Babies due September 2021

[FTEngineerM]

WE HAVE ARRIVALS 🥳🥳
Since we’ve had babies arriving I thought we could have somewhere to carry on after the babies are born and we tackle our new mum lives

I hope I tag everyone but ones arrived so far:
@kat1112025
@kirky685
@sillysocks998
@jay3004

And everyone else when your bundles of joy arrive:

@Noodles4Me - 26th Aug 💙
@Scotti84 - 30th Aug 💖

@Sceptre86 - 1st 💖
@primhutch - 1st 💖
@RaeRae84 - 1st 💙
@KHR1 - 1st 💙
@CherylLW - 3rd 💙
@GWhiteley - 3rd 💖
@deedeebythesea - 3rd 💙
@Allicit - 3rd 💙
@Poppins2016 - 4th 💛
@2021mumma - 5th 💙
@Squibble84 - 6th 💛
@leftitlate37 - 7th 💙
@SillyBry - 7th 💛
@LouiseJayne23 -7th 💖
@bewitchingnight - 8th 💖
@SK28 - 8th 💛
@Taralweaver - 8th 💖
@AdventuresAwait - 9th 💖
@mumof23188 - 9th 💙
@Bubbles1st - 10th 💙
@Catkin7 - 10th 💖
@FTEngineerM - 12th 💙
@CobleCloud - 13th 💙
@Maybebaby29 - 14th 💙
@Taybz - 14th 💙
@Bigdreamer9 - 14th 💙
@Eppy123 - 14th 💛
@Newmum110 -14th 💛
@Hopefulmummie - 16th 💖
@Mamabearwhere - 17th 💙
@HollyMoore - 17th 💖
@aurora2021 - 18th 💖
@Bluespace - 18th 💙
@ErrolFinn - 19th 💖
@xsjrx - 19th 💛tbc
@unicornpower - 20th 💖
@Moominmiss - 20th 💙
@Sophieandtiger - 20th 💛
@bluemagicalsky - 21st 💙
@Clouless - 21st 💛
@Suma2021 - 21st 💙
@SP2Bx - 22nd 💛
@Geegee20 - 22nd 💙
@Holly91 - 22nd 💛
@Rach921 - 23rd 💙
@LittleCatDog - 23rd 💖
@SproutingSprout2021 - 24th 💛
@LittleAurora -24th 💙
@RadDarwazeh - 25th 💛
@crobo87 - 25th 💙
@d0nut - 25th 💖
@GummyBear91 - 25th 💖
@AdriannaP - 25th 💛
@MrsTD88 -27th 💖
@MrsBrett20 - 27th 💛
@marshmallowmode -27th 💙
@Mrssernalewis - 28th 💛
@ams92 - 30th 💖

My boy is 3 weeks old today. He's gaining weight brilliantly. Hope he'll get those little chubby legs soon!

His cord didn't come off until day 12! He's a regular 3 hour feeder so that's my sleeping pattern 😴

Driving again which is fab! Section recovery has been good, but I've been careful.

Hope everyone is coping xx

@Kirky658 sorry to hear you're feeling the way you do, good that you have a session booked. I've made an appointment for a debrief with a private midwife to help me get my feelings out and make sense of my birth experience and scbu stay so I can get over it and stop the crying outbursts of guilt and what ifs of if things could have been different.

@AdventuresAwait I managed to get half a dozen second hand sleep suits on Facebook in the end. Not ideal but will will help for now. Lorenzo has hopefully his final weigh in today before being discharged by the midwives for his weight. He stayed the same at his 3rd weigh in at 6lb 10oz so hoping for a gain today.

We are day 8 and his cord stump fell off this morning. His belly button is so cute 😍

Yes we had forceps in our section, I didn't know until after the event. Very pleased Lorenzo only had a couple of small bruises as you see some really sore and bruises little faces sometimes.

@Bubbles1st, hoping for Lorenzo's weight to have increased today.

@Noodles4Me, sounds like you're doing amazing with your recovery!

Is anyone else on Clexane? How are you finding the injections? Xx

Sending hugs @Kirky658 and best wishes for your counselling session tomorrow. It's a massive thing emotionally but even more so when you've gone through so much. How's Alice? xx

Thanks @adventuresawait, how are you? Alice is doing great thanks, she's continuing to put on weight and is a greedy little madam 😂

@AdventuresAwait yes I have that joy too, but I've been on them since 28 weeks and need them 6 weeks post partum - also the sexy compression stockings !

@Kirky658, that's great! I'm doing OK thanks. Just heard that I need antibiotics for my wound unfortunately. Otherwise we're going well! Xx

@Bubbles1st, I find they really sting, do you? Not fun at all but I know they're important. My husband has to do it for me, I just can't do it! Little thing really so I can't complain but I dread it each day and am counting them down Xx

Hi everyone, my Alayna was a week old yesterday. She is feeding well 2-3oz every 3-4 hours and I am expressing milk for her too. I get about 2oz at a time so not much but I guess every little helps. She is quite a good baby and so far just sleeps in between feeds. This gives me time to spend with my other children. I'm taking full advantage of dh being on paternity leave and am resting as much as I can. This was my 3rd section and I know from previous experience that overdoing it in the first few weeks because I felt surprisingly well led to stitches opening and a prolonged recovery. This time around I am taking it as easy as I can.

