CaptainDippySuperBoobs is most definitely Dippy..........................

[ellenkpa]

she's already thinking about baby number 4

thanks go to littlelapin for the title

Elkiedee - I still pinch & shove my nip in if T's too frantic/taking in too much air in her quest to get in there - personally find that aiming to hit the top of the soft palate gets enough 'in' the right area IYSWIM. Not sure if that's recieved Proper advice or whatever - but it's what works for us...
Camerons been a horror today - not helped by being up since 5:30 and inside all day. The evening ended with a broken dinner dish & fruit on the floor {I think I found it all}, swiftly followed by bathwater being poured on the floor. Grrr. So I said no stories before bed, then relented (argh bad mother!) and let him have one before the "Mummy doesn't like to get cross with Cameron it makes her sad" emotional blackmail gambit. Feel guilty about using it though - first time.
Looking forward to DH returning ETA 2am-ish except I know that having been on the sauce since v early this morning when they finished their race he'll be looking forward to recuperating tomorrow on my singular 'day off' of the week. Sigh. I may be suprised, I guess?
Here's hoping tomorrows a better day in all respects seeing as it rained nonstop here!

Waspelly, your feeding sounds like a recognised technique, and it should work for you to do it for yourself, apparently baby should be breast feeding not nipple feeding.

So quiet on here this weekend. Have you all gone away somewhere? Camping perhaps??!!

Hi Elkie, hope you get time soon to enjoy being a mummy.

Waspelly, sounds like you had a tough time. Hope dh got back ok and has given you some time off.

Had a crap evening with K back to arching and crying whilst feeding, which she hasn't done for a week. So, not reflux or croup. However, I think we know what the problem was. We fed her too early, ie she made out she was hungry after 2 hours - we fed her, and her tummy just cannot take it. So, we have learnt that from now on, it is tough poo and she will have to wait between meals! However, after dh fed her at 10.00, she slept until 6.30! Now asleep in her basket down here.

I am finding that I am not dealing at all well when things go tits up. I go in to a complete panic, cannot eat anything, and last night fled to bed at 9.00 p.m shoved cotton wool in my ears and cried under the duvet leaving a v frustrated dh to deal with things. Also started thinking about getting in my car and running away, which it totally irrational.

I am like this with B as well - panic if she is poorly etc. and go into meltdown.

I really don't know how to overcome this. Dh just says try and put things in to perspective, but that doesn't help.

I really don't know what to do. Thoughts?

Hope everyone is ok and have had reasonable nights. xx

SOKL, get in your car and run away, even if it's just to the shops, get out of the house and that perspective is far more likely to return

SOKL - you sound like me. When Erin hadn't pooed all I wanted to do was get home...I don't know why. Mum & Dad were a bit upset about us leaving (I was planning on staying another wek).

Rang NHS direct and they got a senior nurse to ring us who got a doc to ring us who wanted to see her. Then he told us she was fine. I asked how log I should wait before taking her to see the doc and he said indefinitely . Luckily she's pooed this morning so panic over!

I was also a bit annoyed with the doc as he was asking why we use real nappies rather than disposables in a bit of a disapproving tone .

Elkie - My DH sounds q similar to yours. He makes himself late for work rather than get me out of bed to help then I end up getting no breakfast cos I have the baby to look after. I ended up screaming at him that he's not helping me, just making me worse cos I'm not eating properly and he seemed to get the hint.

Am a bit @ DH tho. While I've been away he decided to do some stuff to the computer that I hadn't had time to do. It was meant to be simple but he decided to do it in a fancy way. The end result being he's managed to erase the entire disk and the pc is currently in pieces. I wouldn't have minded that in itself but HE DIDN'T PRINT A COPY OF MY COMPLAINT LETTER. It's the only thing on there that I wanted. He is gonna try and get it back but I'm so p'd off cos he knows how important it is for me.

Morning all, have had a busy few days as the girls have been off school for bank holidays on thursday and friday. But now they're back, have a few minutes to catch up. I've only read today's posts though, so sorry if I've missed anyone.

SOKL - hugs. I don't really have any advice, except to give it time, which I guess isn't really that helpful. Ruby is just over 6 weeks now and the last week I really feel like I've come out of a tunnel and can handle being in the real world again. I feel like I have focused on Ruby rather than the others, in mind if not in actions. And now I feel like I'm a bit more balanced. I think it just takes time for your mind to get used to having another one. You just have to try and put yourself first for a while (almost impossible I know) and be kind to yourself - no feeling guilty.

