Just Mumming Thread 7 - the grads grads cope with walking, own rooms and have little time for shagging

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What a nice DP pixie! Defo earning man points there!

Having a bit of anger at my friends here. Have a wedding to go to next week, DH is usher. Been dancing around the subject of baby coming for a while so I finally asked. She's come back saying she's spoken to him and they want more details before they decide eg. Where im staying and if DH is driving. So clearly they would prefer him not to be there and now it's all awkward. People don't understand BFing until you are doing it, don't think they get why it would be an issue.

Now I can't sleep cos I'm angry, stupid friends stealing my precious sleep!

That's pretty selfish of them dulcet. No one can feed J except you and they need to understand that.

Have you said that you can't go if baby doesn't come?

No, it's really near our in laws so J would be there. Haven't Said I can't go as can go to and from theirs and wedding but he has no routine so can't really say when! Think they expect him to go on formula all day.

Sorry but if they're expecting you to put your breastfed thriving baby onto formula for the day then they are reet cheeky bastards and that's coming fr someone who does formula feed! So after all your hard work and perseverance they expect you to fuck it all up for their day? I swear to god people in general piss me off so much when they get married. I understand that the day is about them but seriously the whole world doesn't revolve around them for that day. That's made me really pissed off for you Dulcet. I'm sorry your friends are not understanding of your baby's needs and that they feel their wedding is more important than your baby being fed. Fuckers
R is doing my head in. I didn't get to sleep until 12 because he fancied a bottle- fair enough, but then he's been up at 2am- whinging at 3am and been up since 4:20 now. I am not fucking amused in the slightest!
Now he's moaning about something else! Clearly he doesn't understand that I have to run around after a toddler all day tomorrow as well as meet his every bloody need.

It's not like he only takes buts either- the fat little chubster drinks 7oz at a time! How the hell can he still be hungry!

They're showing a lack of understanding - can you explain it to them? They perhaps just don't get it

I've been up with Ben most of the night - 10pm then 12 then at 3 he just wouldn't latch on. My bibs were huge and I think that made it difficult. So he had a crap feed and went back to sleep. Now he's awake with the straining/groaning noises that he died this time every day. I've looked it up and apparently it's normal for newborns - to do with them not yet being able to push out poo at same time as relaxing to allow it to come out? Does anyone else's baby do this? It sounds really sore and is punctuated now and then with farts

Perhaps it's not normal? If I take him out and out him on his belly on me he stops doing it.

Oh and 'dada' ie the person they love best is fast asleep and has been most of the night. Bastard.

Apparently it might be 'grunting baby syndrome'. Wtf? Yet another thing :(

La - J grunts and strains a lot but not necessarily in pain. It's weird you say they can't poo when relaxing as when feeding used to be his main time to poo and that seems common with my group.

Sorry about the bad night pixie. Could that be a growth spurt thing?

I think BFing is difficult to understand until you are doing it. I agree they don't get it but not sure how much explaining I can do without it sounding like begging! I have been trying to be flexible about it as it's their wedding but ultimately it will be easier if he is with me most of the day.

Weirdly I went to a baby shower Saturday that he wasn't allowed to come to either. No one wants my baby with them!

People just don't get it dulcet. We had no children request at our wedding but with exception of nursing infants as you can't expect people not to bring breastfeeding babies (or infants who are too young to be away from parents)

B does the same straining when feeding and can sound very sore but what's happening just now is straining and panting when on his back in crib. He cries in pain. It's not nice :(

Why is my baby so broken? :(

We did the same as la - nursing babies only. Potentially there were 6 going to come and so I arranged with the venue to set up a nursing room with chairs, a TV, water and snacks. In the end only one came - but a great uncle enjoyed the room instead

I think it's really unreasonable for the couple to be so unaccomodating especially as DH is an usher - surely they would have realised you would have a newborn?

S does that too la - strains so hard he goes purple and then, when he finally goes, looks genuinely surprised.

Speaking of which he hasn't been for nearly 2 days

The Drs want to keep him on gaviscon, we shall see how it goes, he is definitely calmer.

Sorry I kept starting to write about the osteopath and getting distracted.

Basically she manipulates the body to help babies uncurl from their time in the womb. Think about when we sleep/ sit in one position we get stiff - babies are the same. So, S favours turning his head to the right which in turn affects the nerves running to his stomach causing him problems with wind etc. she gets out loads of farts!
Also, something to do with his umbilical cord (which was a bit weird - the midwife got all the students in to see it!) means his liver is "tight" - not sure what this means but he is still very slightly jaundiced. She is doing "something" to ease it although this is tricky as he hates being touched there.

Whatever she did to my boobs yesterday has made a huge difference

We are going back in two weeks, then we will see how it goes. It's a lot of money but I do feel that we both benefit and S always sleeps so well afterwards (9.30 - 7am with 40
Min wake ups for food at 1.30 and 4am - when his nappy had leaked so he may have gone longer).

Speaking is nappy leakages - sleepyhead users - what can I do so that if the nappy leaks I don't have to fight with the sleepyhead cover at silly o'clock?

