July 2006 Babies-crawling, climbing, walking and talking-well, nearly!

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We have run out of space so thought I would start a new thread.

Pavlov-hope you are OK today hun.

kayzed-well done to Roshi

Gave Sophie some SMA (5oz but she only glugged 3oz ish down) she zonked out immediatedly on her gym mat. Poor girl must have been starving the way she uh, uh, uh when she saw the beaker.

Mum and dad coming in a mo. Dad is tiling and mum and I are going to paint the ceiling. DH doesn't know so watch out for me on the relationships thread later.

Bloss-get you on the homepage! How do you do tips?

Better go-love to all and will catch up later.

xxx

Lovely pics Kbaby, Pavlov and Ceebee! They are really becoming their own little people now aren't they?

HC - I'm so glad you went to the drs. I do hope the ADs help you.

Kbaby - it was interesting about Josh's wide bridge. That was the conclusion that the orthoptist came to (and which the HVs had already come to) so it was a load of faffing for nothing. Apparently the poor woman had real trouble getting Aidan to concentrate on the little toys she had to get him to look at. But he demonstrated his pincer grip to perfection by all accounts, picking up hundreds and thousands the clever boy. The conclusion is that his wide bridge and the skin around his eyes gives him a "pseudo" squint and she wants to seen him again in a year. He should grow out of it (hopefully).

KZ - cor how scary?! And what a star that bloke was helping you like that! I bet Roshi thought it was Christmas having the house to herself.

Bloss, I need some advice. Aidan's a really early waker as well (usually around 5.45) but he tends to start whinging within a few minutes. He seems to be waking earlier and earlier at the mo - we think it's the birds outside but he also seems to be ravenous for his bottle. Does your DS wake from hunger do you think? And how long do you leave him if he starts whinging. Aidan won't stop once he's started so I have to get up to him, but that's not teaching him to entertain himself IYSWIM.

DH and Aidan took a trip out today to a nearby arboretum. It's the first time DH has really dared to go "out" out with him. I made a packed lunch for them both and I have this wonderful mental image of them both sitting under a tree munching their sandwiches. Oh, I can't get over how amazing it is now that Aidan's feeding himself grown-up food.

Us- We have a 9 month check up tomorrow.

I had forgotten how lovely getting sleep was. Ds now generally just wakes the once for some milk. I am so glad we did CC.

Not sure if I reacted the right way girls. DH?s job is being made redundant. There are 5 of them doing the same jobs and 1 at least has to go. DH asked me tonight if I would be happy if he applied for a job in Southampton(same company) it would mean working away from mon to thurs and coming home thurs night. I said I wouldn?t be happy as I feel its unfair of him to expect me to look after both DC on my own for half the week. Am I being unreasonable? Honest answers please.

Pink ? Sorry things are tough for you at the moment, I guess like everything else its just a phase(well that?s what im telling myself) Your Dh boat sound like fun.

Blos- I can see where your coming from on having a 3rd. I often feel sorry for DS that he is the 2nd as DD had so much of my time when she was a baby whereas poor DS doesn?t get a look in as DD is generally demanding anything. My mum had to point out to me that he was actually pointing at things as I hadn?t even noticed If I do spend time with him I feel guilty as I think that maybe DD is jealous of me playing with him, but then I feel guilty if I don?t play with him.

It is fab now Ds is crawling. I feel that only now do I really know what he wants and hes fun to be with now. Its so much better spending time with him now he doesn?t want to be held quite as much.

twinkle- junior tends to wake up around 5.45 for a drink and wont go back to sleep. couple of times ive done the pick up put down method and it works because he gives up getting up after 10 minutes of doing this. other times we just bring him into the bed were he'll crawl all over us and go back to sleep around 7am.

Hmmm. How likely is it that your DH will find another job soon close to home? Does he like the company he works for? I can't remember, do you do paid work as well or are you a full time SAHM? My DH used to work away for up to two weeks at a time before we had DS. It was grim and I banned him from going away categorically when Aidan was very young and I was on maternity leave. However, if I was in the same position now I might think differently as at least I wouldn't have to be up all night with him.

I can't say it isn't tough though having a partner work away, even without children. And I have only got the one. That rambling doesn't help at all does it?

hmm, kbaby, i wouldnt be happy with dp being away for work for that long! its bad enough that dp works 5 days leaving the house at 7am and coming home at 7pm

but if it is the only means of income for the time being maybe it'll be understanding

Morning all

Early start today! I had a phonecall with my sister yesterday and she is having a hard time and has been over the last year or so. So I am going to see her, DP works a few mins from her house so he is dropping us off on his way.
I thought I'd get up half an hour early and have tea and cereal in peace!

