April 2007 - Onwards and Upwards, with a new catch up thread to help us keep up!

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we've missed our bins being emptied
what happened to adding a day on when there's a bank hol in the week

how was last night spb?

don't think they do that anymore spb. They just don't collect if your collection is on a bank holiday day. Never did make sense to me the adding a day

sorry spb - they don't do that down here anymore either. Must go get dressed! See you later - more holiday club today!

*&^%$$ GMM has suggested calling the council, it's worth a go. PLus they come at about 7am and they don't come in the lorry so you don't even hear them
Night not too bad thanks, he was difficult to settle, was like that until 11, i assumed the worst, bt he then slept until 5 and came in with us! and in his defence he doesn't have blinds so the sun mighthave woken him.
How's your DS's lip this morning?

Morning!

Runny - what an awful fright for you all, glad he is on the mend.. xxx

WCL sorry I wasn't around to wish leo a happy birthday but hope he did have a very lovely one indeed.

Haven't got the strength to bore you all too much re. my night, I'm boring myself with it these days. suffice to say SPB and I have psychic children . I know I keep saying I'm stopping night feeding/ doing cc and then chickening out but this is it now. We have officially Had Enough. Although it's more like Octo's patented 'uncontrollable screaming' than cc. Last night took 2.5 hours, he's exhausted today and desperately needs a nap but has been crying, not crying, kicking his cot, playing with his musical toy etc for 30mins now

And breeeeeeeaaaaaaathe.

Who said going back to work full time would be a bad thing

there should have been a line between that bleeped out swear word and GMM! Looks like I was cursing her.
NL, enjoy the holiday club

oh no maveta
i hvae to say on the night we did uncontrollable screaming we shut both doors and then lay in bed, DH cursed and I cried

Oh Maveta - you poor thing - it is tough. Ernie cried for 1 hour the first night, then 20 mins then 10 and he has been sleeping through for weeks now. If he does wake up now - I tend to leave him or if he sounds bothered I will go and give him a cuddle. I don't feed him anymore. It has made a HUGE difference to family life so is worth perservering if you have the nerve

Hope W and Runny are better this morning.

Pillock - oooh - it sounds serious with sofa man

Pesha - we have parents evening next weds - should be quite interesting - Stan is doing great at reading but his maths needs pushing and I think they don;t give him enough. His listening skills are truly terrible but he always behaves well. Ted is a mystery - not really sure what is going on with him - he seems happy and people say he is bright but not seeing it in his progress tbh.

SPB - hope the nights get better soon.

Oh spb

Hey all
Just popping in to say I've sent round an e-mail with some sad news. My best mate died yesterday and I wanted to let you know. I know I'm in and out on the thread, but I appreciate your support.

Also, thanks for the e-mail about Runny and W. So glad he is on the mend xx

%"%£%$&£*&^$%£$"£!!!!!!!!!!

well he's up again. This is the bit I just don't understand. He was crying for 40mins with no sign of giving up so I've just got him up again. How long are you supposed to fight it?

SPB - Yup, our bedrooms are seperated by a thin partition wall so even with the doors shut you can hear everything. Tonight we're going to bring the duvet through to the sofa and just watch a dvd/try to sleep and just leave him to it. I am so over this.

Yesterday he slept 1.5 hours all day (compared to his usual 2.5-3hours) then very broken sleep obviously but probably a total of 9 hours compared to his usual 11. Now he's late for/missed his morning nap. He has eyebags down to his chin

oh eca! I am so so sorry to hear your news .

Oh Eca deepest sympathies to you and your friend's family xxxxx

Maveta - he sounds really overtired - you will be doing him a real favour if you a harder on him - Ernie was the same and was refusing to sleep during the day - since we sorted the nights out he has 2 x 2 hour sleeps aswell.

octo - but what do I do now? Should I put him back down for a nap and just leave him as long as it takes for him to fall asleep? Please help, I feel so lost!

I know it's only fair to him for us to be stricter as well. I do feel we've done the right thing for him and us up til now with night feeds and responding to him when he wakes etc. but now I think it's enough and time to draw a line. I am pathetic but luckily dh is stepping up to the challenge and took charge of most of the checking on him last night. I will stay awake with him for moral support but tbh best if I don't go in because I cave and I'll just end up confusing him which isn't fair on him.

eca, I've emailed you, so sorry to hear your news.
Maveta, in your position I woiuld be in the place I was the other night and have decided that it's not working
Have you tried no cry sleep solution? I haven't but have heard really good things about it? Can you get it, or do you want me to send it to you?
...blind leading the blind....

Oh Eca, how awful. Thinking of and praying for you and your friends family.

Well the Birthday Girl has gone off to the childminders for a morning's playtime, then back here at 12.30 for hopefully a nap (but yesterday had no nap at all all day ) and then her little friends coming at 3.00 for tea.

Happy Birthday to Lola and Zed too, and to Tiana too if Bubblez is lurking anywhere! This time last year I was lying in the hospital (having finally arrived there with O in tow) with a huge grin plastered across my face!

Feeling very chirpy at the mo, because I just might have another job sorted which would be the answer to all our problems!

Maveta - I was you 3 weeks ago - was at end of my tether tbh and decided enough was enough and needed to take control!

If he is clearly tired - take him up, shut curtains, give him cuddle, put him in blanket/grobag - say night night and leave. You can then go either two ways - leave him to cry and he will fall asleep himself or go in, put him back down and repeat step 1!

sorry x post
I know you're right but it is sooooooooo hard
The other night I was considering (more than semi seriously) divorcing DH - at least that way I'd only have to worry about the effects of this on me Obviously that was stupid but in the middle of the night at the end of your tether you do think some mad things.

Morning all!

Guess what I am doing .....!!?

no spb, thanks so much, but I think we've decided that we need to just pick an approach and stick with it. We are so indecisive that we could be here for months chickening out of one thing and trying another, resulting in an increasingly confused and insecure baby. Although cc (or uncontrollable screaming) really goes against my instincts (I'm sure it does for most people) I do think it's the only thing that will work at this stage. Any approach that goes softly softly and encourages gentle withdrawal just seems to feed his desire for attention and stimulation and these times.

I did feel better this morning seeing he was still his usual smiley self.

He's still awake - what do I do???!

Happy Birthday to all the 27th babies

SPB - it is really hard - my dh wouldn't leave him so I did it when he was working away

Is he in his cot?

Dippy - a pg test??????????????

Leave him alone. He knows you love him - he'll love you more when he;s had a good sleep.