Newborn support group anyone?

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Anyone else want to join me for a bit of moral support?

DC3 was born on the 28th February (so pleased he wasn't born on the leap year day!)

He doesn't like being put down so I'm pretty exhausted. DH and I are taking turns to sit up with him at night but as I'm breastfeeding, I'm having to do more. I know it's not forever though.

Milk has just come in so I'm feeling pretty emotional at the moment. Again, I know it will pass!

I'm just about to attempt to put him down in the crib, wish me luck!

Hi, how's everyone doing?!

Just realised with horror that I have missed my LO 12 week vaccinations. I can't remember my DD1 having these, I thought it was just 8 week, 16 week and 1yr. Am I going mad?!

@LolaLollypop oh no! My LG has her second lot this week, it's 8, 12 and 16 weeks then 1 year. I'm sure you can ring and get them sorted! 😊

She's smiling loads now and trying to sit up a bit when we prop her up with cushions. Doing well! Still sad not to be going out and doing things but enjoying time at home together. Also she has been sleeping for about 7-8 hours each night .. didn't expect that to happen!!

Thanks @lovesT! I'm sure I can't remember my DD having 12 week jabs too. Must have been half asleep at the time!
I'll give the docs a ring.. sure it won't matter if he's a tad late.

Glad your LO is doing well. Trying to sit already wow! My LO is really trying to roll over. He looks like a little gymnast in some of the positions he can arch himself into.
He's done a couple of long stretches but usually earlier in the evening so I'm still awaiting that elusive all night sleep!

Hi everyone

Can I ask what kind of routine you have going during the day your LO?

We have the night routine down good and my 7 week DD goes to sleep around 9 and wakes at 4 and 6 for feeds.

The day routine is a different matter entirely. She is waking up from naps after 5 mins or so and crying. She will only take longer naps in my arms. I’m spending most of the day on the sofa with her cluster feeding. I think she might be looking for comfort as she’s so overtired during the day.

Howseveryone doing? My little boy had his 12 week jabs today. Can't believe he's got so big already! Looking into seing if he has tongue tie.l at the moment. But with the lockdown everything is taking ages. Just hope this virus gets moving soon.

Hi @Lcw29. My little guy is 13 weeks now. He seems to eat non stop!! He was up about every 2hrs last night- felt like the newborn days again. Maybe it's a growth spurt or maybe because it's not he's extra thirsty but it's hard work! He's dribbling loads too so maybe a sign of teeth coming in the not too distant future?
My LO feels massive too. Doesn't really feel like a newborn anymore! It's a lovely age.. lots of smiles and gurgling. I love tickling his chubby tummy and making him laugh. Can't believe how fast 3 months has gone!

Really hoping we get to some baby groups before the end of the summer.

*hot !

Anyone else's LO suffering with dribble/sweat rash in their folds? Using lotion in neck creases etc and drying well after bath, but with this heat it's always better in the morning then back at night. Was thinking of trying metanium on it tomorrow as that's so good with nappy rash... any ideas or advice gratefully received!

@sulkysukey my LO has this quite a bit for the neck especially, I'm trying to catch the dribble more! I found sudacrem works well

Help! Have a newborn baby, in hospital after unexpected c section and cannot stand at all. Baby is asleep on me at the moment. Overwhelmed with how I am supposed to look after baby with no partner. Do I get someone to put her in cot? Stay up all night? She had cried and cried and I didn't know how to fix it. Settled for now but dreading her being unhappy again and no idea what's wrong. Any advice?

@Tambourine29 congratulations! If you need to pick up your baby or need anything, press the buzzer and get the midwife to help you. That's what they are there for. I'm guessing it's your first baby? Honestly it does get easier. If you're breastfeeding I would just offer the breast every time your baby cries as 9 times out of 10 that's what they will want! Your emotions will be all over the place so just take each day as it comes. You're doing great xxx

Thank you so much. Not seen anyone yet so don't know if they know I can't walk. First baby, yes and it's been a tough few days so low on energy

@Tambourine29 how are things going now? Did you ask a midwife for help? My hormones were all over the place after having my baby, so be kind to yourself.

