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Just Mumming 8 - the one with the fire crawlers, wind machines and the Health Visitor revolt

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WilHarlot · 03/09/2015 08:22

Add your stats Viroids (or don't bother). I feel like there's something I'm supposed to write here but don't know what it is... Confused

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LaLaLaaaa · 13/10/2015 03:03

Fleur - 5 seconds before B choked I got fed up that he was fussing at the boob and told him he had ruined the nice day we'd had, where I'd felt like for once I knew what I was doing. I felt like the worst person ever and the worst mother.

It's absolutely the best thing to do to put baby down and walk away/ leave the room for a bit if you feel you cannot cope. Babies don't die from crying and sometimes that bit of head space to take a deep breath is all you need. We've all been there xxxx

DulcetMoans · 13/10/2015 04:37

Like the others have said fleur, we get it! You're not a bad mum, none of us are. We are normal people who have had their lives turned upside down by new bossy, grumpy little managers. I don't think this early baby bit is for me either, think I will be better when they can do more and communicate (although maybe not from what ga just said!) If you want to go back to work in the new year then that's fine too, just don't make the decision based on how you feel right now.

I loves a good caravan popz! Lots of nice walks and pub lunches I hope. Maybe take a book and be glued to it like he is to the phone so he can take childcare! Oh, hope theirs no phone reception!

gaggiagirl · 13/10/2015 04:43

dulcet I think children are quite sweet when they are 18m ish. I think its just cross ginger though who has been 'at that difficult age' since birth Grin
My brother said she's like a cactus. Very prickly and needs to be handled with caution.

RPopz · 13/10/2015 08:36

Hope you're feeling better this morning fleur xxxx Flowers

It is quite a nice caravan to be fair. Its bigger than our house!!

deeplybaffled · 13/10/2015 09:20

Love the cactus description, ga - I know a few people like that!
fleur - I completely get it too . Imogen doesn't nap either and I've been driven to keeping a sleep diary - she only sleeps for about 10-11 hours in any 24, and is often very unsettled when awake, so she's pretty Relentless to be around.
I've got to admit to having had some bad thoughts about her and felt like a dreadful mum.
One thing that made me feel better was a mum friend who had 2 girls, telling me that whilst she always loved them, it didn't mean that she always liked them.and I get that!
So please don't beat yourself up for being human. Unmumsnetty hugs. X

LaLaLaaaa · 13/10/2015 10:25

Hugs to all you mums - it's bloody hard!

I'm in work this morning, currently locked in first aid room pumping breast milk!!!! Oh the glamour.

Plus side - I get to go out tonight!!!!! DM is looking after B so me and dh can go to dinner :)

Just knocked over breast milk all over floor. Crap.

DulcetMoans · 13/10/2015 11:08

Don't cry over spilled milk la! I jest, I cried when I spilled some! I feel that phrase so much more now. What they got you doing at work?

LaLaLaaaa · 13/10/2015 17:02

I was just in for a kit day! It was good and it was a nice change to not have a baby attached to me!

LaLaLaaaa · 13/10/2015 17:04

I totally get where you're coming from Fleur. My mum has infinite patience with B and rocks him and rocks him. I don't know how she has the energy. I feel shit in comparison because I don't hold him as much and put him down a lot, but he's so heavy!

RPopz · 13/10/2015 17:32

KIT day already La!? You are good. I'm not going near that place again until I have to.

Minion · 13/10/2015 18:31

KIT already? I didn't turn up for mine and no one called so I assume I wasn't missed.
Ahh spilt milk..annoying. Guess we know where the saying comes from.

I'm in the bath with a large glass of blossom Hill.
My child has been horrendous for the last two days.
Shouting, whining, you know the tune.
She's gone to bed with no dinner and no milk. I forsee a difficult night ahead.
She has a cold so can forgive her but still..
I was just getting used to the sleeping through shiz

mountaingirl01 · 13/10/2015 19:24

Totally hear you la my mum (and actually dh when not at work) rock M for hours.. I am really bad and just stress out or feed her instead. fleur I never thought I would consider going back to work early.. but see where you are coming from! Although I went over for a meeting last week (paid for kit day but able to take M) and it was pretty s tressfull

mountaingirl01 · 13/10/2015 19:27

Am being a bad mummy tonight. M is having formula and dh and I are drinking a bottle of our wedding champagne. We only have a couple of precious bottles (fil took the rest!!) And it was our anniversary the week before last and my birthday last week. Dh was working nights on both

mountaingirl01 · 13/10/2015 19:28

Argh.. why did I try and write this on my phone?!

