Graduates of the Due in Aug Thread

[PinkTulips]

thought we should start a post-natal thread before we drive the expectant moms over the edge talking about our gorgeous little babies!

and yes i know i'm technically July thanks to Caleb popping out 2 weeks early but you're stuck with me girls

YF what size is your coorie? Will a small fit me? I'm kind of a size 10 with biggish boobs!

hi everyone

sorry to hear some of you are feeling crappy. My hubby works shifts so i can totally relate to some of you guys, i sometimes have my boy all the way through the night until 3pm, its knackering, only good part is i feel iam getting to know my boy.

I totally agree about this spoiling debate thing, i was told not to pick him up everytime he crys, what a load of bulls@^t!!!!!!!!!!!! he loves cuddles from his mummy and who i am to deny him?

p.s do those sling things work on such young babies? mine loves to be close but it means i sit on my arse for most of the day!!

Evenin all girls

Seeems as if a few like to be up between 2 & 5am , we need a my baby wont sleep night club online for it !!!

I eventually faced fears and co slept with dd2 last night , wrapped her in her blanket , layed her on top of duvet a few inches from me and then scooted her near when she wanted to feed. So instead of frettyness on and off half the night I got 10 mins of fretty and more sleep than I have in 10 days, albeit from 4am - 6:30 , but Im normally up from 2:40 onwards so a big revelation. Lets hope it continues.

Its raised some question about how long I co sleep and when I eventually get her into cot and let dh back in bed , but I think I need to just go with this for now. It was lovely to snuggle like that and have her near, so she must have enjoyed it too. I never wanted to do things like that with dd1, but that could have been due to the PND/PTSD. IM so much more enjoying this time, makes me feel a little guilty for my dd1.

I really feel for those feeling they may have PND , have a look at this self test to see were you are with it Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale test . Its by no means a complete self diagnosis , but its a good basis to go to HV or GP with, (although I found some didnt know about it). After dd1 I scored 20, but Ive done it today & scored 9 , great to see the difference after 3yrs really a boost and reinforced my sense of being in a better place.

It will go, it wont feel like that at the moment but it will eventually , dont hide away talk to who will listen and help. If anyone wants to talk to me more about it please please do. As Ive been in that dark place and come out again , I want to be a help to others. I suppose I dont want others to suffer.

Bugpurple - Molly has been in hers since week 1!

hi everyone. hope all are well. not having a nhappy time of it myself at the moment. evenings and nights are a nightmare, I'm only getting about 5 hours sleep and the only time dd will sleep in the day is if we are out so i'm getting very little chance to catch up. to top it all, today i managed to express 4 oz of bm, in two sessions so that dh could give her her evening bottle and she refused to take it from either of us and it ended up being poured down the sink. i am so disillusioned. i have now put her awake in her moses basket to grab 5 minutes to myself. dh has gone to bed (we havent been in the ame roomn since i came out of hospital!) as he is back at work and i am dreading the night ahead.

sorry, all i seem to do is whinge these days. i'm finding it so much tougher than i thought i would.

Just done the test and scored 18
This is the same test my psycologist uses and during pg i scored 6. Am seeing her Mon so will le t her know how i'm feeling.

glad last night went well melsy, sorry i disappeared on msn earlier..... thought i was making quick and easy pastas for dds dinner but realised way too late i was supposed to be doing curry and had to run beofore the mob revolted at the lack of food on the table. why o why did i have to end up with a man who can't cook?!

luna, what a big grin! calebs got a very shy little smile, lovely in its own way but i used to love the big cheeky grins dd gave me. watch out though, if dd is anything to go by she'll be a handful!

olivo and snow, i'm sorry your feeling awful.... do go get prof help before it spirals out of control. i have't had pnd (touch wood) but i have suffered from depression and the first step is to aknowledge whats wrong, which both of you have done. hopefully catching it early will make all the differance. {{{hugs}}} to both of you

morning. feeling a bit better today as i put dd in her moses basket awake so i could have a shower and she went to sleep all by herself! result!
was in a real stress last night as the cranio sacral lady phoned at 8 and asked if we could change the appt from lunchtime to 9am! er, up and out with a newish baby and no sleep, not to mention getting a lift, by 8.15 am? er, no!! she was very understanding when i phoned back but that was only after the tears had subsided!!

so am more calm today as got a bit more sleep. do you think i was wrong to doze during the night for an hour and a a half while dd was awake bit in her basket and quiet? she would have yelled if she wanted feeding sooner wouldnt she? felt bad but really needed that sleep.

hope all are well.

