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LaLaLaaaa · 08/08/2015 04:11

New thread! Roll call...

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DulcetMoans · 27/08/2015 13:55

Ooooo what you baking min?!

It gets worse if I tell you the full story wil but, in brief, was BIL gf baby shower. Nothing said directly to me but mil called on the morning to say I needed to bring a bottle in case he need feeding while I'm there. Nearly didn't go and had to have conversation about how feeding child more important than stupid party! (BIL gf not my fave person!)

Sounds like it was an early start all round then!

LaLaLaaaa · 27/08/2015 14:39

Hi!

dulcet your friends are nobs to not let you bring your sodding baby to a BABYshower! nuts! Why?? It's not like it's a mad party night. And not telling you themselves too - disgraceful!

I too think it's rude of your wedding friends to ask for 'details' before deciding whether to allow your baby who is breastfeeding on demand! My friends invited me to wedding in September and were put out when I said I couldnt go because B will be too young (it's in Devon and we are only invited to evening bit, so it's a long journey for a few hours with a new baby).

I wasn't keen on having babies at my wedding and we couldn't afford to have all our friends kids as they all have many! But we said yes to nursing/young infants and in the end it was lovely having them - there are a few photos of me in my wedding dress giving them a cuddle and they were dead cute.

fleur I put a cotbed sheet over the sleepyhead, so if there's an accident I just whip that off and stick another one on. I wrap it under and secure it underneath with a clothes peg. Cheaper than buying a sleepyhead cover and easier to wash than washing the sleepyhead.

You don't use muslins?? I use them for eveything when bf - tuck them under the boob to catch overspill, wipe his gob, wipe my boob, wipe the cat ok that's a lie They are a god send. That sounds like a lovely hamper!!

Yes you can get iPhone longer charger leads - look on ebay. We bought one last week because my charger was too short. I also bought some of the pockets you tie to the crib to keep stuff in, so that I have everything to hand when I need to feed. That might be an idea? They were from Mothercare. I keep my lansinoh, infacol, muslins and bibs in one and my mobile in another, tied to the crib next to my pillow.

Osteopath was fab! Everything was as I thought - he's got a bit of a tight spot where his skull meets the vagus nerve (which is linked to digestion) - easily gets compressed during birth/CS and can cause digestive complaints such as wind/colic if pressure on it. She also said his diaphragm is really tense, which would explain the wind and why he's so difficult to wind. She also said his head all over is very sensitive to touch which she thinks is due to the forceps/ventouse attempt - or perhaps pressure during the attempt to push him out. She did some manipulation of him and a huge burp came out. He seemed pretty happy the whole time and thought her face was fascinating! She watched me breastfeed and said nothing I'm doing is causing him pain/discomfort, which I was a bit afraid of (when manipulating him up and down to feeding position I thought he was sore).

He's been pretty chilled since the appointment and we are going back next week. I've also found it easier to burp him. She said we should start to see a difference in his digestive tract issues as the diaphragm relaxes and the pressure on the nerve eases. She said him not sleeping for long and waking up squealing will be due to discomfort and the treatments should help a bit.

I felt soooo much better as a result - I feel like at least I'm doing something to help by taking him :)

My mum is just about to arrive - the cavalry is here to help! Typically baby is pretending to be an angel and is fast asleep.

What are you baking min???

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SnapdragonAzZ09 · 27/08/2015 15:06

Zyla I second plenty of water for constipation.

La the HV told me that the grunting and straining when doing a poo isn't a sign of pain so much as every inch of their being getting involved with the process, because their digestive systems are so immature. When MiniSnap does a poo he us often sick at the same time - all that pushing at one end pushes things out of the other end too!

Stacking cups - the Best Ever present here. P still plays with them in the bath, three years on.

Dulcet that's pretty crap if your friends, I would be fuming. Do they actually want you to feel welcome and enjoy their wedding or what? Eejits.

P called me daddy for ages. I was not impressed. Although I think the early 'da da da' sounds were really just babbling.

