February '15 babies - appearing thick and fast!

[GeekyHybrid]

Our first thread on the 'other side'. And may all our soon to be mummies join us in this adventure through the early days of parenthood as we continue to share exciting times.

Cool, thanks whyO

Having a bad day today, the tears just keep coming. Even my usually patient DH is getting annoyed with me. I wish I could just jump out of it. I really do.

Frenetic is DH there with you now? If so can he have lo for a bit whilst you go do a little something for you?

whyo cannot believe what the HV said...I don't know how I would have reacted...
frenetic try and do something for you as whyo suggested. Having hair/nails/wax done or a massage? I got my highlights done on Sunday and I feel like a different person!

Baby Jason's blood results yesterday weren't better than before, but at least this time they told us that they don't need to see us for another month or so (unless we've got any concerns in the meantime). Fingers crossed his bone marrow starts producing haemoglobine in the meantime and his blood results are normal next time... :(

WhyO - I had a shower and a nap, but that was all I could get, we both had an abhorrent night and I probably managed to get a little bit more sleep as DH took LO downstairs at 5am while I slept after expressing (I was feeling very dizzy).

He's back at work full time Monday after having to take extra time to help me out and he's practically counting down the seconds until he can get back out in the world. It doesn't help that DS isn't settling well with me, so I'm not feeling even remotely confident :/

In the meantime, I had a job interview for my ideal job (sod's law this happens when you least want it to happen...), apparently they liked me and I was asked to go for the second interview next week along with another candidate (so 50/50 chance of me getting the job...). Mixed feelings about it, but I've been off work since July for the first time in years and this job is exactly what I've been looking for for a long time...
And if I get the job, they'll want me to start April 13th (lo will be over 7 weeks).
Any opinions/similar experiences/advice welcome. I feel like a very bad mum...

Frenetic I'm also having a day of tears. I even cried at the St Nicholas hospice charity man that knocked at the door!
DP seems to think because he's at work it's ok for him to do jack shit around the house or with LO. I get a 10min break when he holds him while I eat my dinner and that's it. He's still sleeping on the sofa. I go back to work in 3 weeks and not sure I'll cope if he doesn't start helping.

Donkir I can't even fathom returning to work at the moment, but then again I did get signed off with stress after being bullied. I know I'm going to have to address what happened with HR at some point and possibly further.. But feeling very head in sand about it.

Sorry to hear some of you are having a bad day mine has been ok ish. This morning was great but this afternoon has gone down hill.

Yesterday and last night was great with LO re the gaviscon taking effect but today has been a completely different story, the sick just keeps coming and coming! I am at a complete loss of what to do?!

whyO, can't believe the HV said that to you!!

Sounds like quite a few bad days all round. GP gave us gaviscon so hoping that works. BUT the scar on my perineum is 'heaped' hence the tenderness. I've been told to give it another 2 months and prescribed mini - pill for no other reason than they have to tick a box to say they covered it! OH will be out of luck for a while me thinks. Oh, and I have a streaming cold it really kicked in this afternoon. Just want to sleep but LO still doesn't like laying down. Hmph.

Hi all,
hugs for anyone that needs them!

Re routine, i just seem to be pinballing from feed to change to sleep to aaagggh, tidy some stuff with no particular pattern- just trying to go with it to be honest!

We've just been on LOs first train journey- not as bad as i was expecting! Went to visit my friend who had her baby at 27 weeks- she's staying near the hospital in a house run by a charity. Baby is doing really well, three weeks later and I'm feeling pathetically grateful that mine is next to me on the tube in his pram, and on the way home for bed time!

Bang how many sachets are you using? Once I have fed him I tend to put him on my shoulder to let milk settle as if I lie him down he can be sick.
Donkir you need a chat with your OH or you will be frazzled once back at work
Frenetic he will settle for you when alone, it may take a few days. Have you been out for a walk? I cannot say enough how much the fresh air and just having a walk will help your mood lift, as long as its not too hilly or hard going the walking should help with healing too as it promotes bloodflow to scarred area.
Tweety I went back to work after 4 weeks, its only part time though, its bloody tiring, with traveling my days are 11 hours then on top of that its getting changing bag packed for every eventuality, extra bottles, millions of bibs and nappies, spare clothes. I think it is totally up to the individual, I enjoy it as I get to see adults and I get out which I enjoy.

Dh is home! Im so pleased, cooked roast chicken and will be enjoying a lovely bath without worrying LO will wake and I will have to spring out

Geeky I felt that about contraception too, I really want to wait until he has had the snip as I am so scared of falling pg but they sort of didn't let me leave until I agreed so I am having the depo injection at some point.
Regarding sleeping do you have one of thouse horseshoe shaped cushions? i drape a blanket over one to make it a bit more like a hammock and he sleeps wekk in there

Addicted - your eve routine sounds like mine tonight! And your morning in fact when Dd1 climbed into our bed and then proceeded to shout at me for an hour. Not literally, but it felt like it. Also hats off to all you ladies coping with two or more on your own at bedtime regularly! I'm not used to doing it on my own but had to tonight and of course dd2 loudly demanded a feed in the middle of storytime. Thankfully dd1 was happy turning the pages while I read upside down and probably did my back in feeding on the edge of the bed. Glad that's done now though still feeding dd2.

