March 2017 (3)

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Thread three!

troodie
Glad you're going to the out of hours. I had mastitis and it was horrible but the antibiotics kicked in pretty quickly. Ibuprofen helped too.

purple
Thank you, I hope he does too!
Sorry your injections were/are painful, can you dose up on painkillers too?!

Ibuprofen all round (I even had some myself because of a killer headache!)

Oh no troodie that's awful sorry to hear that .

Ah Hugh bless her !

Ok day here for me expect drove a long way to try out a big Tesco my friend said was good. Filled the trolley with tonnes of stuff and had forgotten purse 🙈🤣.

Luckily lo was happy all the time or that could have sent me over .

Hope you all get the rest you deserve tonight !

Oh no mother

troodie purple

Purple for your earlier post and gentle hugs to get past the pain of the injections.

Carol, no failure whatsoever! You did what your girl needed you to do, take care if yourself.

Name, I'm so clumsy and beat myself up about the slips and trips but everything is OK and you're doing just fine.

Troodie, hope you're OK and it isn't mastitis

Thanks guys I'm back now with antibiotics. The doctor said give her more jars to make up for the runny poos that will ensue. Had a bladder infection at 2 weeks hope we do not have repeat of those bowel habits!

Here's hoping we all have a peaceful night

Hugh I'm sorry but the supermarket story made me smile!

DS did take a little while to settle but not as bad as I was expecting! I've got a blood test in the morning so he won't be able to nap for too long, so naturally he will most likely want to sleep for England 🙄

Troodie I hope you get better soon, I hope it's not mastitis as it's horrible, but if it is then you've caught it early which is the best thing you can do

Purple I hope the pain eases quickly and you get some rest.

Fingers crossed everyone has a good night tonight! I'm rather tired so going to toddle off to bed now instead of staying up late watching trash tv like I normally do because I fight sleep just like my son.

That is very funny Hugh I've done that with my mum with cinemas.

Been meaning to say if anyone is looking for probiotics, Biocare do a fantastic range from birth. There is a dairy and gluten free one as well. I wish I knew about them earlier.

Hugh ! 🤣🤣🤣 that really made me giggle .

So bloody embarrassing isn't it haha .

I haven't had a chance to catch up properly but sending to those of you having problems x

Just seen your post purple ! I take a thyroid support by Biocare ! Took it for almost ten years with no thyroxine and it kept my levels pretty ok . I really rate their stuff .

Hehe Hugh !
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Blondes* out of interest , what ages have you potty trained children you have cared for ? My sister is struggling to potty train and I've just seen a thread on here about it . It's a very touchy subject it seems . I trained DD at around 18 months.

Yet another bad night. I'm on the 5th wake up. I expect there will be another 1 or 2.

I can't do this any more. I just can't. I'm so fucking tired. I can't even sleep between wakings because I'm on edge, not knowing whether I'm going to have to wake up again in 30 mins / 1 hour / 90 mins / 2 hours.

WHY DOES HE KEEP WAKING UP SO MUCH?!!!

name its hard isn't it? Is he waking up hungry or just needs soothing? Might he be going through a growth spurt. I'm trying to remember, you are breastfeeding right. Can you express so that at least OH can help feed.

name you're a trooper. I have a friend IRL who is BF and cant express enough and her DS is going through the same, wanting to feed every 1-2 hours. She offered him formula for a bit of a rest but he only wanted half

@mother. Yes as a nanny I've pt many children. Average age is 2.5/3. Never done at 18m as generally aren't able to tell you they need a wee

If a child is ready yes they will have accidents but should be done within a week but you have to keep reminding /take to loo and I find a small bribe works well

@name - sounds like ds is snacking/using you for comfort. Problem with bf is that you don't know what they are getting. Would you express /use formula and top up with a bottle at df so you know have a good feed and how much they take and same in the night - offer bottle

Some waking are bad habit - some hunger - some teeth /pain

By 6mths babies if getting enough milk should be able to sleep Thro the night. Tho Obv Half of mn will disagree and say their child didn't sleep through till 3 + and they need comfort etc

I disagree. All babies I've cared for have been sleeping tho by 6mth - many before. But all have been in a routine and have reg feeds - whether ebf - mixed - totally formula and sleeps tho daytime which fills them up and helps settle at night

This is not to make any of you feel bad , just stating what I have done over 25yrs and that's a lot of babies x

My eldest slept through from 4 months , I did controlled crying at for 2/3 nights but it's harder this time and lo is REALLY loud and she wakes her sister who has school . I give her a bottle and she goes back down on the occasions she wakes so I'm thinking it's hunger on those occasions. I do want to get her consistently sleeping through I just need her to come out of this screeching phase it's too loud .
Plus dp works really long hours so I feel a rush to shut her up so he can sleep . It's hard !
Blondes that's really interesting my eldest was quite forward so maybe that's why I got it done earlier . I hate changing nappies on big kids too so it was incentive . Yes my other sister said the small bribe worked with her son he was done by 19months but new nephew who is 2 seems to have a potty phobia !

