March 2007 - can't keep up

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Hi all -miss a few days due to nightmare things happening at home and I can't keep up now - so started a new thread. Perhaps thought we could remind each other when babes were born - I have lost track at who is the oldest etc.

Been busy here. Prac nanny is okay but hard work - feel like I can't totally relax in my own home etc. She is not sure how to deal with /take dd1 - making it hard. Dd1 had major meltdown after swimming the other day and then at hospital appt, then nanny took eyes from her for a second and she is finally found out on the footpath beside a major road and a sensible and lovely man brought her back. Unlike hospital volunteer who managed to stop dd1 taking a lift anywhere but when she could not get dd1 to hold her hand - she just left her It is clear the minute you speak to dd1 she has special needs FGS. poor nanny student was beside herself.

Saturday dh was gone all day on training exercise and dds only wanted daddy - long day. I managed to get out to a trivia night - MY TEAM WON - i found the questions very easy and answered most of them ( not bragging- just surprised my brain still functioned) I took dd3 - she would not go to sleep - come 11pm still wide awake and beyond over tired... got her home - to see dd2 in bed with dh cause she had an explosive puke that covered everything in her room. She was still up at 1am puking and I had dd3 still crying as she was exhausted.

so long rant - long few days - I am wrecked!!

dd3 - 12 weeks old.

hi all

rosy, glad your dh feeling better.

my ds is not having so much milk, but shows no interest in my food (a critic already if he is not feeding so much, and he seems a bit quiet- not ill, he is still jolly and ready to laugh but..

he is abou 20lbs and i was going to leave him just to bf until after my wedding (its in europe) because of all the changes -we move house in 3 weeks and get married in 4- am in total panic just writing that

am all over the place as you can tell.helppppppppppp!

We've got the same Iseos seat that Piffle has. Still using it for ds1 at the moment but we'll probably get new ones (1 for each car) when Toby outgrows his baby one. Not that it's imminent - he's only 14lb something at the moment. Am a bit that some of the babies here are 20lbs.

Mossy - we've abandoned lying flat in the parm a while ago. If Bertie can hold his head up himself why don't you try sitting him up and see if he likes it more?

sponge-i didnt realise you were moving a week before getting marriedjust try to switch off and focus on your wedding night.

Elsie slept in her cot for the first time last night.she liked it,i think,she was a little unsettled but she has a bunged up nose again.she woke for a feed at 3.45(i think),then ds2 got up at 5.15,then at 6.15 he woke everybody else up by jumping on ds1's bed and screaming.

i feel like a zombie and would quite like to fast forward 10 years when im having to tell him to get his arse out of bed in the morning.

foxy-thats sad about your friend.you are/were not a heartless cow,its normal to act irrationally in pregnancy,and i dont think any of us on here were feeling very sociable towards the end,even to the nicest people.

Oh I've had it today. Really should write on my relationships thread but I am not happy. Couldn't have it out with dh because it ended up in an argument, during which he said some particularly nasty things.

Sorry he really is being a c*ck.

Will read everyone's messages tomorrow and reply properly.

Why can't I have a nice dh who is helpful and cares about my wellbeing? I am a nice, funny, intelligent person with a lovely haircut and therefore deserve a better fella. And Bertie is an incredibly cute and loving little baby and also deserves a better Dad.

Sorry, just wanted to get it off my chest, will come back when I'm calmer tomorrow.

Hello hope everyone is good
I am too tired and can't cope with attempting to catch up - have I missed anything crucial?

Hugs to Mossy

mossy-i think i killed your thread.everybody says nasty things when they are angry,i hope your dh apologises,gets down on his hands and knees and begs your forgiveness!!!i think he needs a bloddy good kick up the arse to realise that he is going to lose you and Bertie if he doesnt get his act together.

he is probably depressed,and feeling guilty about the feelings of jealousy towards his son that he didnt expect.he should go see his gp and get some AD's

sorry,have had a few drinks and feel a bit

theblonde-i dont think youve missed anything,just the usual baby stuff

my baby girls are great,but ds2 is lucky to be alive today.trouble is,when i shout at him in public,everybody turns round and looks ,as my essex accent comes back when im annoyed,and i get these 'OMG,its a southerner!' looks.

