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JUNE 07...Starting thread!

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nannyjo · 27/05/2007 12:09

Well i think i was the frist to 'pop' from the due in june thread so i thought it was about time we started the post-natal thread.

DS2 is 2 weeks on monday I had him 4 weeks early due to induction for OC. Everything is going really well and i think things are finally starting to settle down (i hope i haven't just spoken too soon!!)

He is really suffering with colic though and were getting about 4 hours sleep a night on average and with a 2.5 year old there is no chance of catching up in the day, but i shouldn't complain as i'm lucky to have got two wonderful boys. Thats it now NO MORE!!!!!9smile0

I know a few other june mums have had their babies so it would be lovely to hear from you to see how you are all getting on (when you get the chance )

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trendaverter · 04/07/2007 19:42

JBM I still check my phone for you!

justbeme · 04/07/2007 20:10

Thanks TA!! Must be any day soon!!

Jamantha · 04/07/2007 21:22

Well we tried bath night again tonight, and no screams Whether its because of familiarity or whether because the water was slightly warmer (but still within safe limits of coourse) I don't know, but she almost seemed to enjoy it for a moment. Kept it brief though, which was just as well as she pooed within moments of getting her out of the bath. Thankfully after she was wrapped in a towel however, rather than down the front of my tshirt. And she is now in reausable nappies, so fingers crossed that that'll go OK.

daisyandbabybootoo · 04/07/2007 21:30

how bulky are the nappies J? do those ones need a separate wrap? it's very confusing for an addled sleep deprived brain to digest

i like the look of bamboozles, but am concerned that the velcro fastenings will chew the nappies (and whatever else is in my wash) to pieces

we had quite an enjoyable bath tonight as well and she even had a go at kicking her legs. she hates being dried though and screams and screams....

bumperlicious · 04/07/2007 21:56

Have you guys tried co-bathing. DD really likes bath time, not sure if it's because of the water or the skin to skin. We just got out of our bath

Trying to hold out for half an hour or so for her feed so then perhaps we can all go to bed again and have a good sleep. She has been awake most of the day. Nasty DH and I have been leaving her too long between changes, no wonder she has been so uncomfortable We are still learning at this!

daisyandbabybootoo · 04/07/2007 22:03

like the idea of co-bathing bumper....but not the lukewarm water. It makes me go

Wish i could leave dd longer between changes, but no....too much poo.

how are the nipples?

DH is home tomorrow . Am a bit flustered about it, cos I've managed to wreck the house in two days.......laundry and washing up every bloody where....he will not be best pleased, but hey ho....do i care?

BadZelda · 04/07/2007 22:04

Hey there - just popping in, but off to bed in a minute as I'm knackered. Had a bath with both dd's yesterday - which was lovely (though did make sure DH was handy with a towel to wrap her in after a few minutes so she didn't get too cold) - it was lovely. Ella had a great time pouring water over Matilda's tummy. Generally have been coping but had a bit of a wobbler at DH today when he got home. Really struggling with cooking / cleaning and the kids. Kids by themselves are fine, but throw dinner into the mix and it starts to get messy. Is anyone else finding this? Seems like there just isn't enough time in the day ;(

daisyandbabybootoo · 04/07/2007 22:10

oooohhhh we need a new thread soon....

title suggestions please...

June 07 - Ladies who Latch

June 07 - they scream, they poo, they wee...but when oh when do they SLEEP????

too tired to think up anything else.....

daisyandbabybootoo · 04/07/2007 22:15

i'm with you there bZ...which is why my kitchen looks like a bomb site. hell why stop at the kitchen, the whole house looks like a bomb site...and not enough hours left to clean before dh gets home tomorrow as i have school run, hospital, a few hours spare,lunch, BF group, school run, parents evening, tea and then DS bed. and in amongst all that there's the usual feeding, changing nappies, changing clothes (mine and DDs) etc etc etc etc....

......aaaaarrrrrggggghhh I don't wanna get up tomorrow

bumperlicious · 04/07/2007 22:15

Wasn't lukewarm daisy, just not as hot as usual. MW in hospital said no wonder babies cry when they are bathed as people have the water far too cold! We were surprised at how warm she had it.

BZ, I know what you mean. DH has been great but he really hates doing the cooking, so either I cook or we have take away!

daisyandbabybootoo · 04/07/2007 22:19

i'll try a bath with her when Dh is on hand to catch her when she's done.

right, off for a few hours kip before the next onslaught.....if i'm lucky!

trendaverter · 05/07/2007 07:53

Am going to phone HV today for help....can't cope anymore, having not good feelings about DS (you know, unsafe ones), I have to hand him to DH because I am worried I will do something stupid.
The trouble is he screams and screams and is inconsolable, he is in pain, I think he is trying to poo, he hasn't done one since yesterday afternoon.

