December 2012 : Stop that or your going in your cot.

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Utopian we went straight to the toilet and didn't use a potty, in my very limited experience it seems easier than potty training, then toilet training. Also i am glad your getting time to yourself now.

Spotty that sounds like yesterday was a long day, but yay for dh.

I have had about 4 hours sleep, after Dp brought DsD home and she had nits yet again and yet again we havn't been told. So when DsD has gone to bed me and Dp have argued about all sorts. We're all sat downstairs now with H.

Utopian A has gone straight for the toilet. I find it harder because it's not so obvious what , if anything, he's done. And because he's too small to get up there himself.

But he really won't use the potty, except where MIL got him to "wee standing up like Daddy" while she held it up for him.

Yesterday morning DD was looking after A, and wanted to get him up. She came downstairs saying how cross she was with him. He'd refused to sit on the potty and instead he'd turned the step upside down and done a wee in that. She brought it down to show DH.

Happily I was on the train to work!

We used to put DS on the toilet in the morning - because he always does a morning poo. But he stopped doing it. He will occasionally ask to go on the loo but it happens in phases.

He usually lies if we ask if he did a poo poo. "No poo poo, just farties"

T also fibs 'no not any poos' although clearly she had when I was carrying her on my shoulders today!
utopian the dc see using the toilet not the potty so don't necessarily get pottys. Straight to toilet is much easier if you get enough warning!

AIBU? When DS was small and would cry I always wanted to and was happy to comfort him. DH would sometimes already be holding him and would often say something like "I need to be able to comfort him to". The other day I was comforting DS and he wanted papa. So papa took him . Because of a bit of late pregnancy spd and probably a new round of depression (yay...) DH has spent a lot of time with him. But it makes me really sad that he always wants papa. And jealous.

DH is away this week Wed - Fri. He will be home in the evening but I'll be doing the day from dawn till bedtime on my own (thank god for nursery!). He never has to do this. He gets to go away he isn't stuck here. Right now I feel stuck. It's really pissing me off.

For some reason DS wouldn't settle this evening, DH was out phoning a friend (he decided to do it from the car, I don't know why but he does sometimes make calls from the car, I think because he can be loud and not worry about it. I know it sounds odd but DH really likes his car). And DS woke again and was really upset. I went in and comforted him (gave him nurofen) he cried and cried for papa and I held him, cuddled him sang to him. Eventually he asked for bed.

He has Bob the builder on his duvet so I told him it was a bob the builder bed. He seemed to calm down instantly when I started singing "bob the builder, can we fix it..."

I was thrilled. But I'm still really peeved at DH. DH also has the cold we've all suffered with. God, you'd think he was the first man ever to have a bloody cold! He complains constantly about his nose being blocked. Errrr yeah, you have a cold!

Sorry I really needed a whinge I think.

In other proud mummy news DS knows green, red, blue and yellow

nutella not at all u. It's always a mix of emotions when they want someone else, especially if you're suffering from depression. Poor you, that must be crappy. Did you find a good replacement counsellor?
DH and had many words about his having the 'luxury' of various aspects of his job to which his response was always 'I don't call x a luxury' etc. I did when like you, at times felt trapped. I have to admit that some of that was guilt/fear about which I have consciously better over the last 6 months.

Whinge away But ((sneaky hug))

R weed on the toilet at school again today :o and they commented on how many words he knows

It's fine to whinge nutella i hate it when ds wants dh over me! I'm always saying to dh it's ok for him because he only has to think about himself and he just doesn't get it.

Ds knows green and blue. Sometimes yellow. If he's not sure it's always blue

I use to be and still am jealous sometimes of DP going to work as i felt like he was getting a break, then a long sleep after finished working nights.

Nutella, have you got a new therapist? I believe its common for PND to reoccur and you will come through this stronger than before.

Dand well done to R.

Spotty how is F now? i dropped DN off again today there was alot of tears.

