Just Mumming 9- We're suffering the curse of Mel B, ST syndrome and the rise of the sleep snatchers. We've all had enough and would just like a good JS.

[PixieChops]

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Name: Pixie
Age:29
Pests: 2- P (girl) 17 months old, R (boy) 4 months old
Things I can't do anymore- have a crap in peace, drink a hot drink, do any housework, shag ST, sleep, take naps.

Things I can do- carry a toddler, baby, dirty bottles and nappies down the stairs all at once, put a double pram up in 20 seconds, have a shower inc washing and shaving in under 5 mins. Be coco the clown on 26 mins sleep.

Hugs La xx

I think it possibly is sleep deprivation/ stress though.... I get like that too. We can have a perfectly nice day and then it all goes to pot at bedtime and I feel like I'm going to lose my shit! I get cross with Minip and then feel bad because it's not really his fault... And Mr P is worse than useless but it's not really his fault either that he doesn't have boobs/ isn't me! Keep an eye on it though.

Haha Pixie! Minipopz has just discovered he can make really short abrupt shouts/ yelps... And delights in scaring the shit out of people with them too!

I'm still a snot machine Meant to be going on a hen do tonight but pretty tempted to cancel....

How was last night at the ILs Dulcet? Did J sleep??

Loads of viroids have popped recently - have any of them found their way over here yet?? Waves if you're lurking x

Sending hugs La, I'm not surprised that you're struggling. How long have you felt like this? I think exhaustion has a lot to answer for

I was worrying I had PND then he started sleeping better and I felt better. I'm still struggling with evenings though and find the relentlessness of trying to get him down makes me tearful and feel like I can't cope

B hasn't pooed for 12 hours, he normally poos every feed so should have done 4/5 in that time. He is also being difficult to settle and woke more last night. I think he's constipated but have no idea what to do about it.

But if cool boiled water purple should help get things moving.

La I'm not surprised you feel the way you do. I don't think you've got PND love I think you're just bloody knackered. As you know I was diagnosed with PND but he tablets made me feel odd and as soon as R started sleeping properly (about 2 weeks after we went on specially prescribed milk) I felt more like myself. Can your OH not take it in turns with you during the night? Or is it too difficult as you bf? You need a break, is there anywhere you can go for the day and sleep? My mums isn't too far for me and when I was struggling with P I'd go to hers, let her look after P and I'd go for a kip. Sleep deprivation is the worst thing in the world and I really do feel for you

Lol Deeply! Just avoid anyone with a very blonde shouting toddler as it's more than likely me

God just read my post back and I sound manic! B has fluctuated this morning between screaming and whimpering and wouldn't feed. Had to give him expressed bottle in the end. Meanwhile dh has ordered himself a new mobile phone whilst I held the baby upright for an hour.

Purple it's normal for them to poo less after a few weeks, I'm not sure what is the norm for ff babies but B poos once a day sometimes every other day.

Luckily R seems to go down relatively easy at night but he doesn't have get on my tits during the day when he's tired. He just whinges for about 30 minutes before he'll drop off. Not even proper crying either just whinging. Does my head in. I end up screaming in my head "JUST GO TO FUCKING SLEEP" and outside I'm like "hush hush" he's doing it right now, it's just taken me an hour to get him to drink a bottle- one minute he wanted it, then he didn't, then he cried for it, then spat it out. If it was my breast milk he was spitting everywhere and it's taken me ages to part with it I think I would have thrown him from a window. You BF mums need a medal.

I think everyone probably thinks they have PND in those first mental few months!

Nice La; what did he get? Hopefully one of those nice big ones for maximum discomfort when you're ramming it up his arse next week Did your video monitor come? Am thinking putting Minip in his own room might be wise - he woke up everytime I blew my nose last night!

Pixie I actually say the 'just go to fucking sleep!' Out loud. Bad mum

Thanks La, hope your day improves. Sounds like DH has got his priorities right

Pixie how often does R poo?

I knew he'd start pooing less often but thought it would be a more gradual thing.

DH is helping by going to a football match leaving an upset baby with an upset wife for 5 hours. B has fallen asleep now thankfully

I really want to lose some weight and get fitter but I'm so stressed lately I'm eating far too much crap

Oh and on a daily basis B gets told to 'go to fucking sleep' or 'stop fucking about and drink your bottle'

Actually some days it feels like hourly!

Yy - the things I say to S

I have tried to be a calmer mummy this week. I keep telling myself he will sleep at some point,he always does and it will be quicker if I keep calm. Not sure if it's working but I haven't been as shouty.

Spending the day with some extended family including a baby a few weeks older than S and apparently perfect in every way my mum seems to relish telling me that she sleeps through, naps like clockwork and is very bright.

I am going to need every ounce of energy to keep my shit together

purple S went through a phase of going every 4 or 5 days. Then he got arse rain and is back to going after every feed.

Purple b just suddenly went from multiple times go once a day. It was disconcerting at the time but now it's very normal.

Popz how are you feeling? Dh was poorly last night but coughed into the duvet to avoid waking B! It's difficult when they're in your room. I'm really going to miss having my baby next to me, but I think we will both sleep better. Still waiting for the monitor to arrive - bloody Amazon next day delivery indeed! He bought a galaxy S6 phone - I'll test the girth up his arse next time he annoys me.

