Just Mumming Thread 7 - the grads grads cope with walking, own rooms and have little time for shagging

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Fuck he's awake again :(

My mum arrives tomorrow. Thank fuck! My arms are killing me from rocking this ginormous child!

Hi!

Just a quick one as we're off to the Drs soon - we have certainly had our money's worth out of the NHS this week. I am so grateful for my Drs surgery - they are awesome.

On Monday I took a turn for the worse, my temperature went up to 40.4 and I was out of it. DH panicked and called the Drs - the duty dr that day was the one who has been seeing me and S - she popped round, bless her (I am 3 mins from the surgery).

I am slowly getting better but am really sore.

Feeding is erratic. I am sore and S doesn't seem interested. We are starting to top up with formula, I have used up my expressing supply (I am expressing to help drain infected boob).

I don't even feel bad as I am still unwell.

But my god, the choice of formula is baffling. I have gone for hipp for now. We'll see how we go.

I have ordered a perfect prep machine (£60 at the mo) as I live in a town house and the bedroom is way too far from the kitchen

Cranial osteopath is going well, we went again today. She definitely helps with S's wind issues and he is calmer when we leave. She also helps me out and was really lovely today when I told her how I have been feeling.

Glad things are going well la I feel we might be starting to get there too. I am ridiculously happy when S farts

Hi indigo welcome! I hope we haven't scared you

Damn fleur that's shite! So glad you've got treatment and are hopefully on the mend. YOu poor thing

Hey indigo, welcome to the other side. Isn't it fuzzy and sleep deprived?!

Well done on all the weightloss viroids, great stuff! Mine just started to creep back up so guess ive used my BFing magic weightloss. Damn it!

That is my same worry about the C-section mini as I don't know when/if/how that little belly will tone up.

Absolutely possible for him to be that awake in my experience la. Four weeks is about the time that J started just being awake and he nap avoids all day. You can see they are sleepy - so frustrating! Glad you are getting smiles though, it does help. Even if it is at your boobs!

God fleur, hope you are ok! Thumbs up to good doctors. How much longer do you think the CO will need to see S?

Thanks for all your boob advice. I guess I don't mean that I don't have a enough milk - more the amount I can give in a sitting is too small hence the many sittings ALL THE TIME! Is that possible? I am doing much better at just accepting it and dealing with it but it doesn't seem to be lessening at all or getting into any routine which is what I was holding out for. Plus, if anyone else is here and can occupy him then he can go longer. It's when it is just us two, it's all he wants. I will try the white noise though. I am sure it is the movement making him sleep snap, he knows when I stop pushing the pram for sure! But how can I be home with him and not feeding or crying - those seem to be the only options!

I keep dropping off Fred but fit found you all, just catching up and I'll message later

Hi indigo!

fleur I hope you feel better! One of my mummy friends takes her perfect prep machine up to bed with them

la H strokes and pats my boobs hehe. She also doesn't sleep well in the day unless I'm in the car or walking with her in the sling or the pram, and then sometimes fights it!

dulcet those moments are when I just put him down in his sleepyhead - when he is feeding and feeding and I get in pattern of:

B asks for food:
I feed him
I wind him
I change him
I feed him again
I wind him again
I do an activity of some sort (play mat, bouncer, bath)
He then asks for food again

At that point I've started then putting him down in his sleepyhead/crib, with dummy if he is still smacking/licking lips and white noise. Often he will just settle down. What I used to do was continue trying to feed again in response to his cues, not realising that he was also showing tired cues and he would then cry at the breast and get frustrated, I'd get frustrated and upset and we'd both be miserable.

Breaking the cycle seems to help a bit. Sometimes he'll wake 30 mins later and want feeding again, but otherwise it often gives me a break of a couple of hours if I can get him to sleep.

Meant to say most of the frustration was I'd get stressed because he'd be trying to suckle but boob seemed not to have much and I wasn't getting a break to build it back up

could you get a really big pice of card and use that under the bin so it's like a giant glass and paper mini? Failing that yes, hoover the bastard up!! I had Alex squash one with a book for me earlier, I'm sure I'm going to hell for that...

E seemingly has decided that other grownups suck, she won't even let other adults look at her now, and heaven forbid they try and pick her up :S she has however happily spent about half an hour on the floor just rolling round...