Right, the house is an absolute mess, so off to do some cleaning...sigh.

NG - x post. Sorry about your letter. It was very impressive of you to write it in the first place (I', forever saying I'm going to write a letter of complaint about something or other, and I never get round to doing it), so I can imagine how annoying it must be to have lost it. Hopefully your DH will be able to get it back.

Hope the pooing continues! How long had it been?

Oh, I did see a post from weeonion as I whizzed through. Welcome back!!!!! How are you getting on? I take it, from the expressing talk you are still bf. WELL DONE. I posted on your bf thread about my horrific time bf DD1. It was so worth it in the end, but so hard. I went through a phase of just expressing and feeding by bottle. Not sure if that's what you're doing.

OK, really going to clean house now......

Hello all Has taken me a while to catch up - have been lurking but nothing really to say!

Have had awful nights recently - every 2 hours - have tried the bottle of formula once but was disaster and I felt terrible - the way he looked at me my heart almost stopped! So have decided to carry on bf and go to bed much earlier every night. Am trying to get sleep during day but failing miserably. I think the amount I eat has dropped which may be affecting my supply so keep reminding myself to eat more! I am back into my old clothes now which is great - a few tops are a bit tight with my giant udders - may have to treat myself!

DH being good - bless him! Has taken boys out to Castle Combe to watch the racing - due back any minute.

DS2 4th birthday yesterday went brilliantly - ds1 very jealous and grouchy - but the party went really well at soft play and me and dh made a really cool parrot cake - will post a pic when download.

Am off to devon today for a week/ half term so will catch up when get back. Hoping the weather will pick up so can go to beach - staying at my mums so will have lots of help.

Have emailed WCL about meet up on 7th June at Bristol - anyone else interested?

Hope you all have a good week and some sleep

Octo xxx

SOKL, have done my fair share of running off and hiding under the duvet for a cry. It's hard being chronically tired and sleep deprived, things seem a much bigger deal.

Ds has been having what I presume is his 6 week growth spurt so I am absolutely knackered. Good of him to coincide it with us having a house full of visitors with Dhs sister, BIL and kids - thankfully they are perfect guests who help rather than make more work. Dd is at nursery, they've all gone walking, ds is asleep so hopefully I might get 40 winks.

Bumble, good to see you post & sorry that BF has been such a struggle - good luck with whatever course you take.

How was the christening, Ellie?

Hi everyone,
Just a flying visit, hope you're all OK.

Well just wanted to say thanks to those to show their concern for DS1, Elkie and Liath. It all seems to have blown over now and it will be an experience that I will try and put behind me and learn from, hopefully never to be repeated.

Baby Theo is fine and seems to settling down a little now, though at the moment full of cold and he can hardly open his eyes for all the gunk in there, which needs to keep on being wiped away. I can't believe we've had the letter through regarding innoculations, and like with DS1 I will be sending DP to deal with as I know I can't cope with.

Have had fanastic weekend with the whole family and had a great meal out, felt like a completely different person today when I got up so it just shows how a change/time out can really help, that and I slept really well, must have been all the wine I drunk oh well.

The only thing that gets me down is the lack of sleep, I am terrible after having no sleep and find even the very simplest of tasks impossible so am going to try and make that priority for the next few months.

Have decided to BF for one more week, though I have got WAY too much milk at the moment boobs are overly huge. Then I am going to start substituting some feeds for FF and do both, at least it keeps the periods and PMT away. I feel quite proud of myself cos that means will have BF for two whole months, I didn't really think I would come this far.

Have been jogging loads and I know its helped cos when I went shopping today my jeans were practically around my ankles!

ONCE AGAIN I HOPE EVERYONE IS WELL AND STARTING TO FIND THEIR COPING STRATEGIES!!!

Hi ladies

Really quiet on here today!

Hope everyone is enjoying the BH weekend, apart fom the weather being so pants.

Pinions, hope you get some sleep - it is the hardest thing to deal with isn't it, and tbh we do ok, but still feel tired. Makes me so snappy with B and dh - like having permanent PMT!

Hi Liath, glad I am not alone in crying in to the duvet! Feel more upbeat today, but need to relax more and learn that things are not always controlable - my problem is that I am a control freak and can't handle it when things don't go to plan.

x

Hello ladies

So sorry to hear that some of ypu are having a hard time. No advice really justb hope things get better.

I'm away in North east for rest of week with no internet and no DH until Friday. Wish me luck!

Hope you all have a good week.

