March 2007-Today our babies will mostly be eating.............

[KITTYmaspudding]

ok, new thread, old one full!!

oops when will be next week, have to leave 1 week after osteo

kitty-did you get some ad's?

bethoo-strong?no,i just get tired of hearing the same crap year after year.i used to feel sorry for him but now i just think hes a pathetic twat.

dh is agoraphobic.its something i find really hard to comprehend as im the exact opposite.i do get anxious sometimes when its crowded in tesco but its nothing compared with the anxiety i feel when i am stuck at home.i have to go out every day,even if its just to the fag shop.last time dh went out and i was in the house on my own(a rare occurence)i had a panic attack.thats why i used to drink heavily of an evening when i was on my own.

somehow i manage to be rational about the prospect of harm coming to us outside.
bethoo-i dont blame you for not wanting your parents to take hayden all the way to cyprus.i would be wary of that also.

elsie was whinging as she'd finished her tea so i gave her half a crunchie

Piffle... sorry you aren't feeling great. The holistic place looks amazing!! Hope it helps.

Pleased to read about your successes Kitty - everything being ok down below and Ronnie's neck??

Have you contacted the reporter Rosy? The trouble I have is knowing that a change in behaviour is causing something.

I have to say that I am very much a comfort zone person too. I like familiarity and security. It's amazing how much paranoia the Madeline McCann kidnapping has created and how I am doubling thinking my plans with Kate.

Hope that you got to see a doctor promptly this morning Evenhope and dd is feeling better. Don't even think about sick leave from your work - that's what it is there for!!

I need help with Kate biting. I have so many little bruises where she has nipped me. This afternoon she took off some of my skin - through my tshirt . When I try an assertive "no" she laughs . Then my stern teacher face comes out.

On the up-side... the strategies in the no-cry-sleep book are working... or at least changing my thinking about what is ok. She slept 7pm - 7am with a feed about 3am and is having her second one hour nap of the day. I haven't experienced this since she was an ickle baby .

Kiwi, I don't know what to advise about the biting, how about removing her with a sharp "no" and not giving her eye contact?
Excellent that the sleeping program is going well!

Diva, yes I'm back on the prozac syrup 2ml a day at the mo and we'll see how it goes, it usually does the trick. I did have some when Ronnie was little then the bottle ran out and I couldn't be bothered to go and get more. I thought I felt ok, but it kind of creeps up on you doesn't it? I'll take it for longer this time ( at least until they all leave home )

We had our usual problem with the GP this am. You have to ring at 8.30. Must have got through at about 8.33 and no appointments... as they won't let you book in advance where do the other appointments go? Emergency one at 10.30. Finally got seen just after 11.30. Usual story- bronchiolitis- no treatment except steam.

kiwibella I'm having the same trouble with biting. It's always very deliberate, isn't it? If I shriek she cries; if I say no she laughs. If you find the answer please let me know!
Sleeping from 7-7 is amazing

kitty I think I need ADs too (but getting to the GP to get them is another matter...)

I'm glad everyone else is worrying too. I don't seem to be able to stop

Evenhope tis the same here, but due to complaints they now have an emergency afternoon clinic too, babies and kids get priortity and it is a walk in clinic for them, they always will get seen.

Right my day has been thoroughly shiteous
Went to see HV for Finns 9 mth check - of course he is awesome but I scored up on the PND questionnaire
then I taked to HV ran through, pleurisy, miscarriage, chronic leg and back pain and she said twas no wonder, had mitigating circs, afraid to say I lost it and bawled.
She is coming back to see me in 2 wks

Then went to tescos where I was going to meet ds1 (13) (opposite his school) so he could help watch Finn and dd while I went to osteopath.
He never showed, I was at checout with milk etc and a man had an epileptic fit, right at my feet, I stood over him watched he never hit anything and that his tongue was visible, I left the trolley (finn was asleep in his carseat) and helped as you do still paramedics and staff came, went back to buy shopping and fuck me my cards had been swiped by some chancer who was seen legging it out of the store
so no money for groceries and tescos insist I put things back, had to call osteo who said you can pay later no worries.
Am going nuts at this point, so go to osteo figure ds1 has gone home (lame brain) and dd occupies Finn for me.