The isoes faces rear and forwards great seat.

Mossy sorry your dh is being such a twunt, if you ever need to get away...

Had a good day went to osteo, he did good things ot my back

He is gorgeous looking and very friendly
I shaved my legs and wore nice knickers (have to be pants and vest)

He ws flirting with me I really enjoyed it

Am now in bad mood as feel really guilty

20lbs! Go girls! Not sure what Jordi is now, I'm guessing 17 something. I'm going to start him on solids on Monday - any advice from the experienced? He's taking a bit less milk now than he used to so don't know if that's a sign he wants something more substantial. He's starting to stretch out much more now - the rolls of fat at the top of his legs have gone down noticeably!

I've been out twice over the past week. Went to a colleague's leaving do last Sat and didn't get in till 1.30am(!!!!!!) then on Thurs went with my mum to a quiz night and buffet to raise money for the neo-natal unit. It was a fab night, and more importantly, my team won. Hurrah. I have to say, not without a bit of help from yours truly (coughs not very modestly)... However, I followed it up with a night having horrible dreams about leaving Jordi in the car 80 miles from home - guilty even in my sleep. Now that's not right.

Mossy, sorry you're having niggles with DH . Hope he is able to realise what he needs to do and does it asap. To change the subject completely, I've always had a bit of a thing for John Simm too. Have you ever seen Human Traffic? Well worth a look if you're a fan and fancy a reminder of what a blistering night out on the tiles was like. It also features the lovely city of Cardiff!

Rosy, hope all is going as well as poss with your DH and your trip down goes well.

Sazzy, shame about the hangover but glad you had a good night out. It is necessary now and again.

I've been wondering about car seats - Jordi's feet are over the edge of his current one already.

Sponge, my god you've got a lot on. Good luck with everything. Do you mind me asking where you are getting married?

x-posts, Piffle - twunt - what a fabulous word!

and - never feel guilty for being flirted with...

Callie - good work on the nights out

With the car seats it doesn't matter if the legs stick out it's if the head is sticking out they need to move into a bigger seat.
They shouldn't go front facing until they have good head control and can sit up.

Weaning - banana stains black, that's all I can remember!

Diva - what accent do you have normally? I am terrible and mine changes depending on who I am talking too

1st stage seats go up to 15 kgs well Finns does
Funny dd is 5 in October and 14 kgs!!!!
She sits in it and rocks... no way would she fit it for travelling though.

hellooooo
am pissed
it's been a while! but it's nice and i feel all giddy.
mossy - hang on in there with your dh, haven't read your other thread but can tell you that my dh is always a dick after every baby but the worst was with ds1, and I was so shocked at how I felt, how he was behaving, everything. he was jealous of all the attention ds1 was getting, didn't want me to bf, wanted it all to go back to how it was before. hang on in there til it all settles down. but do make him beg for forgiveness then.
how about our meet up then???
I'm busy a lot of the summer but could manage late august, how about you guys?

The Blonde that is useful info regarding when they've outgrown the car seat.

Morocco are you hung over today?

I've been up since 5am with ds2 He was dry at night again though yesterday he had loads of accidents. Mostly he is doing brilliantly and dd who is 4 has never had a dry night yet...she is going to be upset if her little brother is out of night nappys and not her! But they are all different.

I'm feeling anxious and strange. I think it is a reaction to dh's illness. I feel insecure! I got quite upset during the week when I realised that dh had contemplated giving up work and living with me but decided he can't... ie he'd rather take his chances and even die before he'll take that option.
And I was bitterly reminded of how crap and lonely my marriage is I do love him, can't change him, know I'll get over this and just keep on keeping on.

