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March 2007 - even though it hasn't actually arrived, some of us have (iyswim)

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CallieNewMum · 26/02/2007 20:06

Here we go girls - Amie, Kiwi, Dixia, Flannelettepyjamas, we can start comparing motherhood notes on this one and wait for the others to arrive one by one. Although I suspect the other thread will be our home until there's critical mass. To those of you still waiting to join the post-natal people - get a move on!!

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foxcub · 22/04/2007 10:16

shanks happy birthday for yesterday - so was your birthday eclipsed a bit by your new arrival then?

yet another reminder that they are now more important than us

Kitty - last night I had a glass of wine (first for weeks and tasted very good)and this morning I had my usual porridge, decaff coffee and several sqaures of dark chocolate

start the day as I mean to go on eh?

Feel a bit guilty as Dh wants to got to some political meeting today and I'm giving him a hard time about it. kids are back to school tomorrow and i've loads to do and DS1 wants daddy to do a BBQ and this meeting is a bout 70 miles away and would mean Dh is away all day.

but I feel a bit mean...

suggested he sends comments with apologies and offers to host the next one here...

foxcub · 22/04/2007 10:16

BTW Diva I'm feeling a bit paranoid too - am wondering why all the people going to this meeting are women and why they don't know about his 6 week old baby ????

Rosylily · 22/04/2007 10:23

Fox that is a very good breakfast! I had raisin wheats, 2 muffins and loads of butter biscuits...I am really weary today, slight head ache, big dark shadows...in serious need of a good sleep and a bit of a break.
Oh well...some chance! (reaches for more biscuits)

Rosylily · 22/04/2007 10:26

My dh has loads of female friends. When he txted one of them with news of the baby arriving, she was shocked, she didn't know I was pregnant! He doesn't tell people things like that!

foxcub · 22/04/2007 10:30

Rosy - yeah maybe men just don't mention personal stuff - you're probably right...

I'm knackered too - could do with a day on my own (some hope eh?)

Mossie · 22/04/2007 10:37

Rosy / Foxy, your brekkies sound amazing! I had a jam buttie and some coffee!

Is there something about drinking caffeinated coffee if you're bfing? If so I think I may have messed things up a bit, I've been back on the coffee with a vengeance since I wasn't pg any more...

I have big bags... I'm not normally a makeup person but I have a cheap version of touche eclat (or whatever it's called) and it works wonders so with that, a bit of dove tan moisturiser and a sweep of blusher people keep telling me how well I look and I think if only you knew!

Foxy... I have doses of paranoia atm as well, not about dh going off with someone, but about other stuff... think it's just hormones.

DollyPopsOut · 22/04/2007 11:00

I am the world's most paranoid person... I don't think pg and the raging hormones thereafter have done anything to improve it. DH never mentions personal things to friends (well, not as far as I know ). I have programmed the numbers of some of his friends into my phone so that I could send the general text round saying I'd had the baby. At least that way there was a chance they might find out whilst she was still little. A couple texted back to say that they hadn't realised she was due so soon. I have given up. I think men just have very different relationships, esp with their male friends.

DH is off to India tonight so I am flying solo with 2 children and no sleep. Oh dear. I can't rationalise the worry as he doesn't wake up in the night anyway, but am slightly uneasy about him going. Hope no one is ill! Still there's no choice and we'll muddle on. I know Rosy your DH is away a lot - any top tips for coping (apart from chocolate?!)

I have eaten half a packet of choc biscuits this morning. Even though I know why I am still a lardball, I am annoyed at how fat and wobbly I am so am going to Weight Watchers on Tues. Expect to be told that I should lose a couple of stones. I am ravenous when BF but think if I am supposed to be being good, at least I will snack more healthily than at th emoment on bags of choc biscuits. Everyone else's breakfasts sound fab, BTW!

FOx, did you send a text to Booboo? And did she reply? I often wonder how she is getting along.

I saw DD2 being cuddled by DH this monring and thought she looked huge. Not a tiny newborn any more. I feel quite sad that that stage has passed and wonder if I'll ever have it again with another child....all this broodiness needs to be stamped out! Am knackered with 2 so would be demented with 3 (although part of me thinks it would be really lovely too)!

Hope you all have a good sunday and a bit of rest and TLC from your other halves. I know I am crap at posting regularly, but I read nearly every day and really enjoy the support and banter we have on the thread. It made my pg enjoyable and it is wonderful to hear about everyone else's LOs and experiences as they get bigger .

