to climb on the high windowsill.

fury said she would let us know, I'm sure she will.

Wise words Foxy....thanks. I do have a few meals in the freezer, but she'd live on fish fingers, spaghetti hoops and omelette if I let her. I know its a control thing (with both of us)(she used to eat really well with me) but I'm the adult and I cannot pander to her every need - but also don't want to be overly harsh - I guess I'm learning as I go along. I think two parents with strong stubborn personalities = children with similar qualities so I shouldn't be surprised really.

I have just been to Sainsbury's with both of them on my own. Might not sound much to anyone else, but it was only a few months ago that my anxiety was so bad, I couldn't even go to Sainsbury's on my own without having a panic attack half way round - let alone with 2 littlies....so I am pathetically proud of myself. Even if it has taken me 8 weeks to do it.

I have to say I'm very lucky with DH as he does help - he won't dust (can't see the point ) or cook but otherwise he's great.

I was reading a thread earlier where someone had said to her teenager "this family is a team....it can't all be done by one person, everyone is a member of the team"....I thought that summed it up perfectly....although she was talking about lazy teenagers rather than lazy DHs....same still applies in my book.

well done Norty - I know how big a thing that can be

well do you!
i HATE food shopping with my two, and like you i do get pathetically stressed about the idea of it.
once you get there its not so bad i suppose. but its def an anxitey inducing situation.

Dh went to the shop for electric and hoovered the living room, then took the kids up for their nap so i could do the clearing up after lunch.

so he IS trying

but i had to yell at him first. why do i bother asking him nicely for four days.. i should just shout all the time, might start stamping my feet and storming out too

well done you that was SUPPOSED to say