March 2007 - even though it hasn't actually arrived, some of us have (iyswim)

[CallieNewMum]

Here we go girls - Amie, Kiwi, Dixia, Flannelettepyjamas, we can start comparing motherhood notes on this one and wait for the others to arrive one by one. Although I suspect the other thread will be our home until there's critical mass. To those of you still waiting to join the post-natal people - get a move on!!

dad, not dada

Hi,

Well my first mothers day wasnt very good

Everybody in our household has caught a cold and at the moment I seem to have it the worse so I couldnt hold Deanna all day.
Tonight shes gone to the in laws for the night as we are both too sick to look after her and I feel really bad

Taking her to the GP in the morning just to get checked over

happy mother's day one and all.

diva, sorry you have been having partner troubles, but I really hope things are improving now. Big hugs.

Muppet, did you ask about Jordi's head? It seems to be fine, it's growing at the same rate as his body and the ridge has gone. So they'll just keep measuring it from time to time to check all is in order.

Went out for lunch with my mum, sister and nieces which was lovely. and LO slept all the way through . Knackered now, so can't think straight.

Fox, hope the mastitis is better.

happy mother's day everyone ... I hope some enjoyment was had by you all. There seems to be a lot of us feeling down!

It must be a day for the lochia too... I'm back on with a vengence. Just when I was starting to feel human again - at least in that respect

Diva - I truly hope that you sort things out with your dp. I agree with Rosy that you spoke of your dp being so supportive during the pregnancy so I hope it is a temporary hurdle and you are back on the road to happy families. Slowly but surely anyways

Sorry that your visit with your family wasn't great Amie. It's tough when you feel like you don't have control of a situation.

Eew the sickies Shanks... rest up and take care.

Glad the bf is sorting out for you and Monti, Fox. I have no idea how you can tell what sort of milk the baby is getting. You seem to have a real skill there!

I have Monday-itis and can't believe it has rolled around again. We seem to do so well during the week and lose it all over the weekend. I don't want to get up and do the school run in the morning in this awful weather.

Happy Mothers Day to all the new mums and mums-to-be in the UK. I forgot to send my Mum a card as it's a different day here in Oz!
Our news is that Jessica is now home - woohoo!
I spent 24 hours in hospital with her 'rooming in' and it all went fine so we got to come home.
It's lovely having her to myself after 5 long weeks of her being in special care hooked up to tubes and moniters. I finally got to see her cute little face without the NG tube and tape obscuring it .
And now I can get to know her properly.
The feeding is still not perfect - sore nipples and lots of her falling asleep ( I think a few people seem to be having the same problem). But I'm just so glad to have her home that I guess we'll work it out somehow.

flanno pjs - so glad to hear Jessica is home.

I remember when we finally could bring dd1 home - the day before I was wandering round the house nad kept singing - she's coming home, she's coming home. X is coming home ( like the footballs coming home tune) sad I know.

Like you - so nice to see them without tubes etc. I can remember one night she pulled her ng tube out and I made dh take pics so we actually had some pics of her from the early days minus ng tube.

I am sure the feeding will fall into place now that you have her at home and can sort out your own 'routine' rather than hospital 'routine'

so pleased for you

Flannelette, How lovely to have Jessica home at last, I'm really happy for you.

I overdid it yesterday and did myself an injury. My spd hasn't gone yet and I really hurt myself badly climbing around the car strapping in children. I pulled something or something and could barely walk.

Still a bit dodgy today. I frightened myself and am trying to take it easy today. Don't want to do permanent damage to myself.
I'm feeling so impatient to be back to full strength.

It takes a while to get tuned back into what everyone's up to doesn't it!

Flannelette - great you have your lo at home... great mother's day pressie!

Rosy... you must take it easy! I am a right one to talk becos i find myself doing stupid things and then regretting it later... but we must all remember to be kind to ourselves... none of us is superwoman!

