August 2015. It's all about food consumption and late nights at Bar Mugabe Nights

[Dozygirl]

New thread for us fast talkers

Whoops - posted too soon!

Glad you had a good night tindel. Ds usually grizzled during tummy time too. I'm not worried in the slightest as his head control is ffab and he spends lots of time sitting up and in the sling. I am going to try and practice on his tummy a bit more though. so I don't feel bad at massage class
I hope you get on OK with the cbt stuff. Please feel free to pm me if there is anything I can help with.

I hope your cat is ok siani.

Shit loves, that sounds like a total nightmare. I hope you manage to sort something for the party.

I also feel quite down about my appearance at the moment dozy. Like you say, looking after baby is the main priority at the moment. I'm trying to forget about it until after Christmas. There are too many treats around at the moment.

Mr iwan can be quite rousing loves! Ds has a cd of him singing nursery rhymes and loves it! cowboys are brill, we have seen them many times.

I hope everyone is having a good day! We're going to brave Desmond and go to the pub for lunch.

I hope the silence today means you're all getting on well. DD has refused bottle today while I was out getting my hair done so think I will have to not drink at all tonight, get her to bed before I leave and get home before her first feeding :(

Hope everyone has avoided the worst of the weather. We went to visit my old flatmate to introduce her to J, which was lovely, apart from J getting overtired and grouchy.

DH is currently putting him in the bath to see if he will settle and I'm watching a sneaky bit of Strictly. I'm normally glued to it, but haven't got into it this time round.

siani any sign of your cat?

joskar hope you are feeling better soon

Thanks for the nice messages about cbt - I haven't looked at the stuff yet, but plan to get started on it soon.

Hope everyone has a restful evening

I've had a clingy DD today so poor ds2 hasn't really had much time with me. He did enjoy a squidge with his sister though.
DS1 has basically ignored me. Apparently he's too old to join in cuddles with mum.

Mugabe mugabe Augmums.

We finally put our tree up today. I love it when it starts to feel Christmassy! Read a really depressing thread on here earlier about Father Christmas not being real and not wanting to lie to their DCs. What a joyless sentiment. I don't remember when I stopped believing but I certainly don't hold it against my parents that they perpetuated a "lie" so we could have a magical childhood at Christmas. I will do everything in my power to make my children's Christmases as happy as mine were and Father Christmas is probably the biggest part of that. Sorry rant over! It just made me so sad

Still majorly struggling with the sleep regression here but DH got up with them both today and I stayed in bed until 12! Was amazing. Does anyone else find themselves staying up stupidly late even though you know you'll feel worse for it just because you dread going to bed?

Siani, I really hope your cat came home.

Loves, that sounds like a nightmare! Did you get party sorted? How did your elder DCs do in the gala?

Tindel, good luck with the CBT!

Grok, I hope you managed to enjoy your night out and DD settled for the GPs.

Fatty, lovely cuddle! I find myself abandoning the baby as my 2 yr old is so needy but I sometimes catch DS giggling at her or just watching transfixed and realised I actually am getting some help parenting this time just by DD being her entertaining self.

Joskar, balls to mastitis. Get well soon

Frolic, I have a very shouty DS too. Have recorded it as it is just so cute! I once met a Welsh language boy band in the 90s called Mega. I thought it was rather a niche market but clearly I was wrong!

Let's hope for better sleep for everyone tonight.

Oh and Mzzf, you'd better not be reading this but I hope you are having an amazing time and the cold didn't develop and spoil your fun

I stay awake late too. I don't even have to be up tonight but my mind can't switch off. I keep listening out for DD coughing. Luckily I'm getting a lie in, but I have a really busy day tomorrow. I should try and get some kip.

DD really is a mini mum to DS2. She gets jealous sometimes but she loves him and won't let anyone near him my dad tried to pick him up yesterday and she shouted at him "noo ganda, mummy's baby, no" (probably because I'm always telling her she can't carry mummy's baby around she has to get her baby to go in the dolls pram) she even kicked off because her pram only had one chair and she wanted two babies in it so I had to buy a double dolls pram for her.

