Newborn support group anyone?

[CupCupGoose]

Anyone else want to join me for a bit of moral support?

DC3 was born on the 28th February (so pleased he wasn't born on the leap year day!)

He doesn't like being put down so I'm pretty exhausted. DH and I are taking turns to sit up with him at night but as I'm breastfeeding, I'm having to do more. I know it's not forever though.

Milk has just come in so I'm feeling pretty emotional at the moment. Again, I know it will pass!

I'm just about to attempt to put him down in the crib, wish me luck!

@LemonSaturdays it does get easier I promise. Can you and your DH take it in turns to sleep? That's what we did even if it meant we had a very odd sleeping pattern for the first week or two. Must be awful when you aren't feeling well too.

@sulkysukey we live in an area with a 3 tier school system so even though my dd is in year 4, she will potentially miss her last year at first school, so I know exactly how you feel. As we were self isolating this week, she didn't even get to say goodbye to her fiends.

DS has a cold. I feel so sorry for him. He keeps trying to breath through his nose and getting upset then making himself sick. This morning, he sneezed and a bit of blood came out of his nose. Not sure if I should ring the midwife?

Well my DS is still unsettled. He can't poo, has awful wind and is sicking up alot of feeds. Very refluxy. I can hear it in his throat so we can't put him down atm. Feeds are a nightmare. Going to ring Health visitor tomorrow. Concerned as my older son has cmp allergy and had similar problems.

Also now we have the cough/cold my oldest had. So feeling a bit rough.

Thanks all. Already in the two days since I posted, things are looking up!

@Lcw29 I found infacol helped a lot with wind and vomiting. We had a few projectile vomiting episodes, but none since using the infacol.

Unfortunately infacol hasn't helped. It's so frustrating

@Lcw29 you've really had a rough time, I hope things start improving for you soon. Hopefully the health visitor will be able to help.

Hi everyone. Checking back in. DS is 5 weeks old tomorrow. Seems like many of our babies have their first cold! DD came down with a bad cough a few days ago. Was initially concerned about coronavirus but she's since been very sneezy and full of green snot so I think it's a cold rather than anything worse. Still self isolating for another week just in case. My LO also has it altho not as bad - hard to tell with newborns tho! He's also very snotty but seems to be feeding ok. He gets very upsetwhen laying flat in his crib due to congestion so that's been tough at night.

Anyone else feel panicky about CV? I jnow they say it's mild in children but what about newborns with no immune system? There's not really been any reports about how it affects tiny kids.

Both me and DH have a sore throat too.. God knows if this is the virus or not!

Is everyone still continuing with their 6 week checks and HV appointments as normal or are you pushing these back?

@LolaLollypop I'm a bit worried about ds getting cv too, for the same reasons as you. I'm not too worried about my older child as, like you said, it's normally quite mild for children but I've not read anything about newborns. We've all had nasty coughs and cold symptoms, but no temperature so I doubt it was cv hit who knows.

My DS is only 3 weeks old so I don't know what's happening with my 6 week check. I have a physio appointment in a few weeks time as my stomach muscles have a small gap after pregnancy but I think I'm going to ahve to cancel as I have no one look after the DC with the older two being off school and with social distancing, no one will be able to hold ds for me during my appointment. Plus, DH will be at work so I'll have to take public transport. Really worrying.

Not sure if we have CV either. My son had both fever and cough. Fever was 40 at one point. I now have a nasty cough. More annoying than anything. My hubby is getting sniffly. If they tested everyone it would be do much easier to know where we stand

Hi everyone I lost this thread a while back - glad I found you! My DD was 6 weeks old on Tuesday and I am so paranoid about CV!
We are self isolating as about 9-10 days ago we all got sore throats/snuffles and they are still ongoing, we have a 2 year old DD too. None of us have had temperatures so I don’t believe we’ve had CV but we don’t want to risk it by going out.

