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Newborn support group anyone?

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CupCupGoose · 02/03/2020 23:21

Anyone else want to join me for a bit of moral support?

DC3 was born on the 28th February (so pleased he wasn't born on the leap year day!)

He doesn't like being put down so I'm pretty exhausted. DH and I are taking turns to sit up with him at night but as I'm breastfeeding, I'm having to do more. I know it's not forever though.

Milk has just come in so I'm feeling pretty emotional at the moment. Again, I know it will pass!

I'm just about to attempt to put him down in the crib, wish me luck!

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MamatobeFeb20 · 16/03/2020 10:00

Ive never thought much about staying in before vaccinations either to be honest @lovesT but as @CupCupGoose said, its a bit different right now.
I'm limiting myself to walks with the pram just now. Im lucky enough that we live in an area that's quite close to fields and the beach etc so its a bit easier to practice social distancing.
My toddler has already had about 34 tantrums because we've not left the house yet so no idea what we'll do if/when we have to self isolate.
At present, my DDs 6 week review is still going ahead tomorrow. Bit anxious about taking her to the GPs but if they're confident its safe enough, i guess i have to put faith in them too....

hiimmumma · 16/03/2020 10:21

My GP are operating a 'closed door policy' basically meaning all appointments are telephone appointments unless they think it's really vital that they see you.
My 3yo has an ear infection and they've just issued a prescription for antibiotics and sent directly to the chemist. Actually really efficient and maybe it should just be like this all the time!

It does mean that there's basically no one at the GP though to spread any germs of any kind so we should be ok for our 6 week check.

Had a rough night last night between ear infection and new born. Felt like I didn't sleep at all. And now I have to go to the hospital as I'm having heavy bleeding and cramping again 10 days post partum.

cliare · 16/03/2020 10:21

Has anyone else got a toddler in nursery? Trying to decide what to do re. Covid-19. Worried for newborn but prospect of removing nursery also quite terrifying! Anyone got any thoughts?

lovesT · 16/03/2020 10:34

Thank you for your replies, that's good to know. I just don't know what we should and shouldn't do ... me my mum and sister had planned to go to our local shopping centre today for a bit of shopping and girls day out but now we're questioning it and mum thinks we should change our plans. I'd been really looking forward to going out and felt like it would be quite special but now I don't know and wish the government would give us more info to go on! I've had to go to the supermarket today anyway so doesn't feel too different? But I'm assuming you would avoid shopping centre? Should we not go?

LolaLollypop · 16/03/2020 10:44

@cliare I've kept my toddler off nursery today. She is at home anyway on Tues/Wed so I just figured it won't really matter to have her home today. By Thursday we may have more news as to what's going on.
My DH is WFH for the foreseeable future. My parents are both 70 and are not looking forward to self isolating. I think we'll go and see them today and I'm not sure whether we'll be able to soon!

Also feeling nervous about my newborn. We have our 6 week check soon then the 8 week injections. Really want him to get immunized asap, hopefully it will offer some protection against the virus.

Scary times all round.

Lcw29 · 16/03/2020 10:48

I wish things were clearer too re coronavirus. We currently are isolating as my toddler has had a fever as of Saturday. It went to 40.3 at one point. Its come down alot now but were told not to go out for 7 days. He is also complaining of tooth ache and waiting for last molars to come through. He wasn't at all himself for 24hrs and now is climbing the walls! Trying to keep him away from baby as much as I can. Really hard tho.

MamatobeFeb20 · 16/03/2020 11:16

I'm planning on sending my DD to nursery on Wednesday unless told otherwise by that point. I do struggle with the decision but i think keeping some part of her routine as normal will help?? And surely in the nursery, parents of kids who have got symptoms won't send them in?
Probably being completely naive.
I just really hope they dont cancel DDs 8 week jabs on the 31st march.

jldy2020 · 16/03/2020 12:48

I hadn't thought too much about keeping baby in before vaccinations until the coronavirus has stepped up. It's hard to know what to do and not do at the moment!

sulkysukey · 16/03/2020 13:47

@CupCupGoose I'm in the same boat - both older DCs at home for next 7 days with cough - trying to do some school work with a Yr6 and a Yr1 so poor LO has had very little attention other than feeding and nappy changes.

My GP called to say my 6 week check this Wed will now be a phone appt. but imms still going ahead as normal for now.

lovesT · 16/03/2020 15:31

Yeah it's really hard not knowing what to do. We decided not to go the the shopping centre and had lunch at home which is a bit sad, was looking forward to that! I tried to book my 6 week appointment but looks like it's going to be complicated and I have to call them a week before I would be having it. Feel a bit sad that after not feeling up to going out in late pregnancy and then with newborn only going out a little bit I've been really looking forward to going out and now I don't know if I should! Hope we get more clarity and info soon.

MamatobeFeb20 · 16/03/2020 16:16

Just had a phone call from my GP there - although the surgery is on lockdown, presuming i dont have any flu symptoms, or a temp, ive to attend at my time tomorrow and someone will collect me from the front door for the appt....
All a bit surreal to be honest.

OccasionalNachos · 17/03/2020 10:57

Hi all - can I join? Glad to see some people’s six week checks are going ahead - mine is tomorrow but I am going to phone the surgery in case they have changed their policy since the text reminder came through last week.

I know it’s small in the grand scheme of things but I have really been enjoying going to classes, the library, coffee shops etc with my DS. So sad that it’s not looking likely for the forseeable future I will still be going out for walks but it’s not the same.