However halfway thru the appt, ds1 turns up in floods of tears having run the mile back to me, upset that he ahd let me down
Cue more tears....
came home and downed Baileys, ordered curry
Fark me, I can do without this.
Anyway back is a bit better after at first being much worse
Ice packs apparently

shit piffle, that's a really awful day. What a bastard stealing your cards when you were helping someone.
If there's a hell he'll be heading straight for it .
I'd have lost the plot {{{big hugs}}} to you.

Piffle that was a hard, hard day but I'm hoping it's a turning point for you and things will swing to the other extreme and be fantastic after this.

Kiwi I haven't contacted the reporter because I can't remember when he did what and what he did before etc [mush for brains]

With the biting, my niece went through a stage of this (is it a girl thing?) anyway...stopping the bite with no reaction whatsoever did the trick with her.

Kitty great to hear your bits are okay! yay!

Reverssy, how did it go?

Evenhope hope the bronchiolitis clears up very quickly.

Have you ever tried st. John's wort? Works for some people.

piffle-@the tesco thing.they should have given you the shopping for free,they can bloody afford it.

evenhope-the doctors i went to when i still lived with my mum was like that.you had to ring at 9am on the dot,but when you did it was engaged then when you got through at 9.05 there were no appointments left.i hope dd is feeling better soon

my doctors now is much better-you can book the first 5 appts of the day in advance and you can book appts with the nurse practitioner in advance.you ring at 9 for an afternoon appt or at 4 for a next morning appt.then they have emergency slots as well and will always see small children the same day.

i am going in the morning to see if she can tell me why i have now gained 12lb in 4 weeks and why i have had severe pain in the region of my right ovary for 2 days non-stop(am not ovulating).

i so hope its not the prozc causing the weight gain.i dont want to stop taking it but if i carry on gaining weight i will get more and more depressed.

Oh Piff that is so horrible - what an utter shit that idiot must be!!!

Morning everyone!
Diva - you make me smile with your candidness. i am finding it hard what with he now has a lump on his testicle and is convinced he has cancer, then started going on about may not be albe ot have more kids towhich i replied you did not want anymore towhich he replied i did but then you decided you did not want to be with me anymore. Could you perhaps have a cyst on one of your ovaries causing weight gain and pain? . yes this thing with Madeleine has made me more paranoid but then it is happening all over every day what peopel do to children and it worries me that if they take him it is out of my control. i mean when my mum made up Haydens cot before he was born it had a bed sheet over the bottom sheet iykwim and then a duvet! not only that he was head at the top of the bed! so you can see my concerns!
Kiwi - that is good news about the sleeping, bet you wish you had bought the book sooner?? so what is the secret of good sleep9ng patterns?
Piffle - poor you, maybe seeing the HV was a blessing in disguise as you obviously needed someone to talk to, though we are all here for you it is nice ot have some real shoulders to sob on. i cannot beleive that Tescos would make you put stuff back, in that frame of mind what with the rest ofthe day i would not have been surprisd if you had thrown a hissy fit in there as i would have! anyway i would have leftthe trolley there!
Evenhope- sending hugs your way for little one.

Bethoo... what I have learned from the book is confidence that what I am doing is ok!! Also, basic sleep facts like a baby's sleep cycle which includes lots of awakenings (times when we would roll over or pull up the covers and go back to sleep). So, atm, I am constantly listening and as soon as she stirs I am ready to go in and comfort her back to sleep - either by cuddling her or stroking her in bed. She has become happier to be in bed and easier to go back to sleep... a usual half hour nap has stretched out to an hour and a half. I don't really like the author's writing style but it has been very helpful so far.

phew... a wee novel .

Piffle ... thank you for staying with the person having a fit - that is very kind. I'm sorry that some shit took the opportunity to take your purse.

Bless your wee man coming back in tears. He is such a sensitive soul. Glad that you had a good cry too - sometimes it really helps.

Evenhope you sound like you need them!! Is your dd better today?

Bethoo that is classic emotional blackmail from your ex, next step is him threatening suicide.
But if he has real feelings for you he may be a bit screwed up and if you really don't want him it would be kinder to make a clean break...easier said than done though!

Oh btw I did not put the stuff back I told them very sorry but I cnanot cope with doing that, I have one lsot teenager, one hungry baby and one sad but understanding 5 yr old dd who saw her sweeties being taken away because mummy could not pay.
So I walked out and vowed to go to Sainsburys from now on! OR Lidl or Aldi or sod em all the way out to Waitrose...
osteo cannot work on my back til inflammation is down so ice packs 6 x day, she will try and do more next week.
tis ok for now, feel better knowing I'm on to it and feel better for outburst with HV as well, she really is very lovely. I'm lucky.