H has another temperature but doesn't seem ill, but is abit quiet today xxx

He's in bed. Was happy as soon as I turned up. I feel like I'm letting him down when he says my name and I walk away, who does that?! I might try and stay a bit longer Wednesday.

meant to add before - r is by no means as advanced with his speech as many on here and is still mostly just using one or two words to get his needs met. apparently that's good for his age, hopefully that'll reassure some of you

Spotty the teacher sent me away today while DN was crying it was horrible. But another teacher reassured me outside that DN is quickly distracted when they swt tasks such as colouring and playing. It felt very wrong to leave her though.

spotty and hales dd2 was hysterical at school drop off this morning. She's always reluctant but it being Monday and me dropping off added to her woes. I often have to physically push her through the door while the teacher 'catches' her. It is heartbreaking but I know she mostly enjoys school once she's there and is getting a lot from it. As it's been ongoing since sept I have hardened my heart to it now and no longer cry guiltily home! It is awful but if she weren't at school she'd be in some form of childcare while I work so there's no benefit in waiting til she's 5.

It goes against all your instincts doesn't it? He cried on and off all morning which is rubbish.

WL I toyed with the idea of waiting but definitely decided it would be harder for dd to go straight into yr 1.

My throat has been gradually getting more sore over the past few hours and now I'm feeling pretty crappy!

Hales how come DNs mum or dad don't take her to school if she's just started and so distressed?!

DN mum has just started a new job and her dad is in the forces. She came out of school really happy its just the dropping off and its only been friday and today shes done it. I think she may have clicked that its a permanent thing now.

Last week was crap. DS was ill, fever and awful cough and cold. Then he drank paracetamol (well, he didn't but we had fun finding that out ) then Friday I managed to park like an idiot and damaged the car next to ours. Funnily enough while I was going to take DD to the Dr because she was coming down with the same cold and I wanted to just get her checked by the Dr before the weekend.

So DH and I were just looking forward to this week being less shit.

DH crashed the car this evening. He is fine, he had just pulled off from the traffic lights and another car hit him. Well, they can't have both driven past a green light. But that's the story right now.
So DH spent a bit over an or waiting in the freezing cold.

But DH is being a bit sort of weird. He is moaning about how stressed we both are. Of course we are! We had a shit week last week and DH is now I'll with the cold we have all had.

He is wondering how we can better organise ourselves to avoid this stress. I am a bit miffed and a teeny bit pissed off. I can't help thinking that if we didn't have two small poorly children to deal that would probably be a really good place to start.

I just do not know what else to say.

nutella glad he's ok. Of course you're right, he's probably just reacting to the shock - sometimes things like that (even if relatively minor) but make us feel scared and mortal so he's probably looking for 'reasons' to somehow justify. Give him a couple of days and he'll see you're right and then you can smile smugly sweetly.

maryland and hales dd2 is always worse when I take her to school so maybe not a bad thing that you take her hales.

Oh I have awful man flu my head feels all fuzzy.

Spotty we're all recovering from a horrible cold. You have my upmost sympathies, it's rubbish!

WL you're so lovely and supportive. I wish I knew you in RL I'd probably drive you nuts thank you.
And Dlad and Hales. You're all fabulous I am grateful we have this tiny corner to whinge share.

DH is fine. He is stressed but he is fine. I'm hoping that slowly slowly over the next couple of weeks we can get back into a routine and get back to normality. Also that I can get DD better into a routine and hopefully better naps.

Nutella i think we all use this space to whinge. Its like free Therapy for me and i hope i don't come across as PFB as i actually am ha.

Spotty get well soon eurgh man flu is the pits.

H was fast asleep in her cot at 9pm i settled down to watch Silent Witness and she was up at 9:20 it took 20 minutes to settle her. I went back downstairs and she was back up at 9:50 it took 10 minutes to settle her but she was clinging to me sayings me poorly mummy, my belly sore and my legs. I have given her calpol and put her in bed with me, she seems much more settled but very fidgetty. She has had abit of a temperature and felt clammy for the last few days. She is still covered in a rash/excema i think i'm going to take her the Drs tomorrow something seems wrong. Do you think the Dr will laugh me out of there? Also shes started getting light sensitive as soon as she stops playing she wants the lights out and curtains closed. She has been like this since she was poorly just before the new year.

Big group hug and a high five for the love of this thread!

hales I absolutely don't think they'll laugh you out of there. It probably is just a nasty virus or 2 that's hanging around but it's been going on so best to get her checked over. It's so hard when they're so little and can't really express what's wrong. Reassurance is good medicine!