October 2007 These Little Piggies chased the easter bunny..and stole the eggs pt ll

[TheLadyEvenstar]

ok lets try here ladies!!!

WWAJC - at your dh's accident, glad it's all stitched back on now

That swingbothways thing was someone posting asking if any of us fancied some shoes she had pics of. They were just 2nd hand shoes for lo's, not sure if she was selling or ffp but seems to have removed the message now anyway so probably thought better of it.

WWAJC
Hope he's alright now! Thank you for you revision tips. Need to set aside 2 sessions per week now....

had an icident at the gum today have a look at this thread

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Hello lovely ladies can't believe its been a week since I last posted doesn't time fly! since I was last here we have found a flat to rent and have exchanged contracts on our new house so all is very definately happening!!! I'm so so excited. Now we're overrun with half packed boxes which I guess explains why I have been awol...

Anyway time to catch up!

Mine the meal you made at short notice sounds fab - do you want to have us over Not sure the mess from my boys would be any better though!

Eva hope your house move went well! We are moving twice in the next few months - the first to a rental house on 28th and then sometime around the end of June into our new house which is currently being built! Fingers crossed both my boys will be OK...

Choc!!! Lovely to hear from you! Hope to meet up soon once our move is sorted... Sorry to hear about bf as I know you enjoyed the time with R but like you say good thing you didn't make the decision and also congrats on keeping it up so long!

Inzi hope if you went to exmouth that the trip wasn't too traumatic... your mums lovely words had me welling up too!

Muppet aw that is SO cute - your boys giggling together to sleep! I love it when I can hear mine playing nicely together although usually it is Adam screaming like the big drama queen he is because Sam is trying to get back a toy that he had been playing with before Adam snatched it and Sam moaning 'I was playing with that first, Adam's not sharing!!' No I do them down, they are lovely a lot of the time too . So sorry your dh's illness spoilt your break and fingers crossed that you don't catch it...

Needcoffee can't rememeber where you are going away to but hope you are having a lovely time

LES just a thought about the milk... Does Zachary do this when he drinks anything other than milk? Just wondering if it is going down the wrong way rather than it being the milk. Just doesn't sound like the sort of symptoms I would expect from milk intolerance that all... Sorry about your bag too thieving wankers

Floria your weekend sounds lovely - very jealous!

Dal OMG at your parents!!! That beggars belief. I don't blame you for thinking about a restraining order and having had enough by now. How did they get your address? Sending you massive hugs and just wanted to add my voice to all the others who are telling you what a great mum you are. And your post to muppet - 'I think because you are constantly assessing your parenting already shows you are a far better parent than your mum could ever be' - well just listen to yourself honey as that is also true for you!

WWAJC don't forget us when you find that account has millions in it ! Sorry to hear about your dh's finger and your little trip to A&E but glad all OK in the end...

Sorry to anyone I have missed - I can't actually now remember who I haven't mentioned!!! Hope you're all well anyway xxx

Muppet just read your other thread - at those tossers leaving ollie on his own. I am not surprised you are livid - i would be too. hope you get it sorted out x

Alicet - Hey! Great to hear from you. Glad everything is going smoothly with the house bet you can't wait for June!

I don't know how my parents got my address .Thanks for your kind words, brought a tear to my eye

Muppet - at Ollie being left. I hope you get to the bottom of it, bet he felt so sad... I feel sad just thinking about it. Think you/dh should have a word with the people who run it to make sure it doesn't happen again to anyone else!

Dal you are right I'm very very excited about the move!!! How are you doing today? Hope you are managing to relax a bit more now there is a little time passed since you saw your m&d... Must be horrible to feel so on edge and unsettled in your own home x

Alicet - Feeling a little better each day. The initial shock has worn off now. I'm going to try to relax because I don't want them to affect the way I live my life. If they turn up again any time soon then i'll just call the police.

Dh asked if I wanted to go anywhere to keep away from the house this weekend in case they turn up again. I said no, i'm not changing my life for them!

Muppet - Poor Ollie, I would be livid too, I hope you get it sorted.

Dal - Glad you are feeling a bit better, I hope she has the good sense to stay away from now on.

alicet - Gosh, things are really moving for you, bet you can't wait to be in your new home!