I had my health visitor 6 week check by telephone on Wednesday and my GP health check via video call on Tuesday. They sent me a letter on Friday to call and book her 8 week vaccinations but I am panicking about her having to go to the doctor’s surgery and be exposed to CV. I find it hard to believe that a newborn is completely safe to catch the virus - they are so vulnerable and tiny!

I hope everyone is ok and not as anxious as I am during this time :(

@hazandduck that's exactly what we've all had. Sore throats and snotty. DD (2) is still absolutely full of green snot. She's had it the worst. Baby is still very snuffly and not sleeping well at night. In a way I'm pleased he's had his first bug- time to kick in that immune system into shape!

It's so worrying about CV especially now they're saying younger people are also at risk. We are self isolating for another week because of the cold but I think I'll increase it after that anyway and just be very very careful.

I'm going to ask my GP for a telephone consultation too rather than in person. I'll book baby's 8 week jabs but I'll see how things are in 3 weeks and postpone if I don't feel happy.

If anyone is interested, Joe Wicks (a personal trainer) is doing a 30min workout at 9am every weekday on YouTube. I done it this morning (very very lightly) and it actually felt good to get moving again. I put baby in a bouncer and he watched me (then fell asleep). My body has been so tight and achey since labour, it felt good to get it moving again. Could be an idea to check out if anyone feels ready for it.

I'm terrified of my little one getting it. I feel flu like myself and have had bouts of uncontrollable coughing. Really don't want him to get it but what can I do?! Feel very vulnerable right now. Really want my family around but of course can't for the next 3 weeks.

@LolaLollypop thank you I am going to try the Body Coach workout with my toddler! We are doing gardening too, going to plant lots of seeds, paint the bench etc. We are so lucky to have a garden, because our house is absolutely tiny!
@Lcw29 what can we do? I’m breastfeeding still and absolutely do not want to stop but the advice is so mixed if you think you have it as you are supposed to distance yourself - how do you do that from your newborn?! I hope you feel better soon.

@hazandduck @lcw29

If unfortunately we do get it, I think the advice is to continue breastfeeding (if that's your choice) but wear mask/cover up so the transmission is limited. Or express if you can. We want our babies to get the virus antibodies if possible.

But a few days of formula if you're feeling really unwell is probably best. Certainly won't do them any harm.

I've heard the same advice @lolalollypop - I'd hope to continue breastfeeding if possible but if i do become too unwell (god forbid) we tried her with a bottle of formula at the weekend and she thankfully took it, so thats less of a worry at least. Its crazy to think like that but its a real worry this whole situation.
Hope everyone is managing ok on lockdown. We were due the HV out today and here in my area, the govt have advised health visitors to be 'business as usual' which is crazy in some instances. Mine phoned and asked if we wanted her to come or were happy to do it over the phone- because DD is 7 weeks now and i thankfully don't have any issues, i was happy to do it over the phone. My surgery were trying to stop the vaccination programme for babies just now but were told its vital now more than ever which I'm happy about.

Is anyone else feeling really down? The thought of 3 weeks inside without any help from family, specifically my mum, is terrifying. I'm so exhausted, so is hubby. I'm so fed up I'm just in tears.

@Lcw29 let your emotions out. I went out for a drive the other day (leaving DH home with the toddler and baby) and just sat in a quiet lane and had a good cry. I felt better for it after. We are all in such a state of anxiety and constant tension with all this terrifying news coming at us, it’s absolutely exhausting especially with a tiny baby! I am just so scared of one of us coming down with the virus and waiting for the babies to get poorly 😥 DH has asthma but hasn’t needed an inhaler for years so I am panicking now that we don’t have any in the house if he does get ill.