I bought my first intentional xmas present today (everything else has been me buying things, feeling guilty and going 'oh well, we can give it to A for her birthday / xmas). She will be the proud owner of a vtech watch with a built in cameral as it was only £25 on the boots website, and I got cash-back through topcashback #winning Hopefully she'll now leave my phone alone and stop filling it up with pictures of cuddly toys...

dulcet how old is micro dulcet? E took forever to give me breaks between boobings, and I know she was fine because she was gaining weight but she'd feed all the bloody time, then she hit 4 months and I started having time to actually get up and pee, now she'll sometimes go a good 4-5 hours and then feed for forever to make up for it

For a kid who had no interest in crawling, the purchase of stacking cups has changed that!
Christ she learns fast!

Jeeez I've been with that child all day and had no smiles. Dh just came home and he's beaming at him!

Hi indigo - welcome to the dark side! How's tricks?

MiniP does that to me all the time La ... it's fine. We just keep them alive all day...

The dog ate one of our stacking cups min so now we have a wonky tower

I don't think there really is anything you can do to make them go longer between feeds or stop the clusterfeeding Dulcet - it's just a newborn thing. It gets better around 6- 8 weeks. Did you try him with formula? How's the lopsided nip situation btw?

MiniP once stayed awake for about 36 hours straight I swear. Whoever said newborns do nothing but sleep is full of shit.

Congrats on the weightloss girls. I need to do something about my mumtum A biscuitectomy should do the trick.

Been on a little playdate today with my friend and her 2 toddlers - 17months apart. That means she was already pregnant again at this stage!

BabyPis took a long nap I tried putting her down in the sleepyhead when she got cranky and she didn't go to sleep so I left her for a moment and she dropped off by herself! I then squandered the damn nap by waiting for her to wake up. Two hours in I chanced it and took a shower. She woke up just as I was getting out! It might be a one off (she's asleep on me right now) but I'm going to have to try it again tomorrow. The prospect of an hour or two 'off' is really exciting!

She's a mentallist Popz.

My babies always seem to prefer me for the first year and then if Mini is anything to go by, they become turncoats and it"s all about MrWil. I should leave them all alone for the week and see how they bloody get on. That'd learn her.

Damn sleeping baby after only one boob. Not a good start to the night.

Little traitor has been smiling at dh all evening.

Nice work pis! Does she do that a lot? We have a case of the wide-awake child here. He is in his sleepyhead with dummy in mouth. He is tired but completely wide awake. Damn. When did you start putting them upstairs to nap? We have him in the living room with us for nap after 7pm feed, then he comes upstairs with me at 9/10pm and goes into crib in nice calm darkened room. Know they tend to be fussy at this time of evening anyway at this stage, but I'm wondering if we're making it worse having him downstairs. If I try to feed him he will scream because he's overtired, so I'm just ignoring him and hoping he'll drop off.

My friend has 4 under 3 years old - she got pregnant by accident after her twins (twins were 4 months old and her son was 1.5.

I'm also worrying that I'm hurting him when winding - he's whimpering a lot and crying out. Hopefully it's the wind being sore and not me. I don't bang him on the back or anything, just gently pat and rub, but it must surely get sore to be rubbed over and over for 5 minutes several times a day?

Anyone know anything good for constipation? H has been grunting and straining a lot today and no poo, but she's starting to sound uncomfy with it. I'm assuming it's part of them getting thicker due to actual food, but is there anything other than fruit juice to help? Or am I being silly wanting to avoid that?

zyla, a teaspoon of boiled water with a bit of sugar in it is what the HV told me (she clearly thinks everyone is able to get into an NHS dentist), we, however resorted to fruit pots.
Lots and lots of fruit pots.

popz I'm in love with my stacking cups! I've never seen her interested in any toys but as soon as she saw that she could batter the crap out of something! well , let's just say shed give bolt a run for his money.

I want my kid to say mama. It's all dada this dada that. I'm there, all fucking day night (not bitter) (much) and she's still dadaing. Even got a fucking dad today. I know she's not saying to him as she calls me dada too (and my legs aren't that hairy ish) but still...

She is a bit of a mentalist wil. She seems to cope well with it all though, if today's anything to go by. Her DH has had the snip now though...