Hope everyone gets a good night
grok are you home? Did you manage to have a drink of two?

Muuuuuu-gaaaaaaa-beeeee!

Mzzzf - hope you're having a fab night off and away!!!

Frolic - some excellent TT there, I know it's not everyone's cup of tea but molly is really good (and whinge free) If I point her towards the tv so she can watch it/face plant down

Glad the call went well tindel, well done to you xx

Dozy - you're gorgeous!! How was the party??

Siani - any updates on the cat? Good wedding?

Loveandsmiles - fucking nightmare on the bridge!!!!! You have my full sympathies and extra buenos!!!!!!!!

Slowwife - how you feeling??? We cot napped today albeit at half ten as we all had a lie in . Totally get what you mean about 'routines' going to shit at weekends. I blame DH obv!

Fatty - that photo is too cute!!

Nolonger - that is too sad about Father Christmas and parenting!! We actually took molly today to start the tradition!!! And of course she tried to pull his beard off!!

Oooops sorry did not mean to post that first picture!!

Nolonger, did you write this article??? If not, she shares your sentiments on this ridiculous "don't lie to the children" thing!

www.the-pool.com/life/parenting-honestly/2015/48/jessica-ruston-on-father-christmas

Morning all. Fergus has just slept through the night IN THE TRAVELODGE AFTER A WEDDING. Such a good baby! He did cry during the ceremony so I had to dash out and settle him, but he cheered right up after an enormous poo! He loved all the noise and bustle of the reception. And was sick on both bride and groom. not much and no one minded so it was all OK.

Haven't been home yet to see if the cat has returned, so I'm just going to believe that he will be waiting for me until I get there and can check.

nolonger My parents never tried to get me to believe in Santa. They always made it clear that this was a game of make believe that we all played together, but that some people really believed so I must not hurt them by telling. I loved Christmas and still do, more than anyone I know. It definitely didn't make it less magical for me, and as a child I thought it was terribly cruel that other people believed in Santa. My childhood best friend was HEARTBROKEN when she realised her parents had tried to make her believe something they knew wasn't true, she just couldn't understand why they did it. I'll definitely be taking the same approach as my parents did, I just can't imagine doing anything else!

Morning. It's ds1 party today so have been busy organising. Luckily ds2 slept last night despite having a cold. He seems in good spirits though the little trooper. Unlike me I have a sore throat and it's making me miserable.

Loves the bridge is rubbish isn't it. We've had some part cancellations coz the fifers can't face the journey. I don't blame them.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend at weddings, hotels etc...

Re santa we are a bit in the middle. I believed as a child and thought it made christmas really magical but I felt that faded once I found out. I was a rather logical child so think I worked it out quite early. Dh's family were more of the this a game, some people believe but we know better types...I think we will do the whole santa thing but I'm not going overboard with reindeer food, leaving foot prints, elf on the shelf etc...

Right got to dash and get this party started.

Siani - I do believe it's an old tradition that being sick on both the bride and groom makes them have a very happy and long marriage

Santa- DS1 believes, but I've never outright told him he's real and I don't do reindeer food or elf on the shelf (he's a creepy little fecker!) But he believes. He also knows Santa only brings up to 3 presents depending how hard they are to make (sometimes less) and if his friends got more then their mummy or daddy have wrapped them and said they are from Santa. (Obviously he doesn't only get 3 presents, just 3 off Santa. Lots off mummy and daddy And the rest of the family) Santa can't bring too much as there's so many children in the world. I think he knows that he's not real as he asked me last year
"Why does Santa have the same writing as you?"
"Why do you think?"
Then he thought for a bit and I could sort of see it click IYSWIM, then said
"Maybe its Because he wants all the presents to look the same"
"Maybe"

When he asks outright I will ask what he thinks. I can't see him believing much longer as I think he's just humouring me now 😂

This year he has asked for a tablet, an experiment kit and a stocking for George (cat)
I got the tablet free when I got broadband and calls with sky, and the experiment kits (he's got 2) were £25 for both. Georges stocking was only a couple of quid.