Callie - i was wondering about Jordi's head... so glad it appears all fine.

Amie - I know exactly what you mean about resenting everyone passing round your lo like a parcel. At times i want to snatch Samuel back and just drive off with him! I know people are just really excited to see him etc but it truly evokes some sort of primal instinct in me to protect him!!

oh dear Rosy - listen to your body and take care of you It's too easy to want to do things yourself .

Welcome home Jessica!! It must be have been brilliant to bring her home and spend time getting to know one another in your own environment. Wishing you all the very best.

I've just been interrupted with a parcel delivered by the postie - an unexpected parcel from home which is from great friends we made here! They are also pregnant and due very shortly. The letter about their new life and pictures of the gorgeous home they are building have me in floods of tears... oh, it's the little things that get you going I can't wait for MissE to get home to open the pressie now

I also wanted to ask - I woke up this morning with my right breast full and heavy but my left feeling like last night (and so much more comfy ). Is this right?? Should it sort itself out?? Kate has fed fine from both breasts today.

Hope everyone is feeling bright today and keeping warm! Brrrr...

Great news Flannelette! Glad Jessica is doing well enough for her to be giving the OK to come home with you, it must be relieved! I was fortuante as Joseph was infact discharged before I was!

Rosy - Please take care!

Think my bleeding or Lochia or how ever its spelt, has stopped fully and I am having a monthly!!! got those nagging pains and my skin looks like a 14 year olds! Great!

flannelette-glad to hear jessica is home,congrats to you both

i think things are ok with dp now,i dont know if hes still in a weird mood or if im in a paranoid mood though.my hormones are all over the place,and i had a rather rude dream last night.

my mw came for the last time this morning and i got told off (as in she had a go at me like i was a naughty school kid)for not taking my bp medication.i didnt bother to tell her that i havent taken it atall since i had Elsie,and my bp was fine all last week.i told her i stopped taking it last wednesday,and she had a go at me then did my bp and told me it was high.well,der

i got up late this morning cos ds2 was up and down from 4am.why does my 10-day-old baby sleep better then her 3.5 yr old brother?!

amie-i havent yet ahd the joy of Elsie baing passed round,but i was in a card shop the other day and this old woman moved her pushchair out of the way without even asking me or even saying excuse me.lets just say i didnt keep my gob shut,and there was alot of strong language in what i said to her(think i also threatened her with violence)

Don't know if anyone has annouced this yet but Dolly had baby Tilly at 9.33am this morining, weighing 8lbs 8oz and looks like her sister!

Flannel - glad baby Jessica is home you must be over the moon

Diva - so glad things are back on track with your DP.

Muppet - how are things with you - we seemed to be at the same stage last time I was on here?

Kiwi - I've been really down today too. DH went back to work, both kids are sick (DS1 has a horrible ear infection), I have flu and throat feels like razor blades and still have a sore left nip

Plus the midwife spoke to me as though I'm 5 years old

Me: can you give me any advice re. BF?

Her: "I can't do it for you, you and baby just have to practice"

WTF does she think I do all day, apart from practice BFing?

Plus I wanted to go to a BFing clinic this morning and couldn't go as we are all sick

Was very tearful but managed a nap so at least I'm not so tired now and Monti is being a dream.

So when does it start to get better?

Foxy - i think as reality sets in (and dh has gone back to work) it's going to be a hard week for me! Definatly feeling much flatter than last week (if only i could say the same for my stomach )

Samuel is feeding well i have to say - that you're having probs foxy... and what a useless lump your mw sounds... fancy saying that to you... what's your HV like? Any better? In my experience they are better help with bfeeding than the mws...

Did you ever get yourself some nipple cream? I can only say it has helped me... may be worth trying if you haven't already.

I'm still bleeding - although not quite so heavy and not quite so red (sorry if tmi) but i'm still paranoid about it and hating it... can't wait for it to all be over.

