November 2012 - The exciting all new all singing all dancing fred

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flouncy well done with the sleep thing. As for clothes can you do an emergency shop and get yourself something you feel good in? You will be your harshest judge of yourself and will relax more if you have something that you can feel good about iyswim, though I am sure you look fine.

I've been emergency shopping. There isnt much summery stuff about yet... I did order two dresses from Wallis and I like those on so I'm glad I did. Way more expensive than I'd normally pay but hubby and my sister said they were lovely on. I think theyre just OK.. The problem is instead of losing weight I've put it on!

I've put the stuff I plan on taking in the case. It's really empty! But I'm only away for a week so doesn't matter I suppose. I still don't feel like I'm going. Can't be bothered with it all... But I'm sure I'll have a great time.
Dh just told me his mum is going to have the kids overnight on sat so he can go round to his friends. Lovely but he the next was talking about what she'd do with James as he's usually in bed with whoever is daft enough to take him. I said he should go in travel cot and do as we're doing. He's all 'oh, I told my mum just do whatever is easiest for her'. I said NO WAY UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE HAS HE TO BE ANY WHERE NEAR HER BED... Am I being unreasonable? Surely the point of sleep training is that he sleeps alone and if he goes back all cuddled up with someone he won't go into the cot again?!?

Oh vq hope your both sleeping now and have uninterrupted sleep. Please please please.

I'm kinda enjoying her not talking to me. I am being equally petty. Phone call early, gave fh the message to pass along. He did try to encourage me to tell her myself, but I just said no and walked away.
I don't have to talk to her or listen to her random chatter. She is the one being punished, she is avoiding sitting with me, which means she isn't seeing the boys as much. And she leaves in 1week and 3days. She won't see them for 3months. Her loss.

More crying but only for ten seconds... He must be waking and falling back asleep.... All progress. Soon hopefully he'll just wake and roll over and get comfy with no crying. Soon!!

Flouncy it's good to hear you ate making progress.
Even H cries or whimpers slightly when he is finding it hard to get back to sleep so dont worry if he is still crying occasionally.

Hello

Worst night ever.

GT I'm too tired to post half the time, I do read vey day though
Has H felt pushed out since A arrived ?
Dd is pissed off with my new arrival, she's been really unsettled since she was born and I'm trying to make extra time for her when not feeding the baby etc

Oh VQ hope you and J are well soon

Fatima I hope M is better soon too. I would say a couple of hundred on the hen do too.

Eliza fantastic news on weight gain!

Flouncey I am sure you look a lot better than you think. Excellent news on Js sleep! Wooop.

I have a poorly boy asleep on me on the sofa. We've been up on and off since 3am. GP for us today.

Kyz!!! Epic!!!

errr brain blank!

Thanks pennie

Morning quiche. Bad night for me.

And now watching that Granny murray show and wanting to stick pins in my eyes as a preferable self-torture method.

Having lunch out today with DH and one of his colleagues. Other than that going to do some spring cleaning. In a bad mood. Can't decide if is PMT or tiredness.

Baby groups. Before my rtw we did it,literally something different every day (baby swimming, baby yoga, baby sensory, baby ballet, book bug...) it was probably definitely too much but I loved taking her places. except playgroups,urgh

Now she is with childminder full time she goes to a different toddler group/soft play etc every day. We've just started going back to swimming classes on a sat morning but it is expensive and I don't like this class as much.

I heard a rumour that a local health club were going to start doing baby swim classes as part of their package. I get a hefty discount off membership through work and want to start swimming every morning before work again so might look into that at Easter when this term of swim and my yoga classes finish.

Read everything else but not much else to add. Tea, hugs and showers a plenty.

This is the first proper day of my sister having m on a Wednesday. I bet anything she is late. I've already told her if she isn't on time she can collect m from my security guard at work

PS 3 freaking days till I move!!!

Flouncy Asda have some nice ladies clothes at the minute if you need an emergency shop and don't want to spend too much more. At £2 for vest tops I can't believe I hadn't shopped there before Christmas.