I can't remmer the moment I found out about father Christmas so obv wasn't that traumatic. And I loved to carry in make believing even when I knew it wasn't true anymore. I still remember how exciting Christmas was as a child. I miss that feeling. Not bothering making a fuss this year but next year I will start.

I had a fun night out last night for my friends 30th. Wore an old outfit I found in my wardrobe that still fitted and covered all my chubby buts just perfectly. My boobs are ridiculously big but nothing I can do about that haha.

Came home to the electric tripping out so couldn't express my milk. Desperately tried to hand express but I hate it so only managed 10mls. So of course I woke up to milk dripping everywhere haha. Oh the joys.
Enjoying a nice lie in now before going to collect piper from my mum's. I do miss her but I enjoy the brea . I'm a sociable little bean so I think I'd get fed up if I stayed in all the time and missed out on fun party's. I know it'll get harder to keep going to stuff as she gets older or we have more chikdren but for now I'm taking full advantage of people being willing to babysit and her being happy to go to anybody.

Joskar how are u?

Mzzf did u manage your night out?

Hope no one's been badly affected by this bad weather.

Loves that must be so frustrating. Your poor husband having to travel so much. What a nightmare.

The Santa thing is really interesting, it had never occurred to me to do anything different to what I knew growing up (thought Santa was real, left out mince pies and wrote a letter, stocking full on Christmas morning) but this thread has prompted me to speak to DP and he's less keen on the whole thing. Mind you he's a bit of a grinch in general. Guess we have a couple of years to sort ourselves out, and I'm desperate to take A to a grotto this year - lovely pic by the way fanby.

I went out for a Christmas dinner with friends last night, had such a good evening. Like Dozy I think I'd find it hard to stop going out and luckily A isn't fussy and is happy to be put to bed by anyone. He was awake when I got home though... He seemed hungry. Trying to regulate him to 6 feeds a day as that's what the formula box suggests (currently doing 3 BF, 3 formula) but do any of you who do formula find your baby wants extra feeds at times? Does it matter if they have more than the recommended amount? I always used to BF on demand and now it seems A is more of a 7 feeds a day kinda guy. Argh formula is such a mystery to me. Feel like there's so little info out there.

Great news about the cbt Tindel, I think you're fab for being so positive and brave.

for you Joskar, hope you've got some antibiotics and it clears up soon.

Sounds like Fergus was the star of the wedding Siani - and well done him letting you sleep it off.

How was your night Grok?

Hope you're having a fab time MzzF.

Good luck with the party everything - save us some cake

How did your DC do in the gala Love? Bridge closure sounds like a right nightmare, hope it hasn't separated you from the Krispy Kremes

Oh we do letters etc, and they receive a letter back and leave out mince pie and booze. (Probably the biggest clue its mum and dad really ) but I've never actually said this is real, IYSWIM.
As for formula. The box is a guideline. If A wants more, give him more.

Clstow I did leaving out mince pies and everything, too, it's just that I knew we were all playing a game of pretend together! My dad quite plainly ate the mince pies, and drank the drink. My parents used to joke about how it was such a coincidence that Santa liked the same drink as my dad. :)

No sign of the cat, BTW. :/ I don't even feel like I can make a fuss as it's so recent that he last did this. I'm sure someone thinks he's a stray. :(

Afternoon all!
I had plans with friends today, but their children are poorly so we've had to cancel. Dh and I are having a getting stuff done day instead. Such a shame that Ds has conked out on me and I have to sit here until he wakes 😉

The Father Christmas stuff is interesting. My family have always done it. I remember being very excited about it as a kid. Then kind of figuring out that it was impossible and that not being a big deal either. I love the magic, and we will be doing it. SIL doesn't with her kids, but dh is well up for it. My lovely 8 year old dn was explaining to me the other day that now I'm a mum I have to give Father Christmas the money for Ds' gifts and he will deliver them if he's been a good boy. Very serious instructions!