Thank you, what a difference a day makes, I felt lots better after a midwife saw me and told me they would help if I buzzed. They did all the nappies and passed her to me and back. Emotions after c section ran high , thanks for your help

Not sure if anyone is still reading this thread but I could really do with some help/advice/morale. I had my first child 8 weeks ago and I've struggled a lot to adjust to life with a baby, in part I know this is my hormones/lack of sleep/change in life but mostly its her crying. She cries most of the time she is awake and not feed, its so distressing and exhausting. She is 95% of the time inconsolable and either cries herself to sleep or stops for a short time and starts again. The GP diagnosed her with colic and obviously said we just to wait it out. She is BF but I had to start using formula in the evenings becsuse shes too hysterical to feed (and taked the bottle no questions). I have tried everything - massage, cutting out dairy for two weeks, baths, gripe water, infacol, corelief, white noise, swaddling etc and while she soothes for a bit nothing has stopped her crying. Its horrendous to hear her in such distress but its also hard to bond with her when she is crying so much. The rare moments I do get are wonderful but fleeting. I know these are supposed to be phases but its so hard to see any improvement - if anything she is getting worse, now crying excessively in the morning as well as in the evening. My husband is wfh and does all he can to help out but obviously its mostly me with the baby. Family and friends are obviously unable to help much during the lockdown (and my husband is very paranoid about COVID so will not bend the rules to have anyone near her - which I ofc understand but I am at my wits end). After she screamed her way through the 6 week check up the lovely GP asked how I was and I fell apart, leading to him perscribing me some medication for PND - though im not sure if thats what I have or if the situation is just extremely hard to cope with. Is anyone else experiencing this? Do you have any advice?

Hi @Totters123 I'm sorry you are having such a tough time 💐 maybe I am on the wrong track as my baby doesn't have colic, but he went through a stage a couple of weeks ago a bit similar to this (he is now 10 weeks). Early evening I would feed him, he would doze off at the end of the feed for 10/20 mins but wake when I tried to put him down, and then I would spend an hour or so rocking him and walking round the house while he screamed and wouldn't settle until finally I would try feeding him again (he is formula fed as he refuses to breast feed 😥) We named it the 8 o'clock grump. Then one day I suddenly wondered why am I doing this to myself and started to feed, leave to sit in a bouncy chair/cot/lap/wherever he could just look around for a bit, then feed again when he got restless, and he generally then went down for a good sleep. At first I just couldn't believe he was hungry again so soon but he must have been. Something clicked at the 2 month mark and it just stopped.
Can you give a big bottle feed and feed to sleep? And give you both a chance to refresh.

Hi @Totters123

Sorry to hear you're having a hard time! I didn't have this to this extent, but my LO did have a few hours of crying an evening and could be settled any didn't seem to 'want' anything. We would try everything! We accepted that this was her normal at that time which helped a little, it can be so hard with the crying!

I think my LO may have been overtired and gradually she is napping more the day and the crying is getting better. But is also may have just been her growing out of it!

I'm sure it will get better for you, but know that's not much help! Is there are chance your other half can take a couple of days off just to give you a bit more of a break?

Hi both - thanks so much for your kind words and advice - I can see that at some stage we will have to accept she is going through something we cant understand. Its just tough when youre going through it! I have done a bottle feed to sleep which works to get her off to sleep, its more that while shes awake shes almost immediately fussy or cranky. My partner will take some off in July luckily, but until then its just me. I have tried today to make sure she isnt overtired and put her to bed earlier so hoping that might help. Thanks again for your help.

Hi Totters, I don't have a solution to your problem but have been lurking on this thread and wanted to reply as my babies both went through a phase of crying in the evenings (nothing compared to what you are experiencing) and even that was very hard.

I wonder if silent reflux could be the problem? It can be difficult to diagnose as there are no obvious symptoms.

You may also just have a very easily overstimulated baby who needs a lot of quiet time and possibly a regimented routine. We became quite fastidious about having a routine for DS with set periods of wakefulness before naps and it did help.

Other than that, I just want to say that I feel for you. It sounds so, so hard. I'm sure your online reading has already told you that colic is thought to be a neurological thing and improves for most babies at around 12 weeks. It was very gradual for us but with both babies I eventually realised that they just weren't doing it any more.

Keep going. There will be light at the end of the tunnel soon.

Id like to join, sitting here crying my eyes out as baby hasnt pooed in the last over 24 hours and gets upset at trying. Iv done the belly massage, cycling legs, cooled boiled water and nothing has worked and its breaking my heart, shes now 8 days old. Any tips welcomed 😭

@michelle292, this sounds daft but could you try taking her in the car or pram? Or putting her in a bouncy chair that has a vibrate setting if you have one? I found those things sometimes helped my boy to go. Or sometimes a warm bath. Xx

Hi @Michelle292 , hope you're doing ok- the first few days can be tough with lots of tears!

My LO didn't have as much difficulty but still struggled at times to get her poo out. There's a poo position you could can try and hold her in when she's trying to poo that might help- you hold the baby a bit more upright while still supporting their head, and bring their knees up, a bit like theyre squatting if that makes sense.