Fleurchamp · 27/08/2015 15:47

Thanks for the tips!

Glad the osteopath went well la

I have just had some friends round and, true to form, S just groused the whole time. Why is my baby just grumpy. Always. He is literally never satisfied and will.not.sleep. Again.

So fed up with every day being a bloody battle.

Out of curiosity - BFing ladies - how long should a 6 week old take to feed? I told the dr yesterday that S takes an hour, plus winding and she said that's far too long - should be more like 30 mins Confused

So, I am trying that today and he is so pissed off with me.

SnapdragonAzZ09 · 27/08/2015 16:13

La, cranial osteopathy sounds like baby voodoo! Glad it had good effects for B.

Fleur, glad you're feeling better. An hour does seem like a long time. Is he actually suckling for most of that or is he doing that non-nutritive sucking (which is really important too, for digestion and bonding) where he's not actually taking milk in?

Fleurchamp · 27/08/2015 16:33

Yeah, he does a lot of just sucking but in between feeding - he has little rests.

I would love to shorten his feeds - i spend approx 10 hours a day feeding him according to my sprout app.

Any tips?

LaLaLaaaa · 27/08/2015 16:52

Fleur my feeds are anything from a couple of minutes to about 20 mins. If I include break for nappy change and winding it's about 40 mins tops. Actual suckling about 10 min first boob and 5 second. Often hell just hang out at the boob after feed and go to sleep too

An hour does sound a lot. At night feeds are max 20 min including winding as I don't talk to him or do nappy change

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DulcetMoans · 27/08/2015 17:26

Yeah, between 7-20mins here fleur. He would stay all day though given the chance. I wait until I feel the grip loosen or can see he's not taking in the milk when I will remove, offer other boob. If he's had both and still fussing and crying I offer the dummy.

ZylaB · 27/08/2015 17:57

I just nearly swore at someone, or cried (was a toss up) in ikea :(. Had been to Costa with a friend before, offered H the boob, she didn't want it as was busy nosing around, fine..she'd had a big feed before we went. We then went around ikea and just as I was about to go through checkout (high chair for my mum, nothing interesting) H started crying lots. I was shushing her but was mostly trying to get finished on the checkout so I could take her out of the way of the queue and sort her out..because she's my baby and I know her and I sodding well KNOW that she needed getting out of the pram and changing and possibly feeding. This annoying, interfering cow decided to get her face right in the pram and start talking to her, saying things like "it's alright now, someone's here" like I'm some sort of negligent mother. I just wanted to get through so. Could get her out of the way and sort her out properly. It really upset me.

Fed her, changed her...happy baby who laughed at me all the way around Tesco after.

But I was really upset. Stupid bitch.

Rant over, sorry. but really, how bloody dare she !!

LaLaLaaaa · 27/08/2015 18:12

What a silly interfering moo zyla!!! I'm dying for someone to do that to B so that I can tell them to bog off. Some people just can't help themselves but to be a tool.

Mum's here and I have sat on my arse while she's rocked my baby to sleep four times. I love this!

Dry skin on forehead of baby - people keep saying olive oil but my mw said not to do that. What would you use?

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ZylaB · 27/08/2015 19:03

Bepanthen do a nice gentle moisturiser la, not the bum cream, a moisturiser. You can get it off amazon :)

Fleurchamp · 27/08/2015 20:17

I have used the waitrose bottom butter on S's dry head Blush

Just don't get it near his eyes I guess?

Right, I think I need to toughen up and unlatch after 15 /20 mins each side. Thanks ladies x

Minion · 27/08/2015 20:24

What a wenche. I would have been sorely tempted to say 'oh look little one, someone is here" turn round and smile sickingly 'to embarrass herself and piss me right off'

I'm making rose coconut ice, chocolate crinkle cookies, Cheddar Bay biscuits and chocolate peanut butter traybake for the comp and banana bread for us to get rid of old nanas.
Managing to do it hopefully while lo sleeps.