Samuel is going 3 maybe 4 hours at night but feeds much more in day. I'm in no routine whatsoever... but to be frank i couldn't care less! This will probably be my last baby... and the other two were so long ago.. i'm determined to do things my way in a relaxed fashion and enjoy him whilst he's little.

Muppet - I feel the same about Monti - I really cherish his newborness, as I know its the last time I'll have a my own newborn...

He's feeding fine too - just my nips which are sore

Are you doing the school run, or are your's older and able to travel by themselves?

Hi,

Well we all still have coughs and colds here.DH woke up this morning and had lost his voice.Nit good considering he was supposed to be starting a new job today.

Deanna stayed last night at the in laws and also tonight.I managed to see her for about 20 minutes this morning when we all went to the doctors.Thankfully Deanna checked out okay but Im on antibiotics.

I feel lost without Deanna and miss her so much but hopefully I will feel well enough to look after her tomorrow.

Sorry you are so poorly shanks - nightmare time to get ill - poor you - hope the antibiotics kick in soon... not suprised you feel lost without your lo - you're lucky to have someone who'll take her like that!

Foxy - DD is 9 DS1 is 7 so i'm still on school run duty! Was first time i'd done it on own this morning since having Samuel - it was ok but only cos my DD is such a little honey... she knew it was going to be hard for me this morning and was up and dressed and breakfasted by 7am so that i could get up and leave Samuel with her whilst i showered/made packed lunches/ tidied up/ got breakfast for ds1 etc etc.... she is such a good little second mummy to Samuel... I consider myself very lucky!! He will already calm down as soon as she picks him up!!!

Diva - hope things get back on track for you now

Hi all, I'm totally lost here again....

All 3 dcs were in bed and asleep by 8.30 tonihgt so I'm just checking in quickly before I go to bed.

Diva, I'm so sorry I abandoned you the other night, I had a chorus of crying babies and had to go, but really relieved and happy to hear that you are sorting things out. It made me cry when I read your post, can't imagine how you must have been feeling.

FP, great news that your little one is home with you !

Well things here are going well. I've got my sister staying which is fantastic. I just don't know how to cope with the babies and ds1 on my own when she is gone!

I have managed to get them into a feeding pattern of every 2 1/2 hours and last night they woke every 3 hours which was great! I make the baby that wakes first wait for the second one to wake before feeding them, then feed them both together. The advice is to wake the sleeping one up, but they were waking too often.

They are both much more awake now and quite active, can lay under the baby gym for ages quite happily waving their arms around and looking , so unbelievably adorable!

HV weighed them last thursday and they seemed to have gained about a whole pound in weight EACH in the previous week! i think there must be something wrong with her scales!

Can't believe it but tomorrow they will be 1 month old, the time has gone so quickly, I don't want them to grow up so fast!!!!!

Someone somewhere mentioned stomach muscles... please remind me to be patient.... with ds1 my belly sprung back into shape pretty quickly, but this time the pregnancy has left them really f*ed! I still look as if I am 6 months pregnant and have a huge gap in the muscles above my belly button where my intestines seem to be poking through.

Muppet, I'm also still bleeding, worries me as well as I had a really bad cough right after the babies were born and i am still half worried that the coughing split something open and its not really locchia - jsut paranoid I'm sure as I have no pain or anything.

Shanks, hope you all get better fast.

Amie, you are the mother and have a right to be possessive about your baby and not allow him to be passed around. at the insensitivty of your MIL!

Wow, that's a long post!!!! ..... oh I hear someone waking up!

I've just forgotten everything I read..

(quick check). Oh yes. FlanelettePJs that's brilliant that Jessica is home. Jordi was in hospital for five weeks too and it was such a fantastic feeling to take him home (although sadly I came down with mastitis straight away which was not so great!). He's been home for five weeks now so I've had him as long as the hospital did. It's amazing how quickly you forget too. I looked at a picture of him yesterday while feeding him from when he was in intensive care and it made me cry to see him with all the wires, tubes etc all over him. It suddenly brought back the horrendous stress of being away from him.
I didn't realise you were in Oz btw.