WWAJ - Well done Anya on being such a good girl whilst at the hospital. Ouch!!! at your DH

Just realised I haven't been on for a few days! time is flying by so fast I can't keep up.

Ben has been doing my head in today, I am mentally exhausted, he has been non stop crying/screaming/whining. He has been off his food all week, I think his high teeth are on the way but they are taking their time. He has also had horrid nappies all week and Sam has been having number two's half a dozen times a day, but otherwise ok in himself. I hope they are better tomorrow.

Last weekend we were at a wedding on the Saturday, the boys were very well behaved, then on Sunday/Monday I was sorting through the 500+ photos I had taken

DH was in the garden all weekend building the boys a fort, it started out as a little den and has now transformed into a two storey fort with a high walkway and slide on the end which will be fixed on tomorrow I am really proud that my DH can turn his hand to anything I'll add some pictures once it is finished. He is hoping to finish it this weekend.

Here is one picture to make you laugh... Sam decided he wanted to dress up, so I got his dress up box out and left him to it... I couldn't breathe for laughing when he waltzed into the lounge

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Hope everyone else is ok

LLL- THAT IS SOOOOOOOOOOO FUNNY!!!!!!!!

That has to go into the 18 year old bithday folder...

LLL - pmsl, he looks soooo cute

Muppet - It already is

Alice - how exciting - glad everything is going smoothly.

Muppet - about the incident at the gym - that's awful that he should have been left on his own. Hope you get some answers.

Dal - glad you're feeling a bit more settled.

LLL - omg at the photo - that's hilarious.

I took Anya to a friend's nursery opening today - she's been renovating it since September so it's fantastic to see it open at last. Unfortunately it's about half an hour's drive from us so we won't be using it. DH didn't come - he's been really ill the last 24 hours, pharmacist thinks it might be a reaction to the codeine he's taking .

Hello all...

Lisa pmsl at the pic of Sam! . Know how you feel re the little ones - Adam has been sleeping really badly (should that be not sleeping) for the last 10 days and he's also been a bit unsettled and screechy but not all the time - just when I'm about to tear my hair out the smiley happy boy comes back. Last night though he slept through again and has been back to his normal self. he has had a cold and been teething but there is still snot and no teeth so don't know what it was but fingers crossed all better...

WWAJC - Sorry to hear your dh is unwell, hope he feels better soon. Is there anything he can take instead of codiene?

Got a ridiculous answerphone message from my dad today... Basically implying that my dh is agressive and saying they are seriously concerned for Dylan and I !!! He said I have 'made a hell of a life for myself here with my dh' and 'they are glad they have my address as now they'll know where to come and get me when I need them'

What the hell are they on about? My dh wouldn't hurt a mouse. It has really infutiated and upset me and dh. He is upset that someone would try to make it look like Dylan was not safe around him. They are totally bonkers. I am so so angry with them for starting all this shit again. It was messages like this I had 3 years ago before we stopped talking, not just slagging off dh but me, pils, my bros's, their wifes etc.They really say some nasty shit once they get going. I'm saving these messages as avidence.

WWAJC sorry I missed the bit about your dh being ill earlier. Hope he's better soon...

Dal your parents really are a nasty piece of work. If I were you I would write a letter to them explainging that you don't want any more contact. Keep it factual rather than emotional as I know muppet has advised in the past and end with somehting about if they do not respect your wishes and keep trying to see you you will get a restraining order against them. if you want you could put somehting about that you will consider reviewing this if they give you any indication that they understand why you are upset and apologise for the way they have 9and are) behaving. or not - depends on whether giving them any sort of out would make them more likly to pester you. Good luck x

Dal - am so sorry it's got back to how it used to be. Agree with Alice, at least then they'll have fair warning of what you may do...
Do you have caller ID on your phone? Screen calls (you probably do anyway) or change your number if it gets to much. I remember with BT you can block certains numbers? Might be worth a call to them if it gets to much.