WilHarlot · 27/08/2015 20:30

Why no olive oil? Oilatum cream is quite good. Or try some Lansinoh.

Ah I remember BIL and his gf from previous stories Dulcet. She's a knobber.

LaLaLaaaa · 27/08/2015 21:11

I'm really not sure wil! I thought it was meant to be ok. Thanks for the suggestions!

Yum min!

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DulcetMoans · 27/08/2015 21:16

She really is wil. Been going on about being term this week. She's 36 weeks, that's not term! And the urge to shout that at her is really overwhelming!

You sound like a pretty amazing baker min! Good luck in the comp!

Oh god zyla, well done for staying calm! I why do people think it's a good idea to get involved like that. Say something supportive instead, or ignore!

I thought olive oil was good too la. Haven't done it but heard it mentioned and is more natual than chemicals!

Addition to my wedding story - they have asked for help to set up the day before which we have offered. Said J will have to come with me and she has said 'it's not like he takes up any space'. So he can come if I'm helping! God, been dwelling in this all day!

WilHarlot · 27/08/2015 21:31

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat? This is the stuff of AIBUs. No way? Just bring him to the wedding, they're hardly going to tell you to send him away. Cheeky as hell.

Someone woke Micro up today 'checking she was ok' in the pram. FFS!

ZylaB · 27/08/2015 21:50

Just Grr at wedding story and interfering/not understanding people in general. I'm just about over it now, wish I'd sworn at her! Grin

boobubsmum · 27/08/2015 23:18

dulcet i have to admit in your place i'd have brought the baby and just 'assumed' it was fine yes i'm that person

argh, monster's stopd taking bottles completely. we plan to give her to my mum for a weekend in a months times, idea on how i can get her to take something that isn't boob?

Minion · 28/08/2015 06:28

Oh.my god!
Aside from running in twice cause of crying (asleep) so I have her her dummy, she slept through!
She Sodding well slept through!
And because it's darker in the morning she was tricked into taking a full bottle at 6!

I still woke at 5...

But a win nonetheless.

Minion · 28/08/2015 07:23

Goddammit!
Will someone wake up and share in my unbridled joy that my child is still asleep.
Wakkkkeeeee uuuuppppppp

WilHarlot · 28/08/2015 07:32

Haha I'm awake, hurray for R! Long may it continue.

Boo obviously I'm wrong person to help really but try doing it whilst she's sitting in bouncer chair and distract with tv? Or also you leave and get someone else to try. That's so annoying.

Can anyone help me with advice on getting back to sleep in the middle of the night? I've been awake since bloody three o'clock. I don't use my phone or anything, it's driving me nuts.

ZylaB · 28/08/2015 07:52

Hahamin yaaaaaaay!

wil I have the same problem after night feeds, I just try to think about really mundane things to bore myself to sleep!

FurryScoob · 28/08/2015 08:15

Yaaaaay! Well done R & congratulations min on finally getting a wholeish nights sleepEnvy

Other than getting someone else to feed her Boo I have no idea

Dulcet can you not leave J at in laws for ceremony & then take him for the rest of the day if their gonna be awkward? I'm with min weddings are no fun without the small folk pissed idiots knee sliding on the dance floor.

Zyla IKEA lady was a twatFlowers

Enjoy your time with your mum La

I'm going to attemp scan & pack shopping at tesco today because that's how exciting my weekends gonna get! Wohoooo! Sad

Fleurchamp · 28/08/2015 09:02

Morning!

I think S is having a growth spurt. He is constantly feeding and last night I had to top him up with formula.

I wasn't sure how much to give. The carton said a feed for his weight is 4oz and so I have him 2oz. He guzzled it and took a further 2oz.

Then slept for 5 hours Grin had a feed and went back for another 3.5hrs. I feel amazing!

I think a formula dream feed might be on the cards in the future.

He hasn't stopped feeding this morning too. I am trying to get our things ready to go stay at my MIL's for the long weekend - it's going to take a while!

The health visitor is also supposed to come today. I am keen to find out how much weight S has put on.