June 07: We are going to finish this thread skinnier than we started it

[Bumperslucious]

Seeing as none of you lazy beyaches are going to start a new one...

Hello

More bags of misery from me I'm afraid. We are all still feeling shit in this house, just colds and general shittyness, but I am so busy at work at the moment. DH was feeling really shite and I felt bad that I couldn't come home, but I already went home early last week when he had a really bad headache and when I spoke to my boss I got the look all the while with the empty 'Oh yes that's fine' reassurance. I took it off my flexi so it wasn't as if I was taking the piss. But I've been given loads of deadlines and when I said last week 'I'll get it done by XXX' I got 'It's going to take you a whole day?' followed by . I and I just thought, I don't spend my whole day doing just reports, I have 2 days worth of emails and shit to catch up on every monday, plus all the emails I have to field every day, plus all the corporate bullshit that I have to do, staff surveys, appraisals, feedback forms, dealing with customers so don't give me the fucking look ok. Plus we are all feeling like shit at home, I feel bad for leaving DH with DD, and I'm stressed at home from all the stuff I have to do at work. Argggghhhh!

I am back in tomorrow, so I hope DH is ok, we have had to cancel 2 lots of friends (back goes my social life). Things are pretty shit at the moment and DH and I just can't seem to recover, we never get a break. And we were talking about working hours and I said that if I was better at getting up I would go into work earlier and leave earlier and my colleague said 'If I left work any earlier (he gets in at 10-10.30 and leaves at 6ish) I don't what I would do with myself,'. I just wanted to kill him as I get home from work, get straight onto cooking dinner, or DH has dinner ready and I wash up, play with DD, change nappies, clean her up after dinner, bath, bed, tidying up the bombsite and if I am lucky by 8 or 8.30pm I finally have a chance to sit down and have some time to myself before going to bed at 10.30. Of course, I don't need to tell you lot this as you are all doing the same and more, but I have to rant somewhere as I just bored looks or accused of talking about DD too much or using her as an excuse if I say anything like this at work. Arggghhhhhhhhhhh! I need someone to come and look after me and DD and DH, but there is no-one. Our families are too far away, our parent friends are busy enough and our childless friends just don't get it or wouldn't think to. sorry, that was a lot to get off my chest. DH is in bed now and DD is having tea, I'm not hungry unless it's chocolate. Sorry guys, hope you are all ok.

Ria, what a shitty TA, you need some of Doggus's spunk!

Daisy, hope you are feeling better.

Natty, what's the latest on the tax credit situation?

Norty, hope your hormones have settled down and you are feeling ok. Hi Ekka, and everyone else.

Btw, how do you deal with naughtiness? It hasn't come up here really because DD isn't really ever naughty, she is usually just being a toddler and doing toddler things, but just now she chucked a spoonful of her dinner on the floor. I told her no and she continued to do it so I told her no again and just took her out of her high chair and said 'no naughty' again and made it clear that I was cross, then she came over and tried to kiss me, but I said no as I was still cross with her. I don't know what the right thing is to do really. How do you deal with misbehaviour, when they are deliberately disobeying rather than just doing toddler things that they don't understand IYKWIM?

no idea bumper, sorry (and that's with 3). I do wonder how much nourishment baggins gets when he chews up, spits out and then throws across the kitchen. I get slacker the more children I have.

sounds like you are having a hard time. do the minimum at home and get yourself in a long hot bath as soon as DD asleep. and get some vicks vapobath in for you and DH. No suggestions re work, I am crap at working. does your colleague have kids? is he staying at work to avoid bedtime? though I suppose if he is not starting til 10 he needs to be there til 6 to get his hours in? If you can manage a bit earlier for a couple of weeks, even staying til your normal time occasionally, would that help you get ahead? (can you tell I'm clutching at straws here? just don't want you to be alone!)

does anyone know anything about opera?

off to feed the kids...

I don't anything about opera ria, sorry.

I could get in earlier, the problem is if I can't get the work done within my hours then I can't get it done, I can work extra hours, but not forever. I will help when I go back an extra day as the expectations will be more reasonable within that timescale. I don't want to go in ealier though, I'm knackered as it is. And no, none of my colleagues have children. Don't worry, I'm not looking for answers, just sympathy!

Sorr for all the poorliness and general twuntiness of the world today.

No idea about discipline or opera, I'm afraid.

DS is currently screaming blue mirder in his cot - nothing wrong with him he just doesn't want to go to bed. Aggghhhh

I can beat the nappy off in teh cot story - last Friday when I went to get DS up after his nap, I discovered that he had taken off his nappy, done a poo in the middle of the cot, smeared it all over the sheet, up the bars, etc, and then gone to sleep down the other end. It was minging. My Mum has since told me that every nap time, my sister used to take off her nappy and shred it, flinging bits all over the room. If she had a poo, she would wipe that down the wall first .

bah, grin. Baggins usually does tricks like that in the playpen thank heavens for fastening vests

I am glad you are thinking if it can't be done.. bumper, am pleased youare not stressing I must do 2x as much work as everyone else.

