jan 2013- No, I will not have a new nappy

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Ta daaaaa new home feel at home already.

Hi all, E hasn't been too ill thanks but the spots just kept appearing for ages and we were all getting very bored of quarantine! She's over it now but has conjunctivitis instead

Lovely cat blink.

E has one friend the same age she does actually play with (e.g. they play peekaboo with each other and hold hands and chase each other) and loves the childminder's 3, 4 and 5 year olds but she more imitates what they do than plays with them. Other children she's not bothered by. As juniper says, they're still very young.

Blink is today the day? Hope your new addition settles in OK. I've just placed a reserve on a rescue rabbit, so assuming she gets through neutering and dental checks OK, and my current rabbit likes her, she'll be coming home in a couple of weeks. I want to call her Miss Bunny Penny but DH didn't look impressed when I suggested it.

DS plays with older children (particularly girls aged around 4-5 - probably because they mother him!), but like others have said he only plays along-side children his own age. I've got quite a few mum-friends because when I was on mat leave I went to ever single group I could find! Fortunately lots of us get on well which is fantastic, no matter how bad things are there's always somebody who knows exactly what you're going through.

glorious we had a conjuncitivits battle over christmas, glad the pox are gone!

I finally managed to get DH to go through his finances and make a proper budget. I think he was a bit shocked by how much debt he's (we're) in, but he's been a lot happier since we wrote it all down and came up with a plan. It's going to be a tight couple of years for us but hopefully we should be debt-free by mid-late next year.

Happy birthday Dan for yesterday

Ivy has a couple of friends from among dd1 friends younger siblings, 6 of us had babies around the same time. She and 1 little girl chase each other around at pick up but none realy 'play' together.

Bit of a shock getting up early and getting everyone out to school this morning a relief though

Ivy is currently in her cot not sleeping whilst i ignore her and binge on real housewives of atlanta

Happy birthday for yesterday Dan!

DD has one 'friend' who when they meet up they both go a bit silly and run around squealing. They don't really interact though. She's obsessed with my friend's three year old and follows her around.

Back at today

That was supposed to say 'back at work '.

Ps. Cupcakes well done on the budgeting. I much prefer to stick my head in the sand and pretend it's not happening but it is so much better to face up to it and make a plan to get out of debt so well done

Cupcakes i think mrs bunny penny is perfect, what is wrong with your dh?!?

Happy birthday to Dan aswell. How did it go? Do you do anything special to celebrate everyone surviving unscathed?

Token Whiskerson has arrived, she's currently got upstairs to herself, so i can keep ruffas (yorkie) at a distance for a while. Shes much more accepting of dexter than my previous cat, although after three minutes of him she did retreat behind the bath.

Excited for tomorrow :-D

Aww at all the new pets. I hope they are all snuggling in well.

Birthday was great. Got lots of unnecessary plastic tat which the boys love playing with, of course. House is now back to normality following christmas and birthdays.

I'm busy browsing for short breaks in the UK, found a great property right next to a steam railway line. I'm seriously tempted to book it.

Happy birthday to Dexter tomorrow!

Wish this house was back to normality, its still a nightmare. I did a de-toy before christmas and i need to do another!! Except i know he loves all these, might have to do that rotating thing, but then he might outgrow the stuff we take away without getting to play with them.

His fave birthday pres was from my sister, a remote controlled thomas. My friend text me this morning wishing me a happy 'fanniversary' :-D

Juniper did you book a holiday?
Blink at fannyversary

This house is bursting with way too many toys and tat, think it would be easier to move house than sort them all out

Last night I went to an adult gymnastics class, I literally cannot walk today, muscles hurt that I never knew I had

Fannyversary

Not yet. Too much else going on to concentrate on looking seriously. The railway one doesn't have any dates left we can do easily and we have to spend money on storage first. I've already made a smallish pile of stuff the boys got for christmas which is going out of this house unopened

I used to do adult ballet and modern dance before and between pregnancies. Can't imagine starting up again without feeling like I had been run over.

Meringue if you're still reading happy birthday to DD yesterday.

If anyone else is struggling with the post-xmas mountain of plastic tat then have a look at the Marie Kondo decluttering thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/good_housekeeping/2277726-Become-a-Konvert-in-2015-Kondo-thread-5-All-welcome

Bug Most of the house is fine - it's just DS' stuff! I try and rehome stuff if possible but it doesn't seem fair to give away stuff he likes purely because I don't like the clutter. I just keep telling myself he'll grow out of it eventually and I can get rid then.