DH goes back to work today, I just wept and wept until 2am, I need help

bumperlicious · 05/07/2007 08:31

TA, I'm so sory you are feeling like that. Calling the hv is the right thing to do. sleep deprivation and a wailing baby are bound to make you think irrational thoughts, it's just awful. i'm sure it's just a bad patch, you are normally so upbeat, but if it's not the hv will sort you out. these first few weeks are so hard TA, you are doing a brilliant job.

trendaverter · 05/07/2007 08:34

Thanks Bumper

He's upstairs asleep atm, I am downstairs with the monitor, it's giving me a moments rest anyway.

I feel terrible though, I hate seeing him in pain, but I lack patience to soothe him, then I feel guilty, then I feel resentful, and overall it's meaning that I feel I haven't really bonded with him...and then I start bawling again because I worry I never will

bumperlicious · 05/07/2007 08:37

oh and i wept and wept whe dh went back to work. suddenly all the responsibilty is on you (sorry for spelling and typing, feeding baby in other hand!) plus those feeling are also a normal part of dealing with the responsiblity of having a baby, apparetly many women get this urge to throw their baby out the window (probably coz its screaming!) but its something like testing your inhibitions. a bit like vertigo where people who are afraid of heights feel this urge to walk off a cliff just to see if the would (i get this and remember being halfwayup the eiffle tower wondering if i would die if i threw myself off !)

trendaverter · 05/07/2007 08:40

ooh I haven't had any window hurling urges but my Mum said she did with me when I was a baby.

I just feel like shouting at him to shut up and I want to yell at him which of course is soooo sensible (like yelling to a newborn "act your age!!").

I also get a bit rough with him which makes me feel guilty then I get even more upset.

Why do people have 1 then come back for more?!

bumperlicious · 05/07/2007 08:44

oh god i feel the same. i feed her but if she cries i hand her over to dh coz i just can't deal with it. i feel awful but everything else is just taking it out of me, and when i tired (ie all the time!) i get so frustrated with her. it makes me feel like a terrible mother that i don't immediately want to oick her up when she cries.

lilKelBel · 05/07/2007 08:45

hi ta...do phone the hv. it's ok to need help!!!
i've just had my 2nd, and 2nd bout of pnd...and i can tell you, i did it because it does get better, really it does. in a few weeks you'll get your first smile, and your heart will melt. then the first giggle. it will make you laugh too, evenif your world is falling apart. then your first real hug, when they grab you and squeeze. it does get begtter - in meantime ask for help. hugs x x

bumperlicious · 05/07/2007 08:46

heres something tp make you laugh, saw 1 of dhs old colleagues in waotrose, he's a bit 'funny' and said jokingly "ooh, look at you with your family, ooh and another one on the way" [looks at my tummy] god i nearly clocked him one!

trendaverter · 05/07/2007 08:52

It is so hard and all the time DH was here it was ok, I could cope, we could take turns, but now I am panicing because he has gone to work!

I cling on to the knowledge that it gets better but when the crying is in full swing every passing hour feels like a year and I am just hoping I can hold out that long!!

trendaverter · 05/07/2007 08:53

That's SO RUDE!!! You should have eyed him up and made a comment about his tiny peepee

bumperlicious · 05/07/2007 08:55

ta, one way of another we are all going to get through this and in a few months we'll be like "what was all the fuss about, this is great". it's so hard when you get nothing back. and remember you are still recovering emotionally & physically from a huge trauma and a massive change in your life.

remind me i said all this when later on I'm on here in a mess! had a bad day yesterday think its going be another one today. v uncomfy baby.

bumperlicious · 05/07/2007 08:56

can you go out for a walk if he is crying?

trendaverter · 05/07/2007 09:03

I know you are right bumper! It's just getting that far isn't it

Taking him for a walk is no problem and does help, just the rain was an issue! Still it's nice out today.

I called the HV who was really supportive (I nearly burst into tears on the phone) and she is coming by later today to troubleshoot and help me. I think I am going to start bawling again.

Far cry from the days when my Mum said her HV was a social services nazi, our HV is lovely.

bumperlicious · 05/07/2007 09:05

oops need a new thread. look out for a new one everyone!

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