MamatobeFeb20 · 17/03/2020 11:38

Just had my DDs 6 week check there - all absolutely fine with her thankfully. Bit of a waste of time on the whole as my surgery doesnt include the mum in the 6week check - i have to make a separate appt if i have any concerns. Which is pretty lax in my opinion, especially considering a high percentage have stitches etc that they may not be able to see or tell if theres any issues.
The surgery was on lockdown so it was one in, one out and everybody was doing well with social distancing. Its all a bit surreal.
I too feel a bit gutted @occasionalnachos at not getting out to do the regular things to break up the day a bit. Especially on the days where DD is a bit unsettled and the toddler is climbing the walls!

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CupCupGoose · 18/03/2020 14:35

Does anyone else feel like this special time is being ruined by everything that's going on right now? I know there are so many more important things and problems but this is my last baby and I was so looking forward to my maternity leave and trying to enjoy every moment. I feel like it's been taken away from me when this should be such a happy time. Lots of friends and family haven't been able to meet ds yet and I just feel so sad.

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CupCupGoose · 18/03/2020 14:38

@sulkysukey How's your isolation going with the DC? Mine are still coughing but absolutely fine in themselves which means they are extremely bored and it's been pretty awful tbh.

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Lcw29 · 18/03/2020 14:59

@CupCupGoose definitely feel like its abit ruined yes. We are in for 14 days. Currently on day 5 as my oldest is ill. Going to go loopy. We live in a flat so no garden for fresh air and its sunny out.

LolaLollypop · 18/03/2020 15:27

@CupCupGoose I feel really down about all this. I feel like I haven't been able to enjoy maternity leave at all yet. It took me and baby a couple of weeks to get signed off due to a few issues after birth. The minute we do all this kicks off!
My toddler has been off nursery all week. She's had a cough for a while - not persistent, mainly at night. Fine otherwise. Was in two minds what to do but kept her back anyway. Now I'm thinking do we need to self isolate?! She's been climbing the walls all week as it is.
My newborn now seems a bit unwell. He is snuffly and seems to have diarrhoea. Just really don't know what to do at the minute

hiimmumma · 18/03/2020 15:33

@cupcupgoose
Yes I feel the same. It's totally ruined it. I can't see my parents or in-laws. My older child can't go to nursery so I can't really spend any one on one time with my baby. I was looking forward to baby classes, baby cinema and binge watching box sets on the sofa though cluster feeds.
All not going to happen now.
I am actually worried about my mental health. I feel like crying every day.
I know I should be grateful we are all currently healthy but if I knew it would be like this I wouldn't of had this baby now.

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CupCupGoose · 18/03/2020 15:51

I'm so pleased I'm not the only one. To be completely honest with you all, this wasn't a planned pregnancy. I developed pcos after dc2 and we tried for a DC3 for ages. It didn't happen and I'd come round to the fact I wouldn't get my longed for 3rd baby and was really happy with our decision, and got on with our lives, made plans, booked a once in a lifetime holiday, I was going to go to university ect. Then I accidentally got pregnant and it took a long long time to accept the pregnancy. Of course now I'm absolutely in love with him and wouldn't change a thing but now I feel like deserve to feel like this because I didn't want him to begin with. I know thats ridiculous but that's just the hormones I guess. Hopefully this will all be over soon and we can all enjoy time with our babies properly soon.

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lovesT · 18/03/2020 20:11

Yes I'm definitely feeling the same. In the last weeks of pregnancy I didn't go anywhere other than to work because I was so uncomfortable and was so looking forward to going out, really wanted to go shopping and treat myself to new clothes that actually fit and start going to baby groups to meet people but don't feel I can do anything now and baby groups are closing ☹️ very sad. @CupCupGoose sorry you're feeling like that ☹️ you definitely don't deserve to feel like that, no one does! It doesn't matter how your pregnancy started, only that you're completely in love now. Hopefully we can all find ways to enjoy our little bundles at home 😊 hopefully this will be over quicker than we expect ...

sulkysukey · 18/03/2020 20:15

@CupCupGoose it's going ok thanks. His cough has stopped and both DCs totally fine now. Now just have home schooling for the 'foreseeable future' to do - gulp.

It is really crap not being able to do stuff tho I agree - I've just had our 6 week check and was planning on joining 2 classes around now to meet some new people and get out and about but everything's getting cancelled.

I'm trying to direct my thinking to all the things I'm grateful for in a time like this to keep me optimistic. If anyone's feeling really low remember to let a health professional know - these are tricky times for mental health as it is, let alone with having a newborn too. Hope everyone's ok.

jldy2020 · 19/03/2020 01:31

@CupCupGoose thanks for being honest and saying what a lot of us seem to be feeling.

I felt guilty for feeling this way when the most important thing is that people stay well, but I have been feeling like this is eating into my maternity leave, and feeling sad I won't be able to go out with the baby now and that some key people won't be able to meet her for months.

LemonSaturdays · 19/03/2020 20:23

Hi all do you mind if I join also?
My first DS born 02/03. Husband and I both have awful colds and it seems like when awake DS is unsettled and cries. Please tell me when it gets easier?

I agree with you ladies about being robbed of maternity leave, we are only planning on having one and I’m only off work until September!

sulkysukey · 21/03/2020 13:29

How's everyone doing? I feel so gutted for my Yr6, possibly missing out on the end of school. There was a confirmed case at their school so now I feel like we're all waiting to come down with it which is scary...
Hope everyone's feeling ok.

sulkysukey · 21/03/2020 13:31

@LemonSaturdays it will get easier. The first month is particularly hard I think... hope you're doing ok.

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