Hi- Only popping in quickly as I need to express and then drink large amounts of wine & eat chocolate biscuits before getting an early night - getting v.over-tired & grumpy in the Dippy Household atm, so every sympathy here....

Will post properly tomorrow.

Hope Christening / mammouth drive was ok Ellie honey!!

Loves & {{{{hugs}}}}} to all. xx

so, christening

SOKL - I can relate to what you are saying about being a control freak if I think about it and am honest with myself I am also a bit of a control freak - everything in order and at the right time etc etc, so get a bit lost when there is no routine/organisation. Also when I have had no sleep I don't really feel in control as such, instead of just "rolling with it" I get even more cross with myself which makes it even worse.

That and the bloody weather has been pants for weeks here too. In fact the only summer we have had so far was the two weeks BEFORE the birth. Happy days x

Awwww, Ellie - Blessy ou & your little men - You look lovely!

Really am going now .....

i look lovely

i guess i had stopped crying by then ..........

Octo, i've not had an email from you, just to confirm my addy is [email protected]

Just checking in briefly as my Mum is still here, don't think we will be camping on the weekend though - are we expecting sleet/snow?????

ok, the christening ........

set off, the only time I head past Cambridge on the A14 is to go to Stephen's house in Uttoxeter (nowhere near Swindon ) so on autopilot that's where i headed
gran noticed and pointed out we were taking a very unusual route
we then amended our route and went in the right direction, thing is, i probably would have gone all the way to his before I realised it wasn't where i should be going
later found out that the route we took was the route that Sat Nav suggested anyway so without realising I had done a good thing!
with the awful weather and gran sat next to me monitoring my speed, we left home at 0845 and arrived at 1230, not too bad considering, we did stop a couple of times too.

left boys with sis to go to boots, is easy she says, by the time i was back on the m4 i realised i had gone wrong, gave up and went back to hers!

loads of people changing, small house, nightmare. all ready to go, chuurch at top of road, 3 mins walk if that. cous and gran don't want to walk cos pelting with rain. me and unc convince them. all get to church eventually.

service ok, head off to party. bil's family never talk to us, put themselves at one end of hall and avoid eye contact. fair enough. they all live in same county, we all live 160 miles away. they try to keep niece and nephew with them and not let my family coo, causes friction.

survive almost 2 hours, just thinking about leaving, mum realises that day has passed without incident, decides she must cause one.

background - mum left us when i was 12, then adopted 2 girls when i was pg with matthew. these children are not and never will be my sisters or aunts to my sons, much as her husband will never be my stepdad. my mother chose to leave my life, she stopped being part of my family on that day and lost the right to add people to my family. i did have the girls sleep here when they all came up last weekend, but this was because otherwise my gran had to have them stay on her living room floor which i didn't think fair.

so, bro comes to tell me mum wants a photo of me and sis and children, with her girls. i say she can fuck right off

mum then says she wants photo. she knows how i feel, she just thinks if she keeps pushing me i will one day give in. i tell her i'd love a photo with sis and kids, but will not be in one with her girls.(mum is applying to foster, i've told social worker it's a bad idea, mum would use pic to show i'd 'changed my mind', and anyway, i just don't want to)

mum says, fine then. i expect this to be followed with 'we'll take one of you and sis' but is instead followed by "i'll just leave you and the boys out then"

cue tears from me (after she'd gone, not showing her that ). asked unc to take pic of me and sis so now have photos of me sis and kids, and another with bil, bro's, cous' and various boyfs and girlfs joining us

so, i survived, and won't have to see her again until at least September when have Matthew's birthday and Joe's christening, but not expecting her to turn up then as they're usually 'booked' to go camping whenever i ask them to drive up here, yet strangely free whenever i'm driving down there . and i won't be inviting the girls to christening so she'll tell me she won't come either

one very good thing did come out of the day tho, my cous (18) and i have been distant for some time, she and matthews dad were flirting via text when she was 16, her uncle found out and got angry, her dad was ok with him, but as she had blamed andy it made things strained between me and her. anyway, we chatted lots yesterday, never mentioning past troubles, and was back to how it used to be (we were more like sisters). then she text me today to say how nice it was and she'd love to babysit if i want her to anytime, now i've invited her to come out clubbing with me!

and since, in 3.5 years my sister has been to suffolk for.....
visit when matthew born
2 of matthews 3 birthdays
didn't attend christening
didn't come up when i had Joe

and in 1.5 years I have been to swindon for.......
visit when nephew born
his christening
his only birthday
niece's christening

i'm currently up on brownie points

and my word that is a long post

will start a new thread now .........

new thread here