Hello everyone!

Thanks for the replies about dummies! Was very informative, and like Pink advised, there doesn't seem to be a time when I think that dd (or me!) would benefit from one, so I guess she'll just not have one - it would just have been yet another thing for me to forget in my mad rush out of the house!

Yellow - I know what you mean about having a cutie little baby who's still titchy at 4 weeks - dd was weighed the other day - 7lb 4oz (an increase of 10oz in a week) so I guess she's just about the size of an average newborn baby now!

Snow and Olivo - so sorry you're feeling down - I found it hard going first time round too. Nothing at all can prepare you for looking after your own baby, and women aren't credited as much as they should be for doing one of the most challenging jobs in the world. Keep your chins up and as others have said, let the HV/GP know if you're feeling you really can't cope.

Luna - lovely grin there from your LO! I wasn't aware that smiling was considered early or late. Both my children were grinning contentedly in their sleep since 4 days old, with full-on open eyed smiles by 3 weeks. Unfortunately, our camera broke on the day dd was born (the battery compartment won't stay closed), so it's an effort to take pics, and we haven't captured dd's smile yet (grrr).

I'd also put a good word in for slings - I have a ring sling (Sling Easy), but unfortunately, I can only wear it around the house for a bit, and not use it as transport to and from school, which I had planned, as my abdomen isn't quite strong enough yet after the c-section. dd settles in it amazingly quickly and drops off to sleep in no time.

olivo, as long as she's safe in her cot or basket she doesn't need you there hovering over her at all. take those opportunities to sleep or if its during the say have a shower or get some food. don't feel guilty about it, trust me, she'll yell if she wants you!

Thanks for the support ladies! I really thought this time round i'd be fine and things were great but things are going downhill fast. First my car has needed work, then dh's car (silly sports thing) went pop and is costing a small fortune, my bathroom looks like a building site and the cheeky b'stard actually asked for payment as he had to come back to try and sort the mess he'd created out. I wanted to tell him to sod off but he's dh's mate and babys godfather so no luck! The site of my stitches (TMI warning!!!) by my bum split when i went to toilet and has now started to bleed and be sore again. And theres a million other things on top of all that. And i'm soooooo tired. My boys are angels and i should be happy but just feel miserable.
Have 6week check tomorrow so will talk to dr.

Olivo don't feel guilty about putting baby down awake. You need sleep too and like you said if she wanted anything she'd yell.

Hope everyone else is doing well!!

Hi all.

Sorry to hear your feeling down Snow and Olivo. Snow you have alot on atm and alot of that is obviously contributing to you feeling bad. Like you said have a good chat with gp/hv. You might feel more relieved when you talk to someone face to face.
Olivo, just remember that this being a parent lark is tough stuff, not for the weak. Hence why women give birth, not men . You sound like your doing so well. Sleep deprivation doesn't help anyone and that can make things seem 100 times worse. Just remember to speak to someone if you can, if your feeling down

Luna, Get a medium. The small won't fit if your gifted norkly. I'm a size 10 and roughly 36 B/C and the medium fits fine. I think a small would be no good.

Well its my night off tonight! YIPPEEEEEE!!! Sleep for me!
We're also going out Saturday night which I'm quite looking forward to. Only thing is I can't find anything to wear!!!

I did the edinburgh test and scored 11 which said was low. Didn't think I was depressed, just suffering with anxiety. I got myself out of it once so I'm sure I can do it again!

{{{hugs to you all}}}
xxx

Hiya girls, I'm definately up for a meet up especially if in B'ham as I live not far from there but i cant do Saturday nights as working.

Snowboo, feel for you babe. I think the physical after effects of childbirth can bring you down and make you feel crap emotionally too. I felt like sh*te after I got an infection in my wound and was suffering with bad constipation because of the iron tablets. Could hardly walk and didnt want to go out the house or get ready in the morning, dont think I brushed my hair for a week. But I'm over that shitty feeling as wound is healed and am going out for daily walks and visits now, and even geting the straightners on my hair lol.

Has anybody still got swollen feet? Mine have come down but still cant fit into half of my shoes and so am going to a party tomorrow night in my god dam flip flops!

Jackson is being an angel today, slept in his bouncey chair, slept in his moses basket and now is asleep in his pram, bless him!

Off to Aberyswyth for the weekend away, Jackson's first holiday cant wait!