(To steal your rant thunder, DH had Sunday off and he went back to work Saturday eve -after the A&E incident - to make sure they couldn't take Sunday off him because he'd been off Saturday night. His boss still had Sunday night off. DH went in on Mon to a massive jobs list. Which he did all that he could of - ingredients permitting. He was then off yesterday and as he was senior staff member on Mon, he left a list of things that needed doing and an order ready to ring in. Today, no jobs done, no order put in and no milk in the whole fecking place cos no-one even bothered to see if they needed any. His boss was in though because senior management about DH went back early from his break and will be there til F* knows when because senior management like to eat after the plebs. Boss pissing off again tomorrow. They owe him at least 4 days off in lieu, and he is not even getting the salary he was promised at his interview, let alone the pay rise he's been given since)

sorry.

Sounds like you're doing the right thing with the discipline thing Bumper, at least that's more or less what I do, disapproving voice and removal from scene of crime etc. They know you're serious if you don't over use it! Neither of mine are seriously naughty though, so I don't know what I'd do if they were!

I know what you mean about colds and stuff. I got this flu 2 weeks ago and I'm only just feeling normal again. You should really try and eat something decent if you want to look after your health though.

sorry for all the shitty-shite today

Ria, how did you go at the docs?

Bumper, if you went in earlier you'd get flexi-hours wouldn't you? Good thing about flexi-time is that it is accountable and they will question it - at least that's what they did in my day in local government.

Daisy, I will visit and shove all the shite in boxes, and then put them in the loft for you. in a few years you can pass it all onto someone with small boys. Someone did this to us. We had bucket-loads (literally, they'd bring us a bin-full every time they visited) of fucking happy meal toys, and we had to be grateful for it.

Oh poor you Bumper....I really struggle sometimes to get the work / life balance right, and im in a similar situation as have no support nearby.....both our families are miles away and we are relatively new to the area. Perhaps when DD starts nursery, things may be a bit easier.....my nursery are great for emergency childcare.....sometimes we take a days annual leave from work and still send her (we pay whether she goes or not) and it is lovely

Urgh Fairy, that's disgusting! Does your DS have poppered vests still and is able to undo them?

Aww Ria...DHs work sounds like a nightmare...hope things improve.

We went into town today to register DS and so many shops have closed down since I was last there . Its so awful to see.

Took DS into nursery today, and he was passed around like pass the parcel and cooed over....and I had to take him back to see the late shift staff

Thanks Daisy....I'll settle up with you after . Much appreciated x

DS doesn't wear poppered vests anymore, but believe me that is about to change!

thomas and ellen have both done the poo thing. ellens eats hers [disgusted emoticon]

tom went back into pants monday, we had three accidents monday, two yesterday whilst out, and none today.
he also did a poo today and did two wees himself without prompting.
i think i may have cracked it (no pun intended!! )

i feel happier today, only two phones calls, one was council tax who agree that until they correct the details (for some reason they have us down as living WITH the landlord wtf)
so dont have to pay them till end of month till its sorted.

no more news from tax credits. so got to do food shop on 50 tomorrow including gas and leccky key. joyous.
lots of pasta and potato bakes me thinks.
ah well not like DH and me couldnt do with loosing a bit of weight, the naughty things were the first to be crossed of the ususal list.

going to my mums tomorrow shes feeding us as well, so thats saved us a fiver

AIBU to chuck away all DD's toys on the basis that if she isn't old enough to put them away herself yet she isn't old enough to have them? And thanks mum for the 40 matching pairs cards that I have to clear up every feck night. They are now going in the bin. I'm just exhausted, and DH is in bed. I just want to cry. DD was slapping me round the face as I was getting her ready for bed, and I told her no but she just thought it was funny. I'm so tired and fucked off that I just wanted to smack her , I didn't though, but I worry sometimes that I have a really short temper. can I just go on holiday somewhere? On my own?

Sorry, I guess I wasn't done with my ranting. Still, at least she isn't pooing everywhere!

Ria, I hope your DH can find a nice job where people treat him with respect.

bumper i do admire you for working whilst bringing up DC. i do any working mum. i tried it and couldnt cope with the stress, or the housework, and missed tom to much.
i do feel awful that we are a bit of a drain on the benefits system, but i am planning to go back to college as i want to teach SN kids, when all my brood have grown up enough to be at full time school.

so i just wanted to say sorry you are having a tough time at work, but good on ya for even doing it and they are lucky to have you!

No advice on the work front, sorry bumper, but have a virtual hot toddy, some echinacea, garlic capsules and a hug .

Re the discipline, that sounds the right approach and what I do. When DD is being really naughty at the table (which she does occasionally as she has a great teacher ) we just turn her highchair round so she is facing into the hall. She goes very subdued; it's quite uncanny

lol foxy our slightly mad french neighbour came over with a carrier bag of such shoite the week after Christmas (helloooo ) and of course DS pounced on it and we are stuck with it all now! We just have too much stuff.