I'm still wearing compression stocking and will be for the foreseeable as I have quite bad oedema. I find the blood thinning injections nip a lot but am thankful there is only a few more days to go. I get my dh to do them as well as I can't mange doing them myself@AdventuresAwait

Her cord is still attached but will hopefully fall off soon. I am pleasantly surprised how well she is fitting in to our family. Both her older brother and sister are really taken with her.

How is everyone's bleeding and have you had many visits from your midwife?

@AdventuresAwait sometimes they do and sometimes they don't, I find the more outer I go almost to my side the less It hurts. Sometimes it hurts so much I can't even put it in a spot and I have to move it like the needle isn't sharp enough but it is when I go somewhere else

Lorenzo has gained 20 g and has been discharged from the community Midwide Team yeah!

I am also having the injections. Because I'm still in hospital they midwives have been doing them, some hurt more than others but I have a massive bruise from yesterday's.
Oscars cord came off very early, his was off after coming out of NICU on Sunday when he was 2 days xx

Yay for Lorenzo @Bubbles1st! That's great.

Joining this thread now too! Congrats to everyone else who's moved over here on the last few days. Zach was born at 2.01am yesterday weighing 9lb 7oz.

Also on the blood thinning injections, glad I'm not the only one who can't face doing them myself, had to make DH do them for me after DC1 and he will be doing it again.

Hi all, hope everyone's getting on OK. Quick question... letting baby sleep vs changing nappy, what's best? Quite often as soon as she nods off she farts which sometimes is poop. Is it better to wake her and change it or not disturb her sleep? I obv don't want her laying in poo but waking her up is crap too

@Scotti84 if it's the start of his sleep we change it, he does sometimes sleep through a nappy change. however if he is likely to wake up soon we leave him as it helps wake him to feed him.

Lorenzo actually seems quite sensitive to a dirty or wet nappy for such a young baby so I think if we left him he would soon wake up regardless.

We get through so many nappies as we change wet ones as soon as the blue line starts to appear, the midwife said yesterday we could leave them longer as their was much more absorbing capacity left in it.

We changed it as soon as she left, not something we feel we need to do.

@Bubbles1st Lillys not mastered sleeping through a change yet... as soon as her legs are out she kicks like she's trying to join the karate team! It's been a messy fight a couple of times 😆

Ooh glad I'm not the only one ignoring my midwife! She was great before the birth, now shes just over opinionated in my eyes. I need advice not judgement. She doesn't like that i use nipple covers to breastfeed but it was hard to get Lilly to latch properly without them and she wasnt eating enough, they gave me bottles as top up in the hospital til I started with the nipple covers and it's worked great since, if it works without I'll do it, but not if it means switching to formula, nothing wrong with formula but just through personal choice.

She also got annoyed because she couldn't find my kitchen bin, in germany they should be under the sink. Well mines not, its at the end of the counter cos thats where i want it and it has absolutely nothing to do with why shes there.

Then she told me off for letting DHs parents visit, because of how dangerous covid is we should isolate for at least 6 weeks... ok, she prob has a point but this is stuff i should be told on discharge isnt it?

Thinking of telling her i dont need her anymore after the next visit.

@bubbles1st congrats on being discharged with lorenzo's weight! Great news.
@scotti84 Alice tends to poo at the end of a feed so I tend to change her. I also find if it is a dirty one all hell breaks loose after 30 mins or so and she screams! I would say sod the midwife. You have your own life now. We were advise by neonatal to ask any visitors to do a lateral flow and only let them visit if fully vaccinated which to be honest we were doing pre Alice anyway.
@khr1 congrats on baby Zach! Great weight.

I have my first counselling appt this afternoon, it's over the phone and I'm a bit nervous...

@Kirky658 how did it go? Hope it was easier as you expected and it helped you, or made a start to.

Im cautious anyway with the nieces cos theyre in school and playschool and if they pick anything up and pass it on to Lilly I'd be annoyed at myself. She's got no immune system and doesn't need to be taking risks at 1 week old, but grandparents obviously want to see the baby.

@scotti84 turns out today's appointment was more of a fact finding exercise to find out what happens when I get anxious, what I do to relax, who my support network is etc. Got my actual first session next weekend. Not really ideal as DH heads back to work on Monday, but maybe that's good as I'll have something to discuss...