Take care everyone and see you soon XXXXX

Rosylily · 22/04/2007 11:22

Dolly, dh is with me 3 days in every two weeks so its easier for me, it's my norm to be without him... I don't expect too much of myself and mumsnet keeps me company!

divastrop · 22/04/2007 11:38

there was me hoping the paranoia might subside in a couple of years

atm my main issue is that im a total control freak and have messed up dps life.he doesnt see any of his rl friends.saying that,neither do i.im not a very sociable person,i prefer to be in the company of just one person and feel uncomfortable in groups.dp has 3 'mates' on that online game,and i think he mentioned me having a baby to them.

i had to apaologise to him yet again for keep looking over his shoulder and sticking my nose into his businessits not like i genuinley believe hes going to meet somebody else and leave me,but im terrified of being made a fool of,and feel i have to check if hes saying anything online that i would class as flirting.its like im waiting for him to do something wrong.

rosy-i have actually managed to read through the intro of that paul mckenna book.i was going to listen to the cd this morning while i was in the bath and Elsie was asleep,but as soon as i pressed play she started crying.think i'll leave it untill they are all asleep later.

sorry,im rambling again.

foxcub · 22/04/2007 12:22

just a quikkie as montipine has a feed due

coffee is suppossed to make babies agitated if your Bfing

rosy - no I forgot to text thanx 4 reminding me - hope boo is OK (getting all worried now as we haven't heard from her for ages)

Diva - you had a really bad experience with your ex - not surprising you're feeling abit paranoid atm. hope it gets better as time moves on

must dash

TheBlonde · 22/04/2007 13:57

Just popping on to moan

I have got breast thrush
Supposed to be seeing friends this afternoon but just can't face trying to pretend to be happy

All I wanna do is eat biscuits and cake but I need to stop as I can't fit into any of my clothes

MIL arrives Weds

moan over.

foxcub · 22/04/2007 15:21

TheBlonde - oooh you poor thing - I have just got rid of mine after taking fluconazole for a month - have you got any meds for the thrush yet? . I am still putting daktarin on just in case ....

I have baby girls clothes 1-12 months if anyone wants to come over and take what they want - lots of gap, next, verbaudet, jojo, blooming marvellous etc. all the baby girls I know round here are bigger than 12 months...

Was sorting thru them this arvo and got very very emotional - realising I'll never have another baby daughter to wear those gorgeous clothes. DD was and is such a dream and I want another DD arrrrgghh. She keeps saying "Mummy I like baby boys, but next time you can have a baby girl" - why I am sooo old?

TBH I feel even more emotional about DS1's clothes as he was our fist baby, but Montipine will wear DS1's old faves so feel fine about that as I don't have to throw them out yet.

Does everyone feel like this when they throw out baby things?

shanks313 · 22/04/2007 16:05

foxcub- I felt all emotional and there was tears when I cleared out Deannas newborn size clothes the other day.Shes now completely in 0-3.Hopefully wont be long till we have a teeny one again lol

Thank you everyone for the birthday wishes,it was a nice day and I was definitely upstaged by little one...everyone adored her and we hardly saw her all afternoon as she got cuddles fom all her aunties.

Yucky AF arrived this morning but at least I didnt get the mighty pains like Im used to.

TheBlonde · 22/04/2007 16:21

Fox - I already had some Daktarin gel & DH picked up some cream when he was out

Really upset as I had it at this stage with DS so just as bf is getting a bit easier it gets worse

I know what you mean about the clothes. I kept most of DS' stuff and don't know whether to give it away or not. Not sure my body is up to coping with another pg/birth.

Shanks - glad you enjoyed your birthday

divastrop · 22/04/2007 16:50

shanks-sorry,forgot to say happy birthday for yesterday

i used to get really bad period pain before i had kids,then since having dd1 ive just got the odd twinge the day before im due on.

untill now.this af is really painful,plus my period used to bring with it a sense of sanity,which hasnt happened.the sooner i get this coil swapped for a normal one,the better.i'd rather have 10 day periods than feel like this.

fox-i always felt emotional when getting rid of baby clothes,but happy emotional not sad.like 'yay,i wont be needing these again'(please note,i love babies but i was overjoyed at not having to be pregnant again).now i have a large house i think i'll keep Elsies clothes till i go through the menopause

anyway...youre not old!i know a few people your age with babies(dp's stepmum being one),why not have another one.now-small age gaps are fun,honest!!!

Piffle · 22/04/2007 17:01

Shanks hope you had a lovely birthday too xx

Crap night here, not sure whether Finn is suffering from his cold but arghhh I finally lost it at 3am

He slept greta from 7-10.30, fed changed him, straight back to sleep
Then 12.30 1.30 2.30 and then he was unable to be settled, I burst into tears put him on the bed and said to dp I cannot so this anymore I quit, send him back to the shop
Went downstairs and wept in the loo for 5 mins
Silence form upstairs
DP has got two huge burps out of him

He just said gently maybe give him some infacol before the next feed...
Peace ensued thereafter (4.15am) he then woke at 7.15...

