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March 2007 - even though it hasn't actually arrived, some of us have (iyswim)

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CallieNewMum · 26/02/2007 20:06

Here we go girls - Amie, Kiwi, Dixia, Flannelettepyjamas, we can start comparing motherhood notes on this one and wait for the others to arrive one by one. Although I suspect the other thread will be our home until there's critical mass. To those of you still waiting to join the post-natal people - get a move on!!

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muppethasakitten · 17/03/2007 18:09

Diva - i had Samuel 4 days b4 you had Elsie i think? He was 5th March... think you had Elsie on the 9th? ... anyhow... i've only in the last 2 days or so felt like the swelling "down there" has subsided. Up until then i have felt like my insides were on the verge of falling out whenever i walked around!
I have to say it has been helped since i started bothering to do my pelvic floor exercises (albeit very infrequently)... i'm only doing them cos i have to do the ones for my split stomach muscles as well so it reminds me to do them.

yes, and i too thought bf made babies put on weight slower - which is why i was pathetically proud of his 6oz... i don't get proud much - certainly not with anything to do with pregnancy or birth as i'm historically rubbish at both... so it annoyed me that my mil had to pour cold water on my one little bit of feeling good that i was acheiving something!

divastrop · 17/03/2007 20:22

doesnt matter now if i never get any feeling down there again cos dp has left.

Leoladyofleisure · 17/03/2007 21:01

Diva, I can't catch up so I'm not sure if it was expected but just saw your last post.....! I am so sorry, huge, huge hug. Don't really know what to say !

divastrop · 17/03/2007 21:03

not really expected ,no.i dont know what to do.

eidsvold · 17/03/2007 21:50

foxy with dd2 it took a good six weeks for me to crack the breasfeeding lark - but that was the first time I had done it and I am sure it took that long for my milk to come in properly.

muppethasakitten · 17/03/2007 22:19

Diva just saw your post... do you mean left as in walked out on you?

What is going on?

Is there anyone you can call on to come and talk to you? Family? Friend? If he's buggered off then you need some sort of support for gods sake...

Did you ask him to go or did he just go?

Sending lots of hugs your way

bethoo · 17/03/2007 22:36

Diva - sorry to hear about dp, what has happened? hope you are holding up well. my thoughts are with you.xx

eidsvold · 18/03/2007 04:06

just read all the posts - Diva sorry to hear about that

kittywaitsfornumber6 · 18/03/2007 07:00

Diva, I'm going to stick my neck out today and give you a call. You can always tell me to bugger off, but I'm worried

rosylonginglily · 18/03/2007 07:24

Diva, your dp has been a honey all through the pregnancy and I'm sure this is a temperory problem. It's been your fear and so its an issue that needs to be resolved in your relationship. sometimes that means letting it happen, facing the fear and hopefully getting through it together as a couple- bad timing though, you are going to be prone to pnd too... I hope you can chat to Kitty.

TheBlonde · 18/03/2007 08:34

Diva - thinking of you

muppethasakitten · 18/03/2007 12:26

Diva - hope you will talk to Kitty... hope you check this thread to see we are all thinking of you and sending you our love

divastrop · 18/03/2007 12:27

firstly,thank you all for your kind words.he has come back now.
basically,he started getting really stressed when i was in hospital,then my mum came up and he seemed a bit better,but when i went to the labour ward to have my waters broken i was terrified and was being horrible to him,and in the end he walked out so he could calm down,and when i'd calmed down i rang him and asked him to come back when they were going to give me the drip,which he did.but after i had Elsie he seemed weird and has been very depressed.it took him a few days to start bonding with her which knocked us both for 6.
i havent been feeling depressed but i have been stressed,trying to prove i'm super-woman and that i can do it all on my own,while at the same time getting annoyed dp can find the time to go on his pc game still.then yesterday evening it all seemed to come to a head and dp was really stressed and shouted at dd2 for crawling off with a pooey bum,i had a go at him,and he started saying how i act like he never does anything around the house etc etc and that he was going to his dads for a couple of days to show me how much he does do.i told him(as i have in the past)that if he walked out and stayed away overnight that i wouldnt want him to come back and it would be over,but he went anyway,so i assumed he wanted the relationship to be over.
he texted me later on though and explained what was wrong,and i asked him to come back(well,reminded him of my feelings towards men who bugger off when the going gets tough)and he came home.
im sprry for the long post,this has been building up over the past 2 weeks and ive not been able to get it off my chest before(apart from to my mum who just says'well,what do you expect,you've never met a decent man yet')and i wanted to explain what happened.
sorry again,i dont mean to bring anybody down when you are all enjoying your new babies.

rosylonginglily · 18/03/2007 13:33

Diva I think it will be alright, I know it is all very stressful. If some one becomes stressed out and can't cope that is not the same as being a bad person.
A new baby and the mother moving in is a recipe for big stress. It's causing tension here too, but we are old and been together 11 years and so our expectations are very low!

I'm not getting much sleep because ds2 is so over excited and hyper. But I'm hoping he'll settle soon. He is so possesive of 'his' baby, it's quite funny.

