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Nov 2007..... Once we pop, we will not stop!!!

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sparklygothkat · 20/10/2007 14:20

I can finally start this, as someone else has had her baby.. woohooo!

SparklyGothKat - 25 Sep (8 Nov) BOY - Callum Eden
KaylaBMummy ? South Wales - 18 Oct (8 Nov) GIRL - Katie

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jetgirl · 31/12/2007 14:12

JARM - that's really kind of you, but I still have mine so don't need it. I'm sure someone elso on here will take it off your hands though!
How are you doing? xx

silkcushion · 31/12/2007 14:47

Thanks for the grobag advice.

I don't think this is a proper grobag. It is a fleecy thing which zips up and has sleeves . It didn't come with any instructions at all - so now I'm wondering if it is just like a fleecy babygro with no legs just like a nightie but enclosed (not really describing that very well am I?)

Pixiefish · 31/12/2007 16:09

is it like a sleepsuit type thing silk?

littleoldme · 31/12/2007 16:39

Just a quick hello. God kows what is happening to time these days.

I'm with you on the grobags btw. I picked one up in boots on Fr5i whcih was reduced from 18.99 to 8.99. Might be worth checking out.

Love to one and all. Happy New Year

silkcushion · 31/12/2007 16:42

yes Pixie it is like a sleepsuit. What do you think I should use it with?

Pixiefish · 31/12/2007 17:33

I'd put a vest then a babygro and I woudl use a blanket - if it's what I'm thinking it is. check baby's tummy to make sure not too hot or too cold

RGPargy · 31/12/2007 18:00

Hello LOM!

Happy new year to you too!

DanJARMouse · 01/01/2008 01:26

Happy New Year!

I think Daniel wanted to join the party, was almost 11pm before he settled tonight! Hoping he sleeps for a bit now as I havent been to bed yet!

Take care all and here's to a good 2008 (yes im slightly tipsy!)

RGPargy · 01/01/2008 01:44

Happy new year to you too Jarm!!

Ellie is still struggling to go to sleep and we're up and down the stairs like a bloody yo-yo. Aaaagghh!!

RGPargy · 01/01/2008 02:14

have given in and she is now fast asleep on my lap. she probs just missed the noise!

sarahloumadam · 01/01/2008 10:01

Happy new year everyone. Hope it's a good one for you all. Any new years resolutions? I'm too tired to think of any. My resolution is to have an afternoon nap more often!

Chocolate - I was taken by surprise at how unsettled Adam was in family party situation too. We have literally walked past a pneumatic drill before and he hasn't stirred! Anyway, been to a couple more family parties and took moses basket and settled him in one of the bedrooms. Worked a treat the first time but not last night. He was content so long as me or the DH was with him. And he was cluster feeding like mad. Good job I had a book and a bar of galaxy in my handbag!

Am bit worried about me and DH. cos we are both tired we are getting on each others nerves. he keeps making comments re lack of attention he is getting which is properly pissing me off. ah well i'm sure its quite usual for a relationship to be under a bit of strain after a baby - especially as we have just moved and then had xmas! glad it is finally 2008!

Pixiefish · 01/01/2008 10:10

sarahlou- the first year after i had dd1 was absolute hell between me and dh-we nearly split up a few times. better this time round but i think we've just got used to it aLL

DanJARMouse · 01/01/2008 10:15

sarah - sorry you and DH are having problems, but believe me, it is totally normal. This is my 3rd time, and no suprises, we are going through the same thing! Its so hard to make time for each other when these little people are so demanding!

New Years Resolution - to get through the year in one piece!

We had a really bad night last night, Daniel refused to settle at all, despite having been a dream baby for over a week. Ended up walking him around the streets at 10pm, got home, and he woke up! Finally settled at 11pm, slept through the bells and all the fireworks, woke at 3am and didnt settle back til gone 5am, then awake again at 7! DH was a star though and left me in bed this morning so Ive only been up 10 minutes!

Still shattered though and really not looking forward to a day filled with hyper kids and family. I think I might hae to take Daniel to bed later to settle him if things kick off!

sarahloumadam · 01/01/2008 10:15

i have seen a fantastic side to him he is a great dad but he has been so thoughtless sometimes re how i might be feeling. if i am up lots in the night he complains re how tired he is cos his sleep was disturbed!! what helped you and your dh pixie?

sarahloumadam · 01/01/2008 10:16

cheers jarm, it does help to know it's normal x

RGPargy · 01/01/2008 11:01

Morning everyone.

Ended up bringing DD downstairs in the end last night and as soon as I sat on the sofa with her, she was out for the count. Typical! Perhaps it's just too quiet for her upstairs in her room as when we put her in our room and go to bed, she goes off really quickly. Maybe the radio thing needs to be done again. Think she had a feed around midnight, we went to bed around 3am () and then she was awake at 4.40am, so not too bad really, although i think i should have gone to bed at midnight to appreciate that one! She woke again at 8am and has been feeding and/or fussing til about 10.20.

I'm feeling really fed up and teary today. It's probably just due to lack of sleep or summat.