I feel like shit, mentioned to dp I wondered about depression, he said
no you're prefectly normal
I've never done that before with either kids
I've always been able to walk away deep breath and come back and cope
Dp is away all this week and I'm worried beyond belief about how I'll cope at night alone if he screams again
I think infacol might be used a LOT
Sorry for self indulgent depressing post I am feeling so guilty about wishing him away when we tried for 3 yrs to have him

foxcub · 22/04/2007 17:14

Diva - why not have another one quickly - 'cos my DH is 65 !!!!

Dolly - have texted Boo (sorry I think I called you rosy earlier - wan in a hurry)

Piffle - you sound knackered. I'm sure you'll cope fine - you probably badly need one nights sleep without interruption though...?

foxcub · 22/04/2007 17:16

TheBlonde - glad you've started on the meds...really feel for you, thrush pain makes it so hard

Kitty - are your nips better now after the lanisoh? Due my 6 week check up - must mention my piles - need to see the bottom Dr to have them zapped again

divastrop · 22/04/2007 17:24

piffle-dont feel bad,sleep depriavtion can push anyone to their limits.anyway,you only put him down and told your dp to take over while you went to have a cry,it doest matter what you said.

kittyhas6 · 22/04/2007 17:27

Happy birthday for yesterday Shanks

I'm SO bloody all the time now. There's no particular reason, well I suppose there's a newborn, no sleep and no rest during the day. I feel like I'm going to burst with it. Today we were out and I was watching a woman eat her sandwich and she didn't close her mouth properly whilst she was eating. I wanted to go over and slap her .

Sorry, I'm a miserable irrational cow atm. LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU ALL ANYWAYS.

Foxy, nips are def better but LO keeps chewing my left one which doesn't help. That cream is brill.

Oh dear Ronnie is crying AGAIN, speak later X X X

divastrop · 22/04/2007 17:38

piffle-my experience of PND was crying all the time,feeling like i couldnt cope atall and ds and dd1 would be better off without me etc.i didnt find any joy in anything,even though i loved them i just thought they deserved better.i didnt realise the first time that i had it but when it started creeping up on me in my pregnancy with dd2 i recognised the signs.all i can say is it feels very different to the raging hormones/stress/wanting to take your baby back for a refund due to extreme sleep deprivation and not being able to get on with anything during the day that alot of us are experiencing on this thread.

kitty-.theres not alot i can say as i know you know its just a matter of time till things start getting more manageable.just keep looking forward to your glass of wine....

kiwibella · 22/04/2007 18:00

gee... I haven't got through many posts and I am wondering if something is in the air or if it is a stage thing or.... or... . It's been a shitty few days here - definately wondering about depression but it's not baby related. I love spending time staring endlessly at her. Mine is the rest of life and not being able to cope. Trouble is it hurts even to talk about it so there's little chance of that happening. Stupid dh asks if everything is ok and I wish that he could just see that it is not.

Anyways... I was looking forward to catching up and reading lots of great news!!

Sorry to hear that you have thrush Blonde. It seems to have been common amongst a few of us (luckily, not me).

Sending lots and lots and lots of good mummy vibes to everyone

kiwibella · 22/04/2007 18:01

ooh, happy (belated) birthday Shanks!!

Mossie · 22/04/2007 19:57

Foxy I didn't know that about the coffee I had been so looking forward to getting right back on it after I had cut back while I was pg. Used to drink at the very least six or seven cups a day, then cut down to two when I was pg...

Oh well... I've done it before, I can do it again!

Diva I think everyone gets paranoid feelings from time to time, but when you're not pg / early postnatal / sleep deprived it's easy to tell yourself to be rational. However atm those thoughts are much easier to entertain.

I have had to fight really hard against believing that mil and dh are ganging up on me about me bfing! I do know that they aren't, but somehow I've got it into my head that they are, and then every little thing they say just gives this negative "fantasy" more weight. If that makes sense?

Blonde sorry you're not doing so well, breast thrush sounds nasty I hope it clears up asap.

Those of you getting rid of / clearing out the newborn clothes... I am dreading having to do that, so am taking photos of Bertie in all his different newborn outfits, just so I have a record to look back on. I will deffo be storing them somewhere... despite the difficult labour I do want at least one more!!

Piffle sorry you're feeling so crap. But I think you're entitled to have a bad night once in a while. You might not have had this with your others... but this time round you've two other children to deal with as well, so you're bound to be more tired and fed up! Hope you feel better soon, at least it sounds like your dp is being supportive which is good.

Kitty you must be absolutely knackered. I think you've done amazingly well just to get far enough out of the house to see a woman eating a sandwich!!

Kiwi sorry you're feeling crap as well... maybe we are all "cycling together" on this thread or something?

One more bf question I'm afraid... Bertie falls asleep at the boob within minutes of latching on and then just vaguely suckles... should I keep waiting him? And if so how will I know when he's full?

TheBlonde · 22/04/2007 20:12

Mossie - I find I have to wiggle DD's ear or tickle her feet to keep her awake and feeding
Sometimes it's worth nappy changing between breasts to wake them up