Great to catch up with everything over here! Sounds like everyone doing really well despite the challenges we r all facing! We ended up with 5 day hosp stay and now been home nearly a week. Every day is so diff, yesterday I was just an absolute wreck....v tiredness induced I'm sure but bawled eyes out most of the afternoon. Also coincided with what felt like a v judgey visit from BF support woman. We r currently mixed feeding based on plan from when in hospital and struggling with Bf but it's getting easier but just annoyed with this assumption we will go exclusive bf and that it's what we should do.
Does anyone else mixed feed with formula?
We also use nipple shields blooming life saver!! Interesting to hear from those of u who have used a dummy. We pondered it as sometimes swear he can't b hungry as constant feeding but soon as u move him he's screaming.
Sounds like some of u getting good sleep stints in the night! We r struggling to get him to settle once fed...anyone else....or got any good tips?!
So glad DH has longer than 2 weeks off having spent most of first In hosp, I'm already panicking about how ill cope when he goes back to work. I used to love getting out n about but thought of straying too far from home terrifies me!!!
@Kirky658 glad you've got some counselling sorted but sorry today's session wasn't what u hoped. Meant to ask how's it going with your dog?! What do they think of Alice?

@leftitlate37 hey lovely, glad you're home! Winston loves Alice, he is always trying to lick her face which obviously we are trying to avoid 🤣 he is very protective of her already. It is strange he has calmed right down since we've brought her home and sleeps quite a lot bless him. Thank you for asking. Also keen on the dummies, Alice is always wanting to eat or so it seems, sometimes it feels it is the sucking action she is keen on. We've already got some so might give it a try. x

Hey ladies, goodness it’s been a while since I looked at our threads!!

I hope you’re all doing ok, it’s a difficult process adjusting to a lot of things!

My Jesse has had some trapped wind for about 4 days now and it breaks my heart to see him struggling. I try the ‘bicycle legs’ technique, light tummy massage, keeping him more up right during feeds etc but it’s still lingering!
Anyone have any suggestions? My friend said she used optibac probiotics for a bit with her daughter… anyone else heard of these?

Love to you all and those beautiful babies xx

It's so good to know that we're all having the same problems, crying, feeding, wind, dummies etc. I thought it was just me! Lilly gulps her milk so fast then falls asleep then wakes up and wants more, she's on the boob as I'm typing, has been for over an hr. We've given her a dummy on a night, like now she's not really drinking, she's just kind of light suckling so I think that's more for comfort and the dummy seems to work. She spits it out when she's really hungry, she knows it's not for food so I'm happy she's not getting confused.

Wind is awful, she gets hiccups too, it looks so uncomfortable for her, I just try and massage her back and stomach and calm her.

One thing I'm finding annoying is burping her, she falls asleep while feeding then burping her wakes her up, and then she wants to eat again.

We're also mixing breast and formula. My milk productions lagged a bit yesterday and today, I normally pump so DH can do a night feed and i cam sleep through but i only got 40ml yesterday, I've got fenchel tea and ginger biscuits and trying to eat and drink enough to keep producing but we bought little bottles that we were given in the hospital before my milk came in as backup. I would love to exclusively breastfeed but its more important that shes getting enough food from whatever source. I'm also on nipple guards, my midwife said they should only be used at the start but she can't seem to latch onto my bare nipple properly and it's much better with them so I'm going to keep on with it!

Hang on in there everyone. We've all got this!

@CherLW I used optibac with my first baby and they seemed to work well.

What are people dressing their babies in at night? I never know if I’m putting him in too much or too little!

@leftitlate37 @Scotti84 I'm using nipple shields too. Tried BF in the hospital but after 9 hours and still no joy of a latch, I ended up giving a bottle of formula as I just wanted him to drink something. Since getting home I've been trying to get him to latch and finally got him on for two feeds but the only way he can do it is with the shield. No idea how much he's taking but going to give some formula to top up if needed. Planning to express for some feeds so DH can be involved.

Reading your messages makes me feel better....not cos of our struggles but just cos we know all in same boat. @KHR1 that was similar...we went for a 7h period when couldn't feed , and I was just beside myself cos was terrified of him waking as meant have 2 try and BF and he was doing it for like 2.5h at a time and it was agony for me, like hit the roof painful. Eventually gave the bottle to just make sure he had something! It's so hard isn't it to know if getting enough. Mw said tho if doing the right number of wet and poo nappies then they r getting enuff. Good luck expressing. I've been struggling struggling that ,:(
@Scotti84 my mw said exactly that re the shields as did some BF woman who came round. I've now got a mental block tho and can't bear to use without as it was just so sore before had them that I cant try. When this BF woman came round she made me try without but just felt a bit forced to do what she wanted.
I'm.struggling with the pressure of feeling like need to BF but the reality of doing it is way more of a challenge and head mess than imagined. Not sure if it's come from having such a bad start to it. We went out today and I thought he needed a feed when we braved a cafe and just panicked and burst into tears. Everyone says it's meant to be a bonding experience but i feel it's the opposite.
For those of you mixed feeding, if you use formula how do u know how much to give? Its straightforward if u do 1 or other but less clear with mixed.