RPopz · 13/10/2015 20:42

Enjoy your champers mountain!

deeplybaffled · 13/10/2015 22:09

Am jealous of champagne - haven't dared to have a drink since Imogen was born as she has slept so badly that there would be a fighting chance that I would fall fast asleep in the glass and drown....
Maybe this weekend?

PixieChops · 13/10/2015 22:34

So sorry viroids I completely dropped off Fred and only just had a moment to find it. I've had a quick flick through the last couple of days.

Fleur if you'd ever been in my house you'd know you were not a shit mum. When R cries (and he really goes for it) I can't stand it and have to get as far away from him as possible. Which means sticking him in his cot and leaving him to wail whilst popping his dummy in. He fights sleep ALL the time and it drives me fucking nuts! I've also told R that he drives me fucking nuts but he doesn't seem to care and persists with his wailing. The air has been turned blue quite a few times!

Bumbos and Jumperoos. There's always mixed reviews (Ha look at that I made a rhyme) anyway P had a Bumbo and sat in it for meals- she was walking at 10 months and there's bugger all wrong with her legs as she's now walking up and downstairs and running everywhere at 17 months old. She's a nutter.
I think moderation is key with both items. Don't sit baby in Bumbo all day and don't leave in Jumperoo where toddler sister can help him jump even higher when left unattended :/ R is 17 weeks nearly now and quite happily bounces around in his Jumperoo whilst watching CBeebies and shouting at the screen. He's not left in it all day- in my circle of mum friends it's called the "circle of neglect" because you can just dump them in it and leave them.. All day.. Which I have never done. Honestly I've not. I couldn't even if I wanted to because after a bit he starts wailing in that as well.

Rolling- I'll hold my hands up both my kids have rolled off the bed. I managed to catch R before he hit the floor with my ninja moves- P wasn't so lucky

In other news I'm going back to work mostly because I want to eat my lunch in peace. Im actually not joking now. The idea of hot lunches and adult conversation twice a week for a good few hours excites me. I'll be doing massages and holistic therapy stuff so something I've always wanted to do which is amazing.
Also I've fucked MIL off coming round twice a week. In a nutshell she can't be arsed (always goes on about how tired she is all the bloody time and how much she does blah blah blah) well I'd had enough of her inspirational "let's take time to replenish ourselves" quotes on Facebook and decided she can replenish herself all the fuck she wants because I can't he arsed with having her at mine twice a week when what she'd really like to be doing is sat at home eating sugary shite (she's diabetic and this also pisses me off- she caused her own diabetes by eating sugar and she's still eating fucking sugar) I give up!

So to conclude

Nobody's a shit mother, if you were shit you wouldn't care if you were shit.
The kids are still alive so doing well there. R is being weaned now- weighed the fat man before and he's 18lb!!! 18lb at 4 months old! And he's now in 6-9 month clothes. He's costing me a fortune. Still bumbling along the 91st percentile. Basically he's got like baby obesity and needs to go on a diet of ryvitas (I jest, don't worry he's still on his marmite milk)
I'm also completely fine now and not ill at all apart from a cold. Started taking magnesium supplements and omg that shit is amazing. It's literally eradicated all my symptoms. I have no symptoms anymore. Get hold of some, if you look up magnesium deficiency it's more common than you think!

Also I've turned into Jamie Oliver and keep cooking fancy dinners because I was sick of the same old shite every day from ST. I ate curly kale with every meal and that was the only veg I had. So now we have an array of veggies and different meals and everyone's feeling better for it.

I'll do my best to not fall off again :)

DulcetMoans · 14/10/2015 05:06

There you are pixie! Sounds like a busy few days. When you going back to work? My dad is diabetic from booze and poor diet but still does it, so annoying!

fleur, come back and tell us you're ok! Really hope you're feeling better.