Still loving my new (to me) loola but see what you mean, Piffle, it's impossible to push with one hand. and less easy to manoevre loaded with shopping bags. It's not in the same league as my emmaljunga double pushchair. But I still really like the loola. Hasan is cosy in it. (And of course,entertainingly, loola means willie in punjabi)

After contemplation I feel slightly better and more optomistic now. Sent dh a text explaining how he is not just a provider to us. I've got fresh inspiration to work subtly to influence him gradually- into working less, relaxing/ excercising with family more.....

Tranny, glad you're feeling better.
I too am doing the rounds of self toilet training, bed-wetting children.
my dp is around but we have a very much a business, i.e "the children and nothing" else relationship. It's crap.

Kitty, it is something to have him sharing the parenting with you, but what a shame that your own adult relationship has withered, I know very well what it's like.
I hope that it can blossom again. Children do take up alot of energy, but it is so important to nurture the primary relationship, and so darn difficult too! (to even muster the motivation!)

My sister and her hubby have it sussed...their three children are older. In the summer their children will be spending a few weeks with the grandparents and my sis and her husband have a lovely time together...meeting in town after work and dining out, going to shows etc

oh well. We all have our own challenges!

Afternoon all! Well had a fun night last night with dh - not - have posted on relationship thread anyway.

Lunar he can't hold his head up by himself all the time just yet, but most of the time he can, do you think he'd still be okay if I put the pram up a bit?

Hello the Blonde! Nice to "see" you again!!

Foxy I don't think you're heartless at all!!! You were pregnant and hormonal!! And to be fair, from what you said, there's no getting away from the fact she was annoying!!

Spongecake, wow, you have a lot on your plate! Where in Europe are you getting married?

Diva I have quite a mild scouse accent but when I get cross it goes really kirkby scouse and dead common. Yes I do think dh is a bit depressed; last night he did admit that he was a bit jealous as well, although said he was jealous of me, not of ds.

Piffle, don't feel guilty! He started it!

Callie, can't believe you're weaning him already, doesn't time fly?

Morocco I'm up for late august, if Diva is, how's blackpool for you?

Lily about things with your dh being so far away, I hope you manage to influence him to change his ways.

Kitty big {{{hugs}}} to you and I'm sorry to hear about your relationship, I know you have talked about it before, do you think it will ever change?

Right, better go, Bertie's waking (he hasn't slept for longer than ten minutes at a time today, not sure why!)

Big hugs to Rosy and Mossy - relationships are very hard work aren't they sometimes? I have felt in a bit of a mood with DH for a while now too, but can't put my finger on quite why. We went out to a 40th last night and had a good drink and gossip with mates, so he is back in favour again. I love him dearly but don't like him some of the time. He's at work today, leaving me battling the hangover and the kids .

Hello theblonde, nice to see you again. Hope you are OK.

Foxy, I was bonkers at the end of my pg and beyond. You are a top person so don't beat yourslef up love. And I have met you in reality so I know !

Sponge, what a lot to do in a short space of time! I would concentrate on the wedding and let the house take care of itself.

Hello Kitty, hope you are bearing up. And hello everyone else.

My lovely Tilly is also a titch - 16 weeks tomorrow and 13lb 6oz. Nothing apart from milk yet but we'll see how she does over the next few weeks. I'd like to hold off for as long as possible as weaning is a pain. Ice cube trays and the dildo blender is all I remember from last time = not fun.

Off foor a kip now as both mine are asleep. See you anon. XXXX

Big hugs to Rosy and Mossy - relationships are very hard work aren't they sometimes? I have felt in a bit of a mood with DH for a while now too, but can't put my finger on quite why. We went out to a 40th last night and had a good drink and gossip with mates, so he is back in favour again. I love him dearly but don't like him some of the time. He's at work today, leaving me battling the hangover and the kids .

Hello theblonde, nice to see you again. Hope you are OK.