Have a good weekend x x

bhm, was going to ask about swelling too as its really bugging me, can't get any of my rings on and all my boots and shoes are too small didn't have this after dd so not sure if i should be worried

thanks for your support everyone. am feeling much better, have taken dd to the cranio sacral therapist today who has done a first treatment - she is apparently stressed but has started to erspond to the treatment and we are going to carry on. also we have been referred to a chiropractor who can treat her as well. they dont manipulate them, its just a touch thing which i was relieved about! she has slept today between 9 and 12 and btween 1.30 and 4, despite the heat, so i'm really pleased. i feel a lot more calm just knowing we are doing something to try and help her.

hv tomorrow - dont feel comfortable discussing how i feel with her but hoping to see my gp, who i've known for longer, next week.

of a meet-up, but i'll be there in spirit!!

about the swelling- my hands are still a bit swollen but my feet have gone down. my c-section scar is bugging me though - doesnt look inflamed but is really itchy - think its the heat.

erm my msn has broken.......is melsy heer?

shes not on msn snow so i'd say shes got the laptop off

Morning

Snowboo you'll be pleased to hear I had a bad night & . Poor dd2 has got baaaaaaaaad snuffles and just coudnt latch on comfortably. We attempted feeding at 2:14, 4:20 & again at 6:30which was better as it had cooled down a lot in my room as it was sooooo hot and stuffy during the night despite windows being open. Shame after such a good 2 days of nice sleep, Oh well think its just a little hiccup, I HOPE!!!

Raining and steamy here , cant be bothered to do anything except slouch on sofa , but dd2's nursury needs sorting badly . Used to be dd1's room , but all her clothes are piled up in the robes in bags and bags , so must sort it whilst I have some help.

How is everyone today ? anyone else co sleeping ? I know pink is.

melsy - it must be the time for colds - my dd has got one - lots of green snot and a very unhappy bunny! keep thinking i'm going to choke her when i'm feeding her

she's asleep now though so going to sneak a cheeky bath - i havent had one for nearly 2 weeks and i love my baths. showers just arent the same!

good morning mel and Olivo. Sorry to hear you are both having trouble with poorly babies. I hope they feel better soon. Sophie Jane had another feedathon last night so Im feeling very tired this morning of course my little angel is fast asleep now dd age 3 has been awake since 4 15 am this morning too Since starting nursery on wednesday she seems hyper with energy galore was kind of hoping it would have the opposite effect on her I have had an ear infection all week and am still deaf and in agony in my left ear hoping the antibiotics will begin to work today. I have promised to take baby to my eldest daughters reception class today she wants me to bath her but dp and I not sure as she is still so little I think I will just change her bottom and feed her if Im allowed to breast feed in front of them that is. My daughter goes to university this weekend I cant believe how quickly its come round Its not a million miles away but will miss her just the same. Been having a look at hotels in Birmingham for our meet up I think it should be a family xmas meet up this time as babies are still very young and I appreciate that some of our first time mums wont want to leave them yet we can arrange a mums only pamper weekend in the spring sometime maybe around mothers day Im going to put together a few package ideas and prices to get everyones opinions before I go ahead and book one was thinking of a saturday over till sunday at a premier travel lodge with maybe a trip out somewhere like cadbury world or a pantomime on one of the afternoons shopping time on the other afternoon and a xmas party with santa in the early evening family rooms are generally around £50 for 2adults and 2 children If anyone has any ideas or thoughts let me know and I will continue to ring around for the best prices and deals and let you all know

Feel totally miserable today and not entirely sure what as dd was only up for 20 min at 3.30. I could only express an oz and a half so that didn't help I've been getting 3 or 4 oz in the mornings recently.

Dd's really unsettled too, she fed from 7.30 to 8.30, grizzled around the school run (always falls asleep normally) then fed 9 - 11am.. don't know if it's a growth spurt or if she's feeling poorly, she's awake but not very alert if that makes sense. She looks dazed. Have booked her a doctors apt.

Would do anything not to have to work today.

just seeing does this work

nope, never mind didnt think it would but woth a shot!

this is the pic i was trying to show.... it was taken when caleb was only a few days old so hes alot bigger now but my dad is the one with the digital camera and hes useless for sending me the photoes!

sarah and caleb

sorry you've all got colds, dp has one and has taken to bed he hasn't even noticed i'm coming down with one too, not to mention i've been gatting a hell of a lot less sleep thn him in general....twat! on the plus side he changed his first nappy last night.... only took him 8 weeks this time, was 3 months before he started doing dd's.... he's 'afraid' of small babies in case he hurts tham if you can believe that crap!

thinking i might brave town with the two of them later as the post hurricane weather is so nice.... not sure i can face the bus with buggy and sling though!