As for DPs/DHs and relationships, i hate to say it but when i'm feeling tired like this, i find myself resenting DP a little, but not for anything other than the freedom he has to do stuff. For instance, he'll tell me that he's popping outside for a smoke and i'll find myself thinking "oh it's ok for you to have the luxury of doing that whenever you want!" (i dont smoke or anything, but i'm sure you know what i mean). I cant even pop to the shop without taking DD because DP is worried she'll wake up and want feeding, despite my assurances that i'd only be 20 minutes and she'd be asleep while i was out. Bah, sorry to whinge and moan. I know i am really lucky with DP and DD but sometimes lack of sleep takes its toll on your sanity (DP wouldn't know this as he is snoring away in bed...... ). Much to DP's disappointment, i cant be bothered with relations atm either. The only thing on my mind when i get into bed is sleep!!

silkcushion · 01/01/2008 11:33

RG - sending you hugs. You are allowed to feel miserable occasionally you know.

Sarah- I'm frankly amazed any relationships stay together after having a baby. You are both sleep deprived which makes you more irritable, less able to see the funny side of things and totally incapable of seeing things in perspective. You have no time for each other, no intimacy (despite some of us having tried to resume relations) and as a mum I couldn't have cared less about anything other than Megan for the first few weeks.

DH did get it both barrels when he told me he was feeling tired one morning after I'd got up all bloody night. I did scream at him "YOU'RE TIRED? YOU'RE F**KING TIRED? WTF DO YOU THINK I AM?" He hasn't said it since. In fact we refer to it as the T word now. Night before last when I was feeding at 5am I looked at him snoring next to me and wanted to kick his head in. I did tell him yesterday morning that I was fed up. He's off work for a fortnight, we are ff so there is no reason why I should do every goddamn night feed still. I was also having to do the morning 7/8am feed. He did it yesterday morning and I got an hour and a half rest. He then was fab last night by cleaning up all the mess in the kitchen from our little do before we went to bed- as he knows I would hate to face it in the morning.

Also for any of you who have read me banging on about routine - well it all went to shite yesterday - so you can ignore my evangelical preaching about it

Happy New Year to all the frazzled mummies, sex starved daddies and adorable babies

fiona76 · 01/01/2008 11:34

Morning everyone!! Happy New Year!!

We went to friends last nightand tried to settle DD in their room in a nest of pillows and blankets but she didn't want to play the game and I spent a good deal of the party up trying to settle her, feeding her etc. I guess it stopped me from drinking to much which was a good thing as I hadn't expressed anything. She did sleep for a bit after 10 but was awake again at 11.30 so I bought her down to the party and she was sweetness itself giving everyone smiles. We went outside to countdown the new year to look at fireworks and let off poppers and DH and I were wrapping her up nice and warm and missed it!! we heard 2-1 happy new year as we dashed through the kitchen!!

She immediately feel asleep and DH tried to put her back upstair but she was awake again at 12.30 so we decided to cut our losses and go home. We got home at 1am and she fed and slept feeding every 3 hours until 10.30 this morning. Hopefully she will fall back into her pattern today.

I feel quite lucky we stayed out past midnight. It was more than I had hoped with a 5 and a half week old.

Luckily DH and I are still in babymoon mode but I can totally see how things can get hard. He wants sex and although I do and we have had a few half hearted sessions its not the same because of the tiredness, baby interuptions etc. I think everyone should arrange for a friend to babysit and have a quiet night out with your partners and hubbies cause it would totally suck having to do this on your own. I don't know how people do it and I take my hat off to them.

Shame I just looked over to DD who is on the vibrating chair thing and she is sound asleep. I better put her back to bed.

RGPargy · 01/01/2008 11:45

I might go get a vibrating chair today. Do you think it will save me losing my sanity at 3am when DD is screaming from colic?

DanJARMouse · 01/01/2008 11:47

RGP - we got a vibrating bouncer, and Daniel is only just starting to sit in for more than 2 minutes before screaming - we can usually manage to scoff our dinner and then he wants out! Fisher price on in argos for £19.99

silkcushion · 01/01/2008 11:52

RG-just read yr other thread. well done for peservering with bf - it sounds exhausting - you're doing a great job

silkcushion · 01/01/2008 11:53

perservering even. is that how you spell it?

RGPargy · 01/01/2008 11:58

Thanx Silk. No idea how to spell my name at the mo, let alone perseverence!! I'm happy to continue with the BFing, but do agree that it's exhausting! I just hope that it gets better soon!

sarahloumadam · 01/01/2008 12:46

Bugger, just did long post then lost it!

Ikwym RG re feeling resentful (towards DH not LO)- you are tied to the LO especially when breast feeding. And Silk you are right, all I care about at the mo is Adam so DH's interest in "relations" etc just exasperates me (can't spell either).

Just going to read your post RG re breast feeding. I find it hard because he wants to be fed every 2 hours, sometimes more on an evening (although I do get a good 3 or 4 hour stretch at night). Just limits what I can get done. Maybe I am just trying to do too much. Must go the LO is kicking off big style.

RGPargy · 01/01/2008 13:57

Sarah - yes it is hard and very demanding but i'm sure it's all worth it. Dont try to do too much, although if you're anything like me you'll feel guilty for not doing anything but really it doesn't matter. All that matters is feeding Adam and establishing BF and your supply.

Feeling bad for resenting DP now as he's seen the state of me this afternoon when he got up and has taken DD out for a couple of hours. Trouble is, now i feel like such a bloody failure!!