April 2007 - Onwards and Upwards, with a new catch up thread to help us keep up!

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we have been for a lovely long walk aswell NL

Eddas we should hear about ds2's junior school place tomorrow..........

Pesha - NL is right! look at all the fuss I had.....

oh I am cross - nearly 8pm and all three still awake E normally asleep by 6.45pm, then J at 7.05pm the J at 7.20pm

Oooggs - will you be cross with me if I point out that by their body clock it is only 7pm now?

Lol at 'niggle house' No Sherborne was a house I'd seen advertised that looked really good but not actually seen yet. Just seen another house on a different website but have to pay to register and get contact details Will wait until I speak to other woman tomorrow before I think about doing that.

Have another problem now, dog just bit Nathan M and N were playing in kitchen and dining room and we heard M tell N to punch the dog. We both shouted out 'DONT PUNCH THE DOG' but too late, N did and the dog bit him on the hand Not hard enough to break the skin but left some very clear indentations which have now swollen and look like bruising and it really scared N. Shouted at the dog and shut him out and had Serious Words with both dc. Cannot believe M would say something like that, dont know what she was thinking, obviously not much TBH I can believe that N would do it when told but still very and that he did. They're normally great with him and never done anything like that before. And so now I dont know what to do about him. Bit worried now dog has done this once he may do it again, he may see it as a shift in power and think of himself as above N in pecking order. Also if N is going to stay scared of dog then thats a problem. The whole point of having a dog is that hes a loved family pet so all thats gone if N is gonna be scared

My dad was going to have him anyway but hes off to france for 6 months this week and thats a long time to keep a dog I cant trust that the dc are scared of, not sure I want to wait.

Why cant things ever be sodding simple Not to mention the ongoing confusion and turmoil about what to do about J

ok NL - then Jack has 5 mins before I lose it

oh pesha - what a pickle

Oooggs - you are a scary mother!!!

Pesha - oh dear - well - I would let the house thing stew for a bit and see what comes up, I would be uncomfortable keeping the dog with such small children after thsi incident - is there anybody else you know who might have him for a bit? - and I've no idea what you should do about J! What does you heart say? And has he admitted to the lying yet? Here have a

sure am NL

well two down one to go - why is it always Jack?

Oh bless him - he is the baby after all!

you want to throw something at me now don't you?

Evening! Sorry I am confusing people, should I change to something less confusable (??)?

Pesha - sorry the househunting is such a pain, it sounds really hard. about the dog, I really wouldn't know what to advise, I've been a dog owner but not around kids iykwim. If he is normally a good, chilled, dog then he was really just defending himself and I imagine he would have done a lot more damage if he'd actually wanted to hurt N. I guess maybe you can't leave him alone with them for a while? And reinforce that while N shouldn't be scared, he should respect the dog and it's feelings. (ykwim). Hopefully he won't stay scared of him, can you make him see that it's really only normal that the dog says 'HEY OW! That hurt! stop it!' in the only way he can? Like he does if M hits him? (hits her back I mean)

Oooggs - - hope they are well on their way by now. N fought a bit tonight but is now down. Only 9.15pm .

Feel a bit bogged down by the thought of the whole week stretching out in front of me, 4 more days of work. Because I worked M, W, F all winter it broke the week up nicely. AND dh is away fri-sun playing in his band so I'll be on my lonesome with N

Oooh oooh - quick poll - if I can only go visit my big sis once in the next few months, should I go just before she gives birth for some 1 on 1 sister time (would leave N with dh) or pop over to see my new nephew when he's teeny tiny? They will come over here when he's about 2 ish months old so that is the next time I'll definitely see her. Not sure what to do...

oooooooohhhhhhhhhh NL - he is alseep know he is a little sod darling!! first up and last to bed - mummy would be a nicer mummy if she got more rest/sleep ggggrrr

oh maveta - not sure, think I would go for one to one time before birth as after birth she and her dh are going to preoccupied and she will be getting loads of visitors. As you are going to be seeing him when he is still tiny anyway at 2 mths - that is what I would do.

If roles were reversed - what would you like your sister to do?

It is a pickle.

And Nl - yes it is a problem with the dc. I dont blame the dog, N punched him and with little fists if they got him in the wrong spot, say in the ribs or something, it could have really hurt so he gave a nip to defend himself - totally understandable. Its where it leaves us now though with dog psychology and theres always the possibility one of them could accidentally hurt him and he'd do it again. Normally you can walk all over him and he doesnt bat an eyelid, I'm forever tripping over him and he barely flinches, not sure what happened this time but cant really risk it happening again now

As for J, yes he has admitted lying, I didnt leave him much choice really as I knew some and used that to get the lot out of him. I've told him if he'd been completely straight with me and just come home and told me it would have been ok, I wouldn't have been happy but I'd have understood. Its the lying thats the problem and if I hadnt known I'd still be none the wiser iyswim. He keeps on how much he wants to be with me and how hard he'll work at being honest and the reasons why hes sometimes not. But I just dont trust him and I think I'm right not to. I'm fairly sure given the same situation he'd do the same again. But when he's here hes great with the dc and he makes me laugh and I find myself smiling even when i dont want to! He just doesnt see me as being on his side, he doesnt think anyone is, so doesnt think I'm someone he can trust and be straight with. Dont know if he can change that or not. And I'm changing my mind every 5 minutes!!