Oh dear on the poo fairy . DD has stuck her hands in her nappy and smeared herself with poo once and taken her nappy off and wee'd in the bed as well. DS1 never did anything like that.

bumble has been horrible this afternoon. I think the ABs are doing odd things to his poor wee tummy .

some home front success here; i got all the toys sorted out and they are in shiny and new plastic buckets (you know the soft gardening type ones with handles) which were only £4 each in the co-op and I can see enough of the floor to hoover tomorrow. I also managed to dust the TV and associated bits and pieces which were covered in dust. So not an entirely useless day!

Bumper - just wanted to say sorry for all the shitey shite and I do exactly the same as you on discipline (not that that's any recommendation!).

You all really made me laugh with tales of swearing infants. I have the worst gob in the world, once I get to know someone, every other word is a bad one so I really really have to calm down. My favourite one is calling dh 'c-tychops'. Am I allowed to say the c word on here - didn't we have a huge dingaling about that on the orginal ante-natal thread?

cross posted with you bumper. Put the pairs cards away in a drawer for later. And we all have moments like that. I smacked DD's hand last week and she just looked at me then started howling and wouldn't speak to me for an hour. I felt awful as she wasn't really being naughty, just a toddler, but I know full fine that she knows fine that the babywipes are not to be pulled out and littered all over the bloody house; or use her bike as handy step to get at them on the shelf.

lol, DH has just brought through a cooking apple that was in the fruit bowl. It has a small bite out of it but had been put back with the bite hidden; she is such a minx .

Yup, babywipes, I know that one well, sudo creme, laptop, anything she's not supposed to have! I am sick of not being able to put anything down!

Good news on the tidying daisy. Glad you got some storage.

Natty, I would go mad at home all day! I'm not self motivated enough to stay at home. Plus, there is no way that we could afford for me not to work, I am the main bread winner by a lot!

Doggus, I have an awful potty mouth (though I don't use the c word in real life, but have no objections to it here! It was the thread titles we got in trouble for!). I really have to stop, especially when I am driving.

i wasnt critising you at all bumper, you dont have to justify yourself.
and for whats its worth i was already mad, so no change there

oh the baby wipes! my gosh they drive me insane. i have to put everything in boxes she cant open on really high shelves else she gets to them.

tom once put a whole (brand new) tub of sudocream he nicked from the bathroom all over his bed and carpet. omg! kids!

Oh yeah, bumper, it was the titles, I remember it all now, hilarious.

With you on babywipes daisy and bumper, ds also likes opening the vaseline whilst on the changing table and smearing it round his chops. His latest obsession is the hoover, he pushes it round for hours. I am going to train him to hoover properly imminently. I've already got him wiping down the highchair after he's eaten OCD face

When my nephew was about two and a half, he used to get looked after by my BILs brother and wife when sis was working. BILs brother isn't known for being reserved. I had DN out for the day and someone cut me up really badly on a roundabout. I was about to let forth a stream of expletives, but remebered DN in the back of the car and held back and said, "oh that man's a bad driver" instead. DN smiled and then shouted at me "he's an effing wanker Aunty Daisy". I nearly crashed the car!

has everyone seen my profile pic of DD's attempt at applying lipstick?

she squirted about a quarter of a tube of Aveeno cream (£££ ) over herself the other day as well, and ate some underarm deodorant.

LOL daisy, I just showed DH and he said it is a face like our DD would pull 'Wot, have I got something on my face?'

Don't worry Natty, I didn't think you were criticising, I was just trying to point out that I don't deserve any praise for going out to work as I do much worse when I am at home FT.

LOL at your nephew daisy. It's only a matter of time here... (especially driving) I had this conversation with Dsis on Friday (when we found out what terrible offence DS1 had committed at school) and she - like most other people who have ever heard Gordon Ramsey - could not believe I am the one with suspect language and DH hardly ever swears

Bumper - jigsaws are the work of the devil.

Tonight there is playfood all over cos I can't be arsed to pick it up and it'll be out again by breakfast time. (I am going to tidy up my act before DM comes back though. If she saw my house she wouold report me to SS)

natty - have your tax credits been stopped then? Homemade soup is good.

daisy - these magic tidying buckets of which you speak - are they strong enough to stand on to cause mischief, or would they collapse? Baggins is a bugger (as is DS2) for emptying the toy boxes and climbing to reach stuff that is unreachable for a reason. Am thinking maybe if not strong enough to climb on there would be no need to empty the bloody things all over the floor.

And I know crocs are a crime against fashion, but that cat shat one my shoe this morning. But it is my croc so it will wash off easily

LOL at your DD Daisy.
I know everyone goes on about terrible toddlers, tantrums bla bla, but I find them really cute at this age.

I just don't care about the mess anymore tbh, which is why I have 100 assorted blocks on the living room floor and about 15 stuffed animals + other stuff. As Ria says, no point in putting away.

Bumper, have you some alcohol handy?