quick post. C is at nursery - left her wailing as i also wailed walking ou tthe door. gulp! hope E is getting on ok oogggs.
eca - got yr email. what a truly awful thing to have happened - beyond worst fears. i hope you, your family and her folks are getting the comfort and support you need. xxxxxxx
happy birthday to the bubbas. lordy - where has this year went!
gm - somehow i dont see c sitting still long enough to listen to that prize!
mav - i am really thinking of you. i dont know that i am of much helpp but - when c has really struggling with naps, i made a decision as what to do and stuck to it. i oput one of her teddies under my top and let it get my scent. when i put her down in teh cot after a naptime story, saying good nap to her toys, into sleeping bag and then gave her the toy. it took DAYs, and i mean DAYS before she twigged what this all meant. If she was really howling - it broke my heart but i would go in, say "sssh, nap time" and pat her before leaving. she did indeed protest - very loudly but after much crying would settle.
on teh days that she just wouldnt relent - i also didnt know whether to leave her or sit it out. i guess i would leave her about 30mins and if there was no sign of sleep - lift her and continue with our day.
it is grim but things are much better now.
i am droppng night feeds now as well. back to work and i really cannot start my day at 4.30am if i havent had soem solid sleep. i now have a nightime teddy that i have also worn under my top ( the glamour!! dp is used to my bumpier silhouette now in teh evenings!!). when she wakes through the night - i will not feed her before 5.30am. she gets a pat, more ssshing and given the toy. i dont take her out of her cot and never back out of her room. it is tough but small steps are being made. last night she went from 7.30pm to 6am which is a big leap.
i guess ths may not help much but i really do think about you and the confusion there can be. xxx
i am now composing an email to work. i won my appeal for flexible working. my boss has now decided that the elxible work arrangements can only start when i am back into the office 5 days a week. i start back in 2 weeks, using up annual leave so on reduced days a week. in effeect - what he is now saying is that the arrangemtns i NEED cannot begin until July so the original unworkable situation will exist for 3 months. i feel tribunal a-looming!