Not to mention I have pmt and already have really bad period pains without any actual period yet

Someone just shoot me now...

pesha - can't you just 'date' J for a while and see what happens, live apart and still have your own spaces. That does mean though that you get most of the childcare - I don't know - lying is a problem I agree with that -oh why is he being such a tosser silly man?

Good points about the dog mamiguay. I'm torn between naturally thinking like you say but then thinking am I being lax and taking unecessary risks, however small, should I just get rid?!

Wrt your sister I'm inclined to agree with Oooggs, would be nice for you both to have some one on one time before baby arrives and also you could help her in the crappy heavily pg stage. How much help will she have after baby born, would she apprecaite you being there to help out or will she feel swamped by enough visitors already?

Have you asked her what she'd like?!

I would imagine after it will be mostly about the baby, before it will be about the 2 of you iyswim. But then newborn babies are sooooo lovely when they're not your own

He suggested that Oooggs, said once he gets his own place I can come round and he'll cook for me and he's asked me if I'll go out for a meal with him. Said he wants to do all the things we should have done at start of our relationship instead of just getting drunk, shagging and then getting me knocked up! (I've added the insted of... bit btw, I'd have slapped him if he said that! )

It makes it alot harder to stay cross with him when he's being so sweet

Evening all!

You lo have been way too chatty! I did lurk earlier, but K kept pressing on the buttons.

Eddas, am delighted about your dd getting in to the scholl you wanted. It must be a huge relief.

SPB, oh no, poor T and poor you. Not what you need. Can you perhaps delay going back to work. I am sure they would understand. I would. I don't think I would be able to concentrate on anything if I knew K was poorly. I would also be waiting for the phone to ring for me to collect her. Your call obviously.

Pesha, God your life is complex isn't it??? Sherborne is lovely. My brother went to school there. Oooggs idea re " dating " J again sounds like a good plan. One day at a time. Re your dog, I have no idea as have never owned a dog. Our cats lash out occasionally if they are provoked, but I know it would not be to the same extent as a dog.

Maveta, hope you are ok. Grrr to dh being away soon.

Dippy, how are you flower? Did your dh recover ok from his migraine. Can't believe he is away again. Love to you. x

MJ, yuk to the leaky nappies! Hope F is better soon. I have had to buy quite a few pairs of new trousers for K, as when we were away and she was poorly, I just threw them away! Couldn't face trying to wash them!!

Luce, lovely to see you. Your life sounds exhausting

Liath, bI am so sorry. I meant to congratulate you on your dh's new job. Fab news And to the talk of baby no. 3!

Oooggs, glad the dt's had a better day at nursery.

NL, sounds like you had a really lovely day with B. Hope the house viewer turns out to be the buyer of your house!

Brain now emptied!

Well, B seemed ok this morning, so she went to school. We overslept really badly. Didn't wake up until 7.45. I hadn't set the alarm and B was obviosuly knackered. Had to be out of the house by 8.30!
B not ok - had the runs again (sorry for tmi) this evening. So, I guess I really shouldn't send her to school. I am supposed to be at work tomorrow as well. I hate trying to balance work and home - I feel guilty whatever I do iyswim.

How is everyone else.

xx

thanks, yes I think that´s what I want to do too. While teeny babies are very scrummy, the hormonal and stressed, wild eyed parents that they tend to come with (speaking as one very recently ) aren't so much.

My sister raised the doubt as she really wanted to get out here asap to see N although it was when he was 6 weeks old in the end. I so wasn't bothered as we were just on another planet... yeah I think maybe I'll go before, 2 months' old IS still really small and they won't be up for visitors no matter what they think now [evil cackle]

Pesha - that sounds like a good plan re. a bit of time apart and spending more 'quality' time together when you can. Build up the trust again and all that.

Oooggs - yay to babies in bed

great update SOL, sorry about the grotty bum, hope she feels better soon.

your summary reminded me that I hadn't said YAY!!!! to Eddas really pleased for you

Maveta I agree with Pesha and Oooggs. I think it would be lovely to have time with your sis and then see the lo when they come and visit you.

Meant to say, it appears we have reached the separation anxiety stage. Had to do a bit of the old cc with K this evening, and dad had to rock her to sleep for her afternoon nap today. Boo hiss!

We need a new thread....

Maveta, I aim to please!!!

Dh due back soon. He has been away since Friday morning. Sounds awful, but I haven't missed him that much. Life is just so busy to think about missing people. Although I missed K terribly last night

new thread here

SOL - he caught the plane ok this time then

We do need a new thread - has anyone 'seen' POTC? Hope she's ok.