Just been reading my FB and yet another of my friends is pregnant. Had a brief chat with DH about the prospect of number 2 and he's really keen but realistically I don't think it's going to be feasible. DH doesn't lift a finger around here as it is, won't even change a nappy unless I really push him. Not surprising he's happy to have another I suppose - it wouldn't exactly be a burden on him.

He's in bed now. Apparently he's tired. I've been ill since Sunday, caring for DS (also ill) and was up for 2 hours in the night with him, but whatever. I've got washing up to do .

Cupcakes that sounds so tough, I'm on your behalf. My DH isn't the most proactive at the moment with his depression but does what I ask him to more than willingly and does nearly all the cooking while I settle E

I want another now, he's not sure he does ever

Aww cupcakes thats hard. Sometimes I feel the need to just dump all thec dc on dp and leave for a while, just to remind him that its a lot of work

glorious is he getting help with his depression? Maybe he will be more open to another when he is feeling better? (Sorry not helpful I know

Ivy is in full on toddler mode these days. She has decided she is in charge and keeps ordering the boys to sit down and play with her...and they do as they are told! She has them completely wrapped around her little finger. Dd1 is not so easily impressed but our little puppet master has everyone else dancing to her tune

Apples your story sounds familiar, not quite puppet master yet but he grabs your hand and pulls you towards what he 'needs'.

Cupcakes, have you kicked up enough fuss to make him realise he needs to help? I had to reach the tears and mental state for him to realise he needed to help. Does you dp look after ds alone any days? Since going back to work, and leaing dp with dexter, its dawned on him how hard it is n he pulls his weight.... Thank god.

Cupcakes that sounds really tough. If your dh is keen to try for dc2 could you use that as a way to broach the subject of him helping out more; eg 'it would be lovely to have a second dc but I am finding it a bit tough at the moment with just one, and it would really help if you could do x or y'?

Glorious I am for you too, but agree that he may change his mind when he gets his depression sorted, it is hard to think positively about the future when you are depressed.

Apple sadly that doesn't help as when he has DS he just sticks the TV on and plays in his iPhone. He wouldn't entertain doing any housework / walking the dogs / going to the loo whilst he had DS so he doesn't have a realistic idea of what looking after him really entails.

Bug been there, tried that! At one point SS nearly got involed as my PND was at its worst but he still didn't do anything.

So sorry your DH is still struggling, Glorious - has something triggered his depression that you know of?

Sorry cupcakes he sounds harder work than the toddlers Does he listen at all? I don't know what to suggest but am for you (and a bit at his lack of effort)

Ivy is full on hard work still. Ds1 in particular is helpless with her and am worried she will end up a spoilt nightmare. Have just had to man handle her out of cubs as she wanted to stay and play dodgeball instead of coming home to bed. Sometimes I think about the fact I was suposed to be toddler free by now....

Sorry I'm sounding like a real grump at the moment aren't I! Guess I'm just trying to come to terms with the idea of DS being an only which is something I really didn't want for him. Apple he only listens when his mum Has Words. Fortunately she is coming down next week to stay for a few days so things will improve for a bit.

DS' birthday is the day after tomorrow and I am feeling totally unprepared! Haven't even got any wrapping paper. Must motivate myself...

Cupcakes that sounds very childish but it's good that you have your mil as an ally - is she someone you can confide in?

He is on some pills but I don't think they're doing much. I've persuaded him to self refer for some CBT as well but he hasn't finished the form yet. I don't think anything triggered it as such but the lack of leisure time hasn't helped.

Cupcakes I hope your mil gives him a rocket.

Obviously not a good time for 'd'ps. P went out after work this morning (he works nights) and rolled up at 4pm. He then announced he didn't feel well and went to bed! So even though he is off tonight I still have to do all the bedtimes etc by myself grrrr

glorious so sorry the pills don't seem to be helping. I've had periods of depression but have never been on the "receiving" end of it, IYSWIM. It must be so hard for you. Perhaps different pills would be worth investigating? Or a higher dosage?

Bug yes, MIL is wonderful. Really looking forward to her coming to stay next week. I'm very lucky with my In-Laws (and so is DH!)

Perhaps we should all just ditch our useless DPs and go and live together in a massive MN Commune? We could have pom-bears and naice ham and

i am up for the commune cupcakes. my wedding anniversary today .... feel sad x

how many years have you been married Salt?