Deeply I'm going to do the videos tomorrow. You're allowed to laugh! The Jamaican accent is pretty special.

We've bought the insert for the uppababy vista pushchair so that B can go in before 6 months. He is enjoying looking around so I hate putting him in carrycot where he can't look out, and I don't like him being in car seat for very long. Took him for a little walk yesterday and he looked pretty cosy!

Pixie no one to take B unfortunately! Parents live in York and Scotland and I don't have anyone here id be happy leaving him with. Dh is getting better but still needs prompting to take him or to know what to do. B is bf so I can't hand him over for a while night but it's only another 3 months until weaning and then I'm sure it'll be easier to hand him over. I just need him to sleep a bit longer that's all, more than 40 min at a time! We are in leap 4 now so I'm expecting fussiness for a while yet. As I say I'm fine looking after him most of the time, but I'm struggling now with the sustained sleep deprivation.

As they say - it's all worth it! He's lovely. Just wish I wasn't so tired so I can enjoy it more

Fleur just smile sweetly. I tend to find if you dig deeper these things are less rosy than people make out

Hugs fleur ... I'm sure perfect baby is far from perfect!

Still feeling snotty and gross La but at least I can breathe today!

Just bollocked DH for having a 90minute shower and he's now ignoring me / refusing to acknowledge the actual issue.

90 minutes?!? Blimey that's definitely two wanks there.

Oh and joining in with many today. Utterly awful night but DP was a star so we did at least take it in turns to pretend to sleep while the other dealt with her.

BabyPis has just broken DS's Xbox.... There's all sorts of teenage angst going on

Nah, he's strictly a once a day guy

Oh no, what happened?? Minipopz discovered the Xbox on/ off switch a while back... Made me laugh. DH not so much.

We've had a rotten afternoon. I gave him some cooled boiled water and wiggled his legs a lot. It didn't help. He's been so unsettled and just not himself all afternoon. I rang my sister for advice and she told me to take him for a walk. No idea if he's pooed yet as he has slept from the minute I put him in the pram and still asleep.

I hear the comments about it changing to less often but he's writhing about and screaming when awake, then goes to cooing and smiling and then back to screaming and writhing.

It started raining while we were out walking, I didn't have the rain over for the pram, had to make do with a blanket to keep rain off his face. Made it to the coop and bought wine and chocolate. Didn't buy Marlboro lights my old friends, how I'm missing them now so I'll consider that a success.
Struggling to hold it together now, stressing about another evening of screaming like last night. Hate that B isn't well, want to take his pain away but may end up sitting in the car to get away from it

Sorry for the me me me post, having a bad day and can't see past that

90 minute shower popz? I would love that. **
Melba has woken up after her sleepy premature start. Will no longer be put down in her bouncer/carrycot during the day. Still sleeps between feeds in her crib at night thank god, but during the day it has to be sleeping on me. Or we did manage a bit of time on the playmat without her screaming as long as I was waving toys in her face and singing. But, I put her in the Caboo we've hired and managed an hour or so to cook some food and clear up the kitchen. Not sure whether I'm making a rod for my own back with that and I should be trying to get her to settle down in her carrycot for a sleep during the day- but instinct tells me she's still so little, only just past her due date, and if she needs to be sleeping on me at the moment then so be it, the cuddles are lovely even though it does mean the house is a mess still.

Sorry purple cross posted as I spent ages writing my post.
sorry you've had a bad day. Is your hv any good? Could you phone her for advice about the lack of pooing? He'll probably do you a huge stinker in the middle of the night.
How about going for a car ride to help him settle? The vibration might help the poo situation too? Sorry totally clutching at straws for you now!

Tell me about it Toast!! I'm having a long bath now in payback. Totally skiving my mate's hen do. Oops.

Might take a while for the water to get things going purple .... Have you tried walking up and down the stairs with him? Sounds silly but works. That and digestive massage... Good luck x

purple have you tried tummy massage? The sun and moon one works for S.

DH packed 4 nappies for the day. 4. For a baby with diarrhoea.

Perfect baby has not made a peep all day. Has napped consistently and greeted everyone with smiles.

S has cried and pooed.

I went to get more nappies and was so close to just keeping on driving

Is the urge to run away a sign of PND?

All babies are different fleur - just like adults. Some are chilled and easy going, others are more high maintenance and sensitive. It doesn't mean he's a bad baby or that you've done anything wrong or been a "bad" mother. And it won't be this way forever - he may be a super chilled out toddler and perfect baby might be a shitbag by then! One thing I've learned over the last 9 months is that everything can change in a heartbeat with these babes!

I don't know it it's necessarily always a sign of PND, but I think from the way you've been feeling recently that it'd be helpful for you to go and see someone and talk it out. X

pixie lol at raaaaaaaaa

la and fleur and purple big hugs, it's so so so hard with the sleep deprivation and high maintenance babies. Just hugs, you're doing great.

popz shove it up sideways, or put it in the shower with him!

Also, these things do seem easier, after they've passed... H used to scream for a clean nappy every time she did a dribble of wee, I'm not joking if I say she used to have 20 nappy changes a day..every day..for months and months and months! Now she goes up to 3 hours, and I just laugh remembering all the nappies..at the time I was tearing my hair out!