Foxy, I was bonkers at the end of my pg and beyond. You are a top person so don't beat yourslef up love. And I have met you in reality so I know !

Sponge, what a lot to do in a short space of time! I would concentrate on the wedding and let the house take care of itself.

Hello Kitty, hope you are bearing up. And hello everyone else.

My lovely Tilly is also a titch - 16 weeks tomorrow and 13lb 6oz. Nothing apart from milk yet but we'll see how she does over the next few weeks. I'd like to hold off for as long as possible as weaning is a pain. Ice cube trays and the dildo blender is all I remember from last time = not fun.

Off foor a kip now as both mine are asleep. See you anon. XXXX

mossy/morocco-i can only do early august when the older 2 are at my mums(they are going from 1st-14th).

rosy-i hope you feel ok soon,you know i look to you for guidance and inspiration when it comes to relationships

i have felt like shouting at dp 'get yer fecking arse off that pc and come out somewhere with your family!!'.a few times the last few days,but i know he doesnt like going out,and i know that deep down i prefer taking the kids out on my own anyway,its just sometimes i get annoyed when the kids stress me out.

ds2 has been a little shit the past few days,nasty as that sounds,but he really has excelled himself.i am hoping he is just having a learning spurt and this will pass

i told them they could go to the family 'fun' day in the park so i better get ready...

Mossy - I'd try it. You'll probably feel a lot better once you can take him out happily, and he'll probably be happier too. Even at this age I think they get bored and like to see/try different things.

Hi everyone - Monti is asleep so I'm quickly sneaking on here

Mossy sorry to hear DH is being such an areshole. Why don't you show him your thread - that'll wake him up a bit from taking you for granted like he clearly does

Tranny - you sounds as though you're going through awobbly phase which is hardly surprising aftre your DH having a heart attack. Hang on in there and send him that nice text!

Dolly nice to se you [waves]

TheBlonde - I change my accent too, I go all mockney when talking to cockneys and all fake posh when talking to Richmond posh people. I even do a crappy Irish accent wheh talking to Irish people. I can't help it and its soo embarassing. Can hear myself doing it

Well I have blocked ducts/matsitis so have been mega feeding last 24 hours and doing vigorous lump massaging! Bright red patch on boob abd bister on nipple, but I think the lump is surrendering at last

I like the word "twunt" it sound sinsulting in a satifying sort of way!

Dolly - PMSL at dildo blender - is that two for the price of one???

Hello everyone else. Sorry for man trouble outbreak, but i'm glad I'm not the only one who loses patience with their OH sometimes. Rosy, i've got the opposite problem to you - sometimes I'd like to see a bit less of DP. He works from home and cos of tiredness doesn't really go out in the evenings, and now that I'm here all the time, it can get a bit much! But I hope you can persuade your DH that he'd be better off with you and the kids. Could he get work or open a restaurant in Belfast instead? How did it happen that he works in Cork anyway - was it from before you met him?

I can hear Jordi rattling away on a string of balls that usually goes across a pram or carseat which DP has put across his moses basket. He's normally fast asleep by now but is obviously wide awake tonight. He's not crying though so I don't care!

Are everyone's babies getting a bit easier in the evenings now?

• Just realised Monti has spent the entire evening so far gurgling happily!!!

callie, mossy, am getting married in south of france (my fiance is french) my mil to be is organising it all. she only speaks french so we never argue about stuff

my ds is asleep usually by 8 and wakes up once in the night for feed, then up again about 7, but he only power naps in the day

have posted on the rant thread as don;t want to drone on about my wedding family nightmare on this one.

rosy, hope your dh is ok, and good for you telling him is not just a provider. you are nice- i will tell my dp the same when he stumbles home tonight after another 16hr day. i hate the restuarant biz now and spend ages thinking of solutions-lottery etc. i was going to work 6 months and let him have 6 months with the baby, but looks like i don't have a job anymore-company relocation.