WhyO thanks for reassurance. Judgey pub people made me doubt myself but of course I'm drinking reasonably and my baby is thriving so the judgey people can just judge off!

In fact WhyO your HV can also judge off - I'm very impressed at your place being so tidy so late in the day! My place looks like a bomb had hit it, and I think the toy box is empty as the toys are all over the house. Bless my MIL for looking after dd1 but it just doesn't occur to her to tidy up as she goes along or even encourage dd1 to. Sigh.

Tweety - good luck! No chance j suppose that you can make them wait any longer? Would it have to be full time, or can they let you do flexible hours or working from home at all?? I must say I am sort of dreaming of work to get away from the monotony but I'm not sure if I could actually make much sense at the moment!

Here's hoping everyone has ok nights...

Sounds like most ppl have had a stressful day. At least it's the weekend where partners can hopefully take on some of the load!

Why - that is so rude of the HV. I would have booted her judgemental behind out the door!

Tweety - good luck with your interview. I understand you having mixed feelings leaving baby - I would too - but if it's your dream job you could go for it and then if you find it's not quite the right time, you'll have tried it and won't feel like you've missed out on the opportunity.

Bang - sorry to hear that the gaviscon isn't working yet; maybe it takes a while to take effect?

Frenetic & Donkir - hope you can both get some rest this weekend.

I'm using 1 sachet per bottle memphis as she's still under 4.5kg - although only just.

Just put LO down in the hope she'll drop off and hopped into bed myself and can't believe how much my feet throb! Just realised I haven't sat down all day apart from eating lunch and dinner, been on the go constantly and now I can feel it!

I have no idea what I'm going to do contraception wise, maybe just condoms again. They should invent something for men to take!

Bang LO is over so he can have 2 sachets but I have kept him on one as it can cause worse constipation.

Definitely going to try and get out for a walk this weekend, I'm getting cabin fever.

Loopsy I'm super jealous... I'm still on tablets meaning I can't drink until tomorrow at the earliest when I may sneak a glass of wine..

I'm five weeks post-section and I have a strange tugging sensation inside the incision when I walk upstairs. It's not painful, just weird. Normal?

No real routine here either although we have hopefully managed to get DS to recognise night and day better than before. Hope I haven't scuppered things by saying that...

Have also had a bit of a rubbish day. DS has been awake all day demanding attention with his minor amount of sleeping largely carried out on me so had little time for my own thoughts. Add to that the pressure of getting out of the house for a 4pm appt at a local nursery right at the time when he was due for a feed and he'd been awake since 1pm. As it happened he was good as gold and the ladies all coo'd over him, but I was so stressed trying to make that happen. When DH came home with the Chinese this evening DS started screaming the second (and I really do mean the second) he walked in the door, so cue shift eating and holding screaming baby. Really hope he sleeps well tonight. Finding it so hard to be on my own without DH during the week. Still getting teary at times, but it isn't all the time so I think it's just still baby blues. Do think I could do with an hour or so away from the baby, and I mean not just in another room. Do far I have had half an hour away from him and that was to attend a gp appointment for mastitis so doesn't really count as a break...

P.s. Does anyone have any opinions on busy bees nurseries? Our is the most local nursery and it's really convenient. They all seemed lovely, but to be honest DH and I were joking that it is so convenient for us that as long as none of the children seemed to be dying that it will do!

Grinning go and get your hair/nails done or coffee shop and book/shopping, get a bit of time doing something you enjoy, my sister had LO they other day and I had jobs to do in garden but made sure I sat amongst the Building site with a cuppa

Thank you for your good luck comments! :)
purple you're right. I hadn't thought about it this way. At least I will have tried! :)
loopsy they want to train someone by the 1st of May so I cannot delay it any longer, however, I've been told by the recruiter that after probation (3 months) this company offers the chance of working from home often and maybe flexi hours (haven't obviously discussed it during the interview, but fingers crossed my role has the same options)
frenetic this tugging sensation inside the incision is absolutely normal. I remember having it for at least a couple of months on my emcs and this time I'm not thinking about it in case it goes quicker! ;) It does go though.

Maybe once you're trained though tweety they'll be a bit flexible? You might be surprised what they'll do for the right candidate...

Frenetic enjoy that wine when you get there!

Any ideas on ho w to get gaviscon down LO without the screaming?! We're bf and I've tried bottle, bottle mixed with expressed milk and using the Infacol pipettes so far

Geeky what about a syringe? If you squirt it into cheek its harder to spit out, oro ne of those medicine dummies that have a hole in to suck mudicine through? The screaming though ai have no idea, ds screamed at gripe water but now just gives in as he knows It won't mean I will stop giving it him (cruel mummy)

So dh did night feeds last night and at 5 he wouldn't settle, as he normally doesn't so dh put him cuddled ip next to me, I had a bit of a fit, he has been in a nice hotel all week getting 9 solid hours so its not my problem this weekend.....he took LO downstairs they have now gone swimming, his first saturday all day without me and I just reminded him I am out tonight

Thanks Memphis, I'll have to look at getting a syringe. However, next Q, how the hell do I get him to keep it down?! He vomited this mornings first batch along with half his breakfast. Ended up stripping him over the bath then having one with him. So much for staying in bed with him all morning to nurse my cold :-/