I did the Body Coach PE class with my 2 year old this morning she loved it! It gave us both so much energy and set us up for the day. Going to do it again tomorrow :)

I'm the same @Lcw29. I'm just about managing to not break down and cry although the that's probably what I need. My 2 year old is very demanding and wants to play all the time which is so tough when I'm tired. She's had a cough and cold this week so we are self isolating. She's climbing the walls desperate to get outside and run around. My husband is manic busy WFH so spends all day in another room on his laptop. I feel so sorry for my baby as I seem to feed him then quickly put him down and rush around managing my toddler or trying to keep the flat in some sort of order. I really really need a day off!! Feel like screaming sometimes. The last couple of nights I've stayed up til "normal" bedtime (11ish) as I want to have an hour or two of adult time but as a result I'm shattered after the night feeds. Think I will head to bed at 9pm again tonight...

Arghhh... just looking forward to Saturday when we will have isolated for 2 weeks. Need to take my toddler out and get some air myself 😒

@LolaLollypop I feel the same, my poor littlest Dd I just seem to feed her then have to put her down and stop the toddler from whatever she is about to spill/drop/break/jump off/draw on in pen..! My newborn is so sweet and chilled I feel so guilty for not giving her more attention! I just hear her gurgling away cooing on her play mat whilst I’m busy chasing my eldest 😩

Sorry everyone's feeling down. I am too. I was doing so well but I feel like I mught get pnd with all this going on. Constantly feel close to tears. My parents came up to visit as they live 7 hours away, and they had to meet their grandson by looking at him through the window. I was supposed to be spending loads of time with them this week with my older kids at school and DH at work. I'm worried that ds wont be socialised as if this goes on for months, the only people he will have met (since he was 2 weeks old anyway) will be me DH and dc1&2.

I also feel like I'm neglecting ds. Feed and put down, feed and put down.

Does anyone know what happens to maternity pay if the business you work for temporary closes? I've tried to look online but the advice is unclear. My boss is totally useless at the best of times. He pays me in cash (totally legit, I pay national insurance, get payslips ect, he is just very old fashioned) which I ahve to go collect every week but he is probably closing this week.

On a lighter note, ds hair is all falling out, his skin is peeling and is covered in baby ache. Maybe best we are stuck in the house, bless him!

@CupCupGoose hope you're doing ok. What tough times these are!

My LO looks the same bless him. He has a milk rash on his cheeks and neck, plus a snotty nose and eye bogeys. His hair is thinking too. Poor little things! They'll come out of this looking handsome I'm sure.

My poor LO is really struggling with congestion. He's finding it hard to breathe in his crib and is up most of the night. This cold seems to be going ON AND ON! My DD is also full of phlegm and I'm snuffly too.

@LolaLollypop I'm sorry your LO is still poorly. My boy has now got a really sniffly nose too and a cough. I hate it as they're so little!

Thinking of all you guys as it's not easy atm for new mums!

Hope everyone is doing ok in these strange times! I'm finding popping out for a quiet walk and fresh air is keeping me sane.

Mine and Baby's 6 week check up has been pushed to be combined with the vaccinations, so we only have to go once which I'm happy about.

I feel the same! So stressed/upset half the time. My Dd looks the same, receding hairline and crusty scalp 😄 her spots are getting better now bless her.

I haven’t left the house with my girls for 2 weeks now so today was the first time I ventured out for a walk. Big mistake! There were so many people, I had the pram and a buggy board and the footpath was so wide yet I still repeatedly had to go up on grassy banks and verges and even then people walked two abreast and came closer to me (some laughing at me trying to keep my distance.) One person even brushed by the pram despite my walking extra fast to get away and going up on the verge with great difficulty! I live in a village and am so shocked that so many are failing to respect the social distancing. I got home and burst in to tears, was shaking, I feel stupid for taking them out and needlessly putting them at risk.

I get absolutely livid when i hear about people not taking this lockdown seriously. Luckily, where i am, most people seem to be from the couple of times I've been out the last week, but I've seen photos and things on the news where people havent. I dont understand the thought process - obviously its tough, we all know how tough it is staying in, especially with a newborn and even more so with a toddler on top of that, but if everyone just sucked it up, we'd hopefully be in a better situation more quickly.... Whereas right now, i can envision this going on until the end of the year cos of selfish folk.
Anyway, rant over. Sorry about that!

How are all the babies?