Also, I need to wash the thing now - last time I did it, it was a really hot day and so dried in a day. That's not going to happen today [sad
DH just reckons I air it and don't bother washing it - it only got a little damp. Opinions?

The slowing down of pooing is normal I'm told fleur. J not been since Saturday now I think! HV said after about 4 weeks it can slow right down in BF babies as there is so little waste. The longest she had heard of was 19 days!

I think they asked him before they knew I was pregnant. Can't remember. It feels very unfair and I feel quite stuck. Don't want to be the person that causes issue at their wedding - the one someone writes about in AIBU!

Depends how wet it got I think. Put a muslin under his bum in future?

Osteopath sounds great.

La babies are just little fuckers until they're 3 months old. Then they start being able to sort themselves out with wind and poos etc.

Zyla just lots of water for constipation. BabyWil was the same and it's really helped. I'm just giving it at mealtimes but making sure she takes quite a lot. Don't think the fruit helps unless it's prunes/apricots etc as she has loads of fruit and was still constipated.

Dulcet there's no way they'll get it if they don't have kids. Which is fair enough I guess. But the whole asking for details before they decide makes me want to punch them in the face. I fucking hate precious wedding people. Like a teeny baby is going to ruin their day. If you want to go, I would pop back to inlaws at three hourly intervals. J will be able to go that long in the day if you're not around and someone can take him for a walk/drive etc. Evening may be harder if he's used to cluster feeding. It'll be a pain in the arse though. Like someone else said, as DH is usher, they really should have thought about this before. Stupid bride just doesn't want cute baby stealing all the attention .

Mini is doing my head in. She sent herself to bed this morning the numpty. Why can't she see she'd feel much better if she stayed in bed past six o'clock?

Muslins fleur? My answer to everything. Glad you're feeling a little better!

Dulcet that is a bit shitty of her. You're right, people just don't understand newborns/ breastfeeding until they do it themselves! They must be pretty good friends if DH is an usher? You can't be trailing back and forwards to your ILs all day, you'll be shattered. How do they expect you to enjoy yourself?? Hope you can work something out xx

He's not broken La - he's just new. These babies are born too early - I think all the digestive issues are almost "normal" for newborns. Just a consequence of an immature gut. Its horrible to see them in pain, but you're doing your best and he won't remember. Mini P was a very grunty baby!

Wait what?!? You went to a baby shower and weren't allowed to take your baby? WTAF? At least that friend will find out what a dick they are pretty soon. We had the awkward 'what about the baby' conversation with some friends of ours who are getting married in a couple of weeks as her name wasn't on the invitation and they fell over themselves to apologise for the oversight and assure us she was welcome. If not then I just wouldn't be able to go.

And yes muslins Fleur I need to get back in the habit of putting one under her head. She is not pukey she is just turning it really manky - reminds me of Father Jack from Father Ted. Anyway it will have to go in the wash today. It's just such a bastard to put back together

I have a million muslins but barely use them - everyone kept telling me to buy them and so far I have been

Although I have been using one instead of a bra at night (bra too painful but need something to catch leakage).

Can I pick your brains? A good friend is due her baby next week - she is going to try to breastfeeding. I thought I would put together a basket of stuff she might find useful, so far I have:

Lansinoh
Pads
Those cool things for when milk comes in
Water bottle
Nice pjs (she's like me and favours the au naturel sleeping attire but since BFing I prefer to wear pjs, especially as I go into S's nursery to feed)
iPhone/ iPad charger (can you get longer ones?)
Snacks
Universal remote
Battery night light

Thanks ladies xx

Oh my god you're such a nice friend. Give her some of your million muslins? Do you not use them when feeding to stop dripping? I've forgotten your list already but snacks? Maybe oaty bars/flapjacks? 6 month magazine subscription? or voucher for hotmilk/nice nursing bra place?

Also can't believe baby shower nonsense

That's a lovely gift fleur, I did similar for the girl whose baby shower J couldn't come to (will come back to that pis!). I just did a first month survival kit though so had mat pads, head torch, handcream for washing hands etc. The only extra boob related item I had was shields.

I know pis, right?! That one made me really angry. Only told on the morning too. I can't wait until their baby is here so I can remind them of it too.

I am glad you all agree with me and I am not BU! Not that I know how I can fix it at the moment.

How long did mini sleep for wil?

After the one boob nonsense? Or the stroppy toddler? Last night was v hazy. I know micro was up twice and then in my bed from 4.45.

How did they tell you you couldn't bring the baby?

The baby shower ones I mean.

I always think kids enhance weddings, spesh when they loon around collecting the balloons in case they popped and die (as if I did that)! Plus they always wear the best clothes and do swirls on the dance floor. I've been to a fair few weddings in the last few years where, if it wasn't, for the kids, the dance floor would have been empty.
Not saying a BF baby is able to cut some shapes.
Though it's something I'd probably like to see.

Well R decided to spent 40 mins last night talking in her sleep.
Loudly!
Then I think she had night terrors, so I picked her up and she slep on me for ten, then giggled in her sleep.

Seriously. She used to be so bloody quiet.

So I've had another 3:15 wake up. In fact she's sin bed now so I probably should be sleeping hut I've got some baking to do as I'm taking part in a baking comp on Saturday.