Shanks, I really hope you get better soon and have Deanna back with you. My heart squeezed up tight when you said you were apart from her. After our separation when he was born, I can't bear to be away from LO for more than about an hour or two atm, and that hasn't happened very often.

Fox, your MW needs a kick up the peculiars. Fancy saying that after you asked for advice. Some people are clearly in the wrong job!!!

Muppet, your DD sounds like a little angel, love her.

Rosy, take it easy - you've only just had a baby remember (as if you could forget....[). Have you decided on a name or have I missed that? Sorry if I have.

This thread is slowly overtaking the other one, isn't it? we'll have Jay and Madhide here shortly, and Dolly of course. Wonder if Dixia is still reading? Hello if you are and hope your DD is doing well.

Jordi is eating like a fiend now. He's had two lots of 150mls (5oz) today so I can see the time has come to get bigger bottles - mine are the expressing bottles I got from hospital at the moment and only go up to 130ml. I've got orthodontic teats for them (the ones like nipples, supposedly, with a flat bit on one side). Any ideas about what bottles I should get? One of the nurses said the teats don't fit certain bottles. I tried on an outfit a friend of mine gave me for him yesterday and was very disappointed to find he doesn't fit the top part which came with it already. I really liked it too, it was one of the few things that wasn't blue! So now I'm frantically putting him in all the newborn outfits we got given just so he will at least wear them once (I hope).

callie - i remember none of my tops fitting when bf too. am still in my maternity tops atm - nice and baggy and comfy...like me

Fox, I've got sore nips too. Using lanisoh, but I'm not focused on that pain...am focused on the spd pelvis. Still v.sore but much improved. I'm being really carefull now.

Amie I remember being so protective with my first two and hating people touching my precious baby! Nowadays its my own children who are kissing, cuddling and generally slobbering all over the baby, so it's a different angle!

Callie, he is called Hasan. I do intend to sort out a picture but not getting anywhere fast at the moment!

I'm still in that happy haze even though everything is chaotic around me

Oh bums... have got mastitis... me and my big mouth for saying all going well with bfeeding!!!

Have just got back from gp and have antibiotics... feel like i have flu... am going to go back to bed with Samuel for cuddles and snooze whether he likes it or not... oh yes he's on eye drops for conjunctivitis!!!

Apart from that we're on top of the world!!!

Leo - it was me that was moaning on about stomach muscles splitting... it's my other obsession along with the lochia!!!

I have the exercises to bring them back together... am trying to do them although feel like doing bugger all at the moment. Sometimes if i lie on my back my tummy button dances around with the motion of my bowell!!!

Hope everyone is doing ok... just when you think you've got things into some sort of pattern it all blows up in your face doesn't it?

absolutely Muppet!! It's almost like being careful what you say / wish for .

Great to hear from you Leo... and well done on establishing some sort of routine with the twins! Enjoy having your sister around.

Hope that eveyrone is feeling a bit better at your place Shanks, and that your dh has a fabulous first day at his new work.

You too Fox... hope the ear infection is improving for your littly. I think the hardest thing about having dh/ps return to work is the company. I've survived ok but really miss having someone there to talk to!

I'm shattered today - like Muppet said, as soon as I think I have lo sussed she goes and changes things on me!!

Poor you Muppet - I'm just recovering from Mastitis (now have flu instead ). The ABs should sort you out in about 24 hours. I was just starting to get smug when I got mastitis last week!

See, I said we had lots in common

Rosy - love the name Hasan

Had a text from Boo, saying she's Babymooning

Hope everyone else is Ok

Foxy and anyone else with older kids, have ours discovered "club penguin" yet. Mine are addicted!!! have a look at this