He is a right little Christmas pudding fatty. They are both beautiful.

We have taken loads of videos of shouty Ds over the past few days as well nolonger. It's been s few days now since he found his voice and he's not given it a rest at all!

Beautiful photos fanby.
Ds is a right little telly addict - I will try pointing him at it for the next tummy time.

Glad you had a good time at the wedding siani - well done Fergus.
Hopefully the cat is just freaked out by the storm and will come back soon.

Enjoy the party everything.

Glad you had a good night dozy. I hope your boobs have recovered from not being able to pump. I wouldn't know where to start with hand expressing.

I've no idea about the feeds clstow, but would be tempted to feed on demand if that's what he's used to. Maybe your hv could advise?

Have a good Sunday everyone.

We were big Father Christmas believers in my house so we will be going down that road. So excited about being Santa. Is interesting though as never occurred to me to do anything else but that's probably just cause am doing what my mum and dad did. I do like the idea of DS having a few years of believing in something magical though. V cute pic fanby.

We all have our Christmas jumpers on today to do our Christmas card photo. My friend popped in this morning and took the photo for us and didn't get any of the tree in. Erm thanks.

DS had his first swimming class yesterday. Think he enjoyed. The teacher said they will all have a huge nap after it. Well guess who didn't bother with that...... That said he did sleep a tiny bit better at night so maybe that was why?

I am really stuck what to buy DH for Christmas. I used to be a great present buyer (even if I do say so myself) but just can't seem to get my brain into Christmas shopping this year (despite being v excited about it)

Dozy I hear you on the big boobs. Mine are bloody massive. I do feel v self conscious about them and struggle to find anything I feel comfortable in. Pleased you had a fun night out. V jealous you live so close to your mum. Makes me ponder a move northwards but that's a big old conversation for me and DH to have.

Hope everyone is having a lovely chilled Sunday.

Really interested to read about other people's Father Christmas experiences. I found out the truth when I was about 7, but kept quiet because I enjoyed it all. Don't remember being particularly traumatised by it, although am not going mad on it for J this year. Tbh, I think we are getting him one present from Father Christmas to open in front of his cousins and that's it. I know he's going to be bombarded with presents and I'm sure he won't notice if we don't get him much!

I do like Christmas, but it feels quite exhausting on top of everything else right now. Am trying to get DH organised, but he keeps whining he's too tired to think about it. Am planning to start my Christmas shopping tomorrow, so hoping I can get it mostly done then.

Evening all,

I did get out last night for the dinner and a few drinks. Got DD to bed on time but then taxi was late and DD woke up so I had to stealth feed her and amazingly she went back down. DH and his parents had to shove me out the door, I was so stressed about her poor form lately. The night was SO MUCH fun, all neighbours I don't know who are same age with young kids, everyone on their rare night out. Whole table laughed when I showed them the only thing in my bag was a breast pump!! We crashed an event at the hotel with a great Dj and just danced away. I had 2 glasses of wine at dinner and stopped there so when we got home at 2am to find DD wide awake but in a great mood, I was able to feed her. So glad we went out, we both had a blast.

As for Santa, I remember feeling palpable relief that he wasn't real. I'd been increasingly anxious over the years about why Santa gave gifts to kids who didnt need anything but didn't give anything to starving children. I can't remember how old I was. Maybe 5. Am looking forward to having Santa part of Dd's Christmas though!

Working on 4 hours of sleep today since I let DH lie in since he had drink to sleep off!

Here's some cake for you ladies. Had a great day but knackered now. Should really go to bed soon but want to watch I'm a celeb final. No wonder I'm always tired.

Got over the mastitis and now have tonsillitis. Just back from the hospital with penicillin. Am very ill. Gah.