Cooled boiled water zyla. Or pear puree. Avoid too much banana as that can bung them up apparently!

Talking already min!? MiniP has got a properly deep big boy's voice all of a sudden. It cracks me up

I used to do same as you La , just keep him downstairs until I went to bed. For quite a while actually. Until the evening clusterfeeds were finished anyway so 12 weeksish prob. I think the tv, chatting etc made him epically overtired so I started putting him to bed earlier. You can put him to nap upstairs whenever you want though.

Going to look at a house tomorrow! Not entirely sure I want to sell our house though

Must be funny when they start talking! Like you suddenly hear what they are going to sound like.

Love stacking cups! My friends kids have them

Talking
Shouting
Whinging
We've got the whole gang at ours
She's babbled non stop for 2 days now, that's what was keeping us awake last night

Finally caught up!

Cute how some babies are talking/ making noises now.
Ps first word was also dadda- it's so annoying,now she makes a big fuss saying Daddeeeeeee when she knows it's that time of day when we go and pick him up from wherever he's working. I get mama sometimes when she wants something or if she's upset. Fully (her stuffed animal toy) gets called Til-lay with a Bolton accent
Sorry to hear about your sore boob Fleur, I hope it feels better very soon and those antibiotics kick in!
La we leave R in his bed after his bath at 7:30- he gets a bottle and then usually drifts off- he likes the darkness and quietness so we just leave him in his cot. He's been in it since 8pm and he's still say asleep- tried dream feeding him but he just sticks his lips out like Jay Z and I can't get the year anywhere near his gob!
Hope everyone had good nights out over the weekend if you managed to escape!
Mine was bloody wonderful, I smoked loads of fags and drank a shit load of booze, I realised that anti depressants really aren't for me but fags actually helped with the stress so instead I've got an e-cig. I couldn't bear being a smoker and I'm one of those people that turn their noses up at mums pushing kids around in prams with a fag in their mouth. Hypocrite much (though I've never done that and P has never ever seen me smoke)
Anyway since having my e-cig I have chilled out a lot so I'll stick with that for now I think.
ST won some dad/husband points on Saturday. In a nutshell one of his friends said he was "pussy whipped" because he helps me a lot with the kids such as having R every other night, helping with bath time, cooking my tea every night, generally being a hands on dad. ST went absolutely fucking daft- I thought he was going to punch his friend and said that any man who didn't help with his kids wasn't a man in his eyes and that he should go fuck himself if that's his opinion. I was like never before have I felt so much love towards someone. He completely and utterly stuck up for me and I did thank him later. He's still a ST sometimes and he needs to learn to drive because taking him to work and back every day is a fucking ball ache but God I love him. So glad I didn't pick someone like my dad to have kids with. My dads a useless cunt.

Ps you is called Tilly not Fully- predictive text is so shit!

Ba lost my message! Anyway in a nutshell no La she's a daytime nap dodger usually but I don't usually try putting her down awake. Might be a fluke.

Yay for chatty babies - apparently da-da is easier than ma-ma so that's why they say it first. Sounds like bullshit to me! Smacking your lips together to make m is way easier than flicking your tongue to say d surely? Trying to encourage her to make consonant sounds but she just laughs at my "ma-ma-ma, ba-ba-ba" and sticks with "agooaaaaa" peppered with ear piercing shrieks which is a noise she seems to particularly like

la I think I started giving E toys at about 4 weeks old. At first I just kept to soft black and white things and just held them up for her to look at. Just a few minutes at a time (she'd look away when she got tired). Then she started tracking them with her eyes when we moved them. Then started batting at them. Now she can pretty confidently grab stuff and put it in her mouth. It all progressed pretty slowly.
Yay for smiles and giggles! They are the best

I think I started putting E down for daytime naps upstairs at about 10 weeks or so. She's definitely not one to self soothe though! It takes generally about 30mins of cuddling and rocking to get her off to sleep.

Blimey fleur, you poor thing. Hope you feel better soon. Glad to hear the osteopath is going well. la could you report back about yours too? I'm really interested to know if you think it makes a difference too? Am thinking of taking E.

Enormous spider is STILL under the bin. Really must deal with him tomorrow...