Babies due September 2021

[FTEngineerM]

WE HAVE ARRIVALS 🥳🥳
Since we’ve had babies arriving I thought we could have somewhere to carry on after the babies are born and we tackle our new mum lives

I hope I tag everyone but ones arrived so far:
@kat1112025
@kirky685
@sillysocks998
@jay3004

And everyone else when your bundles of joy arrive:

@Noodles4Me - 26th Aug 💙
@Scotti84 - 30th Aug 💖

@Sceptre86 - 1st 💖
@primhutch - 1st 💖
@RaeRae84 - 1st 💙
@KHR1 - 1st 💙
@CherylLW - 3rd 💙
@GWhiteley - 3rd 💖
@deedeebythesea - 3rd 💙
@Allicit - 3rd 💙
@Poppins2016 - 4th 💛
@2021mumma - 5th 💙
@Squibble84 - 6th 💛
@leftitlate37 - 7th 💙
@SillyBry - 7th 💛
@LouiseJayne23 -7th 💖
@bewitchingnight - 8th 💖
@SK28 - 8th 💛
@Taralweaver - 8th 💖
@AdventuresAwait - 9th 💖
@mumof23188 - 9th 💙
@Bubbles1st - 10th 💙
@Catkin7 - 10th 💖
@FTEngineerM - 12th 💙
@CobleCloud - 13th 💙
@Maybebaby29 - 14th 💙
@Taybz - 14th 💙
@Bigdreamer9 - 14th 💙
@Eppy123 - 14th 💛
@Newmum110 -14th 💛
@Hopefulmummie - 16th 💖
@Mamabearwhere - 17th 💙
@HollyMoore - 17th 💖
@aurora2021 - 18th 💖
@Bluespace - 18th 💙
@ErrolFinn - 19th 💖
@xsjrx - 19th 💛tbc
@unicornpower - 20th 💖
@Moominmiss - 20th 💙
@Sophieandtiger - 20th 💛
@bluemagicalsky - 21st 💙
@Clouless - 21st 💛
@Suma2021 - 21st 💙
@SP2Bx - 22nd 💛
@Geegee20 - 22nd 💙
@Holly91 - 22nd 💛
@Rach921 - 23rd 💙
@LittleCatDog - 23rd 💖
@SproutingSprout2021 - 24th 💛
@LittleAurora -24th 💙
@RadDarwazeh - 25th 💛
@crobo87 - 25th 💙
@d0nut - 25th 💖
@GummyBear91 - 25th 💖
@AdriannaP - 25th 💛
@MrsTD88 -27th 💖
@MrsBrett20 - 27th 💛
@marshmallowmode -27th 💙
@Mrssernalewis - 28th 💛
@ams92 - 30th 💖

@leftitlate37 BF is such a minefield isn't it.
I made a 2oz bottle of formula after 3 short BF in a row (he fell asleep with each one after about 15 minutes) and him still crying and he downed it all. Before I managed to get him to latch he was having 1-2oz of formula every few hours

Could have written this myself @KHR1!!! Had just that this arvo...did 3 bf with him falling asleep after each and soon as move...he was crying so popped him back on. Crying at the end which was over hour later and he had a bottle and settled. We r kinda sticking with our feeding plan from.hosp but not entirely n think we just need 2 else getting confusing. They'd suggested 30 min max bf then a bottle. We r trying to freestyle but think Need to stick with it.

@Squibble84 that’s good to know they worked for you. I’m really hoping they help him as I hate seeing him in pain.

I’m putting him in a sleepsuit and sleeping bag most nights but the last few nights where it’s been hot I’ve been using a cellular blanket instead of the sleeping bag.

Someone asked me today about a routine for him, I don’t feel like I have much of one at all!! When should you start that? I can’t imagine as he sleeps so much

We made it home yesterday after being in for 8 days! So nice to be back in our own surroundings and in my own bed

Hi ladies, I was rubbish with keeping up with the other thread I’m more active on the fb 🙈
My baby girl Niamh was born on 10th via C Section and last night was our first night home and oh my goodness it was overwhelming!
I’m formula feeding and I think I may have to try her on faster flowing teats as she doesn’t seem to be getting the milk quick enough and she’s getting sleepy/dozing off whilst sucking.