Well our HV appointment yesterday was a waste of time! I'm pretty sure she doesn't really have a clue

Asked the most ridiculous questions and was generally patronising. The most important things to these people seem to be food and sleep and seeing as Zack has had a rough time with both of these they are never quite satisfied.

She was putting things in front of Zack and with her head about 6 inches from his face encouraged him to 'perform'. He was just staring at her as if to say "you do it"
Why don't they just give them a few toys on the floor and watch them play?? I put him down eventually and he walked along the cupboards and then walked pushing the trolley thing along sat down and started taking the brings out and banging them together!
Smiling at her as if to poke his tongue out at her!! "I'll do it when I'm ready"

Kbaby- move with him and then you can come to me for tea and cake on a regularly basis
If it were me I wouldn't like it or agree to it. DP did his working away before Z came along and think he should be at home now, he can work witin a 50 mile radius easily (self employed)

How are you doing HC? xx

Pink- I know its hard to leave them but you must make yourself, you'll be no use to anyone if you burn out. That aside you need deserve it, I like just sitting in the library with a good book (sneaking sweets out of your bag whilst sitting under a 'strictly no eating' sign) The more you do it the easier it will get.
I also think its good for the girls for you to spend short times away from them, something might crop up one day where you have to leave them and that may be hard on them if you've never left them before xx

Bloss- if you thought I was organised yesterday what do you think today? 5.30

Have a good day all xx

HC, well done for taking the steps to sort out how you feel, I am sure it will improve nopw :D

Bloss, lovely post last night! Nice and warm and fuzzy!

kbaby, I would find that very hard to accept -at a last resort probably. Maybe he could try and find something else first?

Sefton has become OBSESSED with the dishwasher. When it has finished a cycle I open the door to let the steam out, and forgot it was open the other day.... Sefton crawled in the kitchen and was unusually quiet so I peeked in and he had climbed onto the open down door and was about to start taking out the cutlery!

He has shown the beginnings of what could become temper tantrums - uh oh. When I remove him from said dishwasher he screams and thows his whole body back and forward! So I just talk normally and pop him on the floor to calm down which is normally half a minute later. I DO NOT want a tantrum thrower
but he is very cute, so chatty now ahhhh

gotta run
x

And she does it again - Tip of the Day!! Am going to spend the rest of my life thinking of fabulous tips to try and be permanently on the Home Page.

Twinkle - Toby wakes anytime from 5am (yawn) It is not from hunger, he regularly refuses his morning milk when I do eventually go in and feed him which is usually when H gets up about 6am. I can hear Toby, he is whinging cos he wants to get up, but it's just too godamn early! He flips himself over on his tummy and can't get bak over, but if I go in to turn him back over and then leave the room he goes beserk, so I don't even do that anymore. Sometimes he goes back to sleep....sometimes he doesn't.

DH and I dream about kids that sleep till 7am, and talk about it all the time, like other people talk about luxurious holidays, or clothes they want, or a new car....Dh said this morning "I wonder what it is like to actually SLEEP till 8am....I can't remember...." Had a row about not having sex for the last, oooh let me see....3 days! He expects me to be a sex vixen as well as get up at sparrowfart, look after tow kids all day, housework, blah blah blah. Ok now though, as he nipped back from work for something and we had a quickie while kids were otherwise engaged! How naughty is that!!

Gorge day again today, walk this morning I think, then going to a friends this afternoon and doing tea and bathtime there as DH going fishing. He is very happy cos Liverpool won last night. I tell you, that man has the life of riley....

Have great days.

Bloss

xxx

KBaby - that's exactly it. H had our total undivided when he was here on his own, but that's only to be expected. In fact I feel a bit more guilty sometimes about H, as he was at nursery when I went back to work and I missed most of his firsts - steps, words, etc. It was unavoidable, and the nursery was fab, but with Toby I will be there for it all, and he is much more aware of when I leave the room than H ever was at that age.

Morning ladies!!

Bloss, Tip of the Day! Have you got any tips on bedtime fun (for you and DH I mean!), you seem to be doing very well in that department too!

oh Kbaby I forgot to mention about the DH being away thing - nope would deffo go down like a lead balloon in this household too. It's one thing not being there for the odd bathtime, but quite another to not be there in the morning, at any bathtime or any bedtime for at least 4 nights a week. It would be different if your kids were say, 9 and 11 and could get themselves up/their own breakfasts/bath themselves, but with a young family it's so labour intensive you need all the help you can get, dontcha think?

xx

Hi all

Bloss - I noticed you were 'tip of the day' again - can you tell me how to get a little boy to clean his teeth at all?? Everytime I get the toothbrush near Josh's mouth, he pushes it away/throws it on the floor

Kbaby - just wanted to add my views about your DH - am sad for you that it has come to this decision - how tough for both of you. Could he do it temporarily whilst looking for another job closer to home? MY DH has just finished a 2-month stint of being away Monday to Friday and tbh, I quite enjoyed it. However, I did only have 1 (very easy) baby to look after who is usually in bed by 7-7.30 so I had the rest of the evening to myself, plus it had an 'end date' iyswim. I suspect it is a completely different ballgame with 2 children so as I said before, tough decision.