Name I don't have any advice that hasn't already been said, sorry.

Is there anyone who could come round in the day and look after LO so you could get some sleep then?

Just remember, you are an amazing mummy. Hugs to you

Also think boys slower and often neater 3 then 2

As babies get older cc is harder as they've had longer doing what you want to stop

And it sounds forever at 2/4am when tired and house is quiet and all want to sleep and you don't want others esp other children woken then to deal with more dc

But

It usually takes few days /week tops and say to parents it's worth disrupt to sort out problems then all get sleep night after night once baby is sorted

Thanks everyone. I am breastfeeding and he won't bloody take a bottle any more!!! I used to express and that was a lifeline. But gave up when he kept refusing the bottle and we had to keep throwing the milk away. He used to sleep much better at night as well. He is certainly capable of sleeping for long periods without feeding or any other intervention from us, because he's done it plenty before. He's just not doing it any more. I thought it might be because we got rid of the Sleepyhead but he was starting to sleep worse before that. I thought it might be an ear infection but even with ibuprofen before bed it's still the same. I do offer him the breast most times when he wakes up, in case he is hungry or thirsty (especially because of the suspected infection) but often it's just a comfort thing so I unlatch him. Rocking him to sleep has worked instead of feeding so we could do that - although it's more effort than feeding (which I can do in bed) I could enlist DH's help with that at least. I want to do some sleep training so he will be more independent and not need feeding or rocking, but I had been holding out until we get back from holiday... That will be in 8 days and counting!!! But I can't do this for another 8 days. I will have to get DH to rock him I think (although we tried it a couple of nights ago and DS screamed, so I didn't exactly benefit from extra sleep). At least we will be on holiday soon so it won't matter so much if DH is a zombie as well

Thanks for your kind words coupester they made me cry

Oh bless you, I'm sorry I made you cry! But you are an amazing mummy. We all are, and it's so easy to forget all that we do for our babies when we're having a hard time. Sometimes we need reminding how awesome we are.

And you are truly awesome because you are coping! It might not feel like it, but you're still looking after your son in the day despite the complete exhaustion from looking after him at night. It will get better eventually xx

Bless you @name. Sleep deprivation is so hard and makes you feel like a zombie and makes rest of day and night so much harder as So tired

Babies of our age can be very cunning and will play up parents - it's very impotent that dh can settle ds as well as you - tho Obv you are the one doing it most of the time as he's at work

As hard as it sounds the key is consistency and perseverance - so yes he will scream with dh to begin with as he's so used to you doing it

And you know you can settle him quickly and easily hence why do it but proves that he can be rocked and settle without feeding and others can do it

When you feel up to it - whether now - on holiday - or after

Next step is when tired place down in cot and lots of patting shushing stroking - he will fight it as so used to being rocked but continue. The first night or daytime if doing then - may be hard and long and prob Lots of tears from you and him - but R.E.M. You are with him. It doesn't hurt for babies to cry for a bit - (tho again most of mn will be up in arms)

you are there to reassure him and he isn't alone - and he will settle tho may take an hour + but he will settle eventually

Same thing next time. May take long time again but if you keep doing it consistency is the key and it will improve

But likely to take a week

But once you start don't stop /give in/feed rock etc as babies learn v quickly if I keep doing abc then I know mummy will pick me up

Hope you don't mind me offering this advice x💐💐💐💐

Namechange I echo blondes. It's really hard and I know you don't want him to cry too much, but if it's any comfort the first day of sleep training with ds, he settled within 22 mins. As long as you are beside him then he knows you are there and it's not as harsh as leaving them to cry it out. I feel pretty ok with that although we all have our boundaries. The second day was 11 mins. So things do Improve quickly but you do need to be consistent so I would only commit to what you feel comfortable with. We did pick up and hold every 5-10 mins depending how much he was crying and said shh in between times.

Now I can put him down and he just makes this 'uh uh' sound, it's barely a whinge let alone a cry. He knows what happens now when he is put in cot and gro bag and no longer gets distressed.

Our situation has settled greatly, he is still having multiple night awakenings but the majority of the time he self settles so I don't go in. His wake ups are pretty much the exact same hour every night so I feel they are bad habits formed when he was waking up from being uncomfortable with he allergy. Somewhere along the line he stopped being uncomfortable but his body got used to waking. Last couple nights he woke between 12-1am and although he was fairly happy with a couple of whinges he was awake for 90 minutes! He could
Comfortably do till 5am before having a feed in recent times and 7/8 weeks ago he was sleeping through but the sleep lady explained that there is probably a few things going on now which weren't before such as teething and hunger as well probably because as they grow they need more to satisfy them so it could be like this until he is established on solids. It makes sense to me and I guess that's why so many find that solids improves sleep.

You are doing really well though, your getting through it however you are. It's really really hard. Are you able to get help on housework , cooking cleaning etc so that any time ds is sleeping you can sleep too?

Couple of Q - what do you guys use when feeding LO in terms of bibs etc?