She also didn’t really like her crib and was pretty much up and down all night. I just keep reminding myself and my other half that she’s just new here and we’re all just getting to know each other but people with newborns/previously children PLEASE give me tips and let me know if it gets easier?! X

@scotti84 @khr1 nipple shields here too. Although I am basically exclusively expressing and feeding by the bottle. I just can't cope with the added anxieties of breast feeding properly. Occasionally between feeds she will pop on for a snack but I sorry about her getting enough to eat. Think it's a throwback from the time in hospital where she had to eat a specific amount every day. DH back to work tomorrow, not sure how I'm going to cope.

Does anyone else's little one 'spit up' a fair amount?

same here @MrsMcNtobe!ours isnt a fan of the crib really! really hard to settlehim, just wants to be on us! friends a few weeks ahead of us assure me it gets easier and are now getting stints of like 8pm til 1am and then a feed, and then another solid few hours!! its so hard tho isnt it. sleep deprivation is BAD.
@Kirky658 what r u using to express? ive got a medela pump and find it USELESS! loving the suction of the haakaa and thats all i can get to work! some days get like a mL but today got a good 30mL from both. I couldnt rely on only expressed.
youll do great when DH back, its really stressful tho isnt it worrying about it. does he WFH?
glad you doggo is happy! ours are gradually getting used to the new addition!!
ours spits up a bit with formula but not breast milk.

@leftitlate37 I've got the single medela swing flex 2. It's decent enough but not as good as the symphony I used in hospital. I tend to let it initiate for the 2 mins then run the expressing cycle for 15 mins or so on each side. I tend to get about 150ml in the mornings then consistently 80ml a time during the day, expressing 7 times a day. Unfortunately DH is a teacher so will be out from 7am till 6pm. Have my parents up the road so will deffo be visiting them!

@leftitlate37 that’s really reassuring! The main thing I’m trying to do is keep our mood up because the last thing I want to do is bicker with my other half because we’re tired.
My friend is currently doing her nursing placement on a maternity ward and said they swaddle and then place a towel over them to make them feel secure and I remember them doing that with her when she was born, my friend just said be careful of how many layers they have on when doing this. I’ll maybe give it a try later today and let you know if we’ve had any luck xx

@crobo87 I’m so happy for you that you’re home!!

@MrsMcNtobe it does get easier I promise! Leo was really unsettled last night too - he cluster fed from 7pm - 2am, I was wrecked by the end of it, I forgot how intense bf is at the beginning! 😫 swaddling can help them to feel settled in the crib, putting a t-shirt with your smell on underneath the baby can also work.

I’m also panicking about DH going back to work next week. I don’t know how I’m going to manage with my 2 year old, the baby and my c-section recovery!

We struggled with getting Lilly to sleep in the crib too, my midwife said its cos she's come from a safe datk cramped place and now shes in a huge space and shes scared. We put a rolled up duvet at the bottom of the crib and bought a couple of swaddling blankets, they settle her loads and after about 3 days she got used to it. We do shifts now, so we all go to bed at about 9, shes changed and fed, and I sleep til about 3, then we swap, I'm then awake the rest of the night and DH sleeps til 9. Its not loads of sleep but we weren't functioning trying to do it together. I express milk for the feed I miss so DH gets to feed her too. Its prob not for everyone but it's working for us.

They told us in the hospital to forget trying to establish a routine until after the first 6 weeks, I'm that time she just needs to feed as she needs and grow and we need to rest and recover and concentrate on giving baby what she needs.

Anyone else randomly bursting into tears at nothing?