A drink might knock her out for the evening deeply! Joking, I've no idea what it would do but pretty sure one glass wouldn't hurt.

Hope you've enjoyed your bath min, sounded nice! Did you get treated to a better sleep?

Belated happy birthday and anniversary mountain!

Did you discuss anything about your return la? I'm going in next week to see the director. Another girl on mat leave had her preference rejected by her manager today so not hopeful. Not that I've worked out hear to ask for yet!

Toast85 · 14/10/2015 07:07

Glad you're feeling better pixie
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I've tried to enjoy a drink a few times but I've not enjoyed it! Weird. Just makes me worried I'm going to get too sleepy.

Tired this morning, went to bed at around 10, Melba woke at 11.30, 2.30, 4.30 and 6.15. Didn't have a decent big feed just small ones and was being really fussy again, coming on and off, lots of licking but not much actual drinking. Cue extra squirty boobs that haven't been properly emptied. Humph. Dh has just taken her to change her and then we'll try again.

Minion · 14/10/2015 08:43

I certainly did dulcet, thank you. She stirred around 8 so I have her a large bottle asleep and she drained it and slept till 7:10!
I still woke. Few times when she cried on her sleep but I've been managing to get back to sleep quicker and quicker lately so hopefully I'll go through soon.
Nursery today. I have 2 whole hours to myself, going to the pub, hot choc, and once upon a time on netflix.
I'm pretty excited about it tbh.

pixie, that post on the whole made me chortle.
Hard!

MINIon is currently cockahoop playing with the spare keys and goggling the tweenies... Fucking hate this programme.

LaLaLaaaa · 14/10/2015 08:49

Toast that used to be Bs feeding pattern - Melba should start to space it out when she's ready. B dropped 11am feed a few weeks ago and then moved the 4am one closer to 5 so the 6am is now 7am - so it's 1am and 5am now and only 2 wake ups. Hoping he'll drop 1am one soon!

Pixie there you are Grin good to hear from you! R sounds like B - he's 15lb at 11 weeks. We were told wrong weight by Dr who said 1lb 2 weeks ago so in my head he's shrunk but he's still big. Great to hear you're not still feeling ill! And going back to work sounds ideal for you.

Rolling - I'm preparing by not leaving him on changing table (very high) or bed close to edge but he's not done it yet. He holds head up well though and is so strong he almost kicks himself out of bath seat.

DM leaves today - sob! And dmil arrives (also sob! She liked to make helpful comments)

Deeply have the wine! Coping mechanism :) I had a glass last night - dh and I went out first time since before B was born for dinner. It was lovely but I fell asleep at the table!

Not going back to work til June but kit days boost my income which is much needed

Happy birthday and anniversary mountain!

Mil coming today. Told her we've no spare room for her to stay in so she needs to book into hotel. She's opted for couch which is fine apart from we lock cats downstairs at night because I don't trust them not to walk on baby. She has been known to complain about cat hair and my cats being spoiled. My cats sit on heads of people when they sleep. This is not going to go well

LaLaLaaaa · 14/10/2015 08:50

16lb not 1!

LaLaLaaaa · 14/10/2015 08:51

Going to pub min?

Like your style!

SnapdragonAzZ09 · 14/10/2015 09:04

Glad your symptoms have abated, Pixie. Are you still having tests?

Mountain, hope your head isn't too fuzzy after the champers last night!

I have terrible trouble going back to sleep after feeding the baby, minion. Is it your active mind keeping you awake? I just can't switch off and have the weirdest dreams when I do eventually drop off.

Had a good day and a bad day yesterday. Good because we can return our wrong sized mattress after all, yay! Bad because I walked an hour long round trip with Baby Snap in the sling and P in the buggy to the GP, only to find my DP had made the appointment for next Tuesday instead of yesterday. I nearly cried, especially as P then had a horrible tantrum as he wanted to stay and play with the toys at the surgery.

Baby Snap was weighed again on Mon. His weight gain has stopped dropping but he hasn't really grown for several weeks so they are going to monitor that. Still no sign of a paediatrician appointment.

Minion · 14/10/2015 10:31

Oh god, I've just left her in a fit of tears. She's never really been clingy but just then... Crap!