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Jan '07 part 21: Rock a bye baby on the tree top; Now that they're 1 when's the tiredness stop??

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2happy · 17/01/2008 20:19

(Not that all of them actually ARE one yet, but let's not split hairs...)

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ladytophamhatt · 31/01/2008 20:19

Right, girls I need to ask you all a question. Please answer it totally honestly. it'll be a long post so bare with me.

Me and Dh are/were TTC. I was dead set aginst the idea at first but it was Dh who was broody this time so it was nice surprise as ist always been me before(except with ds4-he was unplanned as you know). We deceided to try when we wee in the new house but once we'd moved Dh changed his mind. I was a bit miffed because after being against the idea but changing my mind he left me wanting another while he didn't IYSWIM.

So here we are now and he changed his mind back so we were TTC. For all of 3 days.

Now, we've both kind of thought about it and are having a wobble. I don't relish the idea of being PG again, in fact the thought terrifies me, but I would go through it again because...well....the reward is worth it atthe end, isn't it? and I can't help feeling that this would be my last chance to have a daughter.

we have enough room for another baby as ds3 room is enormas, bigger than ours in fact, so 2 could easily share in there. we have enough space in the car and can affort another one.

BUT is TTC to possibly get a girl wrong?

I know, without any doubt at all that if we had another boy I would love him and adore him as much as the rest. I think I would sad that a ds5 wasn't a dd1 but I know that when it comes to it, it really doesn't matter because after finding out ds4 was aboy at his 20 wek scan and being so gutted, I just adored him from the moment her arrived...I didn't care one bit that he was a boy and not a girl. I felt more love for him at birth then I did for any of the others, he is everything I've ever wanted and 10,000,000 times more...so because of that I'm not sure if I'M TTC a girl or another baby regardless of it's sex.

I think Dh is happy to go along with what ever I want, but he worries about the time he/we gets to spend with the bigger ones when there are smaller ones to worry about too. But then I think that the older ones would be thrilled to have another baby in the house, they love George so much and I really don't think it would be a hardship on them...plus they don't stay little forever as we're all seeing now with our 1year olds.

God, I can't believe I;m asking you all this. I know the thread isn't a private thread and anyone can read it on MN but I thought i'd ask you lot first before I think about starting a thread to ask everyone.

Oh and all this could be pointless anyway because I might be Pg already.

ladytophamhatt · 31/01/2008 20:20

Don't actually thionk I asked any questions in all that.

But what would you lot do if you were me?

laughalot · 31/01/2008 20:25

Try again xx

ladytophamhatt · 31/01/2008 20:45

LOL, that simple eh, LaL??

Can you give me a 5 paragraph essay on why we should because its going around and around in my head on fast spin...

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katierocket · 31/01/2008 20:59

LTH - you're trying for another one wow, I'm in awe . NO of course it's not wrong, if it was a boy you'd still love him. and who knows...

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ladytophamhatt · 31/01/2008 21:05

PCF, thats exactly what I'll think....

I can't help feeling that if we don't do it now (well, not literally right now ) then in 2,3,4, year time we'll look back and regret it because the time will have gone, our lives will have ,oved on soooo much that going back to the baby stage would be really hard. If we have another one now it'll all be done and finished with.

But then we 4 is easy (for us anyway), its simmetrical(sp?), they all have their own room....would one more tip the balance to far.

ladytophamhatt · 31/01/2008 21:07

KR, at your in awe-ness....

Wilkie · 31/01/2008 21:18

LTH - have you read thea Choose The Sex of Your Baby book by Hazel Chesterman-Phillips? I have it and it makes a lot of sense re TTC a girl - I don't mind posting it to you if you want to borrow it.

Don't TTC just for the sake of it. If you really want another LO boy or girl then go for it. If you are really doing it to try and get a girl, after 4 boys, I would seriously think long and hard about it.

Let me know if you want to borrow the book

xxxxxx

MrsCarrot · 31/01/2008 21:21

I think it sounds like you both want to but your wobble is over practicalities. One of my best friends has five and life is hectic for sure but they are wonderful and there are no regrets as far as I can see.

There is nothing wrong with hoping for a girl. I would have been gutted if DD was a boy, I'll admit it, but it would haave been short lived, of course I would have loved him but I make no bones about the fact that I wanted a daughter and I thought I was only having two children but F had other ideas.

ladytophamhatt · 31/01/2008 21:27

If I'm honest, in my heart we are TTC for a baby girl.
In my head I know it really does't matter whether is a boy or girl so are we doing it just fro the a girl or because we actually want another baby.

that my head hitting the desk!

This is all Georges fault, if he wasn't so bloody gorgeous....

Wilkie · 31/01/2008 21:30

So tricky. I know that in my heart I am desperate for a girl next time but I don't think I would try for a fifth if I had four boys but that is just me. You could go on forever, just a sixth, just a seventh.

There's no rush is there? Can't you sit on it for a few months?

What about adoption or would that not fit in with your family dynamic??

MrsCarrot · 31/01/2008 21:35

well, I guess you'd have to ask if you'd try again for a sixth if the fifth was a boy. Probably not? It sounds as if you'd be alright about having five children and that you'd love haaving five boys even if you really wanted a a girl and if it was a girl then that would be marvellous.

I agree with Wilkie though, maybe think about it a bit more. Five is a lot of people and George is only a year. Unless it's too late of course then this is all academic!

ladytophamhatt · 31/01/2008 21:36

no, after any dc5 I'm being done!

Couldn't adopt, I'd end up with about 15 more.....

Wilkie · 31/01/2008 21:37

What is your heart telling you to do?

ladytophamhatt · 31/01/2008 21:44

My heart is telling me that I should have another one because it will be a girl.

My heart is saying "You stupid cow...you can't choose"

Wilkie · 31/01/2008 21:45

If you DO decide to TTC. I really really think you shoudld read the book - it is only increasing your chance of having a pink one! Nothing to lose.

ladytophamhatt · 31/01/2008 21:50

I'll go to the library tomorrow and get it out.

The 3 day of TTc were at tye end of my period, just before I ovulate...actaully should be getting signs of it now. Thats text book pink baby making IIRC.

Reggiee · 31/01/2008 21:52

LTH I get the impression you really want another, and a dd would be the cherry on the icing on the cake. Go fer it!

MrsCarrot · 31/01/2008 21:53

yes, you're meant to stop a couple of dys before ovulation aren't you, as the girl sperm take longer to get there?

I think there are dietrary things as well, vinegary for one, acid or alkaline, I can't remember which.

Wilkie · 31/01/2008 21:57

Pink Ones

DH should have hot baths/showers and wear tight boxers. Have sex no closer than 4 days to ovulation then stop. If you don't fall pg reduce the time by a day but no closer than 2 days before OV - in a nutshell
But you have to be REALLY sure of your OV day

ladytophamhatt · 31/01/2008 21:59

Rather TMI but I knwo when I OV because of the gross egg white mucus that gribbles out of my fango.

I just know you wanted to know that....

Wilkie · 31/01/2008 22:01

Me too although I get it twice - 5 days apart. Does that mean I might end up with twins??????????????? ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

Reggiee · 31/01/2008 22:05

wilkie are you ttc too? Just some of your recent posts......