The bursting into tears thing - definitely!! I’d forgotten how much I don’t actually enjoy the newborn phase, it wasn’t until DD1 started smiling, giggling and interacting with us that I relaxed as I knew she was developing fine, I worry so much in the early days about every little thing - their breathing, are they feeding/pooping/weeing too much or too little, are they too hot/too cold!! 🙈

@Squibble84 glad you said that! Yeah, this is my first time but this newborn bit sucks. It's already putting me off doing this again.

Got to keep reminding myself it's only day 24!

@Squibble84 when you used optibac before how long did it take to notice any difference? I’m really hoping it makes a little difference for him 💙

@Noodles4Me I was so sure after DD1 that I was never doing it again that I gave away loads of her baby bits that we’ve had to buy again this time! 😅 it wasn’t until she turned around 6 months that I started thinking maybe I’d like to give her a sibling.

@CherLW I can’t remember how long it took sorry, I don’t think it took long! I didn’t start giving it to her until she was around 6 months old though.

@Squibble84 thank you 😊 I’ll keep my fingers crossed it’s not too long 😊

I know it’s been mentioned on here quite recently but I am so emotional, especially later on in the evening. I get so upset by sometimes nothing in particular. I know hormones must be all over the show but I’m wondering how long this can go on for… Anyone through and overcome the emotional side?

I have a few things that worry me which I’m currently adjusting too but I’m so teary a lot of the time

@CherLW, not through it but wanted to say that I'm also really emotional at the moment too xx

@AdventuresAwait I hope you’re doing ok x
It’s so hard to be so emotional and for it sometimes to be for no real reason. I’m hoping it won’t be long and things will settle down xx

@CherLW im normally not very emotional, im more a deal with stuff internally and get on with it kind of person, but my god, atm i just cry all the time! And for small things! I cry when DH hugs me, because i miss having time for us, then i cry because i feel guilty for thinking like that, then i cry because im tired, or because i'm happy, or because i worry i'm not good enough for Lilly or im doing something wrong, or because she looks so happy after a feed, etc etc... its insane!

I’ve been so emotional as well - the hardest thing for me has been that DD can’t understand why I can’t pick her up and cuddle her and she keeps having meltdowns! I can’t wait until my section scar has healed enough to cuddle her properly! 😭

How’s everyone’s post-birth bleeding? Mine had tailed off but I’ve had some more bleeding the last couple of days - I can’t remember if this is normal or not!

I'm super emotional but it's like I'm literally fine one minute and the next I'm crying. Dp still thinks it's funny which usually makes me cry more 🙈

I try to stop the tears but he just looks at me and knows the face and says you're not gonna cry are you and I'm like no of course not.... followed by a flood of tears.

My bleeding has also tailed off but then it can suddenly be heavier which the midwife said is linked directly to how much I'm doing, which does add up for me, so when I've gone out with the dogs or pram or tried to do some tidying up.

Definitely wouldn't feel confident without a pad for a while even though it's mostly only when I actually wipeZ

Yes I'm fine most of the time, pretty relaxed and feeling good & then just get emotional about something!

@Squibble84, my bleeding stopped for a couple of days and then I had some on and off. Seems to have stopped again at the moment. I'm not sure for how long it might stop and start? Does anyone know? Xx

@Scotti84 I’m the same, it could be anything. I usually keep things bottled up too and never really cry.

I keep thinking My bleeding has stopped but then it creeps back! @Bubbles1st that’s interesting you say that as I thought mine had gone and the other day I was carrying the car seat and strained a bit and then suddenly I felt like I was bleeding and the pad was almost filled..

Seeing midwife tomorrow to hopefully (but also not hopefully) be discharged and will ask about the bleeding.

@Bubbles1st I'm exactly the same with the crying. My partner said to me yesterday are you going to cry, I said no and then sobbed for no apparent reason 🤣🤣

My bleeding has pretty much stopped, I'm 10 days post partum after a section.

How are night times for everyone at the moment? Last night was rough....Oscar is not being great bringing up his wind so he's not sleeping well 😴😴