I'm hoping to sort my profile out soon and put a piccy on!And land properly in the new thread yippee Still ecstatic to be unpregnant now

foxcub · 18/03/2007 14:04

Oh Diva you poor thing. You're both under a lot of strain atm, I'm sure things will improve over the next few weeks.

divastrop · 18/03/2007 14:13

thanks rosy

basically,in another 10 years dp and i will be past caring.sounds good to me.
what was that book you said was good,was it the paul mckenna one?did it have a cd with it?

Elsie slept from 8pm-12.30,had a feed and went back to sleep till 5,then had a feed and slept till 8.30.i hope shes going to be like her sisters.

foxcub · 18/03/2007 14:14

Hi

Well Monti kept me awake until 5am! He kept fidgeting all night and fussing. In the end DH took him into another room and he fell asleep.

I got 3.5 hours sleep and feel all fluey today

Well, my right nip has healed now and is completely painless Left booby is still a bit suspect with not much milk and a sore nip, but we're half way there LOL!

Can't believe that I BF DD for 18 months and am finding this so hard!! mind you, its only 12 days.

Lochia is alarming isn't it? It kind of feels out of our control - just when you think its all nice and gone it comes back with a vengance!

rosylonginglily · 18/03/2007 14:47

Diva it's like getting a pair of gorgeous shoes. At first they give you the odd blister but after a few years they may look like shit and don't make you feel very sexy but they are so comfortable and have moulded round your bunions...

Anyway I hope things settle soon. You do deserve to have a happy lovelife that works.
The book was how to change your life in 7 days with a cd. It's a good idea, Paul Mckenna is certainly raking it in!

rosylonginglily · 18/03/2007 15:04

Did anyone else have to measure their wee in hospital and fill it into a chart?

As if it were asking for trouble, I'm not doing big enough wees apparently and my uterus is still high and over to one side so I may have to have a scan on tuesday.

I don't know, I do feel as if my womb, intestines and bladder are all tied in a confused knot inside my cavernous belly area.

divastrop · 18/03/2007 16:13

rosy-i didnt have to measure my wee,they just asked if i was going.my uterus was still high after dd2 for ages,they said it didnt matter as long as my lochia was normal?ive come to the conclusion that normal doesnt exist when it comes to having babies now.

muppethasakitten · 18/03/2007 17:17

Diva - that sounds like a positive start and hopefully over the next few weeks you can start to all bond together as a family... it's bloody tough though isn't it and there never seems to be any time to cope with problems other than the immediate runnings of keeping a family functioning. Just try and remember to keep being kind to yourself.

Rosy... have never heard of trying to measure your wee... dear god... as if it's not difficult enough in the days post birth - i could barely feel when i was doing a wee let alone try to aim it into a measuring device.
It's surely early days still for your uterus too isn't it?

foxy - i think monti and samuel must be in league becos i too was up til all hours with a real fidget bum baby - thankfully it has meant he's been knackered today so quite easily managed - but not looking forward to tonight incase it's the same.

kittywaitsfornumber6 · 18/03/2007 17:37

Hello all, gate crashing!!! maybe the baby will decide he belongs to the postnatal thread Anyways, just reading your comments on the lochiua. I remember now that it would get really heavy again if I was DOING TOO MUCH simple as that. I took it as a warning to slow down. So all of you naughty ladies who are rushing around, STOP. There I'll go back to cooking meatballs now, bye x

muppethasakitten · 18/03/2007 18:26

Right kitty... i'm off to put my feet up then!!!

AmieR · 18/03/2007 18:42

Diva - I hope things settle down for all you guys. Its a tough time and it seems as if everything has come at once for you, house move, during pregnancy the neighbours, and now you've got your newborn I imagine its just a huge climax, but hopefully the little time DP had away helped you both clear your heads and you can turn a corner and enjoy your family, chin up.

My bleeding was pretty constant for 3 weeks, then this past week its just been a few bits late evening.

Feeling quite low and teary today, went out with Dh's family for mother's day as we do every year and I felt so useless as Joe was being passed around like a present in pass the parcel, I should have had the balls to say "STOP IT!!!!" but I just sat there simmering and resenting! MIL is reallhy doing my nut too, I understand Joseph is her first grandchild and all that, but she keeps insisting on coming round, I wouldn't mind so much if she was like my mother, who comes for a day and in that time, she helps out with my house work and cooks tea and gives me a bit of a break, but MIL comes round and sits there waiting for Joseph to wake up so she can hold him! Doesn't offer to help, so I don't offer her a cup of tea!

Joseph fed at midnight last night and went through till almost 4! A record! Then next time it was 7!

Hope all have had a nice mother's day, you all deserve it

foxcub · 18/03/2007 19:38

Aime - that's precisely what my Dada does, just sits their waiting for tea and biscuits.

He came round unannounced and ininvited today (haven't spoken with him since he let me down on the childcare front) and bought a present - a sleep suit. Am quite annoyed as my Mum specifically told him to write us a cheque!!! I could really do with a new double buggy but can't afford it.

Anyway I was feeding upstairs so stayed up there...

Hope everyone has had a good day today - make the most of the pampering.

DH let me sleep all day and is making me a fish finger sandwich (don't laugh, I really fancied fish finger sandwiches )