Isles why didn't you like playgroups? I find them chilled out, unpressurised and the sort of place I was taken to as a child and allowed to just play. I find them the best groups to make Mum friends as you've time for a coffee and a natter. It's horses for courses but I found a lot of more structured baby groups like baby sensory and Jo Jingles can be a bit OTT and full of over stressed manic competitive Mums trying to hothouse their wee ones and competing on who's got the newest car etc Remember the Ab Fab sketch with the baby flash cards ? Jonas spent Jo Jingles ignoring the fecking singing puppet and trying to get in the leader's handbag! Baby sensory, he would always fall asleep. I'd like to try baby yoga this time but it's unlikely with number two!

I must admit to being a bit baffled last year at the range of groups you took your LOs to. I think there is a baby massage group in Nancy which is about 100km away, and there's someone who does singing about 20km away but only for 3+. Other than that there are groups set up by expats in Lux but they were in the expat suburbs on the other side of town and would have taken an hour or so to get to.

Ooh just had an email to say my Next delivery is arriving tomorrow. New jeans in a size 10. My size 12 ones were getting too big. Next goal size 8 and I'll stop there.

pikz , gt and pr hope you are recovering after bad nights.

flouncy I agree with all others a couple of new outfits to dress up in will help no end. Next have some lovely summer stuff In Their new catalogue for spring summer. You are bound to feel low, a lot has been going on. Remember your achievements with J and feel proud. My first port of call when I have been v low is to say buck up to myself , hot shower and hair wash, put on Something I feel confident in and stick on the slap, get out of the house and do something I love, so for me a walk in the fresh air or a treat coffee in nice coffee shop with a mag.

Also flouncy I would have a chat with your MIL about the sleeping stuff and tell her what you have been doing, it would be such a shame to undo all your hard work and I am sure she would think the same.

Hen do s fatima this whole weekend away is all new to me. When I had my first hen we went to the comedy club for a night and had a great time and that was that. I wouldn't have the disposable income to spend on a whole weekend away. Recently a friend of mine got married and she did a super posh afternoon tea in a really swanky hotel in London, I thought that was a lovely idea couldn't go because for me it would have meant flights and stopovers. Had still been in Berkshire I defo would have gone

Presumably your bride and the other hens what a whole weekend away? What about the day at the races, in the posh dress up enclosure or a box that does food, I have done that before and is v special.

Blah blah.

O is poorly, he had a temp but the ear thingy says he hasn't. But he has. What's that all about? He has green eye snot. He is crying a lot over silly stuff. Nothing is going right for him today except that I have just overlooked the fact he has run off with a washing up glove . I had planned to take them to the village toddlers which I don't enjoy, today, because of the car issue, but bonus, I don't have too, he is too rough. nanny can take Ds1 instead. So every cloud.

I have some questions but I will stop my blather and give you a break and ask them later.

Yw my one and only experience of playgroups involved the bitch troll in the village. I felt so excluded. M was a clingy whinge bag and hated every second. It wasn't for us. Maybe a different group in a different place would be much better, but I can't do anything mid week. I feel a bit rubbish about the whole a abandoning her with the childminder everyday thing

I think they are all different. I tried the group in the village for a term and I felt it was v cliquey and although people were nice then all drifted off back into their groups and I found it hard to make friends. So I tried a different one In the town and it was totally different and I feel, since Christmas, I am starting to make friends there.

Awww Isles that's rubbish . My sister often sees M at the playgroup in the bay with the CM (which is a lovely one) and she says its obvious she loves it. It's great you can work and she can still go to groups - don't beat yourself up for supporting your daughter xx

Soph if you've found a group cliquey in the past - try again in a couple of months - membership turns over very quickly as kids outgrow groups and you might find a whole new set of Mums now?

I am often judged for leaving my kids at nursery full time, even more so now I am officially not working. Meh. It's good for them, they enjoy it. If you have a good CM as you seem to have despite the rocky start I would not feel guilty at all. You're not abandoning her you are leaving her in a safe, loving, stimulating environment. And going out and earning a good wage to give her the best opportunities you can afford.

I could yw , this is a v small place though and DS1 is one of the 3 or 4 oldest so a lot of those mums will be going for a while yet (and have been going for years with their older kids) I think though, that is why the one in the town is more friendly more people pass through, if you like, so they are used to a turnover.

Any way yw stay there! I wanted to ask you when you planted up all your bulbs, what you planted and how did you, well, arrange them? I remember you doing some bulb planting and I have a bank which is crying out for me to do bulbing. Oh and did you order your bulbs or get them from a garden centre?