The March-ers 2019 - Baby Talk #3

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@WhatALearningCurve oh gosh I totally misread it as JenLou still feeding Rose her milk! Can I claim general anaesthetic brain 8 days on!?! @jenlou1992 I WISH J would let me spoon feed him! He's obstinate as heck and will only feed himself unless it's porridge (then he just opens his mouth wide like a baby bird). I find it hard to get any veg into him unless it's a) sweet corn or b) cut up very finely in a sauce on top of some form of carb (gnocchi, pasta, etc). And even then that's hit and miss. She'll get there! Don't worry xxx

Hi @jenlou1992 I'm so sorry to hear your "update"... that must be really really hard, cancer alone is bad enough but when it's both your parents at the same time... there are no words. And like you say, the usual support networks have also been eradicated by the lock down. Hopefully Rose will give you some comfort - what is she doing now? Is she walking and/or talking, I can't remember?

This might be insensitive to ask, but are you still living with your partner? I recall a few months (?) ago you were considering breaking it off with him. The reason I ask is that if it is just you and Rose alone, it could be a good time to either form a "support bubble" or move in temporarily with your sister, if that's possible? If you are still with him then I hope he is helping with Rose and giving you space to "be" with your family in whatever way that can take place. So glad that sleeping is getting better too - that's something to be pleased about amongst the mess!

In terms of feeding, we tend to stick to "meals" that are quite easy to eat with hands (particularly when he started to get more confident with food and I just decided to do BLW - my husband HATES the mess) and generally cut it up, if required. What meals are you feeding her? And do you mean she's not feeding herself as in using cutlery or using her hands? As we are a long long long way off using cutlery, everything is with hands, other than yogurt and breakfast similar to @badbadbeans ... this is the case with everyone I speak to, tbh,

@badbadbeans I understand. With my brain I felt completely fine within about a week and had to be really cautious not to over do it in a typical me fashion. It must be so much harder with kids though, I just had myself to entertain all day and got SO bored. You seem to be doing amazingly well. I'd probs be the same if I were boobless too - I barely look like I've got any.... at least you won't need to buy new clothes!

@jenlou1992 you're right about whats app :) I don't mind setting one up, if people want to PM me their numbers? Or something?

Hi ladies! I've just been trying to do a quick scan of some of the recent posts. A lot of you have been through (and are going through) so much recently! You are all warriors.

My little sausage is having a rough time with his teeth atm. He has got 12 through, and now his canines and making him miserable. Tomorrow the nursery is reopening which has me totally stressed as he hasn't really been around anyone other than myself and hubby since March. Also, all the new procedures for it means we can't ease him in gently, he has to be handed over at the door as parents aren't allowed in the building. I'm dreading it. Although it will be hubby that leaves him in as I have been back at work for 3 weeks now.

In terms of eating, we can only really spoonfeed him if we want him to actually eat a decent meal. He's a thrower. And a dropper. He will feed himself bite sized foods like toast, but there's no chance of getting him to feed himself with a spoon any time soon!

Sleeping is still a bit difficult (worsened by teething atm). I still need to bf him to sleep on the bed and then I transfer him to the cot, then he'll wake for his dummy a couple of times through the night. It's actually not that bad, but ideally he would be in his own room. Also, now that I work all day, when he sees me he immediately wants to bf for comfort and it exhausts me because he whines and whines until I give in, even if he had some just 5 minutes before! My husband says I just have to be strict and refuse but I feel so wrong saying no when he just wants to snuggle after not seeing me all day. It's times like this that I wish I'd stopped before he was old enough to demand it (I also never wanted to go longer than 6 months and here we are!).

Hi @Brobot sorry to have missed your post, MN never notifies me of replies on this thread. I don't know why. Maybe we will just have to be proactive and create the what's app group as suggested above by @Jenlou1992 if we want to any chance of communicating! I'll PM everyone who has recently been on the thread, and then if anyone doesn't get a PM (as I'm fairly forgetful) then just PM me?

How did nursery go? I assume you're a few days in now? Everyone I know had those worries so you're definitely not alone, although that won't make you feel any better.

Yours sounds like mine in terms of eating. He won't feed himself with a spoon (although he will put it in his mouth if you load it for him, and then deliberately drop the spoon on the floor) but he feeds himself pretty much all food with his hands and eats a varied diet. He loves avocado so he's possibly the most middle class baby ever - we'd never had avocados until uni.

Well done on the feeding, that's amazing you're still doing it particularly if you didn't want to go past 6 months. I was never really that keen either but carried on until 10 months then had no choice but to stop due to my treatment. I do wonder whether I'd still be doing it if stopping had been my choice, as it were. How are you feeling about it? Aside from the whining? Also... Does he bite you? I stopped when mine had 10 teeth... And he had started biting me, which makes me think I probs wouldn't have carried on much longer as it was getting too annoying, or do they just learn to change the way they suck?

@Cardboard33 well I discovered early on that he only bites when his gums are sore. He knows now that if he gets the urge to bite he pulls away and I give him my finger to clamp down and get it out of his system lol. When he first started teething he would bite SO HARD I wanted to cry! But after taking him off every time he did it he realised if he wanted boob he had to keep his teeth to himself lol. Tbh I love the cosy time it gives me, but he obviously loves it too because he would happily be on and off continuously. And if I say no it's like his world has shattered. If he stopped by himself I'd be delighted. But I can't see me being that lucky. BTW I've messaged you, I think the WhatsApp group is the way to go ☺️

Right, I've just been through the thread and PMed everyone who has posted since Dec 19 (I think) but if I've forgotten you (likely) or you'd still like to join then just drop me a PM. No pressure though, if you'd just rather post on here then that's also fine.

Hey i got a new number and would like to be back in the chat. @Cardboard33 I've sent the number I had for you a whats app but its not gone through. If anyone can add me to the chat or message me and ill send my number x

Hi, as you'll know I've added you back into the group! If anyone else wants to join, just send me a PM