Annie - your life sounds WONDERFUL!! I am so busy at work that I didn't even get a chance to MN today - what's that all about eh?? Congrats to your bro - I think that is 3 of us on here due to become aunties around that time (me, you and Pretty).

Anyway, what do you ladies think about this - when I picked Josh up at nursery today, a member of staff told me that he had just had an ice-pop - now I am not a fussy, organic-only kind of mum by any means but even I think that is a bit of a strange food to give a 9 month old. Or is that just me??

Hi all
Just a quickie as I?m supposed to be cooking/working/drinking wine!

Ceebee ? the nursery where Emma goes won?t give under 1?s anything to eat or drink that hasn?t been brought in by the parents except tap water. I think you have every right to be annoyed if your lo has been given sugary (or artificially sweetened) food without your consent (if that?s what it was, not just an ice pop made from water?). Can you say to them that you are trying to keep him off sugary foods until he is older?

Kbaby ? you work full time don?t you? Seems unfair for you to be coping with two children for 4 days on your own every waking moment when you?re not at work, are there no other options? Hope you can sort something out.

HC how are you today? Xxx

Hi to everyone else, will try and do a proper catch up later on xxx

hugs to HC and anyone else having a rough time.

Leo has a tooth!!! Hooray!!!

KZ - hugs, sorry you're not too good . just been skimming through the posts...what is the latest with your ds' spots

bloss famous again! yes pleeeeeeaaaaase some bedroom tips!

ceebee i am a fussy organic only mum but i totally know what you mean! agree with the non sugar way of approaching it. the creche jacob goes to won't give anything at all that parents haven't brough from home for them.

HC hugs wherever you are (hope you're lurking and can see all our hugs and thinkings of you xxxxxxxxx)

kbaby i agree with others it would be very tough, but if there were any way your DH could do it while looking for something closer that would give you an end date maybe? DH is at home on a weeknight before 930 for the first time in over 3 months, we worked out earlier this evening! I know what you mean but it is totally different if someone is completely away rather than just working late

guess we need to all be doing sun dances to keep the warm weather going!

Poor you KZ. The waiting must be awful. Does your dh know how stressed you are waiting?

Hi all

Must give hugs to Pavlov-so sorry to hear you are feeling low hon. ((xx))

pink-how are you today? You do such a stirling job with your 3 girls. Try and get some 'me' time if you can. ((xx))

Have tried to skim through but too much for my now muddled head to take in. These AD's make me feel like I have had a couple of glasses of wine. They have really slowed me down which is a good thing although it takes me twice as long to do anything. Still can't get to sleep and just lay wide awake until about 2-30 am. Just got to sleep last night when Em started screaming in her sleep-she only does this after a day at MIL's. So wide awake again. One of DH's biker friends was killed on the bike run on Monday which is really sad-I had met him several times and I keep thinking about him.

Sophie is more mobile-not crawling or rolling just bottom shuffling. Yesterday she pulled one of my plants over and covered herself in soil. Later on I went to get some more soil to put in the top of the pot and when I came back she was sat with soil all over her sleepsuit and soil all round her mouth! Hopefully the taste may have put her off.

I am with the majority in being miffed if DH had to work away. Having said that my SIL lived like that for several years with my brother being in the RAF he travelled early Monday morning, came home Wednesday night, back early Thursday morning and home again on Friday night. SIL has 2 boys and a dog and was fine. He has changed jobs now and commutes every day.

Wallace-a tooth for Leo. Hip, hip hurrah!

Ceebee-I would give Sophie an ice pop. My friend used to give her DD2 ice pops last summer and she was only 9 months then. But if you aren't happy then mention it-I just have a quiet word if I don't want Em having something.

Bloss-you still haven't said what you have to do to submit a tip of the day. Can't have you on there all the time can we? I understand completely the way you feel about Toby and H. I stare at Sophie far more than I did Em as this time I feel more laid back about it. Em was full on high maintenance from the day she was conceieved. Sophie looks where I am and smiles so much at me. Am getting on really well with Em now I am 'chilled'.

DH out playing squash so may try for a peaceful, early night.

Love to all

xxx

HC - that is really sad about your dh's mate xxxxx

KZ - IMO googling is both good and bad. Good because you can learn a lot about a certain condition, and understand what the doctors are talking about, and also know when they are dunmbing things down for you But you can drive yourself demented with worry googling things. Have you tried bursting into tears in front of yuor dh? It's okay for him being out, working, not having to dwell on it...