Have to agree with Alice/LLL re the screamy screechy boys. Henry is lovely until he's in the car when he turns into demon child. Literally screaming until we stop. Same when he's in the bath, utterly panic stricken (WWAJC -did Anya get over her fear?) hates to be told 'no' and is bordering on tatruming for England. but can flick a switch and become the lovely happy henry. Wierd!

...oh but does say
'mummy' as clear as a bell now and very nearly 'daddy' 'wow', ooff -woof and the wondorous
'NO!'

Alicet - I keep thinking what I would write if I do sned an email. I have to keep it short and sweet as anything I say gets twisted and exagerated. Also, I don't want to get dragged in to another 'he said this, she did that' argument, that's exacty what they want. yes, they really are a nasty piece of work indeed, i'm so tempted to tell them they utterly digust me and thier behaviour is dispicable but I won't. It'll just be another thing they can pick out and try and make out like i'm the baddy.

Muppet - Yeah, think i'm gonna write something. Need to make sure it's not emotional. Might post it here before I send it for approval. I have thought about blocking their calls, they don't have my landline number and it's ex-directory so they shouldn't be able to get it. They only have my mobile number so I can screen the calls and just let it go to answerphone. For the moment i'd rather let them leave their messages so I know what they're up to iyswim and can save the messages etc. If it carries on for a while I might consider changing my mobile number.

The messages are bad enough without having to talk to them. My dh always listens to the messages for me as it upsets me too much to listen to them directly and gets to me too much. I feel sad today though cause the message was a really bad one laying in to dh so it upset him to hear it.

Re screaming boys. Dylan is fine until he can't get his own way then we have a tandrum king! He's slowly getting better thanks to the occaional 'time out' at the end of the sofa. We did have a vomiting problem where he would make himself sick when upset/annoyed but it seems to be dissapearing. I saw a similar case on 'supernanny' and her advice was to ignore it when it happens. We tried this and it seems to have worked quite well

x - posted Muppet - Soooo sweet that Henry says mummy and daddy and all the other words, just melts your heart doesn't it?

I love it when Dylan says 'Tess' (our dogs name), he loves her, she gets lots of cuddles whether she likes them or not

henry can't manage dexter just yet so says 'de-der'

and he's like his brother in that we get lots of smiling a fluttering of eyelashes when he thinks it'll help avoid a telling off!

Ok ladies, here's my draft, feel free to pick it apart. It's really hard to write to them without being emotional iyswim?!

Mum and Dad,

I am writing this just to make sure we are all clear on where we stand.

It was a very difficult decision to get back in touch with you both. We were prepared for the possibility it might not work going on past experience.

Unfortunately, after having given you another chance your behaviour towards myself and my family has been unacceptable.

It is disappointing that you have not taken this chance to accept responsibility for what happened in the past. You have not admitted fault. You have not appologised at all.

It was not the right thing to do to find out my address against my wishes and then to turn up uninvited and unwanted. I do not trust either of you any more.

I don't believe you will change. I don't think you want to.

As an adult, I deserve to be treated with respect. I am a kind, loving person who does not play mind games.

As an adult, Ali also deserves to be treated with respect. He is a considerate and caring person who cares very much for his family.

I do not believe I have done anything that I am not proud of, I am proud of myself and my own family. We live a happy and peaceful life.

As we have already stated, we do not want any further contact with you both. We have tried, it didn't/doesn't work so we will have to leave it at that.

Please refrain from leaving insulting and untrue messages on my phone.

As we have now stated our wishes you know where we all stand. If you turn up at our house unwanted again we will obtain a restraining order against you. This should not be necessary if you respect our wishes.

Amy and Ali

Sounds very good, to the point and very clear.

xxx

thanks Muppet. I know i'll get a response to the effect of... You're so cold, you have been brainwashed, this is not the Amy we know blah blah blah.

Not that that matters, that's just my prediction.

could always point out that the situation is making none of you happy -they really can't argue with that!

Yeah, I suppose, although in my head i'm already thinking of ways they will argue with it

I think they might say that they are not happy unless they get to see me and Dylan. They said in their message today they wanted nothing more to do with their son in law (dh). What a nerve they have, assuming I want anything to do with them?!

Anyway, sorry for babbling on, I really am open to any adjustments etc.