Finn as erratic as ever last night [wtf] 7 8.30 10 11 12.30 awake at 6am

Anyway must oh must get on to this housework a little bit, tis a true dump. Not sure I cna manage the hoovering, but I can do something I'm sure.

bethoo at exp he is playing you like a mandolin...

kiwi - it must be exhausting work waiting up for little cries. last night little man was flaked and when he went to bed he did nto wake up. i out it down to the factthat he did not have an afternoon nap. we usually lie in my bed together for a couple of hours but yesterday i thought i would try not to, hell i am a 30 year old woman i should notbe snoozing like a baby! so obviously because i did not he did not though he was whingey at half 7! he was fast asleep before nine. though he woke at 6 came into bed wiht me and i slept with a baby hanging on to my boob!

Piffle - i know, it is awkward as i want to move on but part of me is finding it hard ot let go. i do love him but see that there is no real future for us and cute guy from Reading is coming down next month! but that is not the reason it is over, i just get angry at the way he treat me the past 2 years, virtually abandoning me when i was pregnant. the lies etc. he seems to think htat just because he has realised he loves me i can accept that and start as new. where was he when i was besotted by him?? itell you, when i was 7 months pregnant and had had a row wiht my parents saying i would spend chrimbo with my loving partner {yeh right} he instead spent the christmas eve with his psycho ex so i jsut cant forget all this! please do not get me started as you know i could write a book on my rants but i love him! but not enough to be with him! ykwim (i hope!)

Bethoo, I think trust is an important part of love and your trust has been broken.
If you love him it might be worth giving him a second chance to rebuild your trust in him and take it slowly. Would be more positive to aim high and don't let the relationship bring you both down.
Is he up to growing with you do you think? Of do you love him like you love your doggies and don't have the heart to 'put him down'???

Rosy - i think i feel soft towards him right now as he is always blubbing and now he is convinced he has testicular cancer ,will call him soon as he had emergency app at 11. if i got back with him it woudl be outof pity which is wrong. i guesss i just need time to think about the past 2 years. i am so sorry for takign about him as i know you are all right about lettign him go and i know i should, it is just hard, kind of used ot having him around, another wrong reason i know!! i am an idiot!

either way bethoo it will be giving him a very confusing message if you are still sleeping with him etc. You have said you don't want to be with him but you're behaving as if you still want to be with him iyswim! I think it would be fairer to make your mind up properly. Either dump him or give it a go.

Rosy 0 are you still reading htat thread about hte poor woman who gotthe shock of her life when her husband called her bucket fanj?? i bet that was a shock! bless her, she sounds so paranoid now!

Bethoo I'm sorting her out too! I have a headache today, I should sort myself out and stop poking my nose in everyone elses business all morning!

bethoo - he's always going to be your ds's daddy so you're always going to be involved on some level with him..

i suppose what i would be wary of is him screwing things up for you in the future if you were to meet someone that you wanted a proper relationship with... I've seen that happen to a couple of my friends in rl.

hope he is ok after his appointment though

evenhope - hope your lo recovers soon

piff - that is a mad and bad day you had yesterday... dear god there are some bastards in the world . Hope your back improves with all the ice

kiwi - no advice about biting either... Samuel went through a phase of doing it whilst feeding but didn't have the amount of teeth he now does so it was never too bad. I would just second what kitty says... put her down quickly away from you and don't look at her. Glad the sleep programme is working for you... I was like that... rushing in whenever he stirred as didn't want him waking the others up... once you learn to relax and realise it's ok to let them grizzle once in while you begin to feel much happier about the whole sleep issue.

kitty - how is your electronic pf exerciser? I didn't know there were such things!!! Might be worth an investment!

rosy - how are you feeling today? Not suprised people aren't feeling much like going out... hardly inviting out there is it? Just got soaked coming back from town - plus tried to find a nice top in the sales as am out for dinner tomorrow and cos i'm still bfding - everthing looked ridiculous... and why is it that all shop assistants are slim and trim and young and lovely and happen to be